ending of relationships

[immense]

when someone finishes with you and you still like them what do you do

[Special]

get over it, fast

[Conservative,]

Ask them why, reconsider then if they don't come back move on.

[immense]

how do you move on / get over it though

what would you tell somebody in this position

[Conservative,]

Plenty more fish in the sea. Believe me.

[immense]

not helping

[Special]

get my eye on someone else lol perhaps not as easy for some though i suppose

[immense]

im listening to the streets - dry your eyes LMAO to try feel better

worse ;l

[Conservative,]

Don't think about what could have been think about what can be.

[Rozi]

Personally I'd tell my friends that if the person who's dumped them can't see how perfect/pretty/funny/awesome they are, they aren't even worth any time or effort anyway.

[Nemo]

Id just literally tell myself to get over it until i did. Everytime i thought about em, itd just be a "get over it" or tried to talk to them "get over it" etc. etc.

Atleast thats what ive found, although dont know how itd work if i was in a proper serious relationship, since ive never been in 1 but the idea's there!

[SirTezza]

I would say that the best help is nothing special. The best help comes from a friend telling you they are there for you, and telling you they will always support you no matter what issues come up. When you have just split from a relationship it can become a grieving process, especially if it was a long term relationship. Since we are on a forum and not real friends there isn't much we can do to console you, perhaps speak with your real life friends.

Other than that though, there is always going to be a time in your life, numerous times when you will feel like this about a person you have split up from. Think of it as the next stage in your life. You have been with this person, you have loved them and laughed with them but now it's finished, and now you have to find the next person that will make you happy.

If you want to be happy, then don't dwell on what has already passed. You can be happy again, you just have to let go and find that next special person.

[immense]

i think if someone said it'll be alright i'd just cry until next year or something

[SirTezza]

i think if someone said it'll be alright i'd just cry until next year or something

There is nothing wrong with crying. Crying is a natural process for human beings. It releases built up pressure and stress inside the body. So having a good cry releases all of that, and eventually you feel better. I don't subscribe to the notion that men shouldn't cry, because if humans didn't cry, we would die, because tears build up inside us.

If you want to cry, do it, you will feel better. Once you have cried you can begin to heal.

[Jam]

Think how meaningless the moment will be in 10 years time.

[immense]

i don't think it will 'cuz i'm gonna try revive it innit

[Jordy]

Just don't go about it how I did Jake, it's got me no where :L

[Jam]

Think how the africans live and don't complain about some bird.

[immense]

Just don't go about it how I did Jake, it's got me no where :L
hahaha nah i'm going to cry about it over a habbo forum instead i decided

Think how the africans live and don't complain about some bird.
falling for people is universal and i bet african people don't enjoy being heartbroken either

[Jam]

falling for people is universal and i bet african people don't enjoy being heartbroken either

I'm sure the imminent danger of famine and poverty 'concerns' them more than their teenage relationships.

[immense]

bet it doesn't

[Robbie]

Think how the africans live and don't complain about some bird.

Who said it was a girl

[immense]

listening to gloria gaynor i will survive i am ok now

[Firehorse]

Try and figure out what went wrong and try to avoid it in future relationships. Otherwise just socialize a lot, it gives you less time to feel bad thinking about it.

[Zak]

I know the feeling, your heart just sinks.

I just went to sleep, at least that made me forget about it.

Or go out with your mates, go drinking, go find some ladies! xxxx

Hope your ok :( x

[kdg-guy]

Really, the best thing to do is just remember the good memories and leave them as memories.

Trying to re-create the relationship, even in your head, will only create problems -- both with this ex-GF/BF, as well as with future GFs/BFs. Moving on is the only solution that will lead to a positive outcome.

[Mrs.McCall]

Truth is there is nothing you can do but cut it off. Exes are like tumours, you got to cut it out to get well again. So yeah, you'll spend months getting over it, probably feeling at your worst but you've just got to try and find something good out of it.

I also find booze and lots of sex helps. I'm just a train away ;)

[immense]

Truth is there is nothing you can do but cut it off. Exes are like tumours, you got to cut it out to get well again. So yeah, you'll spend months getting over it, probably feeling at your worst but you've just got to try and find something good out of it.

I also find booze and lots of sex helps. I'm just a train away ;)
lmao :l i cancelled a date tonight because i am LOVE SICK

lancaster gay night on monday though ;) haha

[Mrs.McCall]

In all honesty, just try not to press the self destruct button. Try and find other outlets for your pain. I know it's lame but maybe poetry, writing... drawing. Whatever. Just throw yourself into stuff that might distract you.

[immense]

thanks btw people i think the only way things will change is if i just pick myself up get a grip and carry on with life

[Mrs.McCall]

How long were you together?

[FlyingJesus]

Personally I'd tell my friends that if the person who's dumped them can't see how perfect/pretty/funny/awesome they are, they aren't even worth any time or effort anyway.

But what if the partner was well out of their league then you'd be lying to your friends which isn't nice


Think how the africans live

Good for a laugh for 5 minutes I guess but not really a long term solution


go find some ladies!

Got a feeling he might not do that lol

Anyway enough making fun of people for one post, really the only solution is to keep yourself occupied as much as you can so you're not just sat inside thinking about them and getting upset, drugs and alcohol are a quick fix but they're not the greatest way to go about it. Dunno if you play football or anything but stuff like that's good because it means you're around lots of people (and more importantly for you obv: boys in shorts) and if it's something you enjoy you'll be concentrating on doing it well rather than thinking about *+*WhAt MiGhT hAvE bEeN*+*

If you were serious about trying to fix it all then best of luck to you, but if it doesn't work out then give it up and convince yourself that he's no longer the guy he was when you were together (which will be true if the relationship isn't working) or you'll only be damaging yourself more the longer you try to keep a sputtering flame alive

[HotelUser]

It depends on how long we were together, how fond I was of the other person. But at the crux of things I feel as if I've grown and adapted to having the other person in my life and by losing that person I still have strong feelings for them, but seeing them and talking to them is impossible because it brings back all the memories of what used to exist between us and how I miss it. Then, when you're the person who didn't end it and you see the counterpart person of the former relationship happy without you, whether they have no aspirations to converse with you at all or if they want to retain a friendship-- so you'd become a generic person on the sideline it's almost unbearable.

On top of all that there's also an acute paranoia where you're running through an infinite loop of all his or her friends being suspicious and fearing what has, or could, transpire between them. The transition from being in their circle of trust where they tell you everything, to where you're exposed to just a limited amount of information about them as well doesn't help this latter part at all.

[Jessicrawrr]

If i really wanted to be with the person, and was enjoying my relationship with them, i don't get over them easily, just try to not think about them, and talk to other girls/boys(:

[Samantha]

I've never been in a proper relationship to realise what to do. And the 2 normal relationships I had, I ended with them. I do remember though, that the 2nd person I was going out with cried. He also cried because he thought I was going to dump him.

[@K]

Not saying it's the right way to go about it, but if I really like the person I try my hardest to get back with them, and in the mean time go down a downward spiral by going out every night and get plastered. And on weekends head down to the coast with my mates, get smashed and try and pull to take my mind off of the girl I was with.

[flatface]

kidnap them and do a joseph fritzl on them

[immense]

all gone to plan

happy jake

[9y]

Try and get over it. To be honest its usually me getting bored of the girl so I am already over her. Except one which I still miss to this day x.x Blurrrghhh sad or what! x