What does it mean when..

[Meree.]

You was with someone, but broke up with them, and now don't have feelings for them in that kind of way anymore, yet.. when they're flirting with another girl, you get jealous? Why is that? Does it mean you still have feelings for that person.. or what?

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[Accipiter]

their was a family guy episode on this last night LOL

its probaly just a deep mental (not cookoo lets go run at walls mental) disorder where you think he's doesn't care about you anymore, but you might not mind being friends with him. Or your just not fully over him.

[Nixt]

Would you say you were in love? I ask this because I have my own personal experience very similar to what you are experiencing now...

I was with my ex boyfriend for over a year altogether. We split up around a month or so ago now. I was very much in love with him, and to a certain extent I still am now and always will be. However I am over him. I can safely say that I have gone past the stages of wanting him back etc etc. Nevertheless, the idea of him going out and getting with other people and things hurts me... even though I've got with plenty of people since we've split up.
When you're with someone, and you become very much attached to that person it is very difficult to not feel weird about things like that. Even if you actually hate that person. For example, my friend was with someone for around 2 years and he cheated on her. When he found a new partner, she was absolutely devastated despite the fact she didn't want to be with him and actually wanted to kill him.

It's totally normal, and in time as your life moves on it will get easier. Particularly when the contact between you both becomes less and less :).

[Meree.]

Would you say you were in love? I ask this because I have my own personal experience very similar to what you are experiencing now...

I was with my ex boyfriend for over a year altogether. We split up around a month or so ago now. I was very much in love with him, and to a certain extent I still am now and always will be. However I am over him. I can safely say that I have gone past the stages of wanting him back etc etc. Nevertheless, the idea of him going out and getting with other people and things hurts me... even though I've got with plenty of people since we've split up.
When you're with someone, and you become very much attached to that person it is very difficult to not feel weird about things like that. Even if you actually hate that person. For example, my friend was with someone for around 2 years and he cheated on her. When he found a new partner, she was absolutely devastated despite the fact she didn't want to be with him and actually wanted to kill him.

It's totally normal, and in time as your life moves on it will get easier. Particularly when the contact between you both becomes less and less :).

+rep. :)

[Yoshimitsui]

Inside you actually may have more feelings for that person then you want to let on or actually feel on a regular basis. It may be that your jealous of them being with someone when it is infact what you want but not necessarily with that person. You have to think and make it clear what you want, as it may be you do want this person but have many complicating factors surrounding it.

[FlyingJesus]

tbh you can come up with complex answers and all sorts of psychoanalytical phrases but what it really comes down to is the simple fact that when someone doesn't want YOU it hurts your ego and makes you doubt yourself

[JustDAVE]

You're just jealous because you miss the attention, and ain't getting much of it from most girls

[LoveToStack]

tbh you can come up with complex answers and all sorts of psychoanalytical phrases but what it really comes down to is the simple fact that when someone doesn't want YOU it hurts your ego and makes you doubt yourself

This.
Also if you don't get proper closure at the end of a relationship then it can be harder to move on - still it sounds like you did get proper closure. The easiest way to move on, I find at least, is to get with someone else. Not in a relationship, just a fling.

[Nikki]

Hmm, well i dumped this boy because he was really boring, ect: then he started dating one of my friends then i wanted him back, but after a while i remembered why i dumped him. I think i was just jealous tbh.

[Janet Snakehole]

i guess that deep down you must still have feelings for them, but just remember why you dumped them in the first place :)

[mike475]

its natural. like if my ex (broke up last week after 6 and a half months) had something going on with someone else, it would still get to me. even though i've got on 5 people and stuff since.

just remember all the reasons why you broke up, how much of a downer he was. it'll take time, it always does. soon enough you'll look back on this topic and think how silly you were.

you'll be okay :]

[Black_Apalachi]

Would you say you were in love? I ask this because I have my own personal experience very similar to what you are experiencing now...

I was with my ex boyfriend for over a year altogether. We split up around a month or so ago now. I was very much in love with him, and to a certain extent I still am now and always will be. However I am over him. I can safely say that I have gone past the stages of wanting him back etc etc. Nevertheless, the idea of him going out and getting with other people and things hurts me... even though I've got with plenty of people since we've split up.
When you're with someone, and you become very much attached to that person it is very difficult to not feel weird about things like that. Even if you actually hate that person. For example, my friend was with someone for around 2 years and he cheated on her. When he found a new partner, she was absolutely devastated despite the fact she didn't want to be with him and actually wanted to kill him.

It's totally normal, and in time as your life moves on it will get easier. Particularly when the contact between you both becomes less and less :).

Similar example to Garion's. Two of my mates were together from when they were about 13 until 18 or 19 when the lad found some other lads in the girl's bed (not with her, but it all kicked off and they broke up) anyway he hated her and still told me he hated her after they'd both been with new people but he was also really pissed off about her being with another guy. They broke up just under a year ago now I think and he's only recently told me that he's not bothered about her or her bf any more. So yeah I think some feelings go on for while even though you don't want to be with them any more but over time it gets easier.

[e5]

Deep down you'll still like her but you're telling yourself you don't because you want to move on but you're finding it hard, because she once was yours and now seeing her with other lads kind of hurts you =/.

[Anamations]

I Dont think it means you have feelings for them i think it just means your a tad jelous and you feel like i had that once and i was in your possition ( meanningg the girl hes flirting with)

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