Should I Come Out :S

[EverSteve]

Heya,

Okay lol basically I'm 18 in August and I'm gonna be moving to University.

However I'm staying at home and my mum is homophobic and also thinks that "unless you try with both sexes" you dunno what you are.

It's just getting me down, I wanna go to gay social places and meet more people. I wanna go into town with my dad hoping no one who i know sees me in fear of them saying something about me being bi/gay.

I also wanna join a gay football team, but my dad wants to watch me play if I do. Which means I can't go and play for them unless I come out to him first or hes gonna kill me when he goes to a "straight cough cough" footie match.

Yet I don't wanna be hated by the family or be rejected, however I'm sick of pretending I'm straight and just want to be liked by them for who I really am, not for who they want me to be

Any advice about other people who's came out to homophobic parents?

I'm gonna post this thread on a few forums, as to be honest I need to be sure on what to do before I do it! So the more opinions I get the easiest my choice will be.

[Supersam]

Firstly, make sure you do it directly. Don't add it in to a conversation that is already going on. Make sure you start the conversation and have their full focus to show you are serious.

Secondly, your mum doesnt sound homophobic if she thinks you have to try both sexes. Simply explain to her that you only have eyes for the guys.

Thirdly, with your dad, he is obviousley proud of you if he wants to watch you play. There will be other parents who will want to watch their kids play and they obviousley will accept it and im sure your dad will too - especially if he talks to these other dads.

Lastly, your parents will most likely love you regardless. If they are homophobic to any degree you just need to make sure you dont directly scare them with things like if you are having sex with men or who you fancy or if your a top/bottom and so on. If they ask about boyfriends of whatever then they are interested and its perfectly fine to say. If they are curious about things then ease them into it.

Above all dont start it with bad expectations. If you seem calm and dont act all 'unsure' about it then they will only get confused and try to question it and try to second guess you.


Oh and of course: GOOD LUCK! :)