What to do? +repp

[kuzkasate]

Basically, I've liked this girl for a few years now. She was in and out with me, she liked me, then didnt, like me, then didnt etc. So as soon as I tried getting over her she would tell me she likes me and I'd think I have a chance, then she'd say she doesnt anymore!

So basically, I have had two ideas..

1) At the moment, everyone is seeming to be ditching her and not wanting to be friends with her, including me, I was kinda moody with her & didnt speak to her for a few days for various reasons. We are like best friends & she used to be able to tell me everything and I told her everything and it worked! We understood each other, we like the same stuff etc. Anyway, lately its been been kinda me who starts the convos with her and normally it breaks up into an arguement or we just dont have a good convo. So i've tried ditching her & not talking to her, now shes started talking to me and it seems like its going back to normal.. so, what I could do is, with everyone ditching her, I could always be there for her like I used to and then maybe she will start liking me again..

OR

2) I could just tell her to do one and not speak to her, try forget her & completely blank her. But that means I'll be loosing a great friend and someone thats very close to me..

What should I do? 1 or 2 and why. +repps

(BTW YES I AM A GUY)

[Volumise]

I think you shouldnt give up just yet, and be there for her because she will be looking for someone to lean on since everyones ditching her. If she continues with the way she acts, I don't think that you should ditch her, you should just ignore her actions until she realises whats shes doing and by not ditching her, it shows that your a good friend.

[kuzkasate]

I think you shouldnt give up just yet, and be there for her because she will be looking for someone to lean on since everyones ditching her. If she continues with the way she acts, I don't think that you should ditch her, you should just ignore her actions until she realises whats shes doing and by not ditching her, it shows that your a good friend.

Thats exactly my thoughts, but im just sick off gettin hurt. she used to go out with my best friend and has fancied soo manyy guys.. i want a relationship, which i think it will lead to, but i dont know how long i gotta wait for her.. and im sick of waiting. +repp

[Smits]

I'd say go down the friend route. Don't ditch her because that#'s really low. Everyone goes through bad spells and yo should be there for her if everyone else is ditching her.

Even if she doesnt start to like you again, at least you'll still have a good friend because trust me, girls make great friends.

[22andy2231]

number 1 dont leave her. stay with her and be there for her when she needs you most. . stay friends and build that friendship up untill you both get to the stage where you both notice that you are ment to be with each other. . .

but i suppose if u 4get her it woud be easier to move on. . but what if you never find sum1 like her again. . .i say u keep her close 2 u but also try and move on at the same time


but hope it all goes well for ye

[Hollie]

The first one, you shouldn't just ditch friends so stay with her and help her through it when everyone keeps ditching her. If you stay great friends then maybe she will realise how great you are for eachother but try not to bring it up when your around her as it might make her feel awkward or under pressure. If you ditched her then I don't think you would stand a chance with her because she might think your untrustworthy because of it.
Hope this helps.

[DieselShaq]

3. Ignore her. She was probably playing with you when she was on and off. If you just ignore her (like, just stop talking to her), she'll figure something is wrong. If she cares enough, she'd try get you to tell her what's wrong. Then you can sort everything out in one go, e.g. telling her that you've liked her for so long but she's been on and off and you don't know what's going on etc. If she doesn't talk to you, just forget about her. Not worth your time.

[Stryderman]

Im not gonna lie getting with your best friend like never works so i suggest you just ignore your feelings for her find someone else and just be there for her like a friend should be.

[Describe]

Hey mate.

So as soon as I tried getting over her she would tell me she likes me and I'd think I have a chance, then she'd say she doesnt anymore!
This sounds like she is taking the piss. I know a few girls who have done the same to a friend and I've experienced it myself and it always seems to be that the reaction that they get back from the guy is what they're wanting. It's a form of attention seeking. If you like fooling around, hanging on and waiting for something to happen then by all means do so but if you actually want to get with her you tell her straight, stop the ******* around.

There is no point in losing a friend, especially if she's a great friend because there is nothing worse really. Ask her to have a talk with you and make sure you emphasise that what you're talking about is serious (that your serious about it) and if she does/doesn't want to be with you she is to give you a decision so that you could get on with it. If she wants you, then fine, you get with her but if you don't, you remain friends. Just tell her to stop the up and down like a YO-YO ****.

:)

[cocaine]

ditch her. shes playing with you and messing you around. if you carry on as you were, it'll continue and as you've said she'll say she likes you then go back on her word. find someone who isnt gonna do that with you

[Shar]

Thats exactly my thoughts, but im just sick off gettin hurt. she used to go out with my best friend and has fancied soo manyy guys.. i want a relationship, which i think it will lead to, but i dont know how long i gotta wait for her.. and im sick of waiting. +repp
I think it's time to show her that you are sick of waiting and see whether she actually feels the same way or not otherwise she's going to do it again and again
That way you can actually start getting over her properly. :)

[kuzkasate]

I'd say go down the friend route. Don't ditch her because that#'s really low. Everyone goes through bad spells and yo should be there for her if everyone else is ditching her.

Even if she doesnt start to like you again, at least you'll still have a good friend because trust me, girls make great friends.

I dont want to ditch her, but maybe it for the best?


number 1 dont leave her. stay with her and be there for her when she needs you most. . stay friends and build that friendship up untill you both get to the stage where you both notice that you are ment to be with each other. . .

but i suppose if u 4get her it woud be easier to move on. . but what if you never find sum1 like her again. . .i say u keep her close 2 u but also try and move on at the same time


but hope it all goes well for ye

tbh, i think we will end up having a relationship, sooner or later. i just have that feeling.. & sometimes she shows it too.


The first one, you shouldn't just ditch friends so stay with her and help her through it when everyone keeps ditching her. If you stay great friends then maybe she will realise how great you are for eachother but try not to bring it up when your around her as it might make her feel awkward or under pressure. If you ditched her then I don't think you would stand a chance with her because she might think your untrustworthy because of it.
Hope this helps.

Well I've thought about this post, it helped me a lot. I thought that I will always have time to ditch her if it comes to that, but I might not get a chance to be close friends with her ever again!


3. Ignore her. She was probably playing with you when she was on and off. If you just ignore her (like, just stop talking to her), she'll figure something is wrong. If she cares enough, she'd try get you to tell her what's wrong. Then you can sort everything out in one go, e.g. telling her that you've liked her for so long but she's been on and off and you don't know what's going on etc. If she doesn't talk to you, just forget about her. Not worth your time.

I did this for a few days. She kept on smiling and waving at me and I just turned away. She then later on kept on asking me what was up and I told her everything.. and it was basically all sorted out.


Im not gonna lie getting with your best friend like never works so i suggest you just ignore your feelings for her find someone else and just be there for her like a friend should be.

well he doesnt like her & she doesnt like him so yano. i've been waiting for absolute years for her.. and hes had her all this time. he didnt really think how i would feel did he? so yano. i deserve a bit of happiness too. anyway, she never told him anything, she always came to me for that and thats why im so close with her. my best friend gets jelous easily lol


Hey mate.

This sounds like she is taking the piss. I know a few girls who have done the same to a friend and I've experienced it myself and it always seems to be that the reaction that they get back from the guy is what they're wanting. It's a form of attention seeking. If you like fooling around, hanging on and waiting for something to happen then by all means do so but if you actually want to get with her you tell her straight, stop the ******* around.

There is no point in losing a friend, especially if she's a great friend because there is nothing worse really. Ask her to have a talk with you and make sure you emphasise that what you're talking about is serious (that your serious about it) and if she does/doesn't want to be with you she is to give you a decision so that you could get on with it. If she wants you, then fine, you get with her but if you don't, you remain friends. Just tell her to stop the up and down like a YO-YO ****.

:)

Thanks a lot :) I dont want to tell her I like her yet because I've noticed that, when i tell her i like her, she starts to freak out abit. when i mention i dont, like in a few weeks she says she likes me, so its best if she doesnt know about it yet i think ;) or ill wait for the right moment to tell her, once i see a sign lol


ditch her. shes playing with you and messing you around. if you carry on as you were, it'll continue and as you've said she'll say she likes you then go back on her word. find someone who isnt gonna do that with you

thats not easy lol. but i think i should give her one more chance.


I think it's time to show her that you are sick of waiting and see whether she actually feels the same way or not otherwise she's going to do it again and again
That way you can actually start getting over her properly. :)
She doesnt feel the same way atm, but I just know, that sooner or later, something is bound to happen between us!


Anyway, a little bit of extra info. I went fair with her today and her annoying little cousin lol. It was excellent, we had a really good time and spent ages together, then we had some deep convos, so yeah it was all good :)

thanks everyone, ill +repp who-ever i can ;)

[cocaine]

thats not easy lol. but i think i should give her one more chance.

its not supposed to be easy, ive been in exactly your situation, i did what i suggested above there now im far happier than i would be if i was still chasing her round. sure it sucks at first but you'll start to see the benefits in the long run once you get over her. but its your call, so good luck with whatever you do :)

[kuzkasate]

its not supposed to be easy, ive been in exactly your situation, i did what i suggested above there now im far happier than i would be if i was still chasing her round. sure it sucks at first but you'll start to see the benefits in the long run once you get over her. but its your call, so good luck with whatever you do :)

thanks. i just know something will happen and i know its not gonna happen now.. maybe in some time, but i can see us together & i can see us two working.. thanks a lot for the advice :)

[Gibs960]

I reckon you should just talk to her, and ask her weather she likes you as a friend or as a boyfriend. Even if it results in an argument, it will answer un-answered questions. Hope this short answer helped. P.S. Girls are difficult when it comes to stuff like this.

[kuzkasate]

I reckon you should just talk to her, and ask her weather she likes you as a friend or as a boyfriend. Even if it results in an argument, it will answer un-answered questions. Hope this short answer helped. P.S. Girls are difficult when it comes to stuff like this.

Yeah, tell me about it!!
I know she doesnt want me as a boyfriend YET. I just know, that if we carry on being close like this, somethings bound to happen and she even admitted it herself. so yano. i cant +repp you cos i gotta spread! :(