A friend

[Cheryl]

This sounds really childish and I'm sorry but..

My very best friend has been in a serious relationship with a boy she knew before he joined our school in september.
I've become fairly good friends with him and I am now really really close to this girl - just as best friends. But over the last week they have become more distant and she has been crying and I just want to comfort her and she told me today that whilst she's been off school, the boy and another of her friends have been flirting more than they would do with her around.
She's not really the jealous type and is really sweet and really pretty, she could probably get any boy she likes, they were really cute together.
I have a feeling this close relationship will deteriorate over the next week and over christmas he won't speak to her.
Should I try and persuade her to become closer again, or should I just support her as much as possible as she gets over him?

Sorry if this doesn't make sense, but I really love this girl and don't want her to be hurt more than she has.

Thank You :)

[Soy]

let her do her own thing tbh

stay out of it until she dumps the ***

[Conservative,]

Support her in whatever she chooses to do.

[Cheryl]

let her do her own thing tbh

stay out of it until she dumps the ***


Support her in whatever she chooses to do.

Thank you both, I think she may dump him soon and then I'll support her. +rep

[FlyingJesus]

Don't tell her it'll all work out with the guy if it's not going to. You said that you're fairly good friends with him, I'd suggest talking to him not accusingly just having a general man chat and see what you can gather - if he doesn't seem interested any more then there's no point in telling your friend to stay with him or she'll end up even more hurt, but if he does seem to genuinely care about her and it becomes apparent that she's been looking too much into something that isn't actually happening (how, for example, does she know he's been flirting around if she wasn't at school?) then by all means let her know so she can try to work it out with the guy.

[Eoin247]

I'd say stand by her and suppost her as much as you can, real true freinds (like her?) are hard to find. :)

Don't push her to make such a choice, she will hopefully make the correct decision for herself.

[Cheryl]

Don't tell her it'll all work out with the guy if it's not going to. You said that you're fairly good friends with him, I'd suggest talking to him not accusingly just having a general man chat and see what you can gather - if he doesn't seem interested any more then there's no point in telling your friend to stay with him or she'll end up even more hurt, but if he does seem to genuinely care about her and it becomes apparent that she's been looking too much into something that isn't actually happening (how, for example, does she know he's been flirting around if she wasn't at school?) then by all means let her know so she can try to work it out with the guy.


I'd say stand by her and suppost her as much as you can, real true freinds (like her?) are hard to find. :)

Don't push her to make such a choice, she will hopefully make the correct decision for herself.

Thank You both. This is what I thought.

It's just, she probably could do soo much better and she's beautiful, he's done all kinds of stuff she wouldn't touch.

[Lindsey]

I would explain to her ; That, if things aren't good right now, they wont get better. People think that they can change. Some people do change, but its very rare. If she is crying now, ; and its only been a couple of months/weeks or whatever, what will happen in the future? ...

I was in a relationship for four months. and i cried every night, because he emotionally abused me. I recently broke up with him, and now dating someone new. who is absolutely amazing. Support her for whatever decisions she makes. because she will thank you down the road :)

[Rixion]

Just be there for her, she needs friends around her more than anything now to help her get through it. Maybe also give her some advice what you think's best and just really comfort her - I've been in a related position before.

[,Lexiilu]

Thank You both. This is what I thought.

It's just, she probably could do soo much better and she's beautiful, he's done all kinds of stuff she wouldn't touch.

awww thats so sweet :)

don't try to get them back together if she can do better. often times best friends do know better and if you're saying she can, its probably true. just be there for him. being in that kind of position is really hard on people and you shouldn't be encouraging it if you really do care for her.