Granddad dead,

[iBlueBox]

Yeah, well my granddad jimmy died early hours in the morning. But the thing is, i'm not close to him or my dads side of the family. I think i only seen him like 3 times. The only memory i have of him is him being lazy. In bed watching tv, was never close to him, but i don't really feel for his death. But i might be asked to carry his coffin, but i don't want to. I didn't cry or anything when i found out. As he was never really a granddad the way i see it.

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[Swastika]

You don't get to choose your family, carry his coffin - you might regret not doing so one day.

[Mathew]

You don't get to choose your family, carry his coffin - you might regret not doing so one day.

I agree with this. Family is family :)

Sorry to hear about your loss! :(

[=Lizzy]

You don't get to choose your family, carry his coffin - you might regret not doing so one day.

I agree, you might regret it! I think you should carry it

[louder]

nah it aint a bad thing mate. was the same with my grandma (great nan). & i used to see her like every 2 weeks.
i just never felt close to her.

and just say you don't wanna carry the coffin. people will understand. dont have to do anything you dont wanna at a funeral.

[Shar]

You don't get to choose your family, carry his coffin - you might regret not doing so one day.
I also agree with this. He's still part of your family, and you might regret it if you don't. I think you should carry it :)

[Metric1]

he might have left u money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iBlueBox]

he might have left u money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nah, He probably forgot about me. Thank god, i haven't been asked to carry his coffin though.

[Catzsy]

Nah, He probably forgot about me. Thank god, i haven't been asked to carry his coffin though.

Well I sure you will be there to support any family who were closer to him. Just because he was your Grandad doesn't automatically mean you will grieve for him. You would have to have quite a longstanding emotional attachment to do that.

[Samantha.]

You don't get to choose your family, carry his coffin - you might regret not doing so one day.

I agree, you can't choose your family! You will probably regret it and not forgive yourself for not doing it.
I'm sorry for your loss

[AgnesIO]

I think refusing to do anything you get asked to do for the wedding would be selfish.

This i one of your parent's dads - how would you feel if you have kids in a few years times, then your dad dies - then they turn around and say 'I don't care'.

[Blinger$]

I was / am not close to any of my family, only one cousin. The rest I couldn't care if they carked it. I mean, i never see them, they live on the otherside of the world!

[Repair]

My Granddad died back in 2005, early hours of Halloween. We were extremely close, he was family too. Halloween has never been the same, and you need to be there for your family. As said before, its one of your parents dads, how would you feel if your kids did the same. People will need support in this sort of situation and I'm sure that some of them will rely on you! If you get the opportunity then carry the coffin.

[The Don]

I would carry it, paying your last respects to him and all... Sorry to hear your loss even if you weren't close

[Nuxty]

I'm really sorry to hear that. You can't choose your family as people have said, but it should be your choice as to whether you are comfortable carrying the coffin. If you feel in your heart you want to, then go ahead and do it. However if it feels awkward then I am sure your family will understand.

I hope everything goes well for you! :)