Half brothers/sisters +18 rep

[Immenseman]

Well basically, probably around a year ago this month or so my Mum told me she had had a previous marriage and had given birth to three children. She was a victim of domestic violence and went to the police and what not but anyways. Yeah, when she told us my Dad wasn't very happy because he didn't think it was the right time and it shoulda been done face to face and what not. He told her this my mum flipped and said my Dad had things to tell us too... so yeah he was sat us down and told us he had a son from another relationship. I was like !!!!!!! omg. Only told like 1/2 peeps from online but yeah.

That's just the intro to my issue. Basically, what should I do with my half brothers and sisters? I've met one of them and she's nice and she has a child (yay i'm uncle immenseman) so tonight I found one of my half brothers on facebook and looked through all his photos, he has a child too which is like my half-nephew and he's my half brother... they're family yet I don't know them. I didn't add him because that'd be awkward.

Do you think I should get to know them or just realise they probably don't want to because if they did they'd get around and try and meet me? urgh just tell me what you'd do. +18 rep for any good help. i know this thread isn't coherent at all but yeah i just dno what to do :)

[syko2006]

Speak to them face to face, you have to meet them. If they came from your Mum Jake, they're part of you. The best thing to do is to meet them properly!
Hope all goes well! :D

[Black_Apalachi]

I also have a half-brother, my dad's son from before he met my mum, but it was never a secret or anything. I've only met him twice, once when he came over from Ireland to visit when I was about 9 and then again last year when he came over for my dad's funeral. So basically I understand the awkwardness of not really knowing them but wanting to get to know them.

As it's the time of year, a simple Christmas card could be the perfect way to get in touch with them sort of casually. Assuming you can get their addresses from your parents? You could just say hello and offer your details so they can respond if they wish and possibly arrange to meet :).

Now that you mention it though, I should probably make an effort to get in touch with mine a bit more. I never think about it really because I rarely see any of my family anyway; I have two aunties in England (one sort of near me) and the rest of my family is in Ireland.

[Nixt]

Well all but one of my siblings is classed as a "half" brother / sister but I don't look at them like that. I think you should go for it and try and get to know them and not let the fact you don't know them yet get in the way. You only live once and I think you will regret it if you never try to get into contact with them so just go for it.

[kk.]

Tricky one. I'd say arange something like bowling or a trip to a zoo or something and invite everyone of them. Great fun and you'll get to know each other and see your nephews etc. I wouldn't worry about them not wanting to meet you, they might not even know about you yet, or are in the same situation

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[Immenseman]

they do know about me and they're like 25+ and im 17 which is kinda why it's a bit like ;l

[Japan]

Do you want to meet them?
I personally dislike around 97% of my relatives but I'm a teenager and currently going through that "I hate the entire world" phase.
If you are prepared to meet them all then write them a letter or e-mail. Phone calls can sometimes get a little awkward since you don't quite know how much they know about your relationship- for all you know, they might know nothing about you (I've just realised I've used the word 'Know' four times in one sentence but i cba to change it).

Good luck Jake, hope they don't turn out be serial killers or something xoxo

[kk.]

LOL did someone report me? Was a joke haha

in that case I'd do what rob said and send em a card which should spark something in them saying you wanna get in touch

[Immenseman]

LMAO I TOLD ROB TO REPORT YOU.

anyway, i'll read and reply to them when forum is back properly.

[Black_Apalachi]

what no you never and as if i'd do what you say anyway nobody likes you ;l

[Sharon]

First of all, Omg at what FB can do these days :)
Secondly, You should meet them and see what it's like, you'll never know if you don't try.
Lastly - O-M-G UNCLE IMMENSEMAN!

[Cyndia]

I think you should at least try to meet them.. you might end up not liking one of them, but you never know, you could end up becoming really close to the others! So I vote you try to meet them! Send them an xmas card like someone else said at least :) Or FB them and be like hey, I just found out about you so I thought I'd introduce myself or something..

[iChaz]

All my brother's and sister's are half lol, I've got 3 brothers and 3 sisters all older than me, 3 of them I grew up with, the other 3 live in Hastings and I rarely see them but they're cool. I'd definetely get in touch with them, they're family and I'm sure you won't regret it Jake :) it can't do any harm anyway lmao good luhack x

[Smits]

Don't act creepy by adding them on facebook without meeting them. You should take advantage of any opportunity you do get to meet them though, as its always good to have more family/friends.

If you find any of them don't want to meet or know you, just leave it, theyre in the same position probably and if they are happy with life as it is, they might not want to risk upsetting things with more new family members!

[Immenseman]

The thing is though they all have children and their own families and have settled down and whether I like it or not, I'm just a child :P I know they have the same Mum as me and stuff but I've never met them, what would we talk about? One of them has made it clear they want nothing to do with us, she has her own life and I respect that. I've met one and the other I've spied on Facebook. My Dads other son was taken from him by his partner, she just got up and left one day. My dad has tried to get back in contact and tried to find him to no avail.

I'm thinking I could send them a Christmas card and go from there, or maybe just have a casual encounter (not incest ;l) and get my mum to arrange them to come over her place for a coffee and then we can just get chatting about life and what not. I'll +REP some people when I get around to it.

[kk.]

Incest is the route to go obv

[Immenseman]

Been there, done that.

[kk.]

Was the product rob?

[Anamations]

Wow i bet that was alot to take in when u first heard it,

Thats Not easy but personally i would want to know my half brothers and sisters if i had any. And im sure there not just going to slam the door in your face get to know them and who knows anything can happen from there :) GoodLuck , Go For It

[Anamations]

Actually yeah thats a great idea send them an xmas card and a box of chocolates or something Lol , not a bad starting point especially once everyones in the festive mood .

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[Black_Apalachi]

Was the product rob?

I'm not related to him ;l

[Immenseman]

lmao if you were, post count and rep would be higher. i'd let no relative of mine be that trampy ;l

[Black_Apalachi]

lol what would you do about it :P

[scott]

I have the same sort of problem really, well no i don't but still. Last year i got told by my grandad that i had a half sister from my dad. I was quite shocked when i found out as she is only a year younger than me lol. He told me that she always said she wanted to meet me but i hadn't seen my dad in long enough to really want anything to do with them tbh, last week my grandad phoned me up to tell me that my dad was found dead and that this girl was pregnant and due in february. I met her mum because she was up in Glasgow and it was really akward just meeting her lol it is quite an akward time at the moment though because of the funeral and things but she will be in Glasgow today and tomorrow so it's planned that i will be meeting her then, mind you i will have no idea what to say. lol:(

Anywayyy the way i always seen it is they are older the should make an effort to get to know you was always the attitude i had with my dad, i know sisters and brothers are different but still.

[Charlottay!]

I have two half brothers. 1 who i have met and 1 who i havnt and dont even no his surname.

I managed to track down the youngest and ive spoken to him on fb and stuff but i still havent been able to find my other half brother.

I think if u wanna get to no that part of ur family then you should at least try and contact them.

[Narnat,]

Well i think you need to think about them aswell as their self. Wether they want to know you ( i dont mean that to sound harsh) and you dont know the back ground of them .. is there life hard at the moment. It's always great to get to know your family and there may be a great out come. I think you should try because you never know what the outcome will be, it could be amazing or not so amazing but you will never know unless you try. If things do go wrong then they go wrong you dont have a time machine to change it all back so i wouldnt blame yourself if it did. I would give it a go if i was you. Goodluck in what ever you choose to do ! i hope everything works out.

[Glitter]

Well all but one of my siblings is classed as a "half" brother / sister but I don't look at them like that. I think you should go for it and try and get to know them and not let the fact you don't know them yet get in the way. You only live once and I think you will regret it if you never try to get into contact with them so just go for it.


i'm ya only pure blood sibling ;)
and yeah jake, just go for it!

[Zak]

I'd defianatly try and get to know them.. they are you half brothers and sisters after all. They are still a part of your family wheter or not you knew about them.. They might be really nice people and really want to get to know you.. if they don't want to get to know you then forget about them

It's worth a shot mate :)

[Immenseman]

Well I saw my half sister again and saw my niece and nephew yay :]

[Zak]

I'm guessing it went well by the smiley in your post :)