Stupid dad

[Nemo]

So he decides to visit for the first time in like ******* 2 years after he once AGAIN promised he'd 'keep in touch' and 'visit'. Hes done **** all and even moved to another country. He came to visit since his dad was ill and he came to see him, oh how nice, when i was confined to the house for 4 months he didnt even ring.

THEN, my sis, mum and him are all gonna go out to eat. They want me to come but i dont wanna go with that *******. So im just in my room playing halo and he thinks he can just come in my room, try and smooth talk his way. I still dont wanna go and he tries to tickle me!?! ***! Am i like 5!?! NO. ******* annoyed me so i just kicked him away and walked off.

Finally gets the message i dont wanna see, talk or listen to him.


I just needed to vent that.

[buttons]

Well at least you get to see him =l
Don't go then, just throw away the only chance you have of bonding with your father again. You're obviously annoyed, when someone comes back into your life it'll probably take you a while to let them get close to you. How do you think your dad feels? When he goes you're probably gonna regret making him feel like that, & what if he really wanted to make things better? You could've just spoilt that and because of it he won't feel so welcome and won't want to visit again which would be totally unfair on your mum and sister. That's just selfish imo. And sure, he might never visit again and this will be the last time you see him so why don't you just make the most of it before you regret it! :l

Sorry but you get a chance to mend things and you act like that?

[CJW93]

Good for you, keep him away

[Nemo]

Well at least you get to see him =l
Don't go then, just throw away the only chance you have of bonding with your father again. You're obviously annoyed, when someone comes back into your life it'll probably take you a while to let them get close to you. How do you think your dad feels? When he goes you're probably gonna regret making him feel like that, & what if he really wanted to make things better? You could've just spoilt that and because of it he won't feel so welcome and won't want to visit again which would be totally unfair on your mum and sister. That's just selfish imo. And sure, he might never visit again and this will be the last time you see him so why don't you just make the most of it before you regret it! :l

Sorry but you get a chance to mend things and you act like that?
Throw away the only chance? Thats ********. Hes always come and said "yeh lets make things better im gonna visit more" then he disapears for 2 years again.

How do i think my dad feels? Who gives a ****. I want him to feel bad for being such an idiot. He has 2 other kids aswell that he had after me n my sis, he doesnt see them either. He had his 2nd chance with them and he blew it again, its obvious he doesnt care for anyone.

My mum doesnt care and my sis can still talk to him and he can visit, doesnt mean i have to talk to him.

If this is the last time ever, ill be happy. If he died now, i wouldnt care. Simply because he has never been in my life, and after all his ******** words and saying he will be, he still isnt.



Now hes just come in my room again and i had a big ol' arguement with him and he kept trying to make me a bet. I had to shout in his face that i didnt wanna ever see him again or anything and had to get my mum to explain to him that i dont care about him. Then he just quietly walked out of my room, good.

[Minstrels]

No second chances in your life eh? :rolleyes:

Do you know how much emotion he'll feel for neglecting you, he'll be trying to make it up. He'll of been trying to tickle you because he remembers you when you were young and physiological crap like that.

[Nemo]

No second chances in your life eh? :rolleyes:

Do you know how much emotion he'll feel for neglecting you, he'll be trying to make it up. He'll of been trying to tickle you because he remembers you when you were young and physiological crap like that.
I give 2nd chances, sure. This is about the.... 5th i believe.


He should feel horrible, i hope he does. He's an evil person for me leaving my mum with no money or any support AT ALL. Even my friend's dad who used to beat his mum, when they split up he still comes and visits and provides money. Tbh, even if he was poor, id still have liked to atleast see him or get a phone call. But nope, none of that.

[dirrty]

instead of just telling him to get lost, you should srsly just have a decent heart-to-heart conversation just telling him how you feel instead of throwing a storm at him. yeah, hes been a useless father but from his point of view he may not know how bad hes been. i'm not saying give him a second chance or forgive him straight away, but just don't hold a grudge against the man, as he'll always be your father. and thats from experience. he'll come around and see what a **** hes been sooner or later, but if you keep on pushing him away and telling him to **** off, then it'll be the latter.

[buttons]

Throw away the only chance? Thats ********. Hes always come and said "yeh lets make things better im gonna visit more" then he disapears for 2 years again.

How do i think my dad feels? Who gives a ****. I want him to feel bad for being such an idiot. He has 2 other kids aswell that he had after me n my sis, he doesnt see them either. He had his 2nd chance with them and he blew it again, its obvious he doesnt care for anyone.

My mum doesnt care and my sis can still talk to him and he can visit, doesnt mean i have to talk to him.

If this is the last time ever, ill be happy. If he died now, i wouldnt care. Simply because he has never been in my life, and after all his ******** words and saying he will be, he still isnt.



Now hes just come in my room again and i had a big ol' arguement with him and he kept trying to make me a bet. I had to shout in his face that i didnt wanna ever see him again or anything and had to get my mum to explain to him that i dont care about him. Then he just quietly walked out of my room, good.
well the way you're going he's never going to visit again, think of your mum and sister who want to build a relationship with him:S ok so maybe they'll be disappointed again but it's worth a try.

the only reason i say this was because you're exactly the same as me, and you probably do care deep down. you can pretend you wouldn't give a **** if he died but you would. Last time my dad visited was nearly 3 year ago when his brother died and I was the one that pushed him away and he moved to another country, kind of like same position as you.

Has your dad ever said "i don't want you to see you" ?? At least he's made SOME effort and you say that to him? That's the worst thing you could hear from a family member and trust me on that. But fine, you do what you want, maybe you will stick to what you say. If that's really the case, you can just throw him out your life but is that going to make you feel better? No. You're still going to be bitter about him not being there which is what this is all about and throwing him out your life for good is the last way of solving that.

[Nemo]

well the way you're going he's never going to visit again, think of your mum and sister who want to build a relationship with him:S ok so maybe they'll be disappointed again but it's worth a try.

the only reason i say this was because you're exactly the same as me, and you probably do care deep down. you can pretend you wouldn't give a **** if he died but you would. Last time my dad visited was nearly 3 year ago when his brother died and I was the one that pushed him away and he moved to another country, kind of like same position as you.

Has your dad ever said "i don't want you to see you" ?? At least he's made SOME effort and you say that to him? That's the worst thing you could hear from a family member and trust me on that. But fine, you do what you want, maybe you will stick to what you say. If that's really the case, you can just throw him out your life but is that going to make you feel better? No. You're still going to be bitter about him not being there which is what this is all about and throwing him out your life for good is the last way of solving that.
I wont build a relationship, but they can. Ill just stay in my room whilst they're down there with him, i dont mind.

No i wouldnt care about HIM. I would ofc HAVE liked a dad, however not now. Ive been fine without him, so i dont need him. Why should i have to give him, yet another chance when clearly he doesnt deserve it.

Nope he hasnt ever said that, but he hasnt put in enough effort. One visit per 2 years doesnt clarify as 'enough' in my books. Aswell as the fact that hes always promised he'd see us more and crap like that. And yeah i can throw him out, and it will make me feel better since i wont have to see him, i wont be angry and upset like i am now since he'll just be a distant memory like he was before today.

As i said above, i might be slightly bitter, but who cares? He's been the worst father and i dont feel like i need to build a relationship with him.

[buttons]

I wont build a relationship, but they can. Ill just stay in my room whilst they're down there with him, i dont mind.

No i wouldnt care about HIM. I would ofc HAVE liked a dad, however not now. Ive been fine without him, so i dont need him. Why should i have to give him, yet another chance when clearly he doesnt deserve it.

Nope he hasnt ever said that, but he hasnt put in enough effort. One visit per 2 years doesnt clarify as 'enough' in my books. Aswell as the fact that hes always promised he'd see us more and crap like that. And yeah i can throw him out, and it will make me feel better since i wont have to see him, i wont be angry and upset like i am now since he'll just be a distant memory like he was before today.

As i said above, i might be slightly bitter, but who cares? He's been the worst father and i dont feel like i need to build a relationship with him.
you may think of him as the worst father, but he's still your father. I won't pester you but I think you're wrong, if it makes you feel better throwing him out good luck, you might moan about something you DO have atm but wait until you don't have it :confused_

[Nemo]

you may think of him as the worst father, but he's still your father. I won't pester you but I think you're wrong, if it makes you feel better throwing him out good luck, you might moan about something you DO have atm but wait until you don't have it :confused_
He's not my father in my eyes though, he's a stranger who wanted to be a father once every other year and then forgot about it since he didnt care.

I dont have him, never had and never will. So its not like im throwing him out, im just ignoring his crap.


But thanks for carin jen ;p

[Sly]

I'll be your new father, I'll be there for you when you need me xxxx
Bet he didn't even ring you when NaughtNemo got banned did he, soon as I noticed I pm'd you straight away because I care, I really do.

[FlyingJesus]

Liar you can't PM banned people

[MissAlice]

I'm sure you don't mean half of what you've said :(, you're angry, frustrated, disappointed and are probably feeling quite rejected by your father, and understably so when someone of his position continues to makes false promises. Why should you just drop everything you are doing because he makes an appearance when it suits him?

Your father has come from abroad, to visit his sick father. I don't know the full circumstances, but when do you think he is likely to visit again? Maybe two years or even more, you can't be sure can you?

If you really can't face speaking with him without shouting and arguing, why not put it in writing exactly how you feel and give him a chance to reply before he goes abroad again without you tearing each other apart, he needs to see you've matured in the time he's been away, and tickling you isn't the way to win you round. Maybe then some of the scars he's reopened can begin to heal, and who knows maybe both of you will benefit.

[Sly]

No theres no going back just forward so come on son embrace your new father

[JACKTARD]

My dad showed up from nowhere after 12 years, now i have a great step-dad and a half brother and a half-sister. I wanted to get to know him but he didnt have any decent answers or justifications for his actions so i decided not to see him again.

[Ali]

Well I'm with you in understanding why you would be angry with him for not keeping in touch, but like many have said: at least you see your dad sometimes, as many people never see their father or don't even know who he is.

Secondly, the fact that he hasn't seen you in a while will make it harder for him. You have to understand that it will be like him having to get to know you all over again as you are still young and changing alot. Him tickling you was probably a nervous reaction because he didn't know what to do as he doesn't know you. Don't push him away next time. Be open to these things.