Need some help.

[Gnome]

yeah, to put this briefly as possible, my girlfriend thinks she's pregnant. She hasnt taken a test as of just now, But i think we're planning one, the thing is that she is too embarrased to buy one, and dosen't wantto go to the local youth place to get one becasue she'll be embarrased. I'm 15, 16 in May, she is 16. We didn't have unprotected sex, i've no idea what happened. Her last period was a week before she met me, and we've been together for around 1 month 1week and a bit, She has also complained about a sore stomach, But she hasn't as i know of been eating alot, could it just be a late period and tummy bug?

What also are my options, if she is pregnant?
And how could i go about telling my parents / her parents?

My parents and her's are the type that are going to flip.

tl;dr: gf is pregnant, wasnt unprotected sex; wasn't on purpose, answer my questions please?

Thanks in advance. xx

Thread closed by Chris (Forum Moderator): Due to bump by spambot.

[:Technical]

It probably is a tummy bug and a late peroid. Females peroids can come late sometimes and if you say you used protection then you should be safe.

Tell your parents and get advice from them also.

[Gnome]

How would i go about telling them? Id preffer to sit them down and tell them but at the same time, id like to write a letter explaining it all, and be out of the house when they get it. Im off into town anyway. Ill come check this thread laters, thanks xx

[:Technical]

Perhaps you should hint it? Or just hit out with it in one at night time then you can go to bed and wake up to see what your parents think.

There are lots of ways.

[Catzsy]

If she won't get a test then its either she is burying her head in the sand or she is not pregnant at all - merely is saying she could be which is quite common. I suggest you offer to buy the test for her and see what happens. No point telling anybody at the moment.

[BOO]

I wouldnt tell anybody, until you do a test. Go buy one for her, if she is too exbarassed. But there is no point in going through the hassle of telling your parents, until you have done a test.
What kinda of protection was used? If you dont mind me asking. As Im sure you know, condoms arent 100% effective. But if she was on the pill or something, then its very unlikely that she is pregnant.

In summary... Get a test done. IF she is pregnant, then I suggest telling your parents straight. Just be honest about it. It'll be worse if you put it off.

[Japan]

You'll never know until you get a test- I agree with Catzsy, buy one for her and she wont be embarrassed. Ask your parents for advice only if you feel comfortable about telling them, you could see a GP instead.

[Nicola]

I think it could just be a late period tbh.
Like the above have said she really needs to take a test and maybe you could buy it for her.
If she is pregnant - the best way to tell your parents is to sit them down together and tell them how you could really use their support. If they're the type of parents that will flip then give them some time and i'm sure they'll come to terms with it.
If you have anymore worries or concerns then you're best off talking to your GP.

[Gnome]

Hey, sorry for late replys, been with her all of today, we spoke about it. We're buying a test next weekend, Just giving it a little time so see if its a late period, I was thinking i could tell my brother, as im more close to him than my parents and maybe he could have a word with them, and maybe i could stay out somewhere that weekend, let it settle in.

To one of the above: Used a condom, she isnt on the pill or the injection thing, If this isnt what it seems im gonna persuade her to start on them.

It's just bad timing right now, I feel it'll muck up both of our lives, and give the child an unfair upbringing. Hope this isnt what it seems, learnt a valuable lesson from it. D;

[Ali]

It sounds as if she isn't pregnant, because some females have a period on the same day every month for exactly a week and they can miss a couple of months in a row and then go back to it.

But, however, I think you should get her a test.

[DieselShaq]

Okay, I hope you don't get any hard feelings reading this.

Obviously she should take a test to make sure first. If the tests are positive (hopefully not) then I suggest you think of it from all perspectives. Seeing as you did use a condom, it should have been relatively safe. But are you sure you only did it once? If so, then I think you should really sit down and ask her if you're the only one she had sexual intercourse with. I don't think signs of pregnancy are that apparent so early on in the pregnancy process. Since you've only been together for around 5 weeks, I wouldn't be so sure that she'd show such signs already...

[Gnome]

Okay, I hope you don't get any hard feelings reading this.

Obviously she should take a test to make sure first. If the tests are positive (hopefully not) then I suggest you think of it from all perspectives. Seeing as you did use a condom, it should have been relatively safe. But are you sure you only did it once? If so, then I think you should really sit down and ask her if you're the only one she had sexual intercourse with. I don't think signs of pregnancy are that apparent so early on in the pregnancy process. Since you've only been together for around 5 weeks, I wouldn't be so sure that she'd show such signs already...


I know what you mean, it did cross my mind. If the test comes back positive, i think ill need to ask her that, but on the other hand maybe it was me, taking a test this friday / saturday.

That is 2 missed periods now, shes complaining of sore ribs, like a cracking. getting worried..

[JACKTARD]

yeah get a test to be sure but i doubt she is

[Gnome]

just an update on this, sorry to bump...

Her mum found out, just as we were going to get a test today, one of her mums friends seen her smoking at lunchtime, told her mum and her mum brought up the smoking then the missed periods, so now her mother is taking her to doctors, and has grounded her till exams are over, which is like a month, I dunno if im gonna be able to see her for like a month, and my 16th is on saturday... Not telling my parents till we know the answer for sure. Her mum is being properly immature about it, giving her the silent treatment, I thought parents were supposed to be supportive? s:


With her living outside of town, like 30 mins away, I don't get to see her till weekends due to her being made to revise during the week.

really hoping the test dosent come back positive. ):

[DieselShaq]

Well, there's nothing you can do now. Just wait for the test results.

[Chaos]

If shes missed 2 periods then surely shes pregnant. :rolleyes:

[Gnome]

test says negative.

[DieselShaq]

Good to hear, but now she needs to find out why she hasn't been having her period...

[lew!]

There could be a lot of health issues related to that, and as you've been adding, ribs etc I think she should definitely make sure she gets checked out for the doctors for that too.
Don't forget to update us!

[DieselShaq]

I remember how Gerald Wallace got a 30-40% collapsed lung as well as a few broken ribs after Andrew Bynum turned and gave him an elbow accidentally to avoid G-Wallace dunking on him. But that's a different story. There shouldn't be anything related to broken ribs, I hope...

[Gnome]

I remember how Gerald Wallace got a 30-40% collapsed lung as well as a few broken ribs after Andrew Bynum turned and gave him an elbow accidentally to avoid G-Wallace dunking on him. But that's a different story. There shouldn't be anything related to broken ribs, I hope...

haha, that post made me giggle.

Yeah, taking another one in 3 days time, just to make sure.

ill keep you updated, cheers for the helps.

[DieselShaq]

Here's the blow: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbcjL7AVxMA
Definitely not intentional; Andrew even went to the Bobcats team bus after the game to apologise. That game was in Los Angeles, California and after G-Wallace was sent to hospital to get patched up, he had to ride the bus all the way back to Charlotte, North Carolina since he couldn't take the plane (high altitude = thin oxygen and his partially collapsed lung can't take it).

[Gnome]

ouch, that looked painful D:

Edited by lew!, (Forum Moderator): Please stay on topic.

[DieselShaq]

Here's another flagrant foul: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTQ5x392QpQ

Edited by lew!, (Forum Moderator): Please stay on topic.

[user130523]

hey there, just read through the thread.

the 2nd test come out negative? if so i'd tell her to go to the doctors to see whats wrong with her :)

[Gnome]

second test negative.

now a new problems came up, she's been grounded for a month. And like, we're both struggling to cope with it, but we've said we're gonna stay together through it, but like, I think we're both feeling the effects. She wants to coem and see me but i dont want her to becasue she'll jsut get grounded longer, and itll be worse, but at the same time i want to see her, needing find some way to sort this out. /:

[DieselShaq]

Has she gotten her ribs check out?

About the new problem, I guess you two will just have to talk on the phone or communicate through MSN. Or you can get a webcam and talk on Skype?

[Gnome]

Has she gotten her ribs check out?

About the new problem, I guess you two will just have to talk on the phone or communicate through MSN. Or you can get a webcam and talk on Skype?


She went to the doctors yesterday, they jsut gave her patch things.

We have been for around a week now, and its just gotten beyond belief. Never thought id actually miss her this much D;

[DieselShaq]

You just gotta live through the month and hope you don't lose your feelings for each other...

[Kronics]

In my experiance, it's best if you make sure that she is pregnant. The worst thing that can happen is you two not noticing until a month or two later. DO IT NOW! But also it depends if you both want a kid. I suggest a no on this, im not being nasty but if she is pregnant and gives birth. How positive are you that your going to be with each other for the rest of your lives? Not at that age no. So get it checked out, and decided what to do from their. Depending on the result of course. Ive had it twice in the past. And yes they were pregnant, but we couldn't go thru it, we were to youg and hardly a good income with our jobs.

I hope this has given you a wider eye about what to do.

Matt
xx

[Stephen]

wow natalie I'd hate to ask you for pregnancy advice

won't get a reply until the kid turns 6 or whatever