what the hell at this..

[StripedTiger]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?

[Casual]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?

if this guy still has feelings for you why the hell does she need to get involved? you should go to one of her exs n say do you still have feelings for her! she is just being nosey.

your mate seriously needs to ******* grow up n fast! yeah we all lose some body close to it but theres no need to try and ruin a friends life while trying to make yourself feel better, just ignore her and don't snap back, just nod and go yeah mm ok not really sarcastically but jsut a bit n she'll get really annoyed. she sounds like she is trying to get attention as maybe its on you? sit her down 1 to 1 n have a chat and if she really doesn't want to know then tell her to go get some sympathy from someone else.


hope it helped a bit :)

[scottish]

Just slap her or something, and ignore her and stay away from her, shes obviously not much of a friend if shes being a ***** like that.

[Ontario]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?
It sounds like she is messed up with her mom dying and maybe being jealous of you. You can either do two thing wait for it to blow over or keep trying with you relationship with her. I if were you though i would keep trying and then if after so long she keeps being rude to you then at least you can walk away from your friendship and say to yourself you did everything to keep being friends.
Hope this helps

[BobX]

just get with friend Z and make a d and p jealous

[J0SH]

What Tony said, get with Friends A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, U, V, W, X, Y & Z and then it'll be a calm situation.

On a more serious note, just end the friendship with her, unless she's acting really stroppy because her mum died, I'd be a state if mine died God forbid but yeah, there's a reason why she's acting like that.

[Calon]

Define the following friends:
M, N, O, P, Q, R, S

I am now confused.



On a more serious note, just end the friendship with her, unless she's acting really stroppy because her mum died, I'd be a state if mine died God forbid but yeah, there's a reason why she's acting like that.


Agreed.

[Cyndia]

I mean.. it's rough losing a mom, and so I feel really bad for her, but she is definitely not dealing with it well. She's being completely unfair to you which is unexcusable, even though I feel bad for her. Its true.. Lots of people lose people that mean a lot, but it doesn't mean they can go around harrassing and alienating friends while throwing their loss in your face. Especially if she lost her mother a while back.. Idk. I'd say just try to stay away from her until she calms down, or try to talk to her in a calm situation. I'd also seriously suggest she try going through some grief counseling which might help her tone down on the playing the "my mom is dead" pity card, and which might help her realize how awful she's behaving as well as help her cope with it.

[Glen Coco]

maybe leave her to cool off for a while? let her know your there for her then just leave her to make the decision. i think ending the friendship or trying to keep talk to her will just make it tough for her.

[leah]

I tried to keep up with the friend letters haha :P
Just leave her to come to you, shes in the wrong.

[StripedTiger]

It sounds like she is messed up with her mom dying and maybe being jealous of you. You can either do two thing wait for it to blow over or keep trying with you relationship with her. I if were you though i would keep trying and then if after so long she keeps being rude to you then at least you can walk away from your friendship and say to yourself you did everything to keep being friends.
Hope this helps

Its been about a week since, and anything i say she has a reply to. I'm not one for argueing cos all it does it make you lose even more friends. She seems to have other people tied around her little finger and i know if i retaliate in any way, i'll probably lose more than her.


maybe leave her to cool off for a while? let her know your there for her then just leave her to make the decision. i think ending the friendship or trying to keep talk to her will just make it tough for her.

The last time i spoke to her via messenger i ended up telling her she can come to me and talk whenever she wants, cos i am there for her as a friend, or she can just stay away from me and sulk silently. So far she hasnt even looked at me looool


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Thanks for the help and advice though :) its really appreciated.

Past couple of days ive been going else where with other friends so i aint been seeing much of her, thank god. She seems to have the others controlled because i can feel the tension when they talk to me O_o as if shes got some control over them. Probs been making up more lies :P

[Casual]

she sounds like a great friend :S atleast you giong with other mates :D they'll all find out about her lying soon enough and she'll be on her own

[GoldenMerc]

Steph do you what you do best smack her ;]

[MrGazet]

maybe its true dats shes still stress bout her mum passed away
but its not ur fault tho
its hers , maybe u shud let her calm and talk again?

[StripedTiger]

Steph do you what you do best smack her ;]

LOL! nah, im too mature ;)
Plus i aint getting kicked out of sixth form and ruining my future for her :P

[BobX]

friend d is just frisky get wit her

[Clownin]

Why don't you just butt out, let them get together.

[BlueEyedSarah]

She lost someone close to her, she might be acting this way because she is grieving from the loss of her parent. People grieve differently and it seems like hers is stress and anger way of grieving.

[StripedTiger]

Well, Friend A turns 18 in less than 3 weeks. Her plan was to go out for a meal, but me and the guy im dating have been uninvited because of the way things are between me and friend D and friend A doesnt want her birthday ruined. O_o oh well

[Bef]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.
sounds to me like she likes friend P nd was bringing up things to try and make u look bad to make herself look better. Is she singel?


This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.
Yes her mams dead but that doesnt mean she can act like this. Yes people grief in different ways but some people milk it. A friend of mine lost a baby last year and we were all there for her but she used to kick off on us on a night out and then use the losing the baby as an excuse. She completely milked it and upset alot of my friends. Weve all slowely drifted apart from her now. Sounds like ur mate is cut from the same cloth tbh. I wouldnt worry about it to much. The majority of the time friends in school wont stay in touch when uv finished school!


Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.
some people just love the drama. yes shes had it tough but alot of people have it alot tougher and dont act like this. Tbh she doesnt sound like she gives a **** about u. im guessing shes been getting alot of attention over all this, thats what she wants. when the drama dies down shel proberly start it all off again by forgiving u publicly or something


so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...
has she changed? or has she just turned on u? has she ever treated anybody else like this?
and u havnt caused an argument. she has by being so pathetic


the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?
sounds like hes right to me!


Its been about a week since, and anything i say she has a reply to. I'm not one for argueing cos all it does it make you lose even more friends. She seems to have other people tied around her little finger and i know if i retaliate in any way, i'll probably lose more than her.



The last time i spoke to her via messenger i ended up telling her she can come to me and talk whenever she wants, cos i am there for her as a friend, or she can just stay away from me and sulk silently. So far she hasnt even looked at me looool


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Thanks for the help and advice though :) its really appreciated.

Past couple of days ive been going else where with other friends so i aint been seeing much of her, thank god. She seems to have the others controlled because i can feel the tension when they talk to me O_o as if shes got some control over them. Probs been making up more lies :P
best thing to do is to ignore her. If ur other friends take her side then try to stress to them that there isnt any sides as u think the whole thing is so pathetic.
When my friend started doing all this and starting rows with people a few of us stuck by her. only 2 realise that when it came down 2 it she wasnt ther for us nd was just ruining our nights out n stuf by causin drama


Well, Friend A turns 18 in less than 3 weeks. Her plan was to go out for a meal, but me and the guy im dating have been uninvited because of the way things are between me and friend D and friend A doesnt want her birthday ruined. O_o oh well
That sucks, take it on the chin n dnt let it bother u. i predict that if u hold ur head up nd act with dignity all ur mates will realise wts really going on before long!

[StripedTiger]

She aint single no, shes been dating a guy for almost 2 years i think. But i know they aint had an easy relationship. This girl likes to have the guys round her little finger.

You have been such a great help bef :) thank you <3

[ToxicPaddy]

I'm confused. Can't you just rename the friends to A, B, C, D in logical order of appearance? That would make it a lot easier.

[StripedTiger]

the letters actually stand for their names, it made it easier when i was typing it out so i didnt mix up which friends done/said what

like D would be for Donna