This is deep..

[Richie]

I think its funny how when you get older you realize how much some people do for you, you respect them allot more and try and look after them although they don't need looking after. Surely this is just common sense that everyone should learn as soon as their speaking and walking lol. Maybe its just a sense of maturity, I don't want yo be mature!! but I do want to let those know how much I thank them.

Its really weird though, since I turned 19 I respect everything my mam does, even the simple things. Has this happened to anyone else or is it just me ha. I feel like I've taken advantage of my mam in my younger teenage years.

[Hiro]

Pfft. I've done everything for myself since I was 12. Cooking, ironing, washing. Not shopping and ****, but you get the idea ;P

I usually do the shopping now though, have done for a couple of years.

[Conservative,]

I do most things for myself, my mum doesn't respect my independence so no, I don't feel like that.

[luce]

my mum does like everything for me but i do respect it and realize what she does so yeah :)!

[FlyingJesus]

I do most things for myself, my mum doesn't respect my independence so no, I don't feel like that.

Do you pay the bills, buy the food (with your own money, not hers) and maintain the house? And what is this independance you speak of? What is there that you desperately need to do for yourself and are stopped from doing by your mother?
I can't stand ungrateful people

[Conservative,]

Do you pay the bills, buy the food (with your own money, not hers) and maintain the house? And what is this independance you speak of? What is there that you desperately need to do for yourself and are stopped from doing by your mother?
I can't stand ungrateful people

I pay the bills that are for me (my phone ect.), I often help around the else, and obviously I can't buy the food - I don't have a job.

My mum doesn't even let me go out on my own, is that so much to ask? Admittedly it's not just her fault - I'm not allowed to go to after school clubs without someone there because of my medical condition, but really, I don't see why I can't be independent. I'm 14, not 4. I know my limits. I'm not ungrateful, I realise what my mum does for me, but she doesn't give me 1/2 the independence I need at my age.

[Misawa]

In fairness you're 14. She probably doesn't want you on the streets with other teenage dregs, hanging out at Tesco. Don't confuse her protective nature with disrespect.

[buttons]

In fairness you're 14. She probably doesn't want you on the streets with other teenage dregs, hanging out at Tesco. Don't confuse her protective nature with disrespect.
exactly
i wish my mum made me stay in more then maybe i wouldn't have fallen in to a bad crowd.

i feel the same way richie about most my family. i used to take everything out on them or not give them any of my time. i blamed my dad for so many things when i don't even know the stuff he actually does for us.
& tbh just little things can show them you're thankful. just spending time with them, being patient and talking through things are good enough.

ungrateful ******* who cry over not getting £10 pocket money can gdiaf

[Samantha]

I know my Dad does a lot in our house, shopping, cleaning, cooking, driving, and I do respect that but he puts me down all the time which gets me upset so I don't really care as much as I should.
My Dad basically says to me if I don't do any work or anything I can just get out of the house, I don't think that's fair at all, I do what I can.
He always has a go at me for not being able to cook - but really he should have been teaching me from a young age but he just doesn't understand. I can cook some things don't get me wrong, I can cook where gas isn't involved.

[Conservative,]

In fairness you're 14. She probably doesn't want you on the streets with other teenage dregs, hanging out at Tesco. Don't confuse her protective nature with disrespect.

In fairness am I not even allowed down to the park without having someone following me? I'm not one to get into drugs or anything, she knows that, but she insists on having someone follow me wherever? I have been put off making friends because I know I won't see them out of school, so I only have a few friends, and I have been put off going out - hence why I am on the forum so much. She's pretty much ruined my social life single-handedly.

Having said that, i do respect she works hard to keep my life enjoyable.

[Zak]

I don't really respect my parents much if I'm honest, then again they don't really respect me. So the feeling's mutual :P

I'm 19 too.

[Jessicrawrr]

In fairness am I not even allowed down to the park without having someone following me? I'm not one to get into drugs or anything, she knows that, but she insists on having someone follow me wherever? I have been put off making friends because I know I won't see them out of school, so I only have a few friends, and I have been put off going out - hence why I am on the forum so much. She's pretty much ruined my social life single-handedly.

Having said that, i do respect she works hard to keep my life enjoyable.

She just cares about you!
seriously all mums should be protective over their children, and she is with you because of your condition or whatever.

I love my mum, i respect her, I do things around the house stuff like that :)

[FlyingJesus]

I pay the bills that are for me (my phone ect.), I often help around the else, and obviously I can't buy the food - I don't have a job.

My mum doesn't even let me go out on my own, is that so much to ask? Admittedly it's not just her fault - I'm not allowed to go to after school clubs without someone there because of my medical condition, but really, I don't see why I can't be independent. I'm 14, not 4. I know my limits. I'm not ungrateful, I realise what my mum does for me, but she doesn't give me 1/2 the independence I need at my age.

Fairly sure you use electricity, gas, and water as well as your phone, and then of course there's the monster that is council tax, mortgage and any other household bills. I understand that you're 14 and in school rather than working so I'm not suggesting that you SHOULD be paying these bills at all, just don't think that you're independant when there's no chance you'd be able to live if you actually were. Also you've said yourself why you can't be out alone, and as annoying as it must be it's a far better reason than because she just doesn't want you to have fun :P


tbh just little things can show them you're thankful. just spending time with them, being patient and talking through things are good enough.

This irl, I (obv) spend a lot of time in my room on the pc but more recently I've tried to spend more time with my mum or dad if I'm at his because you can actually see in their face how happy they are when I do

[Conservative,]

She just cares about you!
seriously all mums should be protective over their children, and she is with you because of your condition or whatever.

I love my mum, i respect her, I do things around the house stuff like that :)
There's being protective and being OVER protective. My mother is the later. I have nothing against her for it, I just feel I should be more independent than I'm allowed to be. In 4 years I'll be at Uni, I'll be on my own, I won't have anyone with me, surely it's time for me to be allowed to grow up?


Fairly sure you use electricity, gas, and water as well as your phone, and then of course there's the monster that is council tax, mortgage and any other household bills. I understand that you're 14 and in school rather than working so I'm not suggesting that you SHOULD be paying these bills at all, just don't think that you're independant when there's no chance you'd be able to live if you actually were. Also you've said yourself why you can't be out alone, and as annoying as it must be it's a far better reason than because she just doesn't want you to have fun :P



This irl, I (obv) spend a lot of time in my room on the pc but more recently I've tried to spend more time with my mum or dad if I'm at his because you can actually see in their face how happy they are when I do

Yeah, I can't live on my own without her, but I do often feel my respect for her is misplaced when she doesn't let me do simple things like after school clubs without someone with me.

[Richie]

Now days, I'm actually sick of the computer, I will go down and just sit and have a chat with my mam. In fairness I used to abuse what she does for me, I'd leave dishes lying about, the house dirty etc. But now I spend the odd few mins cleaning my plates or whatever I've used and try just ask her if she needs anything.

[Andeeh]

i used to be a right ungrateful idiot a few years ago, but since its been me, dad and sis. I have massive respect for my Dad as he does everything for me. To be honest I shouldn't be relying on him so much and sort my life out better.

[Sharon]

There's being protective and being OVER protective. My mother is the later. I have nothing against her for it, I just feel I should be more independent than I'm allowed to be. In 4 years I'll be at Uni, I'll be on my own, I won't have anyone with me, surely it's time for me to be allowed to grow up?



Yeah, I can't live on my own without her, but I do often feel my respect for her is misplaced when she doesn't let me do simple things like after school clubs without someone with me.

You sound really childish. At least your mum cares, instead of letting you fall into the wrong crowd. I see a lot of people on the streets - it's not nice. If you think she's being over protective maybe it's a time to talk to her.

[Conservative,]

You sound really childish. At least your mum cares, instead of letting you fall into the wrong crowd. I see a lot of people on the streets - it's not nice. If you think she's being over protective maybe it's a time to talk to her.

I have lol? How am I sounding childish jw.

[Sharon]

Because you are complaining about your mum for all the wrong reasons. At least she actually cares for you - which is more that can be said for many people.

[Inseriousity.]

Pfft. I've done everything for myself since I was 12. Cooking, ironing, washing. Not shopping and ****, but you get the idea ;P

I usually do the shopping now though, have done for a couple of years.

haha same as soon as I could be trusted not to burn the house down, I started doing my own cooking. my parents have given me a great childhood so I'll always be grateful for that. Wouldn't have it any other way :)

[Special]

yeah, everyone you know suddenly mean a lot more to you. it's all part of growing up i think

you're also more greatful for the friends you have aswell i've noticed