Engagement

[Jake]

Right im just wondering (no im not planning to ask someone to marry me) but im 20 nearly 21 and like 3-4 of my mates from school are engaged after being with people like 5-7 months?

I dont get tht cos imo you dont truly know someone till way after tht.

How much time would you give before you got engaged?

[Deak]

It depends on how well you get on with that person, some people need a few month, some a couple of years... so yeh as i say it just depends on when it feels right

[Nicola]

I suppose everybody's different in how they feel but personally it'd have to be a good couple of years for me. I think 7 months is awfully short to be making a decision like that.

[Callum.]

This girl from work is 18 and engaged, even though she has been with her boyfriend for a year, it's actually terrible.

[Shar]

I'd wait a couple of years personally, but it depends on the relationship one has with an individual I guess.

[Conservative,]

Depends for me...if I was with them 24/7 and really truly loved them, then maybe 9 months, but normally...probably 1-2 years.

[dbgtz]

Depends on the person who I like :P

Anyway a bit off topic, someone I know is engaged. She's 15. They're waiting till after college for marriage. I think that's pretty cool tbh.

[Bun]

personally i've been with my girlfriend 3 years and although we're deeply in love we're (in our opinion) far too young to get engaged. we are 18. i'd rather wait a couple more years til im certain to get engaged and then even a couple more til when we're settled to get married.

[Con]

Someone in my year on valentines this year got engaged. (16 years of age). That was their 1 year aniversarry.

My friends parents got engaged after like 2 weeks I think it was :L and they're still together now.

But I do think it has to be like at least a year, although I see the temptation, its a bit reckless + risky doing it before at least 1 year.

[Nicola]

Depends on the person who I like :P

Anyway a bit off topic, someone I know is engaged. She's 15. They're waiting till after college for marriage. I think that's pretty cool tbh.

But she's still so young, how does she know that's really what she wants? That's such a big commitment to make at that age.

[Zak]

getting engaged that early is ridicolous. it barely ever lasts.

I've give it 3 years with someone, when your 18+.

[Misawa]

Engaged at 15? That won't last at all.

[Shar]

Depends on the person who I like :P

Anyway a bit off topic, someone I know is engaged. She's 15. They're waiting till after college for marriage. I think that's pretty cool tbh.
How can one know what they want at such a young age :S

[Rapidshare]

Meh, I been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half. Its going good despite the arguments but that normal. I be waiting till our 3rd year really..

[Stephen]

marriage means nothing anymore

[Special]

i'd say at least a year

[Shar]

marriage means nothing anymore
Not necessarily, but I get where you're coming from.

[Becca]

Atleast being in a relationship for about a year. I want it certain that they'll want to be with me.

[,Lexiilu]

honestly for some people that's a long time ;P
I'd prefer to know them for at LEAST 6 months before getting engaged, however if I really cared about someone for a shorter time than that, then whatever I guess? ;P
I'm still young so yeah LOL

my theory is, if you know someone for between 6 months to a year and a half-ish, there's still some mystery, and mystery can usually be fun :O I personally like learning new things so that would be good for me. However you could know someone your entire life or for many many years and still not know everything so it depends really :P I think I could be happy with someone I've known for a very long time too :)

[dbgtz]

I don't know how that will last, I guess the 3 or so years they will wait anyway is gonna give them a taster of their commitment. In all fairness she is quite smart so she might know.

[BlueEyedSarah]

I know someone who got engaged a month after meeting them and they have been together now happy for 7 years with no problems. Don't worry about what your friends are doing it is their choice.

[SirTezza]

In my opinion, they are both adults and it is completely their own decision.

We all have our own personal idea of what age we should or shouldn't get married, but I think that it is separate to each person. This is why the law only sets a minimum age based on your mindset at that age, and not on when they feel the best time to get married is.

In my native country, England, it is set at 16, because they believe people over that age are responsible enough to make their own decision on it. In America it is 18, because they believe after that age it is up to each one personally.

I think if you want to get married and you are an adult, then go for it.