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Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:16 PM
Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 15 months and I've put in 100% effort. Anything she's asked of me, I've done. It's long distance so I have to fork out about £60 each month to go see her. I'm not in work so I don't earn money so I have to work my ass off to get that money.
About 3 weeks ago she had major family issues.. Much to her belief, 2 days later I turned up at her door.
Basically I'm a 24/7 service.
So to the point:
I'm getting sick and tired of giving her the world and not getting anything back. She's in work and won't even fork out £5 once a month to get some credit to ring me for a few minutes, she leaves that to me.
What shall I do? Do I just let it go on and hope she'll appreciate me or shall I call it?
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today
19-01-2009, 10:20 PM
sounds like shes using you to be honest dude...
Casual
19-01-2009, 10:21 PM
tell her to go **** herself and go get some emotions harsh but its true like today said shes using you :l
buttons
19-01-2009, 10:26 PM
she aint worth it k
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:27 PM
sounds like shes using you to be honest dude...I've kinda' thought that too but it's hard to think about it.
tell her to go **** herself and go get some emotions harsh but its true like today said shes using you :lMm it's just getting on my mind a bit. I don't know, I'm probably being a tad selfish in some respects.
Oh the wonders of love haha!
dirrty
19-01-2009, 10:29 PM
tell the ho how it is cuz shes blates tight fisted if she wont even pay woteva the price was for credit or woteva. nono ur not being selfish but realisitc. shes the 1 whos being selfish by not contributing to the relationship financially.
just tell her how u feel, n if she doesnt like change then give her an ultimatium then kick her 2 the curb.
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:33 PM
tell the ho how it is cuz shes blates tight fisted if she wont even pay woteva the price was for credit or woteva. nono ur not being selfish but realisitc. shes the 1 whos being selfish by not contributing to the relationship financially.
just tell her how u feel, n if she doesnt like change then give her an ultimatium then kick her 2 the curb.I agree with all of that but the thing is I'm one of them men who hate people spending money on me hence why I feel like I'm being a bit selfish. I just wih it'd go back to when I actually felt that she loved me. I know she's got family issues and everything but I should be part of that family too.
I did end it the other day which to my surprise was relatively easy at the time. Truth has it when I went to bed that night I wept myself to sleep (hard for a man to admit LMAO.) Next day I was stupid and went crawling back to her like a wet dog.
Friends have told me that I'm so "loved up" that I can't see reality. I know this is true but I just can't seem to register it properly.
dirrty
19-01-2009, 10:38 PM
UR NOT SELFISH!
soz but its true. ur just being a gentlemen by paying for everything. but tbh shes gotta contribute something to, otherwise it does seem selfish on her part that she works but gives nothing. considering you've been going out for 15 months, thats a reasonable amount of time in relation to "young love" - where relationships last for like a few months lol. if u think u really wanna stay with her, then you'll have to talk to her. a nice long chat - not sounding like really harsh but telling her that you've given so much and like just for once, you want her to give something.
so yh
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:40 PM
UR NOT SELFISH!
soz but its true. ur just being a gentlemen by paying for everything. but tbh shes gotta contribute something to, otherwise it does seem selfish on her part that she works but gives nothing. considering you've been going out for 15 months, thats a reasonable amount of time in relation to "young love" - where relationships last for like a few months lol. if u think u really wanna stay with her, then you'll have to talk to her. a nice long chat - not sounding like really harsh but telling her that you've given so much and like just for once, you want her to give something.
so yhIn a way I'm scared if I tell her that she'll just point blank dump me. She hasn't asked me for money or anything like "Oh I need your debit card to get some clothes Luke".
dirrty
19-01-2009, 10:42 PM
you shouldn't be scared really. you're at a point in ur relationship that u should feel comfortable to talk about most things. if not, then u'll need to get to that comfort stage for the relationship to last 4 a long time. has she travelled to u before? or is it u who is always going to her?
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:46 PM
you shouldn't be scared really. you're at a point in ur relationship that u should feel comfortable to talk about most things. if not, then u'll need to get to that comfort stage for the relationship to last 4 a long time. has she travelled to u before? or is it u who is always going to her?Erm she came down once but that was because her mate was going and holiday and invited her. I still had to get a train from Plymouth to Newquay if that counts haha. Rest of the time I go see her.
dirrty
19-01-2009, 10:50 PM
well u could ask her 1 time n see if she'll come to visit u. her response will give u a good enough answer whether shes using u or not. but the main point is, if u dnt mind being the bank n u both rly love each other (u knowing that she loves u as much as u love her), then stick with the relationship rly.
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 10:57 PM
well u could ask her 1 time n see if she'll come to visit u. her response will give u a good enough answer whether shes using u or not. but the main point is, if u dnt mind being the bank n u both rly love each other (u knowing that she loves u as much as u love her), then stick with the relationship rly.She's on msn right now. I asked her and she said "I have no money Luke..". I just feel like saying something like this:
"Well neither do I but I work my ass off to scrape together cash to come see you, you selfish *****." Sorry for my language :P
dirrty
19-01-2009, 11:00 PM
then rly it seems like u either gotta carry on payin for woteva or use the same excuses that u av no money all the time n see where the relationship goes from there. if u want it to carry on 100%, then go for the first 1 rly. but if u wanna test waters n see what she truely feels, then go for the latter as that'll b the test as she'll either b forced to pay to visit u or woteva, or just break it off due to long distance.
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 11:03 PM
then rly it seems like u either gotta carry on payin for woteva or use the same excuses that u av no money all the time n see where the relationship goes from there. if u want it to carry on 100%, then go for the first 1 rly. but if u wanna test waters n see what she truely feels, then go for the latter as that'll b the test as she'll either b forced to pay to visit u or woteva, or just break it off due to long distance.
eljayr. says: (22:56:39)
before i got my job i worked my ass off to get that ******* money. and now i'm out of a job for the past 7 months i have to work even harder.
eljayr. says: (22:56:49)
i'm the most idiotic boy ever.
eljayr. says: (22:56:56)
i'm glad i've ******* realized that now.
Sorry about the language :P I'm not sure I want to be with her.
dirrty
19-01-2009, 11:05 PM
show her whos boss!
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 11:05 PM
What a snide response:
kitty roberts says: (23:05:06)
?
dirrty
19-01-2009, 11:06 PM
lololol u probably caught her off guard or summit
Excellent2
19-01-2009, 11:15 PM
lololol u probably caught her off guard or summitBam, it's over.
dirrty
19-01-2009, 11:18 PM
kkk .
You have to tell her how you feel, if she doesn't want to fork out anything for you then you might have to think/discuss about you and her as a couple.
It's your choice anyway.
What a snide response:
kitty roberts says: (23:05:06)
?
isnt that a character from brothers and sisters? lol
and erm she didn't desearve you
Excellent2
23-01-2009, 01:19 PM
isnt that a character from brothers and sisters? lol
and erm she didn't desearve youI have no idea lol. She came crawling back to me the other day.
StripedTiger
24-01-2009, 06:58 PM
Simple, you dont need to finish her. Just dont bother and watch how she reacts. Don't phone her for a few days and see how long it takes for her to call you, and if she asks why just say you aint had money on your phone and its getting more complicated to get the money.
Make her realise that your money doesnt grow on trees
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