Social life seems to go downhill

[Random.]

Ive noticed recently that my social life have been going downhill for a year.

When i was in year 11 in school I had a good social life. Always out and about with my mates and with my girlfriend and everything was great.

At the end of year 11 i stopped going out as much as I finished with my girlfriend and all my mates would talk about each other behind their backs and I didnt like that so eventually I stopped going out completely.

I'm 17 now and I still dont go out. I dont normally have time as I work every weekday and work somewhere else all day saturday and sunday night but coming up to christmas now I really want to go out with the guys I use to bother with now cause its getting really boring.

I know this will sound stupid but I'm going to make a fool out of myself wanting to bother with them all again after leaving them. I dont want any one to think I'm using them cause I'm not.

I dont want to be the type of person that works all the time and has no social life because thats what I'm becoming. I want to be able to go out with my mates, have a drink on a friday or saturday night and spend christmas and the new year with a girlfriend or someone close.

Could anyone please post comments on how I could get my social life back on track?

[iAdam]

Find new friends, simply done. Sounds like your old friends weren't very good, so you need to get yourself out there with a friend you're still in touch with perhaps?

[Random.]

Problem is the only people I talk to is the guys in college (who all smoke, do drugs and are gits) and the people in work but they are in their 30s

[Anamations]

easyer said then done finding people you really click with .

[Zak]

Don't worry you'll be 18 soon, then you'll go out and PARTY DOWN! :eusa_danc

[IceNineKills]

stop using habbox forum and turn off your computer.

[Misawa]

Well it seems your old friends weren't that great to begin with since you are no longer in contact, and from that it would appear logical that in a couple of years time when you're all a little older, you would naturally drift apart from each other, as most people do at 19/20, when folks go off to university and elsewhere. You'll be meeting new people in no time, don't worry yourself.

[Cyndia]

Yeah, I think you just need to find some friends that are at the same place in life as you. Find ways you can involve yourself with some sort of extracurricular activity that you enjoy that would let you meet people with the same interests as you (for example, I'm a dancer so I joined a dance team when I went to Uni and it helped me meet a lot of people that are now my closest friends as well as I took some classes that let me meet people that were into dancing like I was). Other than that, you could still try going and hanging out with some of your old friends though to me it seems like you've definitely outgrown them and that they might not understand that you have different priorities in life now.

[Pyroka]

This is what I do in this situation, and I think Cyndia is on the right line. For stuff like that, I did my Duke of Edinburgh and ended up meeting a whole new bunch of people who I'm still mates with now (regardless I'm 200 miles away from them). You can go out with them.

Then you have clubs and general events, like has your college got enrichment activities? Most do. Try getting into being a Student Ambassador if you have that program at college, I did that for 2 years and made alot of friends through it. I went out with them.

Possibly get a new job somewhere, where theres younger people who you can relate to. A job is only made by the people you work with, not the pay you get. If the people are good but the pay is crap, I'd say its worth it. I'd go back to my old job (where I earned 1.50 less than I do now) just to hang with my old peeps... most of those have left now though. :P

Really just get yourself out there, change things around, and most importantly meet new people! And you'll also find, in the new job (if you do), you'll find people who go college who you can hang out with, and then hang out with their mates. It's how social circles work, I have billions at the moment, so much so that if I have a birthday party I'll have trouble who to invite LOL.

I did the above method, and my social life is good. :) <3