i need help :)

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okay so i'm really bad at leading people on, i don't really intend to but i just like flirting with anyone lol... anyway yeh there's a few people i need help with..


first guy is a mega player. he harassed me for my number ever since i started college (little over a month ago), i thought he was decent then + i just wanted him to work for it without me looking too easy :rolleyes: so i gave him it last thursday n a friend in my class asked who he was. i told her his nickname & another girl in the class said "that's my boyfriend" i thought it was a different guy because this one seemed pretty single with the stuff he was texting me but nah i was wrong, asked him his last name + told her and it was him. they finished but he still continued texting me, he says "he's into me" but not just for sex which is probably ********. i did say i wasn't interested if that's all he wanted but he won't give up, it's not really bothering me too much because i know he can't do anything & he's alright as a friend but i have no idea how to tell him that because he really doesn't take the hint.


another guy on our bus had a bet with his friend that he couldn't "pull" a girl before christmas (he's a bit of a geek, nearly 18 + he's never had a gf or touched alcohol), i just played along with his friends chatting him up all like "well my birthdays before christmas ;)". only reason i really sat with him on the bus was because i liked one of his friends so i could easily talk to him there and had something to make conversation with then realised he wasn't all that he cracked up to be but that's a diff story.... so yee i'm starting to feel awkward with this whole thing though now, at first i couldn't get him to talk to me but now i can't get him away ... i did say "i hope you're not taking this serious" but i think it's a bit too late for that :/ again i have no idea how to tell him it's just a joke without looking like a **** but ye i probably already do....


and theeeeeen there's a guy i actually like... he's not the type i go for looks wise but he's funny and he's not all sex obsessed like the rest and actually (hopefully) likes me for me, however sad that sounds. i know he likes me and i'm not really sure how i feel so i don't say anything, thing is all we ever usually talk about is the guys i like so he probably reckons i'm not into him, i don't want to tell him i am because we're too good of friends and i'm not really good with relationships, all mine end up with arguing and not talking again so i really don't want to ruin it for us because we get on well without actually going out :/ i'm so stuck on that one, do i tell him or not? i'm not even sure of my true feelings myself so it could turn out bad!


SOZ for essay but i've had a bad week coz of this xo

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I know a lot of girls like to be liked for who they are and not what they look like and tbh the last one, if it sounds like he does like you for you, you should just tell him straight up you think you like him. It's not difficult to say & if he does say he doesn't like you back, which he probably wont from what you said, there's not much to lose, because at least you had the guts to say it anyway. Being good friends and then going out can actually work out well (speaking from experience), because you know each other well and then you can start going out and have a proper relationship instead of one based around sex :}. If you think about what things you like in a guy, compare it to him and stuff like that, even minor things then you'll know if you like him or not :) x

[Meanies]

GO FOR JAMES CUS YOU WANT HIIIIM.
he doesnt really like u, he wants to get close to ur mum :)

[Charz777]

Flirting is so much fun, especially being a teen, I had plenty of experience this time last year and onwards. I ended up over the course of a year with 2 different boyfriends. The first ended because he accused me of flirting too much with his mate, which I didn't see at first, but when within a month I was dating that mate, I thought about how bad it was and felt really guilty, now me and my ex don't talk. Then my 2nd boyfriend used to flirt with my best friend, it didn't help that she had a crush on him, and after 7 months of arguements we split, I also found out he'd been having sex chats with another girl. Anyway, now I'm with someone else and as soon as I got with him neither of us were flirting with anyone else and we take it slow but so we are both satisfied and we talk about everything.

Sorry for the essay, I'm just trying to tell you that you should go for the guy you like. Even if he's not who you imagined you'd end up with. And if someone is a friend before and they want more, it's always better than getting with someone you hardly know. I noticed I stopped flirting when I was someone who wasn't playing games or messing with my mind, I also learned that flirting with more than one guy can lead on more than one guy resulting in someone getting hurt and you don't want loads of people against you. So I'd suggest having fun, but if you think you've found someone who's right and could be worth it, then don't blow it :) Good luck x

[FlyingJesus]

Get the 1st two to buy you things and just lead them on anyway, it's not gonna lead to anything so no need to feel bad and it's their own fault if they don't get it. Last dude sounds like you've actually got a real friend at last (Jack'll be jealous) so tbh unless you're sure of it I wouldn't bother - it's easy to mistake really getting on well with someone for being romantically interested especially if he only has 1 ear

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I know a lot of girls like to be liked for who they are and not what they look like and tbh the last one, if it sounds like he does like you for you, you should just tell him straight up you think you like him. It's not difficult to say & if he does say he doesn't like you back, which he probably wont from what you said, there's not much to lose, because at least you had the guts to say it anyway. Being good friends and then going out can actually work out well (speaking from experience), because you know each other well and then you can start going out and have a proper relationship instead of one based around sex :}. If you think about what things you like in a guy, compare it to him and stuff like that, even minor things then you'll know if you like him or not :) x

GO FOR JAMES CUS YOU WANT HIIIIM.
he doesnt really like u, he wants to get close to ur mum :)

Sorry for the essay, I'm just trying to tell you that you should go for the guy you like. Even if he's not who you imagined you'd end up with. And if someone is a friend before and they want more, it's always better than getting with someone you hardly know. I noticed I stopped flirting when I was someone who wasn't playing games or messing with my mind, I also learned that flirting with more than one guy can lead on more than one guy resulting in someone getting hurt and you don't want loads of people against you. So I'd suggest having fun, but if you think you've found someone who's right and could be worth it, then don't blow it :) Good luck x

Get the 1st two to buy you things and just lead them on anyway, it's not gonna lead to anything so no need to feel bad and it's their own fault if they don't get it. Last dude sounds like you've actually got a real friend at last (Jack'll be jealous) so tbh unless you're sure of it I wouldn't bother - it's easy to mistake really getting on well with someone for being romantically interested especially if he only has 1 ear
yes i know he's the best choice for me but the more i think about it the less i think i like him in that way, like you said elliott girls tend to like guys who like them for who they are and i guess i just confused myself with it because he's one of the first guys i've actually found that's typically the type i'd want... funny, actually quite nice yet mean in all the right aspects but at the end of the day the "bad guy" will always win (first person). + yeah relationships may work out fine being friends beforehand but thing is i don't really want a relationship and we tend to argue over guys a lot without us even dating so i dunno how it'll be like if we ever did so i think i'll take tom's advice (sly insults tom thx) and just leave it until i truly know how i feel o.o he seems really clingy aswell, he's already told me he's been hurt because of me and i can't handle that kinda stuff.

first guy is definitely still trying his luck and at the end of the day he's one that's most likely to be "successful" coz i'm still a sucker for a bad boy even though it's not who i'd want 2 be with .... + second guy won't leave me alone anymore so it's not my fault if he gets hurt. i'll give u all some rep anyways

[Kardan]

Flirting is so much fun, especially being a teen, I had plenty of experience this time last year and onwards. I ended up over the course of a year with 2 different boyfriends. The first ended because he accused me of flirting too much with his mate, which I didn't see at first, but when within a month I was dating that mate, I thought about how bad it was and felt really guilty, now me and my ex don't talk. Then my 2nd boyfriend used to flirt with my best friend, it didn't help that she had a crush on him, and after 7 months of arguements we split, I also found out he'd been having sex chats with another girl. Anyway, now I'm with someone else and as soon as I got with him neither of us were flirting with anyone else and we take it slow but so we are both satisfied and we talk about everything.

Sorry for the essay, I'm just trying to tell you that you should go for the guy you like. Even if he's not who you imagined you'd end up with. And if someone is a friend before and they want more, it's always better than getting with someone you hardly know. I noticed I stopped flirting when I was someone who wasn't playing games or messing with my mind, I also learned that flirting with more than one guy can lead on more than one guy resulting in someone getting hurt and you don't want loads of people against you. So I'd suggest having fun, but if you think you've found someone who's right and could be worth it, then don't blow it :) Good luck x

Char :o Hi :o

Err, first lad, tbf, just tell him you're not interested and it wouldn't surprise me if he just shrugged his shoulders and went on to some other girl, sounds like the type.

Second dude just sounds creepy, block him and generally ignore him?

Third dude, maybe give it a bit of time?

[Hecktix]

omg jen you are such a player.

anyway go with the last one even though that's totally not you from the way you usually talk - it might do you some good though tbh and make you happy if not i'm sure you won't take long getting back on your feet. - JUST TELL HIM JENNIFER

#1 sounds like a bit of a phallus to be honest so don't go with him END OF.

with love xoxo

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Char :o Hi :o

Err, first lad, tbf, just tell him you're not interested and it wouldn't surprise me if he just shrugged his shoulders and went on to some other girl, sounds like the type.

Second dude just sounds creepy, block him and generally ignore him?

Third dude, maybe give it a bit of time?
is that your girlfriend?!?!
ahh first lad doesn't give up even when i say i'm not interested, he's still texting me but he's probably texting loads of other girls aswell.
second guy is just creepy now, he's gotten way too obsessed because one girl has took interest in him, it's really like a lot of guys on here! i guess i won't feel as bad if i hurt him because it'll serve him right, or i could try put the attention onto some other girl in the bus who apparently talks about him all the time, can't see why she would though.

omg jen you are such a player.

anyway go with the last one even though that's totally not you from the way you usually talk - it might do you some good though tbh and make you happy if not i'm sure you won't take long getting back on your feet. - JUST TELL HIM JENNIFER

#1 sounds like a bit of a phallus to be honest so don't go with him END OF.

with love xoxo
well players go with players, right? so maybe he is the best match ahhh
afterall, i don't want a relationship especially if i'm not totally into them. i'm never going to learn lol

[Kardan]

is that your girlfriend?!?!
ahh first lad doesn't give up even when i say i'm not interested, he's still texting me but he's probably texting loads of other girls aswell.
second guy is just creepy now, he's gotten way too obsessed because one girl has took interest in him, it's really like a lot of guys on here! i guess i won't feel as bad if i hurt him because it'll serve him right, or i could try put the attention onto some other girl in the bus who apparently talks about him all the time, can't see why she would though.

well players go with players, right? so maybe he is the best match ahhh
afterall, i don't want a relationship especially if i'm not totally into them. i'm never going to learn lol

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First dude sounds like he's going for whatever he can get his dirty hands on... Maybe the girl that talks to the second dude is doing what you were doing to him? :P

[Hecktix]

is that your girlfriend?!?!
ahh first lad doesn't give up even when i say i'm not interested, he's still texting me but he's probably texting loads of other girls aswell.
second guy is just creepy now, he's gotten way too obsessed because one girl has took interest in him, it's really like a lot of guys on here! i guess i won't feel as bad if i hurt him because it'll serve him right, or i could try put the attention onto some other girl in the bus who apparently talks about him all the time, can't see why she would though.

well players go with players, right? so maybe he is the best match ahhh
afterall, i don't want a relationship especially if i'm not totally into them. i'm never going to learn lol

I think you could benefit from dipping your toes into the relationship thing, especially if you get on with this guy cause that's what's most important in a relationship - the friendship so i dunno maybe if you gave it a try you may find you actually like the relationship thing, I think i've read somewhere or you said to me once you'd only had like one serious boyfriend? Well you clearly don't have much experience of relationships (tbh that could even have been a bad experience???) so maybe if you experimented a little you could find what makes you happy.

If it doesn't work then just get back on your feet and continue doing what you do atm or w/e :)

[Charz777]

is that your girlfriend?!?!



:D There's no hiding in this world.

[Kardan]

and continue doing what you do atm or w/e :)

*Cough* Sure Jen won't mind that... JIGGY JIGGY.

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*Cough* Sure Jen won't mind that... JIGGY JIGGY.

You have no idea how long I pondered over how to word that part!! :P

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First dude sounds like he's going for whatever he can get his dirty hands on... Maybe the girl that talks to the second dude is doing what you were doing to him? :P
most likely but unfortunately that's the kind i DO go for, not who i'd prefer but it's hard to get out the cycle!

I think you could benefit from dipping your toes into the relationship thing, especially if you get on with this guy cause that's what's most important in a relationship - the friendship so i dunno maybe if you gave it a try you may find you actually like the relationship thing, I think i've read somewhere or you said to me once you'd only had like one serious boyfriend? Well you clearly don't have much experience of relationships (tbh that could even have been a bad experience???) so maybe if you experimented a little you could find what makes you happy.

If it doesn't work then just get back on your feet and continue doing what you do atm or w/e :)
yup it's definitely bad experiences! i've had 2 "serious" ones that've ended bad and i'm scared it turns out like that again.
i don't think i'm ready for a relationship anyway, weirdly enough i actually need a guy who'll keep me "under the thumb" otherwise i'll just take advantage, 'forget' i have a boyfriend and walk all over them. that's how i see it with the third guy and then it'd definitely ruin the friendship. i wouldn't say i'm a player but if i could get away with anything i would try it..

[Hecktix]

most likely but unfortunately that's the kind i DO go for, not who i'd prefer but it's hard to get out the cycle!

yup it's definitely bad experiences! i've had 2 "serious" ones that've ended bad and i'm scared it turns out like that again.
i don't think i'm ready for a relationship anyway, weirdly enough i actually need a guy who'll keep me "under the thumb" otherwise i'll just take advantage, 'forget' i have a boyfriend and walk all over them. that's how i see it with the third guy and then it'd definitely ruin the friendship. i wouldn't say i'm a player but if i could get away with anything i would try it..

tbh jen I just think you're being lazy not getting "out of the cycle" :P

you should try, a boyfriend can also keep you "under the thumb" if that's what you want, you shouldn't let bad experiences but you off. I've had a few but tbh it just makes me want to succeed with things more rather than **** something else up.

I too have only had 2 serious relationships which lasted some time (1 year 2 months and 7 months) and you know how badly 1 of them ended!!!! And the other was quite upsetting/argumental but yeah I'm not scared, well I am, but I try to face my fears.

[Kardan]

:D There's no hiding in this world.

:) :) :)

Err... yeah Jen. If you like the type of the first guy, go for it, but he sounds like the sort of guy that wouldn't give a damn if he saw another girl behind your back.

[FlyingJesus]

She's like 12 or something don't y'all be telling her to settle down, she can take as many boys on the waltzer as she likes until she's like 50

[Hecktix]

She's like 12 or something don't y'all be telling her to settle down, she can take as many boys on the waltzer as she likes until she's like 50

that's quite a lot for a 12 year old tom!!

i love your philosophy.

Some of these relationships threads are funny as the thread starter usually knows the answer :P

good luck anyway jennifer.

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another guy on our bus had a bet with his friend that he couldn't "pull" a girl before christmas (he's a bit of a geek, nearly 18 + he's never had a gf or touched alcohol), i just played along with his friends chatting him up all like "well my birthdays before christmas ;)". only reason i really sat with him on the bus was because i liked one of his friends so i could easily talk to him there and had something to make conversation with then realised he wasn't all that he cracked up to be but that's a diff story.... so yee i'm starting to feel awkward with this whole thing though now, at first i couldn't get him to talk to me but now i can't get him away ... i did say "i hope you're not taking this serious" but i think it's a bit too late for that :/ again i have no idea how to tell him it's just a joke without looking like a **** but ye i probably already do....


The sad sad sad thing here is, if you changed the age on this person, he's almost an exact description of me :( -cries irl

Don't be mean to him, it's probably not a joke for him :'(

[Cannonman.R.C]

maybe you should just be yourself

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The sad sad sad thing here is, if you changed the age on this person, he's almost an exact description of me :( -cries irl

Don't be mean to him, it's probably not a joke for him :'(
ahh i know but it's creepy, he sits next to me n my friend on the bus n we just ignore him o.o + at lunch or whatever if i'm sitting upstairs he'll sit near us and talk. plus he leaves me comments on bebo with all his love every single day lololol, thank god i don't see him for 2 weeks.

maybe you should just be yourself
i am :)
the person that i thought was best for me (the third one) has become so clingy + annoying, he gets jealous easily aswell so **** that. the thing is, the one that's bad for me is actually the nicest to me and it's probably part of his act, i'll just play hard to get and keep my options open i spose.

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[FlyingJesus]

maybe you should just be yourself


i am :)

Found ya problem xo

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ahh i know but it's creepy, he sits next to me n my friend on the bus n we just ignore him o.o + at lunch or whatever if i'm sitting upstairs he'll sit near us and talk. plus he leaves me comments on bebo with all his love every single day lololol, thank god i don't see him for 2 weeks.


Because he has no real friends. He's never felt 'love' before, and when he's finally feeling it, like now, he doesn't want to let it go. He's shy but a strong lover, therefore the clingyness and the constant interaction.


Found ya problem xo

Owned lolol!

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and theeeeeen there's a guy i actually like... he's not the type i go for looks wise but he's funny and he's not all sex obsessed like the rest and actually (hopefully) likes me for me, however sad that sounds. i know he likes me and i'm not really sure how i feel so i don't say anything, thing is all we ever usually talk about is the guys i like so he probably reckons i'm not into him, i don't want to tell him i am because we're too good of friends and i'm not really good with relationships, all mine end up with arguing and not talking again so i really don't want to ruin it for us because we get on well without actually going out :/ i'm so stuck on that one, do i tell him or not? i'm not even sure of my true feelings myself so it could turn out bad!


SOZ for essay but i've had a bad week coz of this xo
HIM! and tell him, if he likes you then go for it. Maybe tell him you dont want to ruin your friendship though, just so he knows that if it doesn't go anywhere you still want to be mates with him

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SO WOT DID U END UP DOIN CANADA?

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Because he has no real friends. He's never felt 'love' before, and when he's finally feeling it, like now, he doesn't want to let it go. He's shy but a strong lover, therefore the clingyness and the constant interaction.
oh i know... it's just annoying but that's my fault

HIM! and tell him, if he likes you then go for it. Maybe tell him you dont want to ruin your friendship though, just so he knows that if it doesn't go anywhere you still want to be mates with him
i was gonna but now he's gotten all emotionally attached and i can't deal with a guy like that, they're not meant to have feelings :'(

SO WOT DID U END UP DOIN CANADA?
i dunno. i keep changing my mind, i'm just keepin my options open :eusa_whis

+ i kinda like the "bad boy" when i really shouldn't :(:(:(