View Full Version : Should your current BF/GF be mad if you're friends with an ex?
ChickenFaces
12-07-2010, 02:36 PM
I mean, can you really be friends with an ex and be fine with it, or do you think that those feelings are still going to be there?
And should your current significant other be upset about it if you're really close to them?
I personally think that people can be friends with their exes and if they're really close with them then the current BF/GF should respect that. (:
Thoughts?
Abciscool
12-07-2010, 02:39 PM
Wow, my mate thought it would be cool to be with my ex :l, i left him to die in a hole
If there's no trust in a relationship then there's no point having a relationship
Calvin
12-07-2010, 02:51 PM
I think they can be friends, aslong as theres nothing going on. The BF/GF should respect that you're friends with your ex, they may be a bit suspicious at first but you shouldn't not be friends with your ex because your BF/GF says so.
Lindsey
12-07-2010, 02:52 PM
Gosh, i really hate this topic. I enjoy being friends with my exs, like right now. I'm close to my ex Devyn, and my current Boyfriend Chris, doesn't really like it ;l
Pyroka
12-07-2010, 02:54 PM
im great mates with one of my ex's. other one hates my guts tbh LOL
No, there should be trust in a relationship, if there's no trust then the relationship isn't that strong really.
Glitter
12-07-2010, 02:59 PM
Tbh it depends on the situation, if my boyfriend had been going out with someone for a year and they were his first love and all that crap then I wouldnt like them being friends, I trust him but I wouldn't feel comfortable with it, but if it was like someone he was seeing a for a few months then ye that wouldnt matter to me.
Mikey
12-07-2010, 03:03 PM
I think the boyfriend/girlfriend should let the person in question be friends with there ex. It's there choice and the boyfriend/girlfriend should have trust in the person there going out with.
Nah, People Should Be able to trust people in a relationship
ChickenFaces
12-07-2010, 03:11 PM
Yeah but wouldn't you be a little uncomfortable/jealous if the person you're currently in a relationship with is really close with someone who they used to be intimate with?
Yeah but wouldn't you be a little uncomfortable/jealous if the person you're currently in a relationship with is really close with someone who they used to be intimate with?
I'd be pissed off and just speak to the guy
Yeah but wouldn't you be a little uncomfortable/jealous if the person you're currently in a relationship with is really close with someone who they used to be intimate with?
Very uncomfortable and jealous lol
Lindsey
12-07-2010, 03:20 PM
Yeah but wouldn't you be a little uncomfortable/jealous if the person you're currently in a relationship with is really close with someone who they used to be intimate with?
yeah, .. but you would to have to understand that, they like you. , (: . i dunno ;D
Becca
12-07-2010, 03:22 PM
They shouldn't be jealous, they should just get over it.
but when they tell you stories about them, it goes too far.
wiktoria
12-07-2010, 03:36 PM
No, there should be trust in a relationship, if there's no trust then the relationship isn't that strong really.
Yeah, this.
Special
12-07-2010, 03:44 PM
not at all, i'd say that's nothing more than jealousy
Nicola
13-07-2010, 03:14 PM
Tbh it depends on the situation, if my boyfriend had been going out with someone for a year and they were his first love and all that crap then I wouldnt like them being friends, I trust him but I wouldn't feel comfortable with it, but if it was like someone he was seeing a for a few months then ye that wouldnt matter to me.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
I've never really been friends with my exes after we broke up, none of them lasted long so there would be no reason to worry. I've probably spoken to them like once since but that's about it.
FlyingJesus
13-07-2010, 10:39 PM
There's only like 3 girls I talk to who aren't an ex, so yeah good luck trying to make me stop seeing the already small number of women that I don't find utterly repulsive
If there's no trust in a relationship then there's no point having a relationship
This ^^
If you can't trust the person with other people, even their exes, it ruins everything, I learnt that the hard way lol.
Samantha
16-07-2010, 04:07 PM
I get jealous sometimes, but then I take a step back, if they liked that person in that way then they would be with them not you.
My boyfriend used to get jealous I'm sure, because I used to always say I hated my ex, he always said well don't talk to him then. But when me and the current boyfriend broke up I got closer to my ex. And now i'm back with him we're not really close.
I trust my boyfriend 100% but I would allow him to be friends with his ex, as long as he didn't blow me off for her, and rather spoke to her than me etc.
scott
17-07-2010, 10:58 AM
Like someone said jealousy is part of it, some people get wayyyyyy more jealous than others. I know sometimes I can get really jealous about stuff and it's just really something that you can switch on and off. I think it depends about the ex bf/gf thing depending on how close friends they are, I think in the back of your mind you'll be thinking they used to be together what happens if it all starts back up again!
Sharon
17-07-2010, 09:07 PM
Don't think I've posted here.
No because if they are their not worth it.
Matthew
17-07-2010, 09:50 PM
If there's no trust in a relationship then there's no point having a relationship
Was going to write this and then I saw your post :(
Samantha.
17-07-2010, 10:05 PM
I think if they trust you they should be okay with it and understand that you wont cheat on them with your ex, but if there is no trust their just going to get paranoid which cause friction between the couple which could lead to a breakup.
HotelUser
18-07-2010, 12:07 AM
If your partner had been broken up with by their old partner then yes I think you're entitled to some jealousy because obviously there's a very good chance there could be some unresolved feelings towards that person.
I wouldn't want to be close to an ex, anywho, if I knew it was going to bother who I'm currently with!
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