Cousin Coming Over ~ 4 YEARS!

[kuzkasate]

As the title says, my cousin is coming over 8th August from Russia to go to University :$ I like him even though I havent seen him for about 7 years but anyway, hes 17 and hes coming over and staying with us!

I dont have anything against him its just that, hes going to be using MY ROOM, using MY STUFF thats not all... I have to help him pass his flaming IELTS test because his english isn't that good so I have to help him pass that and then hes going to uni! (even if he doesnt pass, he will keep on doing it until he does :@) I just cant handle that for 4 years! Its outrageous... me and my parents were thinking of re doing my room new wallpaper, new bed, new carpets and everything. I'm just so bloody annoyed! My mum has too cook more food, wash more clothes and the ironing etc and I know how tired she gets after doing that for her three kids (including me), my dad and herself obv. That obv costs money and we dont have alot of it. However my aunty and my uncle have PLENTY. They have already made my cousin a bank account with 1million roubles (not sure how much thats in pounds) and hes obv gonna spend it pretty quick. My aunty/uncle wont even give my parents some money for like all they did because they had to find out about the uni, get him application, apply for summer school, find out about that IELTS test and loads more. NVM that I but we have to feed him for 4 years and do the rest as I said above. They could atleast send my parents some money, I would understand if they didnt have the money but they do! Last month they bought some massive house that cost ALOT and did the design and stuff which costs even more, to hire staff etc. Not only that but they bought 2 new cars both new (1-2 years old not sure but its new!)

They also want to get a swimming pool and stuff like that! Im like fgs! Arent you happy with what you've got?! A house with 3 floors, big rooms really comfy and beautiful, 2 new cars thats all I would need! But no! They want more the greedy ******* and my mum and dad had to pay out of their pockets for the uni and stuff even though my dad was saving up for a new car... and we have to go meet him in london and take him to manchester and we even have to pay for the train tickets.

Im just so angry! I'll have no privacy, no fun. Its gonna be miserable, surely you understand me?

Sorry for any typos I was just typing furiously! :@

[ecstasy]

I agree with you here. Its pretty selfish that your aunty/uncle have sent him over to you with out anything to thank/help you.

[GoldenMerc]

Family are family, you help them out they will help you out. yes it may seem a bit unfair at the moment although maybe in a few years you will do the same thing, thats what family are for, helping each other.

[kuzkasate]

I agree with you here. Its pretty selfish that your aunty/uncle have sent him over to you with out anything to thank/help you.

Yh thats what I'm thinking and they didnt even say thanks!

I think this will effect my education tbh because he will be asking me for help and apparently "I am his only hope to help him" :$

He's also used to "1st class" stuff. Well he aint gonna get any first class here. :@


Family are family, you help them out they will help you out. yes it may seem a bit unfair at the moment although maybe in a few years you will do the same thing, thats what family are for, helping each other.

But they never did help us... when my dad had serious problems and needed an operation we rang up and asked to borrow some money. "Sorry I cant" was their reply... even though they have several businesses? And clearly they do have money.... and alot of it they dont deny it they are just greedy

[ecstasy]

Teach him the wrong things

[MrPinkPanther]

1,000,000 Rubles is around £20,000 I believe which is a hell of a lot for Uni unless its for his fees etc. Its true that family should help each other out, so why arent they helping his family out with their financial need?

[Inseriousity.]

As the title says, my cousin is coming over 8th August from Russia to go to University :$ I like him even though I havent seen him for about 7 years but anyway, hes 17 and hes coming over and staying with us!

I dont have anything against him its just that, hes going to be using MY ROOM, using MY STUFF thats not all... I have to help him pass his flaming IELTS test because his english isn't that good so I have to help him pass that and then hes going to uni! (even if he doesnt pass, he will keep on doing it until he does :@) I just cant handle that for 4 years! Its outrageous... me and my parents were thinking of re doing my room new wallpaper, new bed, new carpets and everything. I'm just so bloody annoyed! My mum has too cook more food, wash more clothes and the ironing etc and I know how tired she gets after doing that for her three kids (including me), my dad and herself obv. That obv costs money and we dont have alot of it. However my aunty and my uncle have PLENTY. They have already made my cousin a bank account with 1million roubles (not sure how much thats in pounds) and hes obv gonna spend it pretty quick. My aunty/uncle wont even give my parents some money for like all they did because they had to find out about the uni, get him application, apply for summer school, find out about that IELTS test and loads more. NVM that I but we have to feed him for 4 years and do the rest as I said above. They could atleast send my parents some money, I would understand if they didnt have the money but they do! Last month they bought some massive house that cost ALOT and did the design and stuff which costs even more, to hire staff etc. Not only that but they bought 2 new cars both new (1-2 years old not sure but its new!)

They also want to get a swimming pool and stuff like that! Im like fgs! Arent you happy with what you've got?! A house with 3 floors, big rooms really comfy and beautiful, 2 new cars thats all I would need! But no! They want more the greedy ******* and my mum and dad had to pay out of their pockets for the uni and stuff even though my dad was saving up for a new car... and we have to go meet him in london and take him to manchester and we even have to pay for the train tickets.

Im just so angry! I'll have no privacy, no fun. Its gonna be miserable, surely you understand me?

Sorry for any typos I was just typing furiously! :@

You can't choose family! How is it going to be miserable if you haven't seen him for 7 years? He could be a lot of fun and you won't know until he comes. Your parents are pushovers if they are not asking for financial support, sorry for being blunt though. They could easily afford accomodation elsewhere by the sounds of things but are using the goodwill of your parents to get out of paying for it (that's how the rich stay rich I suppose!). Tell your mum that she should ask for money from them and if she refuses out of principle or 'they're family, we can't do that', you're just going to have to face it!

As for "My mum has too cook more food, wash more clothes and the ironing etc and I know how tired she gets after doing that for her three kids (including me), my dad and herself obv." you can do some extra chores around the house if you're concerned for her tiredness. My sister is 12 and we all cook our own tea, we do the washing and our mum does the ironing cause I burn the clothes lol. Easy. :)

[Swearwolf]

1 million Russian rubles = 19 646.4431 British pounds

edit: o i was too slow

[kuzkasate]

As for "My mum has too cook more food, wash more clothes and the ironing etc and I know how tired she gets after doing that for her three kids (including me), my dad and herself obv." you can do some extra chores around the house if you're concerned for her tiredness. My sister is 12 and we all cook our own tea, we do the washing and our mum does the ironing cause I burn the clothes lol. Easy. :)

I do help her out, I try as hard as I can but I have plenty of homeworks and stuff to do and she usually does all that in the night when I'm sleeping. Sometimes I offer help she reffuses


1 million Russian rubles = 19 646.4431 British pounds

edit: o i was too slow


Dont you think thats hell of a lot?

Oh yh, forgot to mention. In a year, he will be spending £3000 on travel. £3000x4= £12,000 for the time he will be here and it could be more if he doesnt pass his ELTS straight away. JUST ON TRAVEL! Wouldnt it be easier to buy a car for him?

[Jordan:A]

If I was your mom/dad I would say "Fine then, you dont pay anything towards him, he dont eat our food, user our elecrticity/gas, he payes for his own food and needs etc"
And ive had my sister living here for like 5 months shes took over my room so i know how you feel, I hardly see my room anymore and she treats it like a poo hole

[kuzkasate]

If I was your mom/dad I would say "Fine then, you dont pay anything towards him, he dont eat our food, user our elecrticity/gas, he payes for his own food and needs etc"
And ive had my sister living here for like 5 months shes took over my room so i know how you feel, I hardly see my room anymore and she treats it like a poo hole

Exactly. He will be using my stuff like PERSONAL. I have things I hide in my rooms :( It also means no holidays, no fun family days out because he is here. Its all ruined.

[Jordan:A]

Plus he may be bringing friends over, whats wrong with him renting a house/flat out?

[kuzkasate]

Plus he may be bringing friends over, whats wrong with him renting a house/flat out?

Because then apparently he will slack on his work and wont learn anything. We are also here to supervise him and teach him :$

[Metric1]

Teach him the concept of "rent". My mom would not put up with that for one second. Mind you we live very comfortably, my mom would expect a family member or a friend to atleast do some chores. I have a friend who stays at the house a lot and my mom doesn't care because she respects our house and she always offers my mom money (which she refuses!) 20K is enough for a small flat IMO, just keep an eye on him and if he screws up, OH WELLZ!!!!

BTW, why isn't he going to school in Russia?

[Blinger1]

for the 1 million rupees or what ever it was, couldn't he just buy a fake certificate? nobody would ever know..

Like the indian guy from work, has a fake license which looks real.. (just says he is 2-3 years older then he is) that he bought in india..

[kuzkasate]

for the 1 million rupees or what ever it was, couldn't he just buy a fake certificate? nobody would ever know..

Like the indian guy from work, has a fake license which looks real.. (just says he is 2-3 years older then he is) that he bought in india..

Tried, no-one would take. Couldn't find the right people anyway his parents want him to learn :$


Teach him the concept of "rent". My mom would not put up with that for one second. Mind you we live very comfortably, my mom would expect a family member or a friend to atleast do some chores. I have a friend who stays at the house a lot and my mom doesn't care because she respects our house and she always offers my mom money (which she refuses!) 20K is enough for a small flat IMO, just keep an eye on him and if he screws up, OH WELLZ!!!!

BTW, why isn't he going to school in Russia?

Because in Russia it's much harder and with the grades he got, he would only be able to go to a crap uni and in england its easier to get into a decent uni

[Clowgon]

I'm not being horrible or anything but if you ask me, i think your Aunt and Uncle are mean..

I mean he;s coming over to stay that means, more electricity being used, more food being consumed... all this.... = Money

Can't you have a world with your Cousin or something? They should at least send a few hundred pounds every two months or so.

[kuzkasate]

I'm not being horrible or anything but if you ask me, i think your Aunt and Uncle are mean..

I mean he;s coming over to stay that means, more electricity being used, more food being consumed... all this.... = Money

Can't you have a world with your Cousin or something? They should at least send a few hundred pounds every two months or so.

I dont think your being horrible thats what I'm tryna say but my version has more swearing in it lol

But seriously, this is just riduculous. 1 year might of been fine but 4... common

[lick]

hire the russian mafia to go after him

[ecstasy]

just tell your uncle/auntie that you want some monies

[kuzkasate]

just tell your uncle/auntie that you want some monies

Well if we do that then like back in Russia they will all be like "OMG We wanted to send Alex over and they were asking us for money" and make us look bad.


hire the russian mafia to go after him

I think my dad would say no ;)

[ecstasy]

i dont think the whole of russia will dislike you for it. and they're meant to be family, they dont seem very grateful :S

[kuzkasate]

i dont think the whole of russia will dislike you for it. and they're meant to be family, they dont seem very grateful :S

not the whole russia lmao my family and friends that are there
and yh they are ungrateful as ;) when my aunty was talking to my mum she was putting on this little voice "Oh yes, please"

Ungrateful ;)

[ecstasy]

tie him up outside, take a pic and send it with a message saying 'GIMME UR MONIES'

[Immenseman]

well at the end of the day there is nothing you can do really. your auntie and uncle want him to come to england for obvious reasons to get educated. our education is one of the most respected globally. you can't blame them for wanting the best for their son.

you shouldn't really moan before he's even there. for all you know he may volunteer to do all the ironing, be a fantastic cook and be out with mates more than you think. university is all about growing up, something he'll do. he won't be living comfortably at your place - you shouldn't be living comfortably at uni anyway. a lot of uni is about socialising and hard work so like when he's not out with new found friends he'll be working hard to hit deadlines etc.

you're doing him a favour and i'm sure your aunt and uncle would do the same for you.

[kuzkasate]

tie him up outside, take a pic and send it with a message saying 'GIMME UR MONIES'

Lols thanks... not a bad idea :P

[kuzkasate]

Sorry to double post, just had to answer this!


well at the end of the day there is nothing you can do really. your auntie and uncle want him to come to england for obvious reasons to get educated. our education is one of the most respected globally. you can't blame them for wanting the best for their son.

you shouldn't really moan before he's even there. for all you know he may volunteer to do all the ironing, be a fantastic cook and be out with mates more than you think. university is all about growing up, something he'll do. he won't be living comfortably at your place - you shouldn't be living comfortably at uni anyway. a lot of uni is about socialising and hard work so like when he's not out with new found friends he'll be working hard to hit deadlines etc.

you're doing him a favour and i'm sure your aunt and uncle would do the same for you.

your auntie and uncle want him to come to england for obvious reasons to get educated. our education is one of the most respected globally. you can't blame them for wanting the best for their son.

Yes England does have good education but not to be biased/offending in Russia its better. BUT its much MUCH harder. It's extremly hard and you start hard algebra at like 10. Its because he did rubbish in his school exams and with his grades, he wouldnt be able to go to a uni only a really really crusty one

you shouldn't really moan before he's even there. for all you know he may volunteer to do all the ironing, be a fantastic cook and be out with mates more than you think.

Hes a lazy slob he doesnt even help our nana who had 4 kidney stones removed and cant move

he'll be working hard to hit deadlines etc.

Hes a lazy slob

you're doing him a favour and i'm sure your aunt and uncle would do the same for you

I swear on my life they woudlnt

[Immenseman]

you haven't lived with him for an excessive amount of time, you don't know this. you admitted yourself you hadn't seen him for years. maybe moan when he's there and all your points are valid but at the moment, they aren't.

[kuzkasate]

you haven't lived with him for an excessive amount of time, you don't know this. you admitted yourself you hadn't seen him for years. maybe moan when he's there and all your points are valid but at the moment, they aren't.

it will be the like i said he's a MAN and im in my teens. it would be the same with you jake imagine some man came to your house that was related to you and that you hadnt seen for YEARS and lived with you for 4 years or over

[Immenseman]

i'm a friendly person. he wouldn't me that much older than me and i'd just have to get over it, life is hard.

[buttons]

Think how he's feeling, leaving his parents and going to a place he can't even speak the language of and with people he hasn't seen for years. He's probably going to feel like a total outcast, you've got your friends and your parents, he's going to be coming over with nothing and for 4 years and I'm guessing after that he'll be staying in England if he's here to get into a uni? So it's going to be even harder on him. Set some ground rules when he gets there (if he can understand), like certain chores, remember he's in your care and he can't exactly turn down anything you say because he has to live in your house, otherwise tell him he can go straight back.

If your mums struggling with looking after your house then why don't you help and tell him too aswell, this time it could be more people the better in terms of getting stuff done so it might not be that bad. Infact, he's 17, old enough for a job, when his english gets better I'm sure he can get a job and pay for rent or something, get his own house :S Why on earth are your parents paying for his uni? That's ridiculous, you should definitely get that sorted and sorry but that's not how money and family work unfortunately, I can't see why he'd need to stay for 4 years and the fact they're putting him into your care to help him should mean something to you?? If you don't like it and your parents don't like it then surely they could just say NO, especially until the money for his uni etc is sorted out.

[kuzkasate]

Think how he's feeling, leaving his parents and going to a place he can't even speak the language of and with people he hasn't seen for years. He's probably going to feel like a total outcast, you've got your friends and your parents, he's going to be coming over with nothing and for 4 years and I'm guessing after that he'll be staying in England if he's here to get into a uni? So it's going to be even harder on him. Set some ground rules when he gets there (if he can understand), like certain chores, remember he's in your care and he can't exactly turn down anything you say because he has to live in your house, otherwise tell him he can go straight back.

If your mums struggling with looking after your house then why don't you help and tell him too aswell, this time it could be more people the better in terms of getting stuff done so it might not be that bad. Infact, he's 17, old enough for a job, when his english gets better I'm sure he can get a job and pay for rent or something, get his own house :S Why on earth are your parents paying for his uni? That's ridiculous, you should definitely get that sorted and sorry but that's not how money and family work unfortunately, I can't see why he'd need to stay for 4 years and the fact they're putting him into your care to help him should mean something to you?? If you don't like it and your parents don't like it then surely they could just say NO, especially until the money for his uni etc is sorted out.

We have thought of a little chore list and I do help my mum and when I can. Like I said, a job isnt for him he would use his excuse of not knowing english when he has lived here before and does not it quite well. When he comes I'll tell him what I expect so he doesnt hogg my bedroom and stuff and if he doesnt like it well, i'd be happy to buy him a ticket back to russia oh and the money and that has already been paid for uni hes coming on 8th August

[Invent]

I think your parents are probably old enough to make intelligent decisions. If they couldn't cope having the guy they wouldn't..

[Catchy]

Family are family, you help them out they will help you out. yes it may seem a bit unfair at the moment although maybe in a few years you will do the same thing, thats what family are for, helping each other.



I beg to differ, sure that's what we all want but does it happen? In lots of cases, no.

[Dan2nd]

Surely if it was really that bad for your parents they could have just said no and not agreed to take him in?

If your Aunt and uncle are as rich as your saying what was stopping them from buying their son a place of his own to stay in?

[Technologic]

lock him out

[kuzkasate]

I think your parents are probably old enough to make intelligent decisions. If they couldn't cope having the guy they wouldn't..

My parents probably will cope, they cant exactly say no anyway. They're not like that


I beg to differ, sure that's what we all want but does it happen? In lots of cases, no.

Very true indeed :(


Surely if it was really that bad for your parents they could have just said no and not agreed to take him in?

If your Aunt and uncle are as rich as your saying what was stopping them from buying their son a place of his own to stay in?

I already mentioned this. If he lives on his own, he will slack and not do any uni work and probably skip lectures. We are also here to surpervise his learning


lock him out

I'll try :P

[Caution]

I think they're being really selfish from what you've said, but surely your parents could ask for some money from them seeing as they've got plenty? They are doing him a favour. It seems like they're just using you considering they haven't been over in years, I would have thought you would have just said no.

[kuzkasate]

I think they're being really selfish from what you've said, but surely your parents could ask for some money from them seeing as they've got plenty? They are doing him a favour. It seems like they're just using you considering they haven't been over in years, I would have thought you would have just said no.

Yh my parents are abit soft hearted. I'll persuade them to ask for money! It may seem bit sick but to me its right.

[5,5]

Well having read through this thread it seems to me like any optimistic thinking anyone has offered you have replied with making him out to be the worst person in the world. You have to deal with him for 4 years. Get used to it and it wont be that big of a deal.

[kuzkasate]

Well having read through this thread it seems to me like any optimistic thinking anyone has offered you have replied with making him out to be the worst person in the world. You have to deal with him for 4 years. Get used to it and it wont be that big of a deal.

yes but its not that easy

[5,5]

yes but its not that easy
Yes it is. He is going to move in with you. Get used to it. Thats all you can do. End of thread.

[lick]

when he gets here im gunna show him this thread and he will see how nasty you are to him

[Immenseman]

wonder if he'll use hxf. i'm being srs, he might.

[kuzkasate]

wonder if he'll use hxf. i'm being srs, he might.

I'll try get him on it, suppose it would be good to improve his english.

The thing is, we are supposed to pick him up on the 8th August. So 8th he should be in england... yet he aint got his visa yet :eusa_clap

Shouldnt of they done that well before hand?


when he gets here im gunna show him this thread and he will see how nasty you are to him

I'm not nasty too him! It's just like... its quite a lot to deal with tbh

[William93]

Teach him the wrong things

Didn't read the whole thread, but I couldn't help but notice this stupid comment. The idea is that he passes his exams, as the OP is helping out in doing that and if he fails (which he would do if he was taught the wrong thing) then the OP has to do it again. You're an idiot.

[Nxrissa]

that isnt fair on you or your parnets.
why should they put thereselfs out!
i cant belive there not giving money.
he should pay for himself
like 10 pounds a week or something alteast some contribution.

[kuzkasate]

Hes got his VISA :O

Coming over on the 8th August, hes going from Russia > Turkey > Manchester

where I meet him at the airport :8