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Butterfly
26-11-2009, 10:06 AM
So yeah, I've known this girl for about a year and half now, but she went to my school but I didn't really know her, not at all really then, so anyway yeah we kind of get on fantastic, like she'd tell me her problems and I'd comfort her and give her some advice and cheer her up, and she'd do the same for me really, and I had a party round mine the other day and she come along and we got chatting and stuff, and I told her I needed her when my dad died and she kinda went silent abit and told me about her laptop being broke, and to be honest, the whole time I just wanted to ... hold her hand.

Well this girl, she is pregnant, four months now I think and she told me assoon as she found out, I don't know if she knows but I do have some feelings for her, and I was wondering, do you think it would be best to tell her how I feel, and in a way tell her I don't just wanna be there for her, but for her baby as-well, like the fathers dad just left her as-soon as he found out and rang her up being all nasty and that, and like, I've actually had feelings for her for quite a while.

Before she got pregnant, she was the kind of girl who is hanging around with bad influnces, getting drunk, sleeping about, but I know she is different to all that and she is actually a really honest nice girl, ok she might not be the prettyest girl, but she is sexy and attractive, and she might not have the most openminded mind but I don't care all about that, I just have these mixed strong feelings towards her and I am so close to just telling her

Anyone give me advice? To be honest, I was even thinking of asking if she wanted to move in with me for more help with the baby but before I could, she was going on about her mums gonna be there for her and stuff as her mums split up with her dad now and shes moving away, I don't really wanna lose her, I know I won't lose her as a friend, but the relationship we have will be a little difficult, anyone, just give me some real mature, open minded advice about this.

Thread closed by invincible (Forum Super Moderator): as it's pointless, the user in question creates threads like this for the fun of it.

Black_Apalachi
26-11-2009, 04:40 PM
Hey, firstly welcome to forum! :D I can't say I've been in the same kind of situation exactly, but it sounds like it may be a good idea to let her know how you feel without being too overwhelming. Like I'm not sure it's a good idea to dive in with the proposal to move in, stuff like that usually happens much later and it may scare her off a bit.

I reckon you should maybe take her out for a drink or something like that (you sound like you're an older member? and I know she can't drink but it doesn't have to be alcohol, or you could go for a meal) and tell her you have feelings for her. But I wouldn't rely too heavily on saying you need her because of your dad (that I can relate to) because she may get the idea you're just looking for comfort from anyone as you're at a difficult time of your life. You don't want her to think she's not special ;).

Hope some of this is helpful, good luck!

Soy
27-11-2009, 12:40 AM
So yeah, I've known this girl for about a year and half now, but she went to my school but I didn't really know her, not at all really then, so anyway yeah we kind of get on fantastic, like she'd tell me her problems and I'd comfort her and give her some advice and cheer her up, and she'd do the same for me really, and I had a party round mine the other day and she come along and we got chatting and stuff, and I told her I needed her when my dad died and she kinda went silent abit and told me about her laptop being broke, and to be honest, the whole time I just wanted to ... hold her hand.

Well this girl, she is pregnant, four months now I think and she told me assoon as she found out, I don't know if she knows but I do have some feelings for her, and I was wondering, do you think it would be best to tell her how I feel, and in a way tell her I don't just wanna be there for her, but for her baby as-well, like the fathers dad just left her as-soon as he found out and rang her up being all nasty and that, and like, I've actually had feelings for her for quite a while.

Before she got pregnant, she was the kind of girl who is hanging around with bad influnces, getting drunk, sleeping about, but I know she is different to all that and she is actually a really honest nice girl, ok she might not be the prettyest girl, but she is sexy and attractive, and she might not have the most openminded mind but I don't care all about that, I just have these mixed strong feelings towards her and I am so close to just telling her

Anyone give me advice? To be honest, I was even thinking of asking if she wanted to move in with me for more help with the baby but before I could, she was going on about her mums gonna be there for her and stuff as her mums split up with her dad now and shes moving away, I don't really wanna lose her, I know I won't lose her as a friend, but the relationship we have will be a little difficult, anyone, just give me some real mature, open minded advice about this.

teen mums = big no no

Bun
27-11-2009, 08:54 AM
having the burden of somebody elses kid at your age should not be your priority. back away from the preggers mam mannnnnn.

Jahova
29-11-2009, 08:47 AM
having the burden of somebody elses kid at your age should not be your priority. back away from the preggers mam mannnnnn.
Agree with both of the above.

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