Hmmm, anyone feel like this?

[Glen Coco]

Ok, so before anyone's like oooh you're only looking for attention and all that crap, just leave.


since around year 5 I've been pretty much obsessed with my weight and how I look, it was bad when I was in year 5 to year 7 then past year 7 it got abit better but now, going from year 9 into year 10 it's got a lot worse. I check my weight about 5 times a day, when I get up, before I'm about to go out, when I get back, afetr I eat then before I go to bed.
The only thing I really eat now is dinner because I'm scared of putting on weight.
The obsessive bit came about 2 weeks ago when my dad decided to buy some scales (my mum didn't want scales in the house becasue she knew I'd get obsessed with them). about two weeks ago i weighed about 8.6 (i'm 5'2 so it's not overly fat but not overly skinny). it doesn't seem too good / bad but i'm now 8.1. (My weight that i wanna be is around 7 stone).

Aswell as this, I just feel down all of the time.
I feel as though my friends hate me and the people I talk to just want to get away from me.
it's not by their actions it's just that I've talekd myself so much into the thought that the world wants me dead all the time it pops up.

I used to scratch the inside of my arm until it bled but people began to notice and ask questions so I started doing it on the top of my arm insted.
i don't even know why I do it, it's not with the intention that someone will see it, just a way to get the way I'm feeling out without involving anyone else.
everyone else has wayyy bigger problems then me and I just feel I don't deserve to complain.

So I just wanted to know, has anyone felt like this?
Is it just teenage hormones and will it get better over time?

My feelings have been like this for about a year now.

Thanks.

xox

[iDenning]

I guess its part of teenage hormones, i get this at time as i am quite slim. Just be glad of who you are, after all their is people out their who would love to live a lifestyle like yourself and i, so i guess you should just get along with it. Try praising yourself alot :) Boost your confidence up :)

Im crap with advice, so sorry.

[Glen Coco]

I guess its part of teenage hormones, i get this at time as i am quite slim. Just be glad of who you are, after all their is people out their who would love to live a lifestyle like yourself and i, so i guess you should just get along with it. Try praising yourself alot :) Boost your confidence up :)

Im crap with advice, so sorry.
aww you're not xD
it means alot that you replied to it.
it's just i honestly really can't see anything to praise myself on !
I look at my friends and they're all so nice and they're really pretty and slim then I look at me and it's like, why would they wanna hang around with me?

xox

[chantellehugs]

I used to look at my friends and wonder why we hung out, or how they even liked me, and soon I started to act like them, being all goody goody and stuff, this was when I started year 7, in year 6 I felt like I was myself. But recently, it kinda just hit me to stop being like them, because if they are friends, they would like you for who you are. So now I am more myself, and I feel better about it. Instead of thinking "How could they want to hang about with me?" think, "Why shouldn't they be hanging about with me?"

As for weight, I do tend to check my weight on my sister's scales whenever I go round to her place, and sometimes I worry about my weight, I'm 7 stone btw, but I find it helps if you go out lots, when I go out with my friends, we always end up running away from someone, or walking alot, and I usually don't have breakfast on holidays or weekends, so my usual meal while I'm out would be some chips or crisps, but I just seem to burn it all off when I'm running, but you shouldn't stop eating your normal meals.

I'm not too good at advice either, but I shared a few of my opinions, so I hoped I helped a lil bit! :)

[Glen Coco]

Yeh I think like you said but I just can;t see anyreason why they would like to hang around with me ! I could make a list about why they wouldn't !

xox

[cocaine]

yeah im the same. except for the self harming thing. im not really in a position to give advice, but i'd say thats its probably the pressure put on teenagers, especially girls, to fit into social groups. even if you're not concious of it, teenagers are always trying to find ways to fit in. it's probably just that to be honest.

[Black_Apalachi]

Tbf, just from this thread you seem like a nice person (you said you're not an attention seeker, others have worse problems etc etc), so I don't see why you wouldn't expect people to like you :).

As for weight; I'm probably a tiny bit taller than you and I'm not sure of my weight either but I'd say it's only a little bit more than you as well. Basically - I'm mega skinny but I hate it! I always wish I could put on a bit of meat. I have no stamina when I'm doing anything, I'm obviously not strong and I get hurt hurt well easier than other people cos there's nothing to protect you :P. I hardly eat either though.. not intentionally - it's just a combination of laziness (cba cooking something) or I'm just generally not hungry. I love food though :(.

Seriously though, there's no point punishing yourself for nothing. If anything, should people start thinking you are attention-seeking they might dislike you, and as you're actually not attention-seeking, eating as healthily as possible won't draw any negative attention and your friends will like you anyway!

Maybe if there's one or two very best friends, it might be a good idea to let them know how you're feeling. The two outcomes from that are:
A) they dislike you - but if that's the case, it is better to have found that out as early as possible so you can concentrate on finding real friends.
B) they are in fact real friends who do like you for who you are and will understand, or at least accept how you feel.

I'm almost certain you'll experience outcome B. Hope I helped (at least a bit) ;).

[Glen Coco]

Tbf, just from this thread you seem like a nice person (you said you're not an attention seeker, others have worse problems etc etc), so I don't see why you wouldn't expect people to like you :).

As for weight; I'm probably a tiny bit taller than you and I'm not sure of my weight either but I'd say it's only a little bit more than you as well. Basically - I'm mega skinny but I hate it! I always wish I could put on a bit of meat. I have no stamina when I'm doing anything, I'm obviously not strong and I get hurt hurt well easier than other people cos there's nothing to protect you :P. I hardly eat either though.. not intentionally - it's just a combination of laziness (cba cooking something) or I'm just generally not hungry. I love food though :(.

Seriously though, there's no point punishing yourself for nothing. If anything, should people start thinking you are attention-seeking they might dislike you, and as you're actually not attention-seeking, eating as healthily as possible won't draw any negative attention and your friends will like you anyway!

Maybe if there's one or two very best friends, it might be a good idea to let them know how you're feeling. The two outcomes from that are:
A) they dislike you - but if that's the case, it is better to have found that out as early as possible so you can concentrate on finding real friends.
B) they are in fact real friends who do like you for who you are and will understand, or at least accept how you feel.

I'm almost certain you'll experience outcome B. Hope I helped (at least a bit) ;).


Thanks :)
But I honestly don't know how i can just tell them I feel like this and I'm too scared incase A does happen.
I'm not confident and it's taken me a while to atleast get these friends !

xox

[e5]

How old are you again sorry?

5'2 and weight a little over 8 stone is far far far from being fat ?

[Glen Coco]

14.

im not fat fat just not skinny.

xox

[Black_Apalachi]

Honestly I'm just touching 5 and a half foot and I've just weighed myself as just under 7 (didn't realise I was that skinny :s), I should be at least 9. Seriously, you're no way near overweight. You're underweight if anything.

[9y]

You're still young (Please do read my PM) and still have a lot of time ahead. I know what you mean about the weight thing. It can be very obsessive. I'm not too sure about the friends thing. I do feel like that myself at times, I still cant put my finger on why it happens, I guess it may just be the kind of person I am.

You are FAR from fat. Never let someone put you down, There's a saying iv learned over the past 6 months with a girl.

Unwanted opinions are useless.

If someone doesn't mean anything to you, if they don't know you, If they don't know you like your friends do, Real friends, Then ignore the opinion, Why should you care what some random lowlife wants to say.

I get called names, told I'm sad. But I'm enjoying myself, If i want to sit in the house and play Habbo instead of a night out, Damn I will! I will do what I want because its my life, Not theirs.

[Jordan:A]

Yes sortof.
In year 5 I was really skinny, my uncle used to call me Mr. Muscle and then because I went onto school dinners, they were really fatty and didnt fill me up so I got chubby but as ive been growing its been going (:
Its just puppy fat

[FlyingJesus]

I check my weight quite a lot because it's an important part of my image, I'm 5'7" and weigh about 8st10 give or take a couple of pounds depending on how long ago I've eaten.

Your attempt at weight loss might actually be part of the reason that you feel down a lot - proper nutrition is absolutely essential to having a good mental outlook because your brain and body have to function together and can't do that if you're not providing them with the right vitamins and minerals. Supplements can help but they ARE supposed to just be supplements and not replacements - you still need to eat as well. Keeping active helps too because exercise releases endorphins into your brain which make you feel good.

At your age you're likely to be anxious about yourself and other people and how you all fit together etc., but that's quite normal and self harm will only make things worse (not to mention harder in social situations because you'll be worrying about if they see). It should pass naturally in time but you can definitely help yourself along by eating right and generally keeping a more healthy lifestyle

[9y]

One thing i forgot to add. Do realise that starving yourself isnt a good idea. I starved my body for 3 weeks, i ate about once every two days, a nutrigrain bar or something. I lost about 4 stone in 3 weeks. Now, my apetite is a mess, I rarely can eat now before feeling sick, the look of food makes me sick.

[cocaine]

One thing i forgot to add. Do realise that starving yourself isnt a good idea. I starved my body for 3 weeks, i ate about once every two days, a nutrigrain bar or something. I lost about 4 stone in 3 weeks. Now, my apetite is a mess, I rarely can eat now before feeling sick, the look of food makes me sick.

wow i need to try that

[FlyingJesus]

Anor-SEXIER

[Soy]

When I was fat i didn't care about my figure and just focused on having a good time.

Since I cut to about 14% bf and just bulked out I act like an absoloute pugnacious ****

miss being fat to be honest

[Glen Coco]

I check my weight quite a lot because it's an important part of my image, I'm 5'7" and weigh about 8st10 give or take a couple of pounds depending on how long ago I've eaten.

Your attempt at weight loss might actually be part of the reason that you feel down a lot - proper nutrition is absolutely essential to having a good mental outlook because your brain and body have to function together and can't do that if you're not providing them with the right vitamins and minerals. Supplements can help but they ARE supposed to just be supplements and not replacements - you still need to eat as well. Keeping active helps too because exercise releases endorphins into your brain which make you feel good.

At your age you're likely to be anxious about yourself and other people and how you all fit together etc., but that's quite normal and self harm will only make things worse (not to mention harder in social situations because you'll be worrying about if they see). It should pass naturally in time but you can definitely help yourself along by eating right and generally keeping a more healthy lifestyle


yeh i know what you mean but it's like, if i can go for 7 hours without eating that's a MASSIVE thing for me.
it makes me feel so headstrong and i've sort of got passed where i get hungry at all now. i know it's bad for me and i know it's messing with my head, but it's just really hard to just start eating normally again.
i haven't felt hungry for about a week now, like atall !

i honestly do feel that somethings happening to my head though.
i was walking with me friends today (there were five of us) and i felt SO out of place. like no-one had said anything bad to me or anything and i was happy but i just suddenly began to feel like they didnt want me there and i didnt deserve to be there.
i just sort of wanted to be alone and just to sit in a random field.

it's so weird though. like one second ill be happy then a second later ill feel like i want to just sit in the dark alone or something.

i dont get it !!!


xox

p.s thanks for all you're comments, i know it's probably hormones and all that, i just wanted to see how others coped.

[Teabags]

Ok, so before anyone's like oooh you're only looking for attention and all that crap, just leave.


since around year 5 I've been pretty much obsessed with my weight and how I look, it was bad when I was in year 5 to year 7 then past year 7 it got abit better but now, going from year 9 into year 10 it's got a lot worse. I check my weight about 5 times a day, when I get up, before I'm about to go out, when I get back, afetr I eat then before I go to bed.
The only thing I really eat now is dinner because I'm scared of putting on weight.
The obsessive bit came about 2 weeks ago when my dad decided to buy some scales (my mum didn't want scales in the house becasue she knew I'd get obsessed with them). about two weeks ago i weighed about 8.6 (i'm 5'2 so it's not overly fat but not overly skinny). it doesn't seem too good / bad but i'm now 8.1. (My weight that i wanna be is around 7 stone).

Aswell as this, I just feel down all of the time.
I feel as though my friends hate me and the people I talk to just want to get away from me.
it's not by their actions it's just that I've talekd myself so much into the thought that the world wants me dead all the time it pops up.

I used to scratch the inside of my arm until it bled but people began to notice and ask questions so I started doing it on the top of my arm insted.
i don't even know why I do it, it's not with the intention that someone will see it, just a way to get the way I'm feeling out without involving anyone else.
everyone else has wayyy bigger problems then me and I just feel I don't deserve to complain.

So I just wanted to know, has anyone felt like this?
Is it just teenage hormones and will it get better over time?

My feelings have been like this for about a year now.

Thanks.

xox

You seem fine to me. You shouldn't be weight obsessed really. You could be comparing yourself to others. I'm only 8st but that's by pure devine miracle, I eat more than 16st mates.

You aren't fat, if you feel the need to harm yourself that's not too far, but just a habit? It's caused by stress gained from your weight obsessiveness. You simply just need something to figet with.

Also, if you eat alot before bed, that is the worst time to start eating; reason being you burn off far less calories sleeping and if quickly becomes stored as fat. So if you are going to eat do it in the morning and if you don't snack the night before you naturally will be hungry?

The scales thing. You'll be fine, it can take a while to store fat before a growth spurt. I recently had one. I've grown 1/2 ft in 5 weeks. So just because your metabolic reaction and matabalism may be different, it won't change the fact that you could be due for a growth spurt.

I know this is grouping, but alot of girls are fully obsessed with weight, even when they're not fat. They eat salad only and go to the gym etc, why is beyond me.

You can feel down all the time, I did for two years. You need like a hobby or self-motivation. Acheiving things is the best way to boost confidence. You can do most things you don't realise and sometimes when you are down, you have to think about a reason why you are. So you can move on from it rather than them all building up. You're friends shouldn't be bothered and if they are, are they really friends?

Also, saying you have no right to complain is ridiculous. You have every right to? Why wouldn't you.

If that sounds real cheesy, tell me.

[Teabags]

When I was fat i didn't care about my figure and just focused on having a good time.

Since I cut to about 14% bf and just bulked out I act like an absoloute pugnacious ****

miss being fat to be honest

I used to be the fattest kid in school. Wasn't bothered either. Now I'm skinny :l wanna go fat.

[zaphod9642]

im about the same age as you one question are you a girl?

cos im not bothered about my weight and im quite heavy lmao but i feel like this like in teh last term i managed to amke friends with the popular people (not the gay populars the poeple that everyone actualyl likes) and i am not sure why they like me. i think it is horemones xD

[Glen Coco]

im about the same age as you one question are you a girl?

cos im not bothered about my weight and im quite heavy lmao but i feel like this like in teh last term i managed to amke friends with the popular people (not the gay populars the poeple that everyone actualyl likes) and i am not sure why they like me. i think it is horemones xD


Yeh I am.
+ I can't make friends with popular hahahaha.
I've made a few new friends over the last few weeks but I just find it hard to talk to people XD.

xox

[1xBabyCakesx1]

Your probably just going through a faze. With the whole weight thing I think it would be best if you got rid of the scales because thats what messes alot of people up. And with your weight you have nothing to worry about if you want to lose weight. Don't skip meals just half them or make them healthier.

Maybe speak to someone about it. It really helps.

[kuzkasate]

You'll get over it. Thats just how life is, some people are overweight some are average yet some are under weight.

And if anyone bullies you or w.e, just shows how immature people can be.

[Glen Coco]

Hmm, lately I've been on such a high ! It's wierd to think I felt like that such a short while ago.
I'm now down to 8.0 stone and I'm feeling closer to my freinds than ever.
I talked to my friend Tori about it which actually did kind of help and I got support off her.
+ I'm now going out with a really really really nice guy.
+ I've also helped Tori get with a guy she liked, it's all going well at the moment :D.

xox

[Gullable]

i'm a 13 year old girl + i feel the same although not with the weight issue, i dont think im ugly its just i dont like what i look like in the mirror, well not reallyy its really weird, i think about the way i look 24/7 mostly + have to look in the mirror quite alot although i dont really like mirrors at other places.
i know this doesnt help but i wanted to get my feelings out aswell & i hope its my hormones:(

[Glen Coco]

now everythings gone back to normal.
i thought it'd like gone. but one little thing happened to today and i pretty much feet like the crap on the bottom of an obese mans foot.
I feel so crap.
I've put on weight, i went from like 8 to 8.6.
now my best friend is pissed off and hates me.
and everythings going so wrong.
i really do want to curl up in a ball and die.

[Toughened]

Hmm, lately I've been on such a high ! It's wierd to think I felt like that such a short while ago.
I'm now down to 8.0 stone and I'm feeling closer to my freinds than ever.
I talked to my friend Tori about it which actually did kind of help and I got support off her.
+ I'm now going out with a really really really nice guy.
+ I've also helped Tori get with a guy she liked, it's all going well at the moment :D.

xox


now everythings gone back to normal.
i thought it'd like gone. but one little thing happened to today and i pretty much feet like the crap on the bottom of an obese mans foot.
I feel so crap.
I've put on weight, i went from like 8 to 8.6.
now my best friend is pissed off and hates me.
and everythings going so wrong.
i really do want to curl up in a ball and die.

Just from these two comments alone show you're having mood swings by the weeks. One minute you're really happy as everything is going well, then the slightest thing goes wrong and you're feeling depressed and down again. It's natural.

Just don't beat yourself up over silly little things. Like I used to worry way to much but I've learnt to just let life pan out. It always works out in the end. It may not be the best ending but just learn to live with it and settle for what you have.

The friends problem you just need to accept you have them and treasure them. I had the exact same problem and I asked them why are you inviting me I'll be like a spare part and they flipped on me and it made me realise how stupid I was being and now we get on better than ever. Don't be scared to mix with friends of friends and such too. It can be a big confidence booster. If sometimes you feel like you don't have friends for support, no matter what you will always have your family. Friends arn't a major issue. There's always room for new ones and if you find it difficult to socialise what's wrong with being on your own from time to time? I'm happy as long as I have my family but I do understand friends are a nice thing to have.

The weight issue I think every girl has. Just accept yourself for who you are. Yeahh sure there are girls that may be skinnier than you out there, but I'm sure there are wayyy more bigger ones. Not that there's anything wrong with them either. I hate skinny skinny girls when you can see bones here and there. There is nothing wrong with a bit of weight and curves on a girl. Some lads prefer that. Oh and the meals. Don't skip them out because I've heard when you finally do eat your body stores more fat 'cause you're not eating enough for it to survive on. Just eat good proportians three times a day.

Hope I helped :).

[Pixet]

Sometimes it feels like there are few things harder than liking yourself. Some people never do. But honestly, I know exactly how you feel. I've had a lot of crap in my life, recovering from ED's etc. but for what it's worth, everything will get better. I can promise you that.

Screw your weight. Do you want to look like a boy with no boobs and no figure? It's horrible. Just because you're legs and belly jiggle a little, that doesn't mean your fat. There will always be girls thinner than you and it's something you learn to accept. Most people these days are actually just 'average'. Nothing special. But those people learn to love themselves and are proud of who they really are regardless of how big the space is in-between their thighs. Don't skip meals, it sucks big time and you gain weight in the long run. Would you rather be happy and normal sized than really unhappy and deadly underweight? If you want to lose weight, eat healthy stuff and go to the gym. Stop starving, it only has two outcomes. Fat or death.

I used to worry about every single little thing. Like if a friend gives me a funny look, I'm terrified I'll lose her forever. Stupid things. It really gets you down. When you stop caring though, everything is amazing (: . It feels like nothing can hold you back and you're the greatest person alive! (Well, not too literally :P) Just like Toughened said, your family will always be there. Even if it's only your mum you can talk to. There will always be someone in your life.

I could go on for ages but for what it's worth. Love who you are.

:love7:

[Xoim]

Ok, so before anyone's like oooh you're only looking for attention and all that crap, just leave.


since around year 5 I've been pretty much obsessed with my weight and how I look, it was bad when I was in year 5 to year 7 then past year 7 it got abit better but now, going from year 9 into year 10 it's got a lot worse. I check my weight about 5 times a day, when I get up, before I'm about to go out, when I get back, afetr I eat then before I go to bed.
The only thing I really eat now is dinner because I'm scared of putting on weight.
The obsessive bit came about 2 weeks ago when my dad decided to buy some scales (my mum didn't want scales in the house becasue she knew I'd get obsessed with them). about two weeks ago i weighed about 8.6 (i'm 5'2 so it's not overly fat but not overly skinny). it doesn't seem too good / bad but i'm now 8.1. (My weight that i wanna be is around 7 stone).

Aswell as this, I just feel down all of the time.
I feel as though my friends hate me and the people I talk to just want to get away from me.
it's not by their actions it's just that I've talekd myself so much into the thought that the world wants me dead all the time it pops up.

I used to scratch the inside of my arm until it bled but people began to notice and ask questions so I started doing it on the top of my arm insted.
i don't even know why I do it, it's not with the intention that someone will see it, just a way to get the way I'm feeling out without involving anyone else.
everyone else has wayyy bigger problems then me and I just feel I don't deserve to complain.

So I just wanted to know, has anyone felt like this?
Is it just teenage hormones and will it get better over time?

My feelings have been like this for about a year now.

Thanks.

xox

The bit in bold i what I experienced I still have those days.
I'm currently 7.5-8St I'm obsessed I wouldn't say im fat. I know im not, but I just want to be ... normal or accepted,
So much so That 2 years ago I was borderline Anorexic.
Basically I was so close to not eating full-stop I needed to see a doctor.
But umm yeah this is just my experience...

And about the self harm, I guess I could say it's normal, I know lots off people heck I tried it a few times,

And umm Yeah!
Hope this helped
Sorry if it didn't
x

[Zak]

I never really realised teenage hormones.. but then again i had a girlfriend to take away most of my hormonal behaviour i guess..... lol

It's natural to care about your appearance and most people are unhappy with their appearance. If you feel that bad about your weight take up a sport or something, the more weight you lose you might feel better about yourself. I weight about 10 stone 11 pounds maybe for 6.2 .. and im skinny as, so im sure you wont be that bad :)

just stay positive about it, and if your worried about the girl sides of things. They should love you for who you are, not what you look like :)

hope it helped x

[Glen Coco]

Ok, so over the last week it's actually been pretty bad.
I had my injection which didn't help as I wqas getting proper proper stressed.
But now the guy I'm going out with doesn't seem to care at all about how I feel.
I don't expect him to be all like OMG OMG -CARECARECARE-
But i've tried talking to him and he's just like
aww.
or
ok.

and it just makes me feel horrible.
earlier this week he invited me to go cinema today and then yesterday texted me saying
'can't go tomorrow sorry band practice'
I forgot and asked my friend (who's also in the band) if she wanted to go town today and she said she couldn't becasue she was going to her girlfriends.
Then i remebered about the band practice, asked her and she said that it was enevr certain.
so the guy im going out with is now going up town with my friends while I'm stuck being ill.
I texted him asking if he was going with them and he said yeh and that he heard that I was ill.

he didn't even text to see if I was ok today. :|

my other freind asked him how we were and he replied with:

"its ok but shes being moody"

:|
moody!?
becasue I feel like crap and you dont give a damn... yeh.
I've tried talking to my freinds about it but most of them say I'm being stupid and not to do anything I'll regret.
Then another friend says to talk to him.
but i don't know what to say.

URGH.

[ItsDave]

I don't think it helps you to know if anyone else feels like this to be frank. The meer fact that you're trying to see if anyone else is like you shows major signs of insecurity.

I wouldn't listen to comments posted as such that read: "Yeah I have this too" as that will just fill your subconsious into thinking what you're doing is correct, and not harmful, when in matter of fact, this isn't helping you, but turning you into a very confused and depressed lady, because you know deep down that this isn't right, but by seeking information from others, you're very willing to accept this and therefore damaging you.

I hope you read this information and take it on board and don't just read it and go, "pah!". This is very important and a very unhealthy thing for you to do and you need to realise this.

-
Dave

[RandomManJay]

It does seem like you're a little stressed out and with the insecurity with your weight and self harming, maybe you should try talking to someone, not your friends for the reason you said, they just think you're being silly etc. so try phoning Connexions or The Samaritans, they can help out in a lot of ways and could give you advice about what to do (well Connexions can anyways) and where to seek additional help.

I've got the number for The Samaritans here so you can use it if you like. Just to say, it isn't just a suicide hotline, its for anything thats cause people grief or pain (physical and psychology) so anyone can phone up really about their worries and problems. This is the number: 08457 90 90 90.

If life does feel like its getting worse for you, you should seek help as soon as you can, you don't know how worse it will get until its too late.

[Gullable]

i know how you feel hun, seems like your friends dont, i can look in the mirror now + ive stopped thinking about the way i look 24/7 but i still cant take pictures of myself not just yet anyway, maybe you should call a helpline or talk to your parents about it but my mom dont really understand that much either, people have different hormones, i know i aint helped but i needed to get this out too :P
need someone to talk to then pm me:)

[Glen Coco]

I don't think it helps you to know if anyone else feels like this to be frank. The meer fact that you're trying to see if anyone else is like you shows major signs of insecurity.

I wouldn't listen to comments posted as such that read: "Yeah I have this too" as that will just fill your subconsious into thinking what you're doing is correct, and not harmful, when in matter of fact, this isn't helping you, but turning you into a very confused and depressed lady, because you know deep down that this isn't right, but by seeking information from others, you're very willing to accept this and therefore damaging you.

I hope you read this information and take it on board and don't just read it and go, "pah!". This is very important and a very unhealthy thing for you to do and you need to realise this.

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Dave


It does seem like you're a little stressed out and with the insecurity with your weight and self harming, maybe you should try talking to someone, not your friends for the reason you said, they just think you're being silly etc. so try phoning Connexions or The Samaritans, they can help out in a lot of ways and could give you advice about what to do (well Connexions can anyways) and where to seek additional help.

I've got the number for The Samaritans here so you can use it if you like. Just to say, it isn't just a suicide hotline, its for anything thats cause people grief or pain (physical and psychology) so anyone can phone up really about their worries and problems. This is the number: 08457 90 90 90.

If life does feel like its getting worse for you, you should seek help as soon as you can, you don't know how worse it will get until its too late.


To both of the above.
I'm not sure how I actually feel. I don't know if I feel happy or not but I don't feel 'depressed'.
I know many more people in much worse positions than me and if I phoned a helpline it'd be wasteing peoples time. People can tell me 'oh look you have a great life stop being miserable' but I don't know, I just can't help it.
I had a crazy to start scratching my arm yesterday but stopped myself so that'd gotta be good right ?
But the littlest things get to me so much. Like I have a friend who if I make friends with someone, she comes along, and they instantly like her and ditch me and someone told me that they prefer her to me yesterday and it just made me feel really really bad and it proper got into my head and led on to other things.
I need to stop being pathetic but I can't help it.

[ItsDave]

I think my post came a bit late, I didn't realise all of the updates.

It certainly sounds like you have a lot going on and are a very busy person, I think you just need to slow things down. You may not want to but you're obviously very unstable/fragile and so I think the worst thing would be to have a boyfriend at the moment. It doesn't help you from reading your posts and I think it's best you be on your own or you find the perfect guy who actually does like, and the comment about your friends preffering the other girl? Well, no advice there really, that is a really horrible thing to do and I feel really sorry for you, thats kinda... horrible.

When I feel bad and stuff or things stick in my head, like that horrible comment, I know how it feels. Sometimes someones one laugh AT you or that one harsh comment can cut deep and stick in your mind and make you feel terrible. What helps me is eventually I go down to a boiling point. It happens every few months and one night, I'll just start crying, and when crying I write down everything thats going on in my mind, like, everything thats flowing through my head, and that way, you're, well I'm, getting it all out into the open without anyone judging me on it.

I don't know If I could reccommend that for you, I'm just saying thats how I deal with things. Its not pathetic either. Those comments are really harsh and your boyfriend doesn't seem to be all the good'a boyfriend he could be.

I don't know if this has helped or anything just thought I'd post this in relation to your most recent post.

[RandomManJay]

To both of the above.
I'm not sure how I actually feel. I don't know if I feel happy or not but I don't feel 'depressed'.
I know many more people in much worse positions than me and if I phoned a helpline it'd be wasteing peoples time. People can tell me 'oh look you have a great life stop being miserable' but I don't know, I just can't help it.
I had a crazy to start scratching my arm yesterday but stopped myself so that'd gotta be good right ?
But the littlest things get to me so much. Like I have a friend who if I make friends with someone, she comes along, and they instantly like her and ditch me and someone told me that they prefer her to me yesterday and it just made me feel really really bad and it proper got into my head and led on to other things.
I need to stop being pathetic but I can't help it.

Never think that your problems are any less important than others, you may think you're wasting someone elses time, but then again they're offering that time for you to use, and yes there may be other people with much more serious problems than you, but that doesn't change the fact that your own problems are important to you. A lot of people think this way that others just wont care about them cause there are more serious people out there, but the thing is your problems are serious to you, and that's all these people care about. So just ignore what ever you think about others being worse off than you and if you need help, get it, before its too late and you start wishing you had when you had the chance.

Also, from what you've actually said in this post, it seems like you're leading into depression and at this point and from what you've said, it seems to be getting worse, if you have resisted self harming thats good, but who knows if you'll be able to stop the next time. If you can't find a way out of this period, it will get worse and worse until you wont do be able anything anymore because of the grief and sadness you'll carry around with you. So go to your GP or phone the NHS or whatever and see what you can do, the sooner you find help, the sooner things will get better.

[syko2006]

Just remember, there's always someone worse off than you are. :)

I'm bad at giving advice, but I always like to think I'm putting in some effort to make someone feel better. :)

[Hushie]

No i have a hot figure

[syko2006]

No i have a hot figure


Nice input, dude.

[Wig44.]

Don't try to lose weight, you aren't over weight and wha tyou are doing is going to damage your health, 1 meal a day is pretty stupid. I'm about 5"11/6" foot, and I weigh 11 stone, possibly more. I'm not fat at all either - infact I work out. I'm also only going on 16 next year so seriously I wouldn't worry about it.

[Glen Coco]

I think my post came a bit late, I didn't realise all of the updates.

It certainly sounds like you have a lot going on and are a very busy person, I think you just need to slow things down. You may not want to but you're obviously very unstable/fragile and so I think the worst thing would be to have a boyfriend at the moment. It doesn't help you from reading your posts and I think it's best you be on your own or you find the perfect guy who actually does like, and the comment about your friends preffering the other girl? Well, no advice there really, that is a really horrible thing to do and I feel really sorry for you, thats kinda... horrible.

When I feel bad and stuff or things stick in my head, like that horrible comment, I know how it feels. Sometimes someones one laugh AT you or that one harsh comment can cut deep and stick in your mind and make you feel terrible. What helps me is eventually I go down to a boiling point. It happens every few months and one night, I'll just start crying, and when crying I write down everything thats going on in my mind, like, everything thats flowing through my head, and that way, you're, well I'm, getting it all out into the open without anyone judging me on it.

I don't know If I could reccommend that for you, I'm just saying thats how I deal with things. Its not pathetic either. Those comments are really harsh and your boyfriend doesn't seem to be all the good'a boyfriend he could be.

I don't know if this has helped or anything just thought I'd post this in relation to your most recent post.


Oops , long time to reply, sorry. Haven't looked at this thread in a while.
But yeah, the middle paragraph prety much sums up how i feel.
Like ranodm nights I'll just randomly cry for no reason.
I broke up with my boyfriend last week because I was stressed out with everything.
School's not helping, I have so much work to do !
xox

[ItsDave]

Oops , long time to reply, sorry. Haven't looked at this thread in a while.
But yeah, the middle paragraph prety much sums up how i feel.
Like ranodm nights I'll just randomly cry for no reason.
I broke up with my boyfriend last week because I was stressed out with everything.
School's not helping, I have so much work to do !
xox

School's a common problem in depression cases like this, but the only thing you can do is maintain and stick at it and see it through or if you feel as if you cant go in explain to your Mum or go see the school counsellor, I did that for a few months. Its nice because its confidential

[RandomManJay]

School's a common problem in depression cases like this, but the only thing you can do is maintain and stick at it and see it through or if you feel as if you cant go in explain to your Mum or go see the school counsellor, I did that for a few months. Its nice because its confidential

Was it completely confidential? The old counsellor in my school didn't have that (for whatever reason :@), she told the headmaster about my friends feelings about self harm and he told her parents and advised her to seek professional help. They put her on medication which basically gave her depression cause she was actually told that she was feeling low despite that was how she always acted (like me, morbid as **** ;)) and not to concern herself with self harm despite the fact that she said she felt the desire to do it but never had and never intended to. So the counsellor took it completely out of context and in the end got fired :D. God my friend was pissed, she could have killed her!

[Glen Coco]

School's a common problem in depression cases like this, but the only thing you can do is maintain and stick at it and see it through or if you feel as if you cant go in explain to your Mum or go see the school counsellor, I did that for a few months. Its nice because its confidential
Hmm I've tried talking to my mum about it. Didn't really help at all.
But apparently I'm being proper ****** and lashing out at people without realising it.