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,Lexiilu
18-01-2010, 11:48 PM
I'm probably going to get a lot of immature answers but I honestly dont care.
alright so I was with a guy (lets call him M) for 11 months, and he broke up with me because he said we didn't talk enough. I still really like him and I want to get back together. Another guy called K has cancer and told me he really likes me and has for 3 years. He asked me not to tell anyone. I'm not really sure if I like him in a boyfriend way. Another guy named K.C. used to go to my school and he started talking to me, and now he's like in love with me after a couple months, and recently he's started calling me babe and saying he loves me, and we never see each other, plus one of my friends dated him before. HELP! what should I do ;[ +rep for helpful opinions, -rep for childish ones.
Yoshimitsui
18-01-2010, 11:51 PM
Well, what do you want most? Pursue that as doing so with someone your not fond if will not work out in the long run. If that fails you just have to move on and things change in time.
As for the people you don't like, telling them straight is better than not doing so at all.
RedStratocas
19-01-2010, 12:07 AM
jussayin, you didnt provide nearly enough information in this. for example, you mention how this k.c. guy loves you but you didnt even express your feelings towards him, which is whats most important in your decision. for all we know, you dont like him at all, so whats it matter?
as for K, if you say you "arent really sure" if you like him in that way then you definitely don't, especially if youre looking to spend all your time with him in a relationship.
so how i see it, this "m" guy is the only one you can date.
Isolde
19-01-2010, 12:10 AM
I'm probably going to get a lot of immature answers but I honestly dont care.
alright so I was with a guy (lets call him M) for 11 months, and he broke up with me because he said we didn't talk enough. I still really like him and I want to get back together. Another guy called K has cancer and told me he really likes me and has for 3 years. He asked me not to tell anyone. I'm not really sure if I like him in a boyfriend way. Another guy named K.C. used to go to my school and he started talking to me, and now he's like in love with me after a couple months, and recently he's started calling me babe and saying he loves me, and we never see each other, plus one of my friends dated him before. HELP! what should I do ;[ +rep for helpful opinions, -rep for childish ones.
first of all start by not sounding like you are full of yourself. Listen, the answer is right there in first few lines and you said it yourself "I still really like him and I want to get back together" i think he is the safer bet, you've been with him and he broke up with you because you two didn't talk enough maybe improve on your relationship and it could work out.
firstly ignore any rude comments baby girl :)
secondly just be honest, if you like matt tell him and try to make an effort and if you don't like the other two tell them, just cause he has the big c doesn't mean you should sympathy date him, that would be worse than telling him the truth :P
Grimmauld
19-01-2010, 01:16 AM
jus cause he has cancer doesnt mean you have to date him, your happiness counts too!
,Lexiilu
20-01-2010, 09:41 PM
ok...well thanks so far guys...
here's my little update...
I dont feel nearly the same about kc or k as I do about m (matt.) however yesterday one of my friends went up without my permission and asked him to take me back and of course I was just walking up when she did it and was too stunned to say anything. He said to her 'please go away.' and then I was like 'matt, why?!' and he's like 'PLEASEEEEEEEEE go away. I'm trying to be polite here!' there was a bunch of people there and now I'm extremely embarassed and I dont know if this means he wants to talk without anyone there or he's over me completely. I'm one of those people who also likes making everyone happy 24/7 so I feel bad rejecting k and kc. ;/
DieselShaq
23-01-2010, 03:04 PM
Well if you want to get back with Matt, just talk to him in private and see how it turns out. There's no sense in forcing things, so if he's not going to alter his decision, just let it go. With K, if you just feel sorry for him and date him just because he likes you, forget it. If you don't like him that way, don't do it. Same goes for KC. Don't you find it weird how you two "never see each other" and he seems to be madly in love with you? I don't see a point in a relationship if you two don't see each other.
If Matt doesn't change his mind, don't just go to either K or KC because you need someone. Think about it carefully first. My impression from your post is that you just want Matt and you don't even consider K or KC as potential boyfriends. Last thing, you would really seem like a tuls if you go for K or KC if Matt doesn't change his mind.
,Lexiilu
23-01-2010, 07:59 PM
Well if you want to get back with Matt, just talk to him in private and see how it turns out. There's no sense in forcing things, so if he's not going to alter his decision, just let it go. With K, if you just feel sorry for him and date him just because he likes you, forget it. If you don't like him that way, don't do it. Same goes for KC. Don't you find it weird how you two "never see each other" and he seems to be madly in love with you? I don't see a point in a relationship if you two don't see each other.
If Matt doesn't change his mind, don't just go to either K or KC because you need someone. Think about it carefully first. My impression from your post is that you just want Matt and you don't even consider K or KC as potential boyfriends. Last thing, you would really seem like a tuls if you go for K or KC if Matt doesn't change his mind.
yeah it is strange how kc 'loves me' and never sees me, and the stupid part is he's a known player ;/
I know I really like matt a lot even though he's not interested right now, but everyone keeps saying get over him even though its not that easy. I still really miss him. and of course I wouldnt want to be a tuls ;) thanks lol
Jack.Lfc
23-01-2010, 08:20 PM
i luv u can i be called j please?
iAdam
23-01-2010, 08:22 PM
jussayin, you didnt provide nearly enough information in this. for example, you mention how this k.c. guy loves you but you didnt even express your feelings towards him, which is whats most important in your decision. for all we know, you dont like him at all, so whats it matter?
as for K, if you say you "arent really sure" if you like him in that way then you definitely don't, especially if youre looking to spend all your time with him in a relationship.
so how i see it, this "m" guy is the only one you can date.
This man speaks the truth, through process of elimination, M is the only possible option. Sounds like he's the only one you have feelings towards aswell.
kuzkasate
24-01-2010, 05:47 PM
Go for Matt.. but before you do just be friends for a while.. talk a bit more, meet up a bit more if he says you dont talk to alot.
Once you do all those things, give it a shot.. see what happens ;)
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