Need some help ...

[Nuka-Cola]

Ok sorry bout the long story ... and also a very complicated story ... but I really could do with some help.

Ok lets begin :P. I have fancied this girl since like july, weve been friends for a while .. so after the 6 weeks holiday I told her I fancied her. But I knew she fancied another guy. So I thought y'know get my feelings out there what harm can it do. Like 2 weeks later I went cinema with her, 2 friends of hers and this other guy she likes ( Im friends with him ) and she sat on the front row and asked me sit with her.

So the next day I texted around and got her number and asked her out. She said no because she likes this other guy. Now heres where it gets complicated. This guy also fancies her. But she says she wont go out with him which just confuzes the **** out of me.

So weve been flirting for a while, kinda like really really good mates, even though she knows I fancy her. ( Sorry its so long ) Ok so in a lesson the other week a mate of myne told me some other girl fancied me who is friends with the girl I fancy ... so I accepted it but told him I wasnt interested in her so it didnt matter.

Yesterday in art she started crying ... I didnt know why so I just sat there while the girl I fancy went see what was wrong and another friend.
Today she mails me with the reason, basically, its because it breaks her heart when I hang out with the girl I fancy. ( I was hanging out with her the whole of art sitting next to her, drawing stuff together so on )

So now the girl I fancy ( having read the mail ) says that we cant flirt anymore, and that she just wants to be friends because she really fancies this other lad. But she wont explain to my why she wont go out with him if they both fancy eachother. ( BTW incase I havnt said he fancies her aswell )

So now my love life is ****** because this girl cried. I am so angry at the moment because I was having fun flirting with this girl. Now its all over .. theres nothing really there.

I just have no idea what to do or think ... do I carry on like I was with the girl, still flirting .... or just do nothing ... which would make me feel like a piece of ****.

Any help would be appreciated thanks, and no stupid answers like get a life ... I want serious answers :/

BTW im 14 going on 15.

[Nemo]

Ok sorry bout the long story ... and also a very complicated story ... but I really could do with some help.

Ok lets begin :P. I have fancied this girl since like july, weve been friends for a while .. so after the 6 weeks holiday I told her I fancied her. But I knew she fancied another guy. So I thought y'know get my feelings out there what harm can it do. Like 2 weeks later I went cinema with her, 2 friends of hers and this other guy she likes ( Im friends with him ) and she sat on the front row and asked me sit with her.

So the next day I texted around and got her number and asked her out. She said no because she likes this other guy. Now heres where it gets complicated. This guy also fancies her. But she says she wont go out with him which just confuzes the **** out of me.

So weve been flirting for a while, kinda like really really good mates, even though she knows I fancy her. ( Sorry its so long ) Ok so in a lesson the other week a mate of myne told me some other girl fancied me who is friends with the girl I fancy ... so I accepted it but told him I wasnt interested in her so it didnt matter.

Yesterday in art she started crying ... I didnt know why so I just sat there while the girl I fancy went see what was wrong and another friend.
Today she mails me with the reason, basically, its because it breaks her heart when I hang out with the girl I fancy. ( I was hanging out with her the whole of art sitting next to her, drawing stuff together so on )

So now the girl I fancy ( having read the mail ) says that we cant flirt anymore, and that she just wants to be friends because she really fancies this other lad. But she wont explain to my why she wont go out with him if they both fancy eachother. ( BTW incase I havnt said he fancies her aswell )

So now my love life is ****** because this girl cried. I am so angry at the moment because I was having fun flirting with this girl. Now its all over .. theres nothing really there.

I just have no idea what to do or think ... do I carry on like I was with the girl, still flirting .... or just do nothing ... which would make me feel like a piece of ****.

Any help would be appreciated thanks, and no stupid answers like get a life ... I want serious answers :/

BTW im 14 going on 15.
Complicated indeed....

What id do is not liekt he girl who likes you, control you. Keep talking to this girl you like, however keep in mind it will go no where since she doesnt feel like that about you. You dont have to nessecarily flirt, but just be good mates. So really what im getting at is, move on. Talk to her, flirt, just know that you wont be going out without her and just get over it.

Thats what i think anywho.

[Nuka-Cola]

Hmm ok ... I think I was coming to that conclusion anyway ;( unfortunately.

+rep though

[buttons]

nah i disagree with niamh. i'd stay friends with her & continue flirting. the girl that likes you would get the point & probably move on meaning the girl you do like can't use that as an excuse. dunno why she won't go out with the guy she likes but if she ever starts to like you she might do the same so no matter which approach you take you'll probably not 'get' her

[Lindsey]

I personally thing that if you still be her friend,.. talk to her, ect. and maybe flirt, but if she gets with that guy, u will have to not flirt with her soo much, but my advice is that if u be there when she falls, she will realize who is the right guy for her aka you. (:

Btw +Rep ;)

[Kronics]

I think the best thing is just being friends :) Maybe she will appreciate that more as your showing a sign of respect by doing as she asks. You never know things could turn around. It's all about our favoured saying "It takes time". Good luck though, I hope things go well :D

[Nuka-Cola]

I think the chances of the girl I like and the guy she likes having a relationship that actually works is like 10% chance ... hes not the kinda guy thats good in a relationship. But she wont go out with him ... if she did I think shed realise she didnt like him that much :/

[Absently]

Tbh, I'd just give up on the girl that you like to flirt with, she doesn't want to flirt with you because of her friend, and what's the point in the flirting anyway, she doesn't like you, so give up on her. Just go out with the girl that likes you and make her happy and if the girl you like gets jealous break up with her and go out with her instead yeah (y)

[Misawa]

You're 14, don't bother yourself.

[Nuka-Cola]

Tbh, I'd just give up on the girl that you like to flirt with, she doesn't want to flirt with you because of her friend, and what's the point in the flirting anyway, she doesn't like you, so give up on her. Just go out with the girl that likes you and make her happy and if the girl you like gets jealous break up with her and go out with her instead yeah (y)

The point was before all this I thought we were getting somewhere because she always flirted back with me.
Oh and ive been out with the girl that fancies me before.


You're 14, don't bother yourself.

Just because Im 14 doesnt mean I cant have feelings.

[BeanEgg]

There was something a little similar with me.

Seeing as she's with another guy, best not do anything.. yet.

As of her friend, which one do you find more attractive? Her or her friend? If it's her friend, then it's not best to go out with her, it will usually screw everything up unless they are flexible.

There's plenty of fish in the sea. ;P


Good luck.

[Nuka-Cola]

There not going out ... there both single .... thats what I find strange they fancy eachother ... yet wont go out.

Also I dont like her mate ... ive been there before.

I know theres loads more fish .. but I want that one :(

[Ebbwie]

Okay, first things first, calm down. Clear your thoughts and do something you enjoy. Skateboarding, drawing, composing music, whatever.

Once you have calmed down, try thinking deeply about it. So the girl (Lets call her.. Jenny) likes you, but doesn't want a Loving relationship with you, while the other girl, (Lets call her Betty) Loves you.

Ask yourself, Would you rather upset Betty, or Ignore Jenny?

Both are just as mean and torturing, but in the end, something will happen. Whether that something is good or bad for you, Betty will be upset (Unless you go out with her).

I know this will sound useless and that, but its true;

Follow your heart. It will always lead you to your best decision.

So, here are your Choices:

1) Ignore Jenny and carry on flirting until she no longer likes you.
2) Turn towards Betty and try her out again. You never know, she migh of changed.
3) Ditch both of them and start afresh, looking for new love.

[Nuka-Cola]

Thanks for the advice +rep. Il have to think about all that :P

[Kronics]

Good luck mate :)

[Ebbwie]

Am I decent at this relationship advice thing? If I am, I might start a tread for more people like Nuka.

[Nuka-Cola]

You are very decent .. and you should :)