Really messed up...

[kuzkasate]

Well I've been liking this girl for absolutely ages. So I told her quite a while back and we are seeming to be getting on quite well. Thing is, she likes me but shes going out with someone else and she says she likes to stick to one person, which is kinda nice of her really - but thats not the thing.

A few days ago, she hasnt seemed to talk to me lately & its as if shes pretending I'm not there... when we were like really close a day before it all happened... and apparently its because of people spreading loads of rubbish about us.

So I text her on Saturday & I asked her why shes ignoring me and stuff... she replied with "soz cnt tlk to u anymre causin too much *REMOVED*"

So I was like... okay whats going on. Ive tried to speak to her but she doesnt answer or anything.. could it really be because of people sayin' things about us? Cos I dont think its fair she doesnt talk to me because its not my fault people are chattin' behind my back.

Dont you think it seems kinda harsh? But what shall I do, I really dont want to end everything we had like this... it just seems idiotic really.

Edit by Sammeth. (Assistant General Manager): Please don't avoid the filter.

[Cyndia]

Hmm.. I mean, if she's got a boyfriend and she wants things to work with him, I could see why she'd be really upset that people were talking about you two hanging out. Either she's worried he'll hear about it, or maybe he did hear about it and got mad at her? That would easily explain why she decided not to talk to you anymore.

Just out of curiosity, how well do you know the guy she's dating right now? Maybe if you got to be better friends with him then you could hang out with her more and she wouldn't freak out. Or, just confront her in person asap and talk to her about it.. That would be way better than just having a text conversation. Tell her that you don't care what people say & she shouldn't either.. and that you don't want to ruin a good friendship over something stupid like that. And if she still insists on not talking to you after you guys talk about it, then at least you'll have gotten some sort of closure on it. And you never know.. if you give it time she may realize that shes being stupid and misses you.

[kuzkasate]

Hmm.. I mean, if she's got a boyfriend and she wants things to work with him, I could see why she'd be really upset that people were talking about you two hanging out. Either she's worried he'll hear about it, or maybe he did hear about it and got mad at her? How well do you know the guy she's dating right now? Maybe if you got to be friends with him then you could hang out with her more and she wouldn't freak out. Or just flat out confront her in person and talk to her about it.. That would be way better than just having a text conversation. Tell her that you don't care what people say & she shouldn't either.. and that you don't want to ruin a good friendship over something stupid like that. And if she still insists on not talking to you after you guys talk about it, then at least you'll have gotten some sort of closure on it. And you never know.. if you give it time she may realize that she misses you.

Well the thing is... she hardly ever sees her boyfriend and I think she doesnt like him much but yeah maybe she does want it to work because its pretty much not. I dont know the guy she is dating at all. I think I will definately talk to her but its still pretty odd... why would you care if someone said "Did you know Arthurr and Tammie are chekinn :o" its like... will you shut your mouth please and gtho.

Im just really upset atm..

[kuzkasate]

Sorry to double post but if she did want to make their relationship work... why bother flirting with meh and stuff... and tellin me that shes got feelings for me.

Anyway I got this txt (not sure what half of it means so if anyone can translate it into proper english please):
"Arthur u needs to chil man rar i sed i aint tlkin cz tings bein std u need to stp jumpn to conclusoins and goin on wid ur self man god"

didnt understand half of it and if she wasnt herself then why didnt she tell me even tho i asked her loads of times and she said she doesnt want to talk to me... so now its my fault :S

[Cyndia]

Sounds like she likes you but she's not willing to risk trying a new relationship that may not work when she already has a stable relationship that she knows will work. Either that or she's just a tease. I really think you should try just moving on or give her some sort of ultimatum - tell her you like her and you can't stand seeing her with another guy and that if she would give you a shot you'd like to take her out, and if not, that you don't want to talk to her for a while until you're over her. Or you can just stick around and be her friend and wait it out with the hopes that she'll eventually dump her boyfriend, but that may end up leaving you more hurt in the end..

[Pyroka]

Well I've been liking this girl for absolutely ages. So I told her quite a while back and we are seeming to be getting on quite well. Thing is, she likes me but shes going out with someone else and she says she likes to stick to one person, which is kinda nice of her really - but thats not the thing.

A few days ago, she hasnt seemed to talk to me lately & its as if shes pretending I'm not there... when we were like really close a day before it all happened... and apparently its because of people spreading loads of rubbish about us.

So I text her on Saturday & I asked her why shes ignoring me and stuff... she replied with "soz cnt tlk to u anymre causin too much *REMOVED*"

So I was like... okay whats going on. Ive tried to speak to her but she doesnt answer or anything.. could it really be because of people sayin' things about us? Cos I dont think its fair she doesnt talk to me because its not my fault people are chattin' behind my back.

Dont you think it seems kinda harsh? But what shall I do, I really dont want to end everything we had like this... it just seems idiotic really.

Edit by Sammeth. (Assistant General Manager): Please don't avoid the filter.

Just before I reply to this, I haven't looked at anyone elses feedback so yeah this is my opinion uninfluenced.

To be honest, you hang around with a girl in school who already has a boyfriend, and you both like eachother, however she also likes the other guy too. The reason she's not talking to you is because she doesn't want to lose her current boyfriend. She may like you, but how much she likes you is another matter. If she liked you more than she liked her boyfriend, she would've dumped him and went off with you.

You're going into bad territory trying to get with a girl whose already taken, and you deserve the rumours because its a school, and thats just how school is. You're doing her no favours, nor are you doing her any favours. She doesn't want to lose her bf and if you're the cause of it then she certainly wont like you anymore.

My advice, in short, is just leave it and focus on somebody else. She'll think of you more that way and she may actually turn around and say "Hey, actually I've made a mistake". If you two are really meant to be, it'll happen, otherwise there's plenty more fish in the sea so I advise you to get your rod out and start using it.

[Meanies]

Plenty more fish in the sea is all i can say ;)

[Pyroka]

Plenty more fish in the sea is all i can say ;)

Like Jake for example, a fine specimen of the male species.

shames he gay ;) LOL

[kuzkasate]

Just before I reply to this, I haven't looked at anyone elses feedback so yeah this is my opinion uninfluenced.

To be honest, you hang around with a girl in school who already has a boyfriend, and you both like eachother, however she also likes the other guy too. The reason she's not talking to you is because she doesn't want to lose her current boyfriend. She may like you, but how much she likes you is another matter. If she liked you more than she liked her boyfriend, she would've dumped him and went off with you.

You're going into bad territory trying to get with a girl whose already taken, and you deserve the rumours because its a school, and thats just how school is. You're doing her no favours, nor are you doing her any favours. She doesn't want to lose her bf and if you're the cause of it then she certainly wont like you anymore.

My advice, in short, is just leave it and focus on somebody else. She'll think of you more that way and she may actually turn around and say "Hey, actually I've made a mistake". If you two are really meant to be, it'll happen, otherwise there's plenty more fish in the sea so I advise you to get your rod out and start using it.

Yes I understand that but she said she doesnt like her current bf... so anyway we havent been talking and then she just starts talking to me randomly, but atm I totally cba with her so I'm playin' hard to get ;)

[danzooo]

To be brutally honest with you mate I can see why she maybe has stopped talking to you - I can imagine her man has given her a stern talking to about how much she talks to you and now she's realised. After all, I'd be very concerned indeed if my girlfriend was talking alot to another boy. She could of course just be one of these really paranoid people who is really worried about what people think of her and she is just changing who she talks to so she stays in people's good books?

If I were you I'd try and talk it over with her. If she is genuine and she really does like you she'll hear you out and want to talk to you - if not, she's what I'd call a "dud", and it's time to move on. Don't forget about her though.
Good luck.

[Pyroka]

Yes I understand that but she said she doesnt like her current bf... so anyway we havent been talking and then she just starts talking to me randomly, but atm I totally cba with her so I'm playin' hard to get ;)

Wow shes a confused one then, good choice :eusa_clap :eusa_danc

Anyway, uhhh yeah I think thats your best course of action, but actually proper ignore her, nothing whatsoeverrrrrr. If she wants ya she'll dump her bf and go with you. She needs to have balls otherwise she'll be unhappy for good.

[Soy]

To be honest you need to **** off she has a boyfreind

[Anamations]

Hmmmmm Thats defo harsh what i would do is play reversesicolagy (Soz i cnt spell for ****) yeah but anyway play her at her own game soon enough the rumours will wear down and then u just slowly start again ! i kno its annoying but thats just life :(

[Bun]

Hmmmmm Thats defo harsh what i would do is play reversesicolagy (Soz i cnt spell for ****) yeah but anyway play her at her own game soon enough the rumours will wear down and then u just slowly start again ! i kno its annoying but thats just life :(
lmao! yeah, use reversesicolagy.

[Sunnily]

If she really wants to be with you then she will have to make the right move. For everyones future. Yours, hers and her current boyfriends. By all means if she really likes you more than him then she should split up with her current boyfriend.

[Cyndia]

When guys play hard to get it drives me wiiiiild. I like a challenge. Maybe she's like that too?

[kuzkasate]

So she started to talk to me ;) Then me and my friends were going to a party, she happened to be there. So we started chatting together & I found a perfect moment and I asked her to dance. So we were dancing for absolute ages. Once I got tired, I sat down & then decided to go out and get something like drinks/food. I asked her if she wanted anything she said she didnt because she felt sick, I asked her if she was okay and stuff and she said it was only a bit of sickness.
So before I went out, I decided to go toilet. Someone was following me, but I just thought it could be anyone with like 100 people at the party. I turn around and its her! So goes up to me CLOSE to me and I take her by the hips and we had like the most romantic kiss EVER and I squeezed a few things here and there :rolleyes: Then I sort didnt care about going to the loo and we returned into the party room and I was quite shocked because it was unexpected...
I'm confused... because like... I'm not sure on her relationship status and I'm not sure if the kiss meant anything? Did it...?

[Smits]

talk to her would be the best thing to do

[Cyndia]

Yeah, be straight with her and tell her you don't know where she stands with her boyfriend and you don't want to mess around with anything if she's still with him.. Otherwise it's going to get messy.. no good will come of it!

But woohoo! on kissing her. :P

[Narnat,]

Yeah, i would have to agree with what everyone else is saying. It's also her loss if she doesn't talk to you. You can't do anything about that sadly. Thats life for ya.:(
I hope everything does work out in the end for you.