Do you change with your surroundings?

[immense]

For example, if you were to eat out in a posh restaurant would you employ the same etiquette that you'd use at home or would you put on a social front?

I personally notice that I change and I think everyone does. I would make sure my manners were perfect if say I was having a meal with my partner's parents for the first time. Whereas, if I was at home I'd be more 'natural'.

[Special]

i COULD change but i choose not to because icba

[Mathew]

Yes it's natural. Everyone probably does even if it's unconscious. Relates to something we were doing in English the other week, talking about the face theory; you put on different faces (speaking and acting differently) depending on where you are and who you're talking to.

A good example of this is on the occasions we fly business class, we make the extra effort and wear a "best" shirt, whereas if we were just flying economy we wouldn't feel the need to go the extra mile.

[Inseriousity.]

No, I don't but that's because my surroundings are almost always familiar and I tend to shy away from surroundings where I would have to change (eg posh restaurants).

[Rozi]

yah deffo, my accent changes so much waaa :(

[Eoin247]

yah deffo, my accent changes so much waaa :(


Lol that happens to me all the time, in America my accent changes, in England my accent changes, in Spain my accent changes. Also when im in an unfamiliar surrounding my voice goes softer and higher. When im more comfortable it goes lower and rougher.

[SirTezza]

I don't consciously change, but I guess if I go into an upmarket place I would act differently than if I was going out on the weekend to the pub for a few beers and a curry. With that in mind though, I don't mind what people think of me, I just do it because I respect the surroundings I guess.

[Eoin247]

I don't consciously change, but I guess if I go into an upmarket place I would act differently than if I was going out on the weekend to the pub for a few beers and a curry. With that in mind though, I don't mind what people think of me, I just do it because I respect the surroundings I guess.

Totally agree, it's a subconciouse change that seems just to be a part of human nature.

[Conservative,]

If I'm at a mates unless I know the family really well I try to be nice so they let me back :)

But in posh restaurants I don't really change....well I do. But I normally end up arguing with my brothers anyway.

So I suppose I do but I can snap back if provoked.

[HotelUser]

Not surroundings. The people though, because I feel different levels of comfortable around different people.

[Dean]

yah deffo, my accent changes so much waaa :(

This happens to me too! When ever I'm at home in London I talk so laid back and I can basically talk as baaaad as I wish, but if I go like outside of London, I have to try and make myself look like I wasn't brought up living out of a bin (the accent makes me sound uneducated).

[SirTezza]

This happens to me too! When ever I'm at home in London I talk so laid back and I can basically talk as baaaad as I wish, but if I go like outside of London, I have to try and make myself look like I wasn't brought up living out of a bin (the accent makes me sound uneducated).

Feel the same way pal. I have a typical south London accent, which is fine when I'm out for a curry with mates. But nip over to Chelsea or a place outside of London, I have to pretend I was born out of a gold plated *REMOVED*.

Nowadays I don't care as much, because it is who I am. I change my way of acting so it fits my surroundings, but my voice stays the same, plus I don't live there any more :D

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[le harry]

lol don't kid yourself, chances of you pulling a girl and meeting the parents are slim to none

[Shar]

Not surroundings. The people though, because I feel different levels of comfortable around different people.
This really. I'm more loud when I'm with my family and close friends but really shy around anyone else.

[buttons]

This happens to me too! When ever I'm at home in London I talk so laid back and I can basically talk as baaaad as I wish, but if I go like outside of London, I have to try and make myself look like I wasn't brought up living out of a bin (the accent makes me sound uneducated).
omg this is my life
when i meet new people or talk to people from other places i have to try speak english but they still don't understand my accent :'( & yeah there ARE different accents/dialect in Scotland not just the stereotypical glasweigan one.

also i am different depending the situation or who i'm with, long term friends & all my family i am just myself but people i don't know much or haven't known long i don't act much myself or they would think i'm cray cray ;[