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StripedTiger
13-01-2009, 04:53 PM
Im in an awkward situation.
Some people think i go round dating guys too much, especially when my relationships dont last longer than a month.
For months whenever ive been out with friends, theres this one particular guy i always used to cuddle up with, and he asked me out on a date several occassions. The first time he changed his mind because of something a friend said, the second time i said no cos he had stronger feelings for someone else. Now eventually, i said yeah and after a week i dont feel comfortable. All of a sudden hes gone really shy and i have to do all of the talking, i find myself trying to avoid him on messenger and not looking forward to the weekend cos he'll ask me to go somewhere with him.
Yet before we were in the situation i was quite happy cuddling up.
I think i should just end the relationship so im not just stringing him along? Is that the right thing to do?
Richie
13-01-2009, 05:08 PM
If you dont have feelings for him i would advise you too let him down gently and tell him why
Maybe hes just shy because he might be just nervous about having a realationship i know he was ok before you were together but maybe he just feels awkward or something.
The best thing id advise you to do is talk to him about this matter and ask him whats up why is he so shy and wasnt before
Casual
13-01-2009, 05:54 PM
Im in an awkward situation.
Some people think i go round dating guys too much, especially when my relationships dont last longer than a month.
For months whenever ive been out with friends, theres this one particular guy i always used to cuddle up with, and he asked me out on a date several occassions. The first time he changed his mind because of something a friend said, the second time i said no cos he had stronger feelings for someone else. Now eventually, i said yeah and after a week i dont feel comfortable. All of a sudden hes gone really shy and i have to do all of the talking, i find myself trying to avoid him on messenger and not looking forward to the weekend cos he'll ask me to go somewhere with him.
Yet before we were in the situation i was quite happy cuddling up.
I think i should just end the relationship so im not just stringing him along? Is that the right thing to do?
if your not happy then ask him if he is and if not or he pauses then says yes he's lying. and if he isn't talking much then its not really a proper relationship imo!
like dark said let him go gently :)
irJen
13-01-2009, 07:09 PM
Be honest with him Stephikins, and depending on what he says, make your decision.
If you don't feel for him in that way, don't string it out, I'm sure you'll get it back to the point you were at!
And if it comes down to it, if he likes you that much, he'll want you back as that friend rather than not at all :)
Maybe now because you're actually dating you don't want him as much, or hes nervous because it is official and hes completely put you off.
Maybe talk to him about his nervousness?
MrGazet
14-01-2009, 12:41 PM
guys do get nervous too
maybe he just realised that he's into you that makes him feeel nervous
the best thing to do is talk to him :)
mike475
14-01-2009, 05:40 PM
similar thing happened to me 2 weeks ago, (with a girl); we were chatting really good and that, and like cuddling up now and then too, then she said did i wanna start seeing her, yes pls i said, and the day after i asked her out and she said yeah. then 2 days later she dumped me under the grounds of "awkwardness".
its one of those dodgy things that just dont seem to work even if you so badly want them to. he could be finding it awkward aswell, i did a bit. maybe you should let him go ever so gently, and say its really strange and weird for me etc.
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