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JerseySafety
22-09-2010, 10:57 AM
Well recently (week or so) my GF told me at school that she was pregnant.
Now, it's a pretty big deal to me, maybe not you guys but it was all my fault and that. I haven't talked to her parents about anything and I don't really want to (but have to) but what advice can you give?
Like what can I say to her because we are angry at each other.
Oh yeah also I'm pretty depressed because of this and because my close mate is in hospital after he had a car accident on his way to a party (I was meant to go with him, but went to GFs instead) so now I'm thinking thats my fault.
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Special
22-09-2010, 12:22 PM
Well recently (week or so) my GF told me at school that she was pregnant.
Now, it's a pretty big deal to me, maybe not you guys but it was all my fault and that. I haven't talked to her parents about anything and I don't really want to (but have to) but what advice can you give?
Like what can I say to her because we are angry at each other.
Oh yeah also I'm pretty depressed because of this and because my close mate is in hospital after he had a car accident on his way to a party (I was meant to go with him, but went to GFs instead) so now I'm thinking thats my fault.
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'pretty big deal'? it's a life-long commintment is being a father and i'd be much more conernened
you also have to realise she could be lieing for whatever reason, so until you have clear proof don't open your mouth to anyone
after that is esablished, you need to work something out between yourself. either go ahead with the pregenancy, have the baby aborted or adopted. also how old are you & her? if you're older than her, you could get into trouble with the police and if you're both under 16 anyway then you could have the child took off you and put into care
as for the car crash incident, it's not your fault at all so don't worry about that.
JerseySafety
22-09-2010, 12:31 PM
I want the baby aborted, she doesn't, so were sorting that out. Yeah we are both 16 and I know it was me because me & her had DNA all that stuff.
Meanies
22-09-2010, 01:04 PM
lolgutted
but more seriously decide whatd be best for both of you and the baby cus whatever way you look at it, having a kid so young will hold you back a lot in life
Minstrels
22-09-2010, 01:59 PM
How old are you
I want the baby aborted, she doesn't, so were sorting that out. Yeah we are both 16 and I know it was me because me & her had DNA all that stuff.
lol. youre 16, and youve had a dna test to see if the baby was yours?
id personally abort. It'll ruin your life if youre planning on going college and uni and stuff.
lol. youre 16, and youve had a dna test to see if the baby was yours?
id personally abort. It'll ruin your life if youre planning on going college and uni and stuff.
You made that sound like Jeremy Kyle lool
Anyway ive been in a similar situation to this.
Buy a pregnancy test make her do it while you are present so theres no way she can tamper with it or get someone else to use it. It could be she is 100% telling the truth and if she is you have to go from there, I suggest you do nothing until youve done that and then if she is pregnant speak to your parents before you tell any of your friends etc cos tbh its not something to be proud of, not at 16. And at the end of the day you cant push her into getting an abortion as shes carrying it around with her not you and if she wants to keep it imo you should respect that. If you force her into getting rid of it then she might not take it so well.
Talk to her about it and what you can do together just dont ditch her now cos thats just immature an pathetic.
JerseySafety
23-09-2010, 04:53 AM
I wont ditch her, I know it's ours because we've had heaps of tests and I'm not trying to force her, just stating the facts to her and saying it'd ruin our life.
It's even more annoying when another girl is trying to ask you out -.-
I wont ditch her, I know it's ours because we've had heaps of tests and I'm not trying to force her, just stating the facts to her and saying it'd ruin our life.
It's even more annoying when another girl is trying to ask you out -.-
you are ******* kidding me?
karter
23-09-2010, 09:33 AM
The baby can seriously ruin your life , Abortion is the only option.
It's terrifying , but just Imagine what people would say.
Jamesy
23-09-2010, 09:56 AM
The baby can seriously ruin your life , Abortion is the only option.
It's terrifying , but just Imagine what people would say.
It's not the only option and it's not, in the eyes of the law, even his decision to abort. Who really cares what people say - the important thing is the quality of life for the child (if kept).
Catzsy
23-09-2010, 09:58 AM
I want the baby aborted, she doesn't, so were sorting that out. Yeah we are both 16 and I know it was me because me & her had DNA all that stuff.
You had a DNA test? That takes quite some organising and it is not usually possible until after the baby is born? :S
If this is true it is a huge commitment to take on at 16 and the sooner you tell your parents the better. Personally I would not want to have a baby so young.
Alexx..
23-09-2010, 10:19 AM
You had a DNA test? That takes quite some organising and it is not usually possible until after the baby is born? :S
If this is true it is a huge commitment to take on at 16 and the sooner you tell your parents the better. Personally I would not want to have a baby so young.
It's possible but like it takes around 2 weeks, lots of organising, it's risky and sometimes it's wrong.
If it is true then you basically have no choice whether she keeps it or not..sorry to be blunt but its true. Make sure you're 100% sure then sit down and have a talk about it and if she chooses to keep it then basically it's your responsibility to look after it and support her.
Stephen
23-09-2010, 10:59 AM
child murderer!1111
adoption is the only option you *******
IceNineKills
23-09-2010, 01:43 PM
have the baby, then you'll learn to use a condom in future.
Jordy
23-09-2010, 04:19 PM
If you're asking about what to do about a baby on HabboxForum then you would make a ******* crap father may I say. Tell her "Look what a stupid father I'd make" and she'll probably abort it, if not then the three of you are doomed. I'm not exactly in a good place atm to take the contraception high ground due to my own complications but pro-abortion anyways.
IceNineKills
23-09-2010, 05:15 PM
Or, if she doesn't want an abortion and you do then just push her down the stairs. Simple.
JerseySafety
24-09-2010, 03:59 AM
you are ******* kidding me?
Nope I ain't kidding, just told her I'm going through a hard time so no atm.
The baby can seriously ruin your life , Abortion is the only option.
It's terrifying , but just Imagine what people would say.
Yes, it is really the only option, I don't want to look after a baby really especially with exams coming up at end of the year, it'd just be to much.
It's not the only option and it's not, in the eyes of the law, even his decision to abort. Who really cares what people say - the important thing is the quality of life for the child (if kept).
Yes, I've talked to her more and she's starting to see how much it'd ruin her life as-well as mine and probably others lives to.
You had a DNA test? That takes quite some organising and it is not usually possible until after the baby is born? :S
If this is true it is a huge commitment to take on at 16 and the sooner you tell your parents the better. Personally I would not want to have a baby so young.
Yea, we had some sort of test, I'm sure it was DNA and I don't want the baby really to much work.. She's starting to go along with me.
It's possible but like it takes around 2 weeks, lots of organising, it's risky and sometimes it's wrong.
If it is true then you basically have no choice whether she keeps it or not..sorry to be blunt but its true. Make sure you're 100% sure then sit down and have a talk about it and if she chooses to keep it then basically it's your responsibility to look after it and support her.
Yea I'll always support her, it's just so many other things are happening at the same time. But I do think she's going to get an abortion (hopefully).
child murderer!1111
adoption is the only option you *******
Ehh, do you want to adopt the baby? Plus I don't think she really like want's to 'have it' forgot the word sorry...
have the baby, then you'll learn to use a condom in future.
Yea, I've always used condoms, just the that one was faulty/tampered & we didn't know.
If you're asking about what to do about a baby on HabboxForum then you would make a ******* crap father may I say. Tell her "Look what a stupid father I'd make" and she'll probably abort it, if not then the three of you are doomed. I'm not exactly in a good place atm to take the contraception high ground due to my own complications but pro-abortion anyways.
Yes, I would make a crap father I suppose, I'm not really asking about what to do, I'm sorta just asking what I can say. But it's turned into this so yeah.
Or, if she doesn't want an abortion and you do then just push her down the stairs. Simple.
Umm, right.... Really helpful. Thanks :S
+rep.. Thanks guys.
lol and your asking this on hxf
troll is obvious
I'm sure the condom wasn't faulty on tampered. There only like 97% effective but they're 100% effective if you follow her cycle or whatever. You can't push her into getting an abortion if she's pregnant she already has it growing inside her she probably already cares about it. I think your best bet is to either keep it or adopt it. Adoption = EVIL!
wiktoria
24-09-2010, 04:33 PM
If she has an abortion she basically kills her own baby..... It's not the baby's fault. It's your own fault. Maybe let her parents or your parents care for the baby until you know what you're doing?
JerseySafety
24-09-2010, 05:03 PM
Good Idea Wiki about getting parents to care for it.
I'll have a talk to our parents & her. :D
If she has an abortion she basically kills her own baby..... It's not the baby's fault. It's your own fault. Maybe let her parents or your parents care for the baby until you know what you're doing?
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