Online Relationships

[Sharon]

Do you believe they can work?

I think if the both put the effort in :S

Probs no one wants to share ever so but has anyone ever had one and how did it go? (Sorry if that's too personal :L)

Edited by Dean (Forum Moderator): Thread moved from 'Discuss Anything' as I felt it was best suited here.

[Neversoft]

I got really friendly with this girl online about six years ago and we kind of e-dated but we were just dumb kids. Psyical contact is important in a relationship and I don't believe one could work without it. I still speak to the girl however and still feel strangely attracted to her even though I have never met her. I am older now and have psyical relationships so I would never consider online dating, to me it was just something you did as a kid with no care in the world, but I would like to meet up with her one day. Considering we get on like peas in a pod and I have known her twice as long as most of my real life friends it just seems like the right thing to do and when we inevitably grow up some more and drift away from the internet a farewell would just be too painful. I hate goodbyes.

[Jordy]

Pyroka might be able to shed some light on e-dating I suspect...

[Rapidshare]

lol ^.^

E-dating is smiliar to women/men who are in the army and dont see there love ones for ages but only see eachother once a year if lucky. People can handle it, just if your commited to it?

[Stephen]

but jake they'd know eachother irl still so it makes a big difference.. People in the army could be like "OMG CANT WAIT TO GO HOME TO BANG MA WIFE" but you ain't exactly gonna say that with online relationships cos you dont know eachother irl!

[PaulMacC]

I dont think so. Physical contact is really what separates a relationship from a friendship in my opinion.

[Nedster]

I dont think so. Physical contact is really what separates a relationship from a friendship in my opinion.

You're not exactly going to say to your friends "I want to spend the rest of my life with you." or sleep with your friends, unless you and your friend have a weird relationship.

I feel e-dating is a good aspect to get to know them, before meeting up with them. As a relationship is usually at it's best when you know them, and can trust them. In real life, if you got to "clingy" they might not like that. As said, you can get to know them online - so if they are too clingy; you still know other good points regarding themselves? E-dating is very similar to the army, as said above. I'm not against it, the only thing I'm against in e-dating is those weird relationships where you meet them one day, and date them the next - when as far as you know, they're perverted and a lot older than you.

[Swastika]

E-Dating is pointless and is for 12 year old children that still play habbo hotel, in my opinion.
I expect most of you to jump at my throat in shock horror, but that's the truth.
You need to be with the person your with, take them places, wine & dine, be a gentleman - you can't do that sat at home on the keyboard.

[tnuCAsggelC]

lol ^.^

E-dating is smiliar to women/men who are in the army and dont see there love ones for ages but only see eachother once a year if lucky. People can handle it, just if your commited to it?
Completely disagree. The 'army couple' would have known each other before the soldier goes on tour and would have had physical contact for some time. When they go away for six months then it does hold the same characteristics as an 'online couple' however the AC will have physical contact after the six month tour and will continue to have contact when the soldier leaves the army. The OC however never had the initial physical meet, they're essentially a couple of words. I myself wouldn't be comfortable with e-dating as in my opinion you're essentially with a couple of words.

[Meanies]

if its just kept to online, then no.

but if there's physical contact too, yes. i'm in one atm and it's great. we talked for over a year before we actually met and then did last month and everything was fine, was odd for like the first 10 minutes but after that it seemed like we'd known eachother forever. plus i got to stay an extra week because the snow got me stuck. the whole not having eachother whenever you want isn't exactly the best but i'd rather that than be with someone i didn't really want to be with just because they're easier to access. but that's probably a good thing because a lot of relationships go down the drain because they're around eachother too much, get annoyed and bored with eachother and break up.

[T@R]

When you're about 12 and its all a bit of fun, I don't see the harm, but I think relationships should be kept between two people who have met eachother face to face.
Meeting people online isn't too bad, as long as you plan to actually meet them soon, or it could just get awkward.

[Neversoft]

if its just kept to online, then no.

but if there's physical contact too, yes. i'm in one atm and it's great. we talked for over a year before we actually met and then did last month and everything was fine, was odd for like the first 10 minutes but after that it seemed like we'd known eachother forever. plus i got to stay an extra week because the snow got me stuck. the whole not having eachother whenever you want isn't exactly the best but i'd rather that than be with someone i didn't really want to be with just because they're easier to access. but that's probably a good thing because a lot of relationships go down the drain because they're around eachother too much, get annoyed and bored with eachother and break up.

Sounds nice. Do you mind me asking how far away you live from each other and which of you it was that first spoke about meeting up? I am kind of in the same situation, except I have known the person approaching six years as opposed to just the one and don't really know how I should ask her about meeting up or whether she even feels the same way. I don't want a relationship from it however, just to become actual friends which makes it kinda weird.

[Samantha]

I've edated before, most people know that anyway, I got teased when I did by a person on this forum, and he really wouldn't let it go.

Here is a story that is quite long and odd but I still think it classes as e-dating and such.

In December 2008 I got my 2nd boyfriend, we dated for 5 weeks and we only met up once, I soon realised that I wasn't ready for a boyfriend and I broke up with him but gladly we are still the close friends we were beforehand. During the 5 weeks he asked me if he could give his friend my MSN address and I said yes and we got speaking. I did develop feelings for his friends way down the line, and eventually his friend introduced me to his cousin, we got on like a house on fire. But things happened and we never met up or began a relationship.
Back end of November 2009 I met this boy on habbo, and he was saying via mass invite "You wouldn't want to know Tonzz. irl" I was thinking, I do know her in real life, so I began talking to him. Turns out he lived in a town near me and was actually my ex, friends brother.

he had a girlfriend and we were just talking friendly, and I admitted to him on New Years Day that I liked him, he still had his girlfriend so I never persued my feelings. Then about 4/5 month later we were talking and he asked me to do him a favour, I must have said no because he replied with, "What if I told you I love you?" and he admitted his feelings, we dated online but never made it official, and we broke up a few days later.
Then another month later on the 11th May, we began dating again, made it official and everything, we managed a while together but we broke up yet again!

A few more month later he told me that he was moving to my town, and I was like where abouts? In my head I was thinking "Not (my street name) Not (my street name) Not (my street name)" Sods law, it was the street what my back garden was on. And he moved, and we never met or rekindled our relationship, but we did meet, he got on the same bus as me and although we didn't speak we knew it was each other.

He just wants to be friends now, and although he does like me he just wants to be friends because he can't risk losing me. So in a way the online relationship brought us closer. :).

[Conservative,]

I'm never going there again. Let's just say that.

I did when I was like 12/13 for a few weeks and my friend (somehow) found out and decided to tell everyone at school. I got bullied for it so I broke up with the girl and I'm never e-dating again. I don't think they can work. I mean for a while they can but they'll never last. But that's just from my personal experience.

[Stephen]

I've edated before, most people know that anyway, I got teased when I did by a person on this forum, and he really wouldn't let it go.

Here is a story that is quite long and odd but I still think it classes as e-dating and such.

In December 2008 I got my 2nd boyfriend, we dated for 5 weeks and we only met up once, I soon realised that I wasn't ready for a boyfriend and I broke up with him but gladly we are still the close friends we were beforehand. During the 5 weeks he asked me if he could give his friend my MSN address and I said yes and we got speaking. I did develop feelings for his friends way down the line, and eventually his friend introduced me to his cousin, we got on like a house on fire. But things happened and we never met up or began a relationship.
Back end of November 2009 I met this boy on habbo, and he was saying via mass invite "You wouldn't want to know Tonzz. irl" I was thinking, I do know her in real life, so I began talking to him. Turns out he lived in a town near me and was actually my ex, friends brother.

he had a girlfriend and we were just talking friendly, and I admitted to him on New Years Day that I liked him, he still had his girlfriend so I never persued my feelings. Then about 4/5 month later we were talking and he asked me to do him a favour, I must have said no because he replied with, "What if I told you I love you?" and he admitted his feelings, we dated online but never made it official, and we broke up a few days later.
Then another month later on the 11th May, we began dating again, made it official and everything, we managed a while together but we broke up yet again!

A few more month later he told me that he was moving to my town, and I was like where abouts? In my head I was thinking "Not (my street name) Not (my street name) Not (my street name)" Sods law, it was the street what my back garden was on. And he moved, and we never met or rekindled our relationship, but we did meet, he got on the same bus as me and although we didn't speak we knew it was each other.

He just wants to be friends now, and although he does like me he just wants to be friends because he can't risk losing me. So in a way the online relationship brought us closer. :).

that brought tears to my eyes

and robbie, I thought you were 13 now

[Conservative,]

that brought tears to my eyes

and robbie, I thought you were 13 now

I'm 14 nearly 15 fyi.

[e5]

Unfortunately, online relationships are a bad idea - In my opinion of course.

I see online relationships as setting yourself for a fall. You never actually know how the person on the other end feels, and if you genuienly feel for somebody that you speak to online, you will begin to start thinking differently. Now this is where alot of bad things can happen. The person you are talking to may seem like the 'perfect guy' and usually when they seem too good to be true, they usually are. They would start to want to meet up with you in real life - very dangerous. Habbo like to emphasise that giving out personal detailsa and meeting up with people from online is a very bad idea. So many times i've read about people going to meet so one so, and getting raped, or stood up. It definately is setting yourself up for a fall.

Even if you don't plan on meeting that person, again you still may never know how they actually feel and one day they could just bugger off and leave you, you never see the person, you never get to touch them and cuddle them - the usually loving things. Everything is just words, and in my opinion, words are just words, they need alot more of on top of that for the feelings to be really felt.

[dbgtz]

It's possible with a healthy mix of irl and online. It can't work purely over the net but I think that it is there to be used to meet people from a further distance who you can then get to know and possibly get in a relationship with. However it does need commitment and isn't really suitable for casual relationships which is purely for fun.

[Callum.]

I never have, although friendships started from online have turned to relationships but that's only with girls who are friends of friends etc. There are a few people online I really click with and if we met could potentially turn to something but some things ate best left unturned.

[Zak]

Tbh I never really tried it so I can't really give you an answer. From experience, i've not known many relationship that work online. Physical contact is a big thing, which you can't get much of if you live far apart. Although if you're a bit older both can travel, I don't see why you can't live in say london and date someone from .. sheffield? Anymore than that is a little bit much imo.

[Conservative,]

Having said what I said, they can work...

An example:

Zezima (yes from runescape) aka Peter Zezima got married to Elianestp on Runescape. They later announced they were dating in real life and it is rumoured they got married. I don't have much detail but it shows it is possible to start on habbo or something similar then go into real life.

[wixard]

I never have, although friendships started from online have turned to relationships but that's only with girls who are friends of friends etc. There are a few people online I really click with and if we met could potentially turn to something but some things ate best left unturned.

i feel the same about you too babe mwah

to answer the question no
wait what was the question? dating online doesn't work....
i think if you MET the person online and then continued the relationship, as in they live less than an hour away from you then yeah thats cool

but having them live so far and not being able to do normal every day things with them would suck

and personally online relationships probably end up more of an ego boost and to reassure yourself that you're 'wanted'

[Stephen]

Unfortunately, online relationships are a bad idea - In my opinion of course.

I see online relationships as setting yourself for a fall. You never actually know how the person on the other end feels, and if you genuienly feel for somebody that you speak to online, you will begin to start thinking differently. Now this is where alot of bad things can happen. The person you are talking to may seem like the 'perfect guy' and usually when they seem too good to be true, they usually are. They would start to want to meet up with you in real life - very dangerous. Habbo like to emphasise that giving out personal detailsa and meeting up with people from online is a very bad idea. So many times i've read about people going to meet so one so, and getting raped, or stood up. It definately is setting yourself up for a fall.

Even if you don't plan on meeting that person, again you still may never know how they actually feel and one day they could just bugger off and leave you, you never see the person, you never get to touch them and cuddle them - the usually loving things. Everything is just words, and in my opinion, words are just words, they need alot more of on top of that for the feelings to be really felt.

Any idiots who go to meet up with someone and have never seen them on cam or spoke to them on skype or something get what they ask for imo

[Nedster]

Most people think they fail. But I know loads of people who have done it, and are still together - they regularly meet up (etc). It's OK if you can keep it going, and keep things fresh.. tbh, like any relationship - but as people said it's OK for 12 year olds, I know 18+ who do it. It depends on who you date. Sometimes, as I said in my previous post - they've only known each other a few hours. Which is utterly bullcrap, and I hate it when in the couple of hours it's "i love him/her" .. uno?

[Rapidshare]

I was thinking more of e-dating and seeing eachother once ina while, but if you just meant completely e-date then that a different matter.

[,Lexiilu]

personally i think they can work, but you have to meet up someday to continue to be honest.
as many have said, physical stuff is very important in a relationship and you have to be able to do certain things eventually -- otherwise, what's the point?
lol well here's my stupid story...i edated someone on forum (yes we all know who it is get out) and it ended after only two weeks. i haven't edated or anything since then but i don't think its bad or anything. personally i'm all for it if you really like each other and are willing to try then hell yeah go for it. you don't control who you like/love and unfortunately sometimes those people are way far away and edating is kind of the only option. although most people's internet relationships seem to just be stupid and pointless. like HI I LUV U XOXOXOXOXOXOX no.... if you're going to edate someone then make it worth something.

[Ajthedragon]

E-Dating is pointless and is for 12 year old children that still play habbo hotel, in my opinion.
I expect most of you to jump at my throat in shock horror, but that's the truth.
You need to be with the person your with, take them places, wine & dine, be a gentleman - you can't do that sat at home on the keyboard.

This. I think it's really sad and for people who can't find love irl.

[buttons]

This. I think it's really sad and for people who can't find love irl.
lol??????????????????????????????? who says they can't find love? getting to know people online before meeting them is just the same or even better sometimes.

you can't physically date online anyway, all you can do is give yourself the title of boyfriend & girlfriend. of COURSE it won't work. meeting someone online then meeting up irl before deciding whether you want to date or not is a totally different thing. i laugh at people who date online BEFORE meeting (cough pyroka/amy cough) but i also believe you can have feelings for someone online.
no it won't work if it's purely online, i think that's common sense but if you're talking about meeting online and then offline then sure you can, what's the difference? & like i said i believe you can have feelings for someone online but there's nothing you can do about it unless you meet them...

& i haven't e-dated seriously but i've met up with someone from the internet and dated them afterwards :) well we only lived about an hour bus journey anyway & i was 14 and i would definitely do it again. i don't like meeting people irl anyway lol. so i guess that means i'm really sad and can't find love irl just cause i decide not to:rolleyes:

[Inseriousity.]

Wouldn't work because there needs to be that physical element. Webcams just don't cut it ;P
I remember ages ago I had two friends online who were dating each other irl. It worked for them because once a year they'd meet up and do the physical stuff (wahey) but that eventually died out because 'once a year' just wasn't good enough after a while.

Despite that though, I do like the idea of someone dating you for who you are rather than what you look like, which is impossible irl as people see the look first, personality afterwards.

[Gibs960]

I think a relationship that is only online will never work, maybe if you meet in the real world then it could work but no, I don't believe they work and I don't believe relationships find love - they find desperate people who can't get a boyfriend/girlfriend, mostly in their 40's.

[dbgtz]

I think a relationship that is only online will never work, maybe if you meet in the real world then it could work but no, I don't believe they work and I don't believe relationships find love - they find desperate people who can't get a boyfriend/girlfriend, mostly in their 40's.

I think many people will disagree with you in the last bit.

[Neversoft]

I think many people will disagree with you in the last bit.

Indeed. The ideology that everyone on the internet is some 40 year old pedofile is just alien these days.

[Narnat,]

I would say maybe if it started off as an online relationship but maybe then met up then it would maybe work. Because you can find in relationships that people get bored of each other and tend to bicker. However if you don't constantly see someone it means when they are away you miss them but when they are with you, you want to be with each other and catch up on lost time.