Whats more intimate kissing or sex?

[Mentor]

Hey,
this comes from a random debate spreading round my flat, Which is more intimate kissing or sex?

My first thought was sex but others disagree, so decided to do a poll on it as the Internet failed to provided. Please vote :)

Edit: stupidly i added kissing three times. The last kissing in the poll should be sex, i'll ask a mod to fix. Sorry

[leah]

It depends on who it's with, kissing someone you really like will be much more intimate than having sex with someone you have no feelings for.

[buttons]

I would say a kiss! Sex isn't always intimate, some people just have sex for sex and no feelings are required even though there should be. I think you can tell a lot through a kiss, sex isn't always that enjoyable if there's no love between you but when it comes to kissing I guess it shows your feelings more. I suppose it really matters who it's with.

[Soy]

Sex, because the person is trusting you enough to let you please her/ him

You girls are soo telling the truth :eusa_liar

[FlyingJesus]

I would say a kiss! Sex isn't always intimate, some people just have sex for sex and no feelings are required even though there should be. I think you can tell a lot through a kiss, sex isn't always that enjoyable if there's no love between you but when it comes to kissing I guess it shows your feelings more. I suppose it really matters who it's with.

What about kisses that mean nothing though? Most people have kissed more people than they've had sex with I'd imagine. With either it depends on the situation and what the person means to you.
I've had both sex and kisses with people I haven't cared about, and I guess it's the type of kiss that sets it apart - generally if you have random sex with someone you don't particularly care about you're not likely to give them a gentle kiss on the forehead with a good morning smile. I'd still say sex is more intimate though, as psychologically it acts on people more.

[leah]

This just shows the different opinions of girls and guys, guys seem to think sex matters more and girls seem to think kissing does.

[FlyingJesus]

That's because girls are stupid

[Mentor]

This just shows the different opinions of girls and guys, guys seem to think sex matters more and girls seem to think kissing does.
Yea, i thought that originally, but i've got the same poll running on facebook with totally reversed results lol, all the guys seem to think kissing is more intimate :p

I think it may be down to the fact they think people may be able to see what they voted (although it is still anonymous :rolleyes: lol)

Makes for some confusing results though lol :p

[leah]

Yea, i thought that originally, but i've got the same poll running on facebook with totally reversed results lol, all the guys seem to think kissing is more intimate :p

I think it may be down to the fact they think people may be able to see what they voted (although it is still anonymous :rolleyes: lol)

Makes for some confusing results though lol :p
aww sensative guys omg set me up *+*+*
and tom, no.

[Soy]

i'm a man. man want sex

[leah]

i'm a man. man want sex
Sex is good, but kissing someone you love is more sentimental.

[FlyingJesus]

In what way? Sex with someone you truly love can be utterly fantastic, it's not always just physical

[Mentor]

aww sensative guys omg set me up *+*+*
and tom, no.
You say that, but considering they probs voted that way simply because they though girls would read it and react that way kinda blows the image a little :p

Duno, to me sex seems like a more intimate thing, in a relationship you generally get to the point of kissing before the point of sex? Equally sex in a relationship often includes alot of kissing anyway and biologically sex releases a great deal more chemicals related to bonding and relationship forming than kissing "/

Meaningless sex on the other hand isnt particularly intimate, but nore is meaningless kissing. For example in a dare friends will probably kiss, but are far less likely to have sex as a result of it, which to me again generally points to people, at least subconsciously, seeing sex as a more intimate action "/

p.s.

My friend Charlotte also wants to interject that people should be careful not to confuse intimacy with romance.

[leah]

In what way? Sex with someone you truly love can be utterly fantastic, it's not always just physical
No, I was saying in some cases kissing is more intimate, it's just an opinion lol you can't always get everyone to agree with you :P

[Mentor]

Its so weird how the results on the differnt places im running this poll vary so much o.o

Still thanks to people who voted so far, results are most helpful :p

[Ostinato]

It all depends.

You can have a kiss with someone and not really care, or it could be someone you have wanted for a while or are really into or something so it is more intimate.

Likewise you could have a quick bit of sex going on lol or have a good bitta passionate which is defos much more intimate.

I voted sex for defos tbh. I think if you are with someone you are really into and love or whatever, a kiss can be intimate yes - but totally trusting each other and (as cheesy as it sounds) being the closest to another human as physically possible must be more intimate.

[Sammeth.]

I could live without sex as long as I had someone I loved and could kiss, cuddle and snuggle up to, cus Im homo like that. Like proper severe homo.

[Mentor]

It all depends.

You can have a kiss with someone and not really care, or it could be someone you have wanted for a while or are really into or something so it is more intimate.

Likewise you could have a quick bit of sex going on lol or have a good bitta passionate which is defos much more intimate.

I voted sex for defos tbh. I think if you are with someone you are really into and love or whatever, a kiss can be intimate yes - but totally trusting each other and (as cheesy as it sounds) being the closest to another human as physically possible must be more intimate.
Much agree :p

If anyones interested, as ive been running the poll on 3 sites + asking people :p i put together a graph to display it based on 5 girls and 26 guys :p


http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=gom&chd=t:80|44&chs=400x200&chl=girls|guys&chtt=sex%20-%3E%20kissing
Towards the left means they think sex is more intimate, towards the right means they think kissing is :p

[Ostinato]

in the red pls

[FlyingJesus]

See did I not already say that girls are stupid

[Ostinato]

See did I not already say that girls are stupid

thats usually just taken for granted tbh

[Soy]

girls jus' don't wanna' sound like hoez :8

[leah]

I could live without sex as long as I had someone I loved and could kiss, cuddle and snuggle up to, cus Im homo like that. Like proper severe homo.
thats the cutest thing ever :)

[GommeInc]

Ha, and he's gay and sleeping with me :D There's a word (or two) for girls like you, Leah :P But HxF would filter it :(

[FlyingJesus]

fore
head

Not filtered :S

[Blinger1]

i would say kissing is more intimate.. unless its a drunken kiss

[Mentor]

For anyone interested stats are currelty

http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=gom&chd=t:80|40&chs=400x200&chl=girl|guy&chtt=sex
Left being towards sex being more intimate, right being towards kissing.

Overall that results as
http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=p3&chd=t:25,20&chs=250x100&chl=Sex|Kissin
* yay for google charts api :p

Edited by :Mobile (Forum Moderator): Accidental double post merged.

[Blinger1]

That is quite cool... Sex is obviously more intimate..

But, if you sleep with a hooker, that isn't intimate..

I guess it depends on the person ;)

[luce]

I chose kissing becuase when it acutally means somethign it's more intemate. When i submitted the results i expect like 100 gusy to have chosen sex but more had chosen kissing lolz

[FlyingJesus]

I really don't get how lips touching which is something that happens pretty much from birth and throughout life is a more intimate act than one person inside another with the intent to make all parties included feel as good as possible and maybe even create a new life between two people.

[Shockwave.2CC]

Sex, because like someone said, your trusting them even more because kissing mite mean nothing.

[leah]

Ha, and he's gay and sleeping with me :D There's a word (or two) for girls like you, Leah :P But HxF would filter it :(
insanely beautiful :S

fore
head

Not filtered :S
*smak ya l;

and I still think kissing is more intimate, sex is more lust.

[Bef]

im obv the only girl that thinks sex
in my oponion, kisses ar forgetable, most people tend to remember sex :)
is forehead filtered?

[Soy]

im obv the only girl that thinks sex
in my oponion, kisses ar forgetable, most people tend to remember sex :)
is forehead filtered?

:eusa_clap

this girl knows the score :8

[Mentor]

im obv the only girl that thinks sex
in my oponion, kisses ar forgetable, most people tend to remember sex :)
is forehead filtered?
Actually your not entirely alone, though still only the second lol :p

Current results below;

overall:
http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=p3&chd=t:43,29&chs=300x140&chl=Sex|Kissing

Gender split
http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=gom&chd=t:75|37&chs=400x200&chl=girl|guy&chtt=sex%20-%3E%20kissing


Plus, just for kicks..

Pie of girl's choices
http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=p3&chd=t:2,6&chs=300x140&chl=Sex|Kissing

pie of guy choices
http://chart.apis.google.com/chart?cht=p3&chd=t:41,26&chs=300x140&chl=Sex|Kissing
*yay google charts again

[Bef]

it says on mine just 1 girl has said sex, didnt read entire thread

[Mentor]

it says on mine just 1 girl has said sex, didnt read entire thread
Yea, im running the poll on two other forums, facebook and a poll site too :p

Putting em together creates the charts :)

[leah]

is forehead filtered?
lmao no it's not beffff

[Niall!]

What's an intimate? I think you're mistaking it for pleasurable.

[dannii.]

I voted for wrong one ;P
But I think sex is more intimate, I agree with what Bef said ;D

[awelsh]

It depends, id say a long kiss would be more intimate that a quick ****, but then if its meaningful sex then that would be more intimate than a quick kiss.

I voted kiss anyway.

[Dye]

i'm a man. man want sex

Haha, I agree. :eusa_danc

[Cyndia]

Lol, I love how only about 50% of the guys said sex is more intimate. I was expecting girls to say that and almost no guys to.

Anywho, I definitely think kissing is more intimate. You can have sex with anyone, and even use it as a buffer against real intimacy. But kissing, especially in public proclaims that you really like them and that you want people to know. Thats why it seems more intimate to me.. Even though its true, even kisses can be meaningless sometimes..

[Pyroka]

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.

Hard question really, one that I've been pressured into answering. Truthfully, not just saying this to sound good, but I think kissing the right person, somebody you really care about, thats more intimate than sex. It's the feeling of having a connection with the person you are kissing which is what makes it such a rush of blood to the head. Nevermind sex, sex can come later because this feeling comes naturally. Sex is more primative, you dont get the same intimate feeling.

I mean, a first kiss, its like the most intimate sort of moment ever. Kissing takes two people, its like uniting with someone and that other person being willing to. Sex just isnt like that, sex you can just sit down and be like meh whilst someone does all the hard work. But then... Sex can be intimate, depending on the scene and the mood. I guess its all about capturing the moment.

I'd say kissing though, for arguments sake. I'm going on this from experience (I aint had sex yet, but I'm in no hurry).

[Vause]

For me, kissing is deffo the time I feel closest to my partner, sometimes sex can be intimate but your mind is only on one thing, whereas if your kissing, you can get close and touch and stufffff.

That's from my experiences with my girlfriends anyway.

[CJW93]

I'm a virgin, but


SEX FTW!

[Zak]

sex.. its just so great :P

[DaveTaylor]

Sex is only intimate when you actually like the person, being in a relationship etc. so it depends on the situation really, however, hmmm, i'd have to say kissing, not sure why, then again I enjoy kissing during sex so I guess it's personal preference obviously. But I have never been one for one night stands so that's probably why I find both as intimate as eachother.

@Interact: What's so great about it? Sex is just sex, some might be a little rougher, or a little more pleasuring in the end, but after all it's all just the same, just some little variations.

[Myth]

I'd say sex is more intimate.