Tips on making friends

[Dean]

Okay, so I know a lot of people will be starting college/sixth form tomorrow and me and of course Tara also have the same problem.

Obviously we'll make friends somehow, but we just wanted to know...

What are your tips on making friends?

I just find it so awkward walking into a room of people you don't know. :S

+rep for any good tips!

Thread moved by dinasaw (Forum Super Moderator) 'Discuss Anything'

[Special]

don't really know, it comes natural

but talk to people and smile at them is all i can suggest

[wixard]

l m a o x2 this thread

to be honest whoever i get sat next too i'll try strike up conversation but i've no idea what to say
it'll come to me when it happens, and it will be genius

[Alexx..]

i wanna know this also, but i'm a shy quiet person so i'm buggered already.

[Meanies]

make sure you sit next to someone who seems like a laugh and talk to them and then if the teacher keeps a seating plan of how it was in the first lesson ul be friends with person next to u ;o then just get to know evryone else gradually

[Special]

it takes time with some people, but honestly it will come eventually - i'd say it's impossible not to make new friends within a few months unless you literally don't speak to people

[wixard]

im just going to ask did they ever play habbo

[Meanies]

im just going to ask did they ever play habbo

instant nobody

[Dean]

I've been told that I'd make friends easily 'cause I'm a nice person and everything but eurgh, I just don't know how I'm gonna approach them and hopefully the people aren't rough are mean to me. Don't wanna die on my first day. :$

[Alexx..]

i'll just say "do you know how much a polar bear weighs?"
if they say "idk" i'll say me neither but it broke the ice then if they laugh i'm sweet but if they give me a weird look i'll toddle on.

[Special]

I've been told that I'd make friends easily 'cause I'm a nice person and everything but eurgh, I just don't know how I'm gonna approach them and hopefully the people aren't rough are mean to me. Don't wanna die on my first day. :$

if you're scared to approach them, let them approach you. are you starting later than everyone else or are you all starting on the same day?

[Rixion]

Basically just try strike conversation and see where it goes from there.

[wixard]

instant nobody

sorry i think i'm going to be the queen bee of the whole place

[Dean]

if you're scared to approach them, let them approach you. are you starting later than everyone else or are you all starting on the same day?

what if they don't approach me :'(

and we all start at the same time

[Con]

I did the whole "let them approach me" :L
Worked in one lesson simply because we were told to get into a group of 4 and the three people behind me said "hey, do you wanna work with us"
So that was cool.
but in my other two subjects I've pretty much sat by myself, and spoke to people when needed to :P
This week though im planning on just talking about whatever possible to anyone I sit next to and just hope for the best.

To be honest, with making friends the best thing to do is be confident. (Even if your not liek me :L)

[Narnat,]

I think it's really important to be yourself. You can't friends by lieing about who you really are. As said above it comes naturally! Good luck :)

[Danzilla]

Just act yourself and your make new friends without knowing it, if you try to hard they will notice.
When i first went to college, i didn't plan on making new friends as i had my usual lot outside of college but i ended up making loads in my new college just by acting myself.
Its easy. Confidence does help though.

[Etc]

Haha i've been at University for 6 months, and it's really great, the lifestyle, the freedom, really cool people (minus the intensive work :()...
It's been 6 months and most of my best mates are actually my new uni friends, whom I meant on my 2nd week of uni...

Here are some tips for you:
1. BE YOURSELF - Although its ineivitable to act nicer/mroe conservative around new people, try to be yourself. I hate people who act different just to try to get people to talk to themm.

2. Be confident - I'm an extremely talkative/social person so it's always good to just talk to people in lectures/tuts (don't sit near the front, because this is the are where people generally WANT to learn at uni, and probably won't want to talk haha).
If you see someone in a lecture, don't be nervous, go say hi. University, unlike school is MASSIVE, there are around 1200 people doing a course. The worst that can happen is they say "Go away", and you won't have to see them again. Their loss :).

3. Don't mention gaming - as contradicting to my first tip as it is, don't mention habbo, or gaming. Not yet anyways. My uni friends don't know I play habbo, games etc and although i'm sure they wouldn't give a damn, it's not a good start to say "Hey, do you play this, or that".

Uh, thats about it for now :) Enjoy college life!

[buttons]

don't be ugly


make the effort to talk to different people
you'll soon find groups forming within the first week

i just sat next to the good looking people but they were brain dead n soon found funny people

[Minstrels]

If it's a place where you know the majority of people wont know each other walk in with the mindset that you're all in the same position, nobody in that room knows anyone minus the odd exception so you're all feeling the same. You want to come across as one of the confident ones because let's face it, nobody really wants to know the people who look low on confidence. Dress good because then you know you look good so that's something you don't need to worry about. If you're doing icebreakers and the room is asked if anyone wants to go first then wait around for a few seconds, if nobody volunteers then volunteer yourself. As the first person talking about yourself people will use what you say and swap it for themselves. So say you talk about where you're from, music you're into and what you like to do the next person who goes up will most likely talk about where they're from, music they're into and what they like to do. Because you were the first up and set the trend so to speak then they'll instantly look at you as a guiding figure even if all you've done is spoken for three minutes and sat back down again.

If you don't have icebreakers just talk about random stuff to the people near you although icebreakers are a common thing so I'd be surprised if you didn't have one.

[HotelUser]

I wouldn't exactly call myself the guru of having the know how to make lots of friends although I can say I'm happy with the amount, and friends I do have and I think I've gotten close to them by simply being involved in similar activities particularly revolving around school therefore engaging in social conversations is inevitable.