Getting my ex back

[Jordy]

Haha really never wanted to become some loser chasing my ex 2-3 months on but unfortunately it's turned out that way. Basically I've come to like her quite a lot in recent days and weeks (I've come close to this other girl, but she's also made me realise how much better my ex was but that's a different kettle of fish).

Was thinking about sending her a message on Facebook explaining how things have changed, apologise for a few things whilst we were in the relationship and tell her how much I've realised I like her and whether she'd be up for some dating?

We're currently on quite good terms at the moment, we don't speak much but she makes the effort whenever we see each other. I've no idea whether she likes me anymore or not tbh. I'm well aware this'll make me look a bit desperate but was just wondering whether it's the best way to go about things? If she says yes then I can see how things go, if she rejects me then it'll make things a bit awkward and damage my reputation a bit but hey, you only live once and frankly I don't care what an ex thinks of me anymore.

Also has anyone ever done anything similar or received something similar?

Cheers for any help, +rep as usual <3

[Conservative,]

I Asked a girl out once 2 years after we went out for a bit - although we both admit it wasnt a real relationship because we were too young. She said no because she felt we were better as friends and didnt want to ruin our friendship.

If I were you I'd go for it. But maybe make the effort to see get in person and tell her then? If she say no you can move on if she says yes then see how it goes :)

[Jordy]

I Asked a girl out once 2 years after we went out for a bit - although we both admit it wasnt a real relationship because we were too young. She said no because she felt we were better as friends and didnt want to ruin our friendship.

If I were you I'd go for it. But maybe make the effort to see get in person and tell her then? If she say no you can move on if she says yes then see how it goes :)Perhaps but the only time I see her is at parties when we've both had a few drinks or at large social gatherings so it's not really ideal to talk to her then I guess. It'd just be percieved as some drunk "I love you speech" and won't be taken seriously :P

[Conservative,]

Perhaps but the only time I see her is at parties when we've both had a few drinks or at large social gatherings so it's not really ideal to talk to her then I guess. It'd just be percieved as some drunk "I love you speech" and won't be taken seriously :P
Ahh, in which case you'll have to try to make it really convincing so she doesn't doubt the fact you want to date her.

Why did u break up btw?

[Jordy]

Ahh, in which case you'll have to try to make it really convincing so she doesn't doubt the fact you want to date her.

Why did u break up btw?She dumped me, I changed a bit in the final few weeks of the relationship due to things going on in my life, become a bit of an idiot and didn't really treat her like anyone special.

[Conservative,]

She dumped me, I changed a bit in the final few weeks of the relationship due to things going on in my life, become a bit of an idiot and didn't really treat her like anyone special.

Explain that to her and that you think you're back to the boy she orginally fell for ect. :)

[GoldenMerc]

Jordan, When you've both had 1-2 drinks its most likely better, Just aslong as its not 1 too many ;)
Because your both going to open up a tad more once you've had a drink, Just go outside and have a chat. That's what happened with me and my ex, She was obsessed with me yet i was just pretty much let loose as i was single she was always upset outside and obviously built up the courage to talk to me, It worked we're back together

[ChickenFaces]

I'd reccommend trying to get to know the other girl better! Relationships with a history are always the hardest to restart. Take it like trying to fix a broken mirror. [Yeah it sounds corny as anything,] You'll always see the cracks in it even if you fix it. I think that problems will resurface more easily with your ex, and depending on the problems, it could make the relationship fall apart again.

It'd be a lot easier not to take that chance, but it's your own personal preference I suppose.

[Catzsy]

I would put a message on Facebook but I wouldn't go into too much detail. Just say you miss here and you know you have been an idiot at times and maybe suggest a meeting sometime to catch up. Nothing heavy and see how it goes. :)

[wixard]

NO to be honest i'd talk to her at a party, and see how she reacts
cos if she's like no then you can play it off as being drunk and just being like **** you *****
but if she seems up for it you can tell her that you're serious bout it and you'll call her the next day
tada

[Jordy]

Hmm some good advice thank you. I agree doing it in real life would be ideal, and funnily enough I've had so many good opportunities alone with her in recent weeks to do so and now I've no parties coming up which she's attending so I think a Facebook message will have to suffice. Would it be worth mentioning I've got close to someone else but then realised it wasn't for me?

[matt$]

No, otherwise she'll seem like a 2nd option.

[Jordy]

No, otherwise she'll seem like a 2nd option.Excellent point, it's just as well I ask all these things on here to ensure I don't make any mistakes :P

[matt$]

Excellent point, it's just as well I ask all these things on here to ensure I don't make any mistakes :P
when i asked my ex out it seemed awkward so we're just friends but it might work out for you, good luck :)

[Jordy]

If anyone was wondering how it went. She was quite nice about it but it was a no, unfortunately she also suggested we talk more and become friends which was quite low but anyway, glad I did it :) I just regret not doing it sooner tbh. thanks for the advice anyways.

Went on a date with this other girl on Thursday and that went okay so we'll see.

[Nimueh]

If anyone was wondering how it went. She was quite nice about it but it was a no, unfortunately she also suggested we talk more and become friends which was quite low but anyway, glad I did it :) I just regret not doing it sooner tbh. thanks for the advice anyways.

Went on a date with this other girl on Thursday and that went okay so we'll see.

That's the way to live... Taking the gambles and having no regrets.

While it might have not turned out perfectly, at the very least you'll never have that "what-if" question in the back of your mind. I hope it all works out for you :)