Gay Relationships

[Becca]

Basically, my friend has just turned bi/les and she has a girlfriend. They were texting and at the end of some messages it would say something like "really love you xx" in more than just a friend way. Later on that month, her dad found out about her having a relationship with a female. When she got home from school, he broke her phone and screamed at her. He told her that she could never speak to her again.

Something like this has happened to me, but not going in to much detail, I don't think it's fair.
What do you think about it?

[Nemo]

If they like the same sex then that's their choice, and who they are. Ain't gonna stop my child being happy

[Special]

omg if that happened to me i would have told him to literally **** off and i would have walked off & done exatly what he said - never to talk to him again. nah i wouldn't lower myself to that no way

this could very well happen to me with me being gay and whatever & if it does i stick by my word. if my own family can't accept me they can *REMOVED*

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[Becca]

he just reckons we're ****** up kids tbh

[buttons]

although i don't agree with him doing that, she shouldn't be doing stuff like that behind his back. i'd be pissed off if i had to find out through someone/something else that my daughter/son was having a relationship with someone of the same sex....
i'd tell my mum beforehand so she can come to accept it and if she didn't id do the same as special probably

[rnix]

i have a boyfriend and my parents know nothing.. heck they think my friend is my girl friend :L

[buttons]

i have a boyfriend and my parents know nothing.. heck they think my friend is my girl friend :L
are you that ashamed of your boyfriend/sexuality:S i "love" you connor lol great way to show it

[rnix]

are you that ashamed of your boyfriend/sexuality:S i "love" you connor lol great way to show it

No its cause i hate my parents with a passion and hardly ever speak with them so i don't feel like the should be involved with my life.

[Nemo]

although i don't agree with him doing that, she shouldn't be doing stuff like that behind his back. i'd be pissed off if i had to find out through someone/something else that my daughter/son was having a relationship with someone of the same sex....
i'd tell my mum beforehand so she can come to accept it and if she didn't id do the same as special probably
Not really, not everyone is always ready (from what ive heard) to come out to their parents, for that exact reaction. Also like i said before, not everyone is sure if they're gay, so coming out as being gay then being like o nvm, i dont think that'd be so great :p


i dno why i talk as if i know, but yeh. ^^

[Kieran]

i have a boyfriend and my parents know nothing.. heck they think my friend is my girl friend :L

Haha :D

My mum knows I prefer guys... no idea if she ever told my dad.. Think it became a bit obvious when I was stopping round at a friends house all the time ;)

[buttons]

okay fair enough

yeh i know niamh but most people don't just go out with guys or girls when they're not sure their sexuality, it's not like "i might be gay so i'll date a guy". i know you don't need to tell your parents if you're unsure (that's why i don't) but i'm not gonna date a girl till i know, that'd just be stupid & unfair on them. plus people will know about it if you're dating someone of same sex, so it's basically already as though you've came out...:S

[HotelUser]

turned gay? As in--like suddenly overnight, right :P

What parents don't know wont hurt them, especially when it means the difference between them being proud of you, or ashamed. I'm not saying that's right, but that's how a lot of parents would feel!

[Gibs960]

If I was gay, I wouldn't tell my dad because he'd probably do this :( But I'd tell my mum cos she'd understand more :)

[dbgtz]

Hypothetically I could easily tell my parents (by easily I mean I couldn't literally go "hey im gay" but I know no real consequences will follow like in the example), my dad will only be pissed if I kept it from him. Even then pissed is just like "why didn't you tell me?" in this situation.

[gangstaagent1]

Meh, I don't think it's right. I mean yeah they brought you into this world but once they do they can't really control who you turn out to be.. I mean I know if my parents had the choice they wouldn't want me to be bi? I plan on leaving the house and never coming back when I am 18 so why should I let them into something they don't need to know?

[Nicola]

I don't agree with what he did because I think he should be supportive of her seeing as it's something new to her and can probably be very confusing.

I think maybe he's just really confused and mad at the fact she didn't tell him. He'll probably calm down and talk to her soon.

[Cosmic]

I think the situation seems incredibly harsh. Both my parents know and they are both fine with it, luckily. I think it takes so much courage to tell parents about sexuality and I can only imagine what it must feel like for them to react in a bad way.

[Becca]

although i don't agree with him doing that, she shouldn't be doing stuff like that behind his back. i'd be pissed off if i had to find out through someone/something else that my daughter/son was having a relationship with someone of the same sex....
i'd tell my mum beforehand so she can come to accept it and if she didn't id do the same as special probably
My dad isn't really the person you'd talk to about that. He'd probably end up doing the same thing if I told him.

[Soy]

http://www.220.ro/desene-animate/Family-Guy-4x19-Brian-Sings-And-Swings-Part-2/68PCsSCy83/

1:02 my reaction would be like that

[Becca]

LOLLLLLLLLLLLL Omg, I love that

[.iNova.]

I wouldn't be able to tell anyone. It's not right in my house. Wrong, I know, but true.

[Samantha]

I haven't really read all of the thread so I'll just jump in. I know I could tell my parents if I was a different sexuality if I chose to, but I would really choose not to, I know they would be supportive and follow me in any decision I make but I wouldn't be ready to tell them yet.

Becca, her Dad may have been in a state of shock and may have to warm to the idea. But he still shouldn't have forbid her from ever speaking to her again. He should support her, or in time support her, not make her self esteem go down.

Her dad may have made her think she had done something wrong, in which she hasn't this could corrupt her confidence and may not be able to trust some people anymore. However, I think that your friend should have been quiet about it, and told her family in time before anyone else, then it wouldn't have got round to her dad without her knowing.

[BobX]

something that baffles me is the need to tell people like your sexuality and just brand yourself. i really dont see why people have to know or you should tell people. you dont tell people that you are straight do you? so i dont see why there should be a rule to "coming out" or whatever.
if i ever got into a relationship with a guy and someone said to me "you never told me you were gay" i would reply "you never asked" and it isnt their business anyway really..

just my thought