In marriage, do you believe that the woman should take the mans name?

[Gemma]

Your opinion?

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[Special]

yeah because its been like that for 100's of years why change now

[dbgtz]

yeah it shows a symbol of unity

[Nikki]

i know alot of women are against it now, i personally dont see a problem with it, its a traditional part of marriages.

[Caution]

Yeah, that's how it's always been done.

[alexxxxx]

it's up to choice, i know some people who've gotten married and kept their names. and others who've barreled them.

[Hollie]

well obviously most people do, but i dont see a problem with it not being, and also, why cant the man change his name to the womans?

[Wig44.]

It's a tradition that should be upheld in my opinion. At least if some feminists speak out against this we will actually know they are still alive!

[Grig]

I think if the woman feels strongly against it, then maybe not because say I married someone and my surname is quite long and hard to pronounce, she may not want to take it etc.

[Metric1]

it complicates things when BOTH of your parents have hyphenated last names. Technically I can have my choice of four (4) last names. I believe she should.. or she should hyphenate it.

[LoveToStack]

She should be taking more than his name if you know what I'm saying.

[Niall!]

yeah because its been like that for 100's of years why change now

Because us radical feminists should not be expected to take on some man pigs name!

WE'RE HERE, WE'RE QUEER

Oh wait. Wrong slogan.

[TheEclipse]

No, I don't think so. I wouldn't mind, but only if the name doesn't sound completely stupid/bad with my first name. I would ask my fiancee to take my first name, or perhaps we come up with a third totally different name that is ours so both of our names change. Or, I keep my own name, he keeps his, no hyphenating, and the kids can have one of our surnames. I don't really like hyphens because of the reasons mentioned by other people. Unless they do what I wrote in a fantasy novel once where everyone has two surnames and when you're married you keep your own name and the kids have one name from each of you.

[Faboosh]

I don't particularly think that it should have to be the woman that has to change her name but I agree that both partners should have the same last name, It shows that they are united.

[Shar]

I don't particularly think that it should have to be the woman that has to change her name but I agree that both partners should have the same last name, It shows that they are united.
I agree with this :)
But personally I don't want to change my name, but idk I might end up doing it anyway.

[HotelUser]

I think whatever floats your boat is fine. Personally I would like my spouse and I to have the same last name. If she really wanted to keep her last name I don't mind taking it, or getting a hyphenated name.

[Nicola]

I wouldn't mind changing my last name although I do like it.

I agree with what Faboosh said about having the same last name shows that you're united.

[kuzkasate]

I think they should, cos its almost a commitment in some way. But then again, if the husbands surname is something like "fathead" then I dont think anyone would wanna take a surname like that.

[Mathew]

It's a matter of what the couple think together rather than whether it "should" happen or not.
Personally, for traditions sake, I do think the woman should take the man's surname unless either person feels strongly against it.

[dirrty]

well in my case where my last name is double-barrelled, yes she should. would be effort when it came to deciding what our children's last name would be unless she was willing for her surname to be their middle name or just exclude hers completely.

[Gibs960]

Some people say it shows unity like said in this thread but I don't know, I wouldn't force my wife (If I ever have a wife) to change her name to mine. :)

[Angel-Light]

Personally I would take up the husband's name and not have barrelled as my surname is already 10 letters long :P

Overall though I think it would really be a personal thing though everybody I know who has got married has taken the husband's name

[Soy]

yes. I do.

[karter]

Women should but i dont think children should keep the name of fathers only.

[-:Undertaker:-]

A woman should take the mans name and then get back to her ironing.

[HotelUser]

A woman should take the mans name and then get back to her ironing.

I thought that was a completely unnecessary remark in a previously perfectly fine thread.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I thought that was a completely unnecessary remark in a previously perfectly fine thread.

Give the political correctness a rest, its a joke in a laid back thread.
I knew i'd get a avid PC response from someone, which was partly why I included it in my post.

[HotelUser]

Give the political correctness a rest, its a joke in a laid back thread.
I knew i'd get a avid PC response from someone, which was partly why I included it in my post.

I don't mean anything bad against you Danny, it just sort of irritates me that we can't keep that stuff to the spam section, I wouldn't like HxF if everyone didn't act like the young adults most people here really are, but because of that this usually isn't even an issue :P

[,Lexiilu]

No, I don't think so. I wouldn't mind, but only if the name doesn't sound completely stupid/bad with my first name. I would ask my fiancee to take my first name, or perhaps we come up with a third totally different name that is ours so both of our names change. Or, I keep my own name, he keeps his, no hyphenating, and the kids can have one of our surnames. I don't really like hyphens because of the reasons mentioned by other people. Unless they do what I wrote in a fantasy novel once where everyone has two surnames and when you're married you keep your own name and the kids have one name from each of you.

i actually barely understand that atm

anyways i think i probably would unless he had an awful surname. i most likely wouldn't hyphenate my name as my surname is seven letters already, but if i really wanted to then i might. i dont know anyone who hasnt taken their husband's last name.

i had a teacher who got married while i was young and she was still subbing for us sometimes and she got married and her new name is Mrs. Kim Friends. ew.

[Narnat,]

i know this might sound really stupid and weird but like ive always imagened a family getting married and picking there own last name neither taking from the woman or man's sir name. because my mum has always said to me that were her family but I often think but your mum and dad are your family aswell but she always says thats wrong that were her family now. It's complicated to explain but yeah

[PaulMacC]

I dont really mind, my last name isn't anything special D;

[GoldenMerc]

Yeh i wouln't marry unless that was to happen. due to i want my familys name to live on, not just die out.

[Black_Apalachi]

The only reason really is tradition, which in my eyes is a **** reason for most things. In this day and age I wouldn't be surprised if the fact it's always the man's name is questioned. I imagine a marriage feels better with the same name so I'd be inclined to say just choose whichever is the better name (if they can agree lol) but then again I don't think I've ever heard of a man taking his wife's name so that would probably be weird

Wow, this thread was older than I realised.

[Moh]

My question is, what's she doing out the kitchen!?

Jokes. I think traditionally yes, unless it's a funny last name, then she has all the right to want her last name.

It also causes problems if you get a divorce too.