Your views on a **** buddy

[JACKTARD]

I'm 15, I am really close to all my mates, especially close to Michelle, we have tried almost everything, i dont see anything wrong with it - its all safe and there are no strings attached, we're young and experemental but some people seem to have a problem with it. Dont really know how they found out but they just talk about it behind our backs, we arent bothered, could just because they arent getting any. I think its good to have one, no strings attached, improvements, give each other tips. Obvs we stop when either of us get a partner though :)

[Niall!]

Just tell them at least you get laid.

[buttons]

Well personally, I don't like the feeling of being used and especially not for sexual purposes. I'm not going to say I think all sex should be meaningful but I wouldn't want to be having occasional sexual contact with someone just for experimenting. If it was to be constant contact then I'd have to have be emotionally connected to them at some level otherwise I just see no point than having *one* person to mess around with, I find that pretty immature. You might think it's safe but would you really like to get someone pregnant that you're just sleeping with and don't want to be with? If you're not talking about actual sex then how are you gonna feel when one of you gets an STD which you probably will, I don't think "**** buddies" stick with one person all the time. It's not for me, one night stands on the other hand ..... :eusa_whis

[Cyndia]

The longer you stay as "**** buddies" the more likely one of you is going to get emotionally attached (and generally it tends to happen to the girl..) which can makes this really messy. So yeah, I personally would never get involved in something like that, but if you like it go for it! Just make sure you two are always clear on what your relationship with each other is and you hopefully won't run into problems.

[FlyingJesus]

If neither of you mind it then there's no reason not to keep it going - make sure there's a rule that if either of you get with anyone else you have to let it be known though, just in case you end up not being comfortable with that. I know it's "casual" but it's still a friend. Personally I find I'm more open and close to the girls I've been in sexual contact with - I think only 2 of my close female friends aren't ex girlfriends or ex lovers

[Mentor]

As long as you both feel the same way about it and no ones getting hurt i cant see any problem with it myself. Just dont fall in to a patten as sure its fine when your both single, but if you carry it one when one of you isnt, then there is a liability for some damage "/

Just make sure you practice safe sex.

Also, if you don't want people talking about it, often a good idea not to tell em.

[RastaLulz]

There's nothing wrong with getting some action.

The people who care are the ones who can't get any, and/or jealous..

[BlueLord]

I think it's perfectly normal to get and seek action, have fun whilst it lasts, and whilst you can! Just make sure you're aware of what safety precautions you should take (if you want me to elaborate, pm me!)

[beth]

me + my ex were "****" buddies for a while.
sure, i enjoyed the sex and i enjoyed the freedom but it completely destroyed me eventually because i couldn't differentiate between sex + love.
and i don't think a lot of young people can, and i think the more you do it, the more you will fall for this girl.

once or twice is fine, but when it becomes a regular affair, you'll begin to miss it when you can't have it and soon it won't be footloose + fancy free.

[Clowgon]

Wow your 15 and you got a **** buddy already! :o Boy aren't you lucky.... :P

At this moment of time... i personally wouldn't mind have a **** buddy. ;)

Anyways ye, i think it's ok having a **** buddy as long as your not in a relationship with someone else. You only get one life on this earth so FULFILL it to the max! :) Experiment, enjoy! Never look back!

[BlueEyedSarah]

I see nothing wrong with having an *REMOVED* buddy, its just a bit of no strings attached fun. The *REMOVED* buddies I have had are still my friends today, they have lasted longer than the regular friends I have had. Its best to only tell a few selected people though because not everyone would handle that idea very well.

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[Alkaz]

Well personally, I don't like the feeling of being used and especially not for sexual purposes. I'm not going to say I think all sex should be meaningful but I wouldn't want to be having occasional sexual contact with someone just for experimenting. If it was to be constant contact then I'd have to have be emotionally connected to them at some level otherwise I just see no point than having *one* person to mess around with, I find that pretty immature. You might think it's safe but would you really like to get someone pregnant that you're just sleeping with and don't want to be with? If you're not talking about actual sex then how are you gonna feel when one of you gets an STD which you probably will, I don't think "**** buddies" stick with one person all the time. It's not for me, one night stands on the other hand ..... :eusa_whis
I kind of agree with you Jen. Should be some feelings there.

[GommeInc]

What ever happened to mighty hand and experimentation? It's OK to have one, but I'd imagine other people hearing about it would be a bit disturbed about it (and of course gossip). Provided you practice safe sex like with any sort of sex, it's fine. There's nothing wrong with growing feelings for each other through it though.

[luce]

I'm 15, I am really close to all my mates, especially close to Michelle, we have tried almost everything, i dont see anything wrong with it - its all safe and there are no strings attached, we're young and experemental but some people seem to have a problem with it. Dont really know how they found out but they just talk about it behind our backs, we arent bothered, could just because they arent getting any. I think its good to have one, no strings attached, improvements, give each other tips. Obvs we stop when either of us get a partner though :)


I was like that with someone for at least 2 years and now we are together and have been for 3 months so yeah it's not bad and there is nothing wrong with it i think if it's just like one person and you know them not just like oh i'll get with you because i can :) more often then not you end up with them i know my friends have done it aswell

Oh and @Jen i agree with you that there should be feelings between you first not just like random experimenting, you shoudld be sure you're the only one and not being used becuase if you did like her and then find that that was the case you would probs be hurt

[JACKTARD]

thanks for all ur input, +rep to whoever i can

[Barkseh]

Nuffin wrong with it what so ever!!

From personal experience though, the start getting jelous when you go with someone else which pisses me off.

[leah]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk :D
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.

[LuketheDuke]

Tbh people label this sorta thing as not a relationship but in a way it is.

When you have this sort of communication with another person and they do something with someone else unless your completely detatched (the other person is a complete stranger to you except for the sex) some sort of feelings will bubble up.

Therefore these "buddies" are involved in a relationship, albeit a very up front one.

[luce]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk :D
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.

You're telling me!!1!

Yeah i did become attached instantly but it all worked out because he did aswell and now we're together and it's all fiine but i can understand how i would have been gutted if he had said nah im bored now and went off with someone else. So it depends really if you are set on being friends from te start.

On the subjects of one night stands im really not into them but im only 15 :eusa_whis:rolleyes:

[Melsia]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk :D
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.
I agree with this.
I also get very jealous and I don't like the idea of being used for sex either.

[GoldenMerc]

One of you will get attached.

[Grig]

I'd have to question what the 21st century has turned into. Experimenation is by all means OK. But a **** buddy in my view is crossing a very thin line. Limits are limits, sure it may be fun and all- but it is just wrong.

[Pyroka]

I'd have to question what the 21st century has turned into. Experimenation is by all means OK. But a **** buddy in my view is crossing a very thin line. Limits are limits, sure it may be fun and all- but it is just wrong.

Its better than paying for it.

[jennifuh]

Ah yeah, it is fun, no commitments and all but they never seem to work out. Usually one person will end up liking the other, getting attached while the other doesn't feel the same, ending up in hurt feelings. When one wants something serious, and the other doesn't, it's like "***, so that's alll I can be to you, a **** buddy?!" Or one ends up liking the other, and gets incredibly jealous at anything you do with anyone else. It can end awkwardly even without this happening, but iunno, just what I've found!

[Catchy]

You only live once why not.

[FlyingJesus]

me + my ex were "****" buddies for a while.
sure, i enjoyed the sex and i enjoyed the freedom but it completely destroyed me eventually because i couldn't differentiate between sex + love.
and i don't think a lot of young people can, and i think the more you do it, the more you will fall for this girl.

once or twice is fine, but when it becomes a regular affair, you'll begin to miss it when you can't have it and soon it won't be footloose + fancy free.

YEAH BUT LET'S FACE IT BETHIE YOU'RE A FOOL OF AN AFRICAN


I'd have to question what the 21st century has turned into. Experimenation is by all means OK. But a **** buddy in my view is crossing a very thin line. Limits are limits, sure it may be fun and all- but it is just wrong.

What has "happened" is that people are starting to get back to how things should be. Historically there has often been no divide between being friends and sleeping together - before Victorian times friends and bedmates were pretty much the same thing and it was only during that fairly recent era of history (coupled with the Puritan movement in America) that sex was deemed morally wrong and the big push was put out by the church, and therefore due to the times by social pressure, not to have sex

[Soy]

your cool :8

[crazed]

I'm 15, I am really close to all my mates, especially close to Michelle, we have tried almost everything, i dont see anything wrong with it - its all safe and there are no strings attached, we're young and experemental but some people seem to have a problem with it. Dont really know how they found out but they just talk about it behind our backs, we arent bothered, could just because they arent getting any. I think its good to have one, no strings attached, improvements, give each other tips. Obvs we stop when either of us get a partner though :)



I don't really mind. I have one of my own so its all cool (Y)

[JACKTARD]

We made some ground rules before it all started about being attached, if either of us did, then we would stop. Also, would stop if either of us got into a relationship.

Its not like a really really regular thing, its not like we're rabbits. Its more like once a fortnight.

[LoveToStack]

Fair enough if you can handle it, I'd be worried about getting emotionally involved or her doing the same though. If that did happen it would be hard to avoid getting hurt or hurting her which I assume you don't want to happen. Friends first, then becoming **** buddies just seems right on the path to someone falling for the other, especially since you're getting so close to her. I don't judge you for doing it, just worry about how it will end really.

[GoldenMerc]

The thing is ether one of you will always get attached, i suppose that can be a good thing as me and my gf met that way. well we started dating that way

[today]

The thing is ether one of you will always get attached, i suppose that can be a good thing as me and my gf met that way. well we started dating that way
you dirty rabbit ross