Online RelationShips - What's Your Say?

[VirtualG]

Hey, I met this chick (hawt!) in the city (sydney) but unfortunately shhe was in holidays and lives in brisbane (bummer) but I got her email and the otha day she was wanting to know if I was her boyfriend. I like her and we have tons in common but I've only met her once irl and wont really be able to do anything real :( What do you think I should do, and do you think online relationships are good (even if you met online the first place) ???!?!?!

[Zokoli]

No, they're not safe.

Even though you met her, others can be 40 year old pedos.

If you're not going to do anything with her except from *snogz* and *snogz bk* online then there is no point. Find some one where you could regularly see them.

[LuketheDuke]

From my limited knowledge of Australian geography thats a fair distance apart, not loads and loads though. Tbh I wouldnt worry about it and meet some more local girls, thats a more sustainable relationship.

[Soy]

teen relationships are stupid period

[Jorc]

I'm against online dating, it's just not right. Go outside and find love or something.

[FlyingJesus]

I went out with a girl in Wales once but we did actually meet up a fair bit until I couldn't be bothered

[leah]

It depends how old you are, if you're old enough to travel to see her regularly then give it a shot, but if you're not old enough yet then it probably won;t last.

[Jordan:A]

Or when she goes on holiday try and go the same place as her xD

[luce]

Or when she goes on holiday try and go the same place as her xD

I think that's called stalking


online relationships don't work if you're never going to meet. Don't bother

[CJW93]

Care to post a pic?

[Wahey]

Not worth it, bet there's plenty more better girls in the local area

[shizzle]

Nope, I don't like those. Only ones you can meet are alright.

[colourpot]

Nope i dont think its worth it. Its only worth it if you can see each other regular tbh.

[Pyroka]

Yeah completely agree, if you can afford to uphold a relationship then yeah go for it, but if you're young and you don't have much money, but you really like the girl, then the shameful truth is that it probably wont work out.

It sucks ass because I've been there, but the older you get the easier it gets to have a long-distance relationship and to make it work is easier. :)

[Abbie.]

no they dont work

i dont know you can go without seeing the person for a long time, i couldnt put up with it, and i think it would be slightly awkward for some reason

[JACKTARD]

No no no!

get a girlfriend/bf that you get along with in real life, i think its quite sad to be dating over the internet

[camera]

teen relationships are stupid period
so much truth in that. dating is good tho.

[beth]

i started speaking to my current boyfriend on here about 3 years ago, now i hardly speak to him online + we've been together nearly a year, and i truly honestly believe he's the one.

i think if you talk to someone you truly click with, you shouldn't just dismiss them because they live far away.

if you like them all at that much; go for it.

[Hecktix]

My ex was a long distance thing & that worked, we broke apart for other reasons but tbh the distance did us good, we saw eachother every other week from friday - sunday night, it was good :)

I think if you are old enough (like 17/18) and you can afford the travel then it's fine, but when you're younger and can't that's when it starts causing trouble haha.

I've dated two girls I met online, one from Bristol one from Reading, the Reading one awas the one I spoke about above, the Bristol one, we were like 15 and well, 15 year olds can't afford that much train fare very often & obviously parents aren't too keen on you travelling, so problems arise ;)

[Lindsey]

:)Well, Tbh ive been there, done that. its a good way to learn to talk with the oppisite Sex, but some times it gets carried away. but theres alot of pros and cons to it, but they choose. what they want.

[DeejayMachoo$]

Not sure how far away the two citys are but well heres my experience with it..

I met my girlfriend online I was friends with her for 6 months before we met in real life and when we met we started dating. We've been together for 8 months seeing eachother atleast once a week but mostly 2 or 3 times sometimes even more but work / college / uni gets in the way sometimes. We got to know eachother online and it all went from there.

[GommeInc]

Meh, it's like everything else in life - sometimes they workout sometimes they don't. If both sides like each other, who's to say it is wrong or it won't work out? Like all relationships, it takes commitment.

[RastaLulz]

I have no problem with dating online aslong as you know the person well, and you really do like the person. If you have fears that the person is fake, simply ask them to get on cam, or something. The only real down side is that you can't get laid, or cuddle. Which is the best part of the relationship, I must say.

[BlueLord]

They were appealing to me when I was younger but obviously I woke up, it's quite funny just as long as you don't share anything or put your safety at risk.

[BlueEyedSarah]

As long as you have the time, money and effort for a long distance relationship then yes they can work. When you are a teen though it proberbly would not work so well. Just be her friend for now and maybe when your older and have a job you can save up the money to visit her.

[Barkseh]

Online relationships are for 12 year olds imo. Once you get to about 14, 15, 16, 17 you start wanting more than just flirting with pixels lol.

[leah]

I think that's called stalking

that made me laugh

i started speaking to my current boyfriend on here about 3 years ago, now i hardly speak to him online + we've been together nearly a year, and i truly honestly believe he's the one.

i think if you talk to someone you truly click with, you shouldn't just dismiss them because they live far away.

if you like them all at that much; go for it.
I really agree with that. I think if you meet someone you really click with then you should at least give it a chance.

[RedStratocas]

The only real down side is that you can't get laid, or cuddle. Which is the best part of the relationship, I must say.

yeah honestly i dont feel like its a real relationship without touching involved lol.

[kuzkasate]

Well I think that if you meet online, get to know her through msn and that but dont go out with her/him until you've met him/her irl and spent a bit of time with them. Also I just want to say, if they live really far dont bother. At first you will want to but then you just get annoyed and give up. :P

[Geraint]

just think that they're for people who can't get one irl so have to go to another person who is in the same situation. desperate, in other words. gotta be something weird about them.



don't worry, i have plenty of water as i'm ready to be flamed. :)

[Mentor]

Online friends, sure. But i don't really thing a real relationship can exist purely online, sure a real relationship can happen with someone you met online or were originally friends with online. But until it moves in to the real world, it i'snt a real relationship in my view.

[buttons]

Well I think that if you meet online, get to know her through msn and that but dont go out with her/him until you've met him/her irl and spent a bit of time with them. Also I just want to say, if they live really far dont bother. At first you will want to but then you just get annoyed and give up. :P
Yes, this is the only time I find it acceptable. When you meet someone online, yeah you may like them but if you decide to start dating before you meet it's just ****** up :/ I'd rather meet someone before deciding on my feelings anyway, if I was to meet them first and then continue meeting them afterwards I think that'd be the only time it would be acceptable to have found a relationship online. I don't think there is anything harmless with flirting online, I'm sure a lot of us do it :P

[Wahey]

Yes, this is the only time I find it acceptable. When you meet someone online, yeah you may like them but if you decide to start dating before you meet it's just ****** up :/ I'd rather meet someone before deciding on my feelings anyway, if I was to meet them first and then continue meeting them afterwards I think that'd be the only time it would be acceptable to have found a relationship online. I don't think there is anything harmless with flirting online, I'm sure a lot of us do it :P
Yeah, me and Jen are meeting up at T in the Park next year and then we're getting married


I agree with what the guy said Jen quoted

[buttons]

we could meet this yr at aviemore >:l n then get married k

[Wahey]

Wouldn't you prefer to get married in King Tuts tent?

[GrandTheftAudio]

I don't mind it if it's other people. I wouldn't do it myself though, I've had my fun and at the end of the day you have to move on. It makes me laugh though when you're playing some game and some random guy's like "will u be my gf???" errrr no.

[kuzkasate]

Yes, this is the only time I find it acceptable. When you meet someone online, yeah you may like them but if you decide to start dating before you meet it's just ****** up :/ I'd rather meet someone before deciding on my feelings anyway, if I was to meet them first and then continue meeting them afterwards I think that'd be the only time it would be acceptable to have found a relationship online. I don't think there is anything harmless with flirting online, I'm sure a lot of us do it :P

Yh but mostly you get noobs like *snogs* *"Bobbas"* and then pretend to have some e-life which is quite scary...

[Skaboy15]

I can't see the point in online relationships, because I don't believe you can have the same feelings for someone you've never met, compared to the feelings you have for someone that you have met in real life.

That's kind of hypocritical of me as if I talk to me people online that live outside of Essex (nothing silly like Manchester, or even another country...) I sometimes get attached to them and really want to be with them :P But I know it won't work out, not at my age, so I don't let myself get that attached.

[Pixet]

I don't really see the point okay I might sound like a hypocrite too but I know what I'm thinking.
There's a guy who said he loved me more than anyone else, "he hates his parents" etcetc. but we had only spoken online but for ages we both said in the summer we should meet up. He spent apparently £500 (LOL) on train and hotel tickets, anyway we met and he was lovely that was that.

But I think habbo e-dates are a joke.
Like someone said, flirting online is no big deal because chances are you'll have stopped talking to that person in a few years, maybe months. I could rant on but I want to watch Space Chimps :(

[Hollyish]

I went out with a girl in Wales once but we did actually meet up a fair bit until I couldn't be bothered

didn't know you went out with Bef :o

tbh you CAN make an online/long-distance relationship work, but i wouldn't personally do it myself.

[9y]

From personal experience. Yes they work!

I met Isabella (Dj Smithy) Through habbox about 7 months ago. We went around 3 months until we decided to meet up. Things went amazingly! I've been driving down there ever since.

If there is possibility's, why not give it a go :)

[Immenseman]

meh, up to the people involved. i have done in the past when i was younger. i wouldn't again.

[Jordan:A]

Ive done it in the past then I thought, whats the point

[Immenseman]

yeah, i think once you get older you tend not to. not in all circumstances obviously. if you meet like a few posts above then that's alright too, in my eyes. when you have an active social life and are sexually active then you don't really need to have a relationship with someone online, even if you do fall for them. which can happen easily imo.

[sim]

hiya, thought id just shove in my exp.

its v.difficult to manage, and you are going to have to be prepared for a pretty 'open' and "on and off" relationship, which is open to cheating (of sorts) and someone getting bored with you.

ive been chatting to one guy for about 3 years, and we meet on and off. things have just started to get a bit more serious and now that we have grown up considerably, distance/money/travel etc are not as much of an issue.

it can be terribly frustrating when you go weeks, months, even a year at one point, without seeing them, but then seeing them makes it worth the wait. things get better with age and therefore id say, if your serious about someone online, who you have also met up with in r/l, then wait it out and do as much as you can to see them.

[Dippindonut1]

If you've met them in real life first then I suppose it is ok, however, I am completely against it otherwise.

[Inspiration]

It depends how far they are away from you etc
For example if you lived in Manchester and they lived in London it could work but if they lived in Canada it would be hard to commit and stay faithfull (both parties)

[Catchy]

not worth it tbh.

[BlueLord]

I think they can be fun yet people often get so taken over by them, they often forget about living properly and it starts to muck up their social lives, in real life.

You're best to stay clear, really as this is the internet and people are idiots.

[MrGazet]

i can't really say.never experienced it but im open to new experiences you know :)

[Ontario]

Well when i was about 15 i met a girl on Habbo who i straight away got along with and we were totally on the same level about everything. She lived like 80 miles away so it was not like i ever thought we would be able to have a relationship. But after knowing her for like 6 months we decided to meet up which i was really nervous about but we had already sen each other via my space and things but even so. By this time we had already decided to date each other even if that meant seeing each other every 1-2months. When i met up with her it was amazing we totally clicked and i would spend weekends with her at her place and her at mine and it was great and we dated for 3 years then she had to move to America and we wern't sure how it would be but we carried on dating each other. She came to stay with me just this summer which was great and other relationship is going strong even when it just hard not seeing each other.

So i would carry it on if you really want to but it is just up to the person and the relationship. I'm not for or against online dating. It just boils down to the two people and the relationship they have with each other.

[samsaBEAR]

well i met my girlfriend on here (escape artist) like 4 years ago but it wasn't till like june '08 we've properly talked. we've now been together for a year :) she lives in birmingham and i live in kent, which is like almost 300 miles away, but it definintely works :) if you're both comitted it can work :)

[beth]

well i met my girlfriend on here (escape artist) like 4 years ago but it wasn't till like june '08 we've properly talked. we've now been together for a year :) she lives in birmingham and i live in kent, which is like almost 300 miles away, but it definintely works :) if you're both comitted it can work :)
HAIII I'M FAMOUS.

naaa, i feel like i know my boy far more than i would've if i'd have met him offline. not saying that you should go finding love online, but it's been amazing :)

[9y]

not worth it tbh.

I cant understand how this can be the case, how can you think its not worth it, your future wife (/Husband looking at your name, not suggesting anything) Could be sat behind a screen waiting for a guy like you. Ok its your opinion. But open up! :)