A bit down and depressed :(

[Gibs960]

Well, I just can't seem to cheer up lately and it's because of girls, school life, home life and basically everything.

The main reason is 'cos of girls 'cos I really like someone (you'll laugh) and we held hands on Friday but she's saying she didn't and she's been doing stuff like this for weeks and I've been told to forget about her, but I just can't.

Any general tips for getting happier?

[myke]

probably hormones, puberty.

just think of happy things and forget the bad things

[Gibs960]

I've thought about that but everyone else isnt like this

[Matthew]

youre just gonna have to stop worrying and thinking about all of the bad things (girls)

if you dont mind me saying, i think youre a little bit young to be worrying about stuff like this

try to occupy your mind with something else, play some cod or w/e

[Gibs960]

Might sound stupid, but I can't forget about her.

[Matthew]

There must be something you can do to take your mind off it?

[PaulMacC]

You're like 14/15, right?
Girls come and go at that age, seriously. Not worth thinking about at all. The person you knew, will be a completly different person when she's 18 due to maturity, hormones, puberty etc.

[Matthew]

You're like 14/15, right?
Girls come and go at that age, seriously. Not worth thinking about at all. The person you knew, will be a completly different person when she's 18 due to maturity, hormones, puberty etc.

Oh, i thought he was 12? :S

Anyway, whether youre 12 or 15 its not worth getting yourself down over, just forget about it and move on :)

[Gibs960]

But still, I just can't.

[Chris]

I know how you feel, but it will pass in time. It's hard to move on when the person you like is the person you see nearly everyday at work/school. Best thing to do is to find a hobby and go out with mates. :]

[PaulMacC]

But still, I just can't.
Then you're going to have a hard time growing up and having far more intimate relationships with people if you're getting this upset over holding hands with someone and them not speaking with you.

[Arch]

just do something to get your mind off it;
play video games, watch a movie, hang out with your good friends

[rokgal]

Soemtimes things are hard to get over but sometimes we have to move on.

Try keep your mind off things and do stuff with your friends that you enjoy :)

[Nemo]

Realise that you've got **** pretty easy and the fact that a girl is your worst problem (especially at ur age) makes you the luckiest man alive.

[Chippiewill]

a) Get some sleep, you'll feel much better, teenagers need sleep to feel right
b)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-rJ-6hBfSo
c) Tell friends or family about it
d) ???
e) Profit

[Gibs960]

Soemtimes things are hard to get over but sometimes we have to move on.

Try keep your mind off things and do stuff with your friends that you enjoy :)

She's sorta my best friend... :\

[Nemo]

Realise that you've got **** pretty easy and the fact that a girl is your worst problem (especially at ur age) makes you the luckiest man alive.


She's sorta my best friend... :\
Ill say it again.


And if she's your best friend then get over it, been there, done that. Better as friends, no matter how good you get on, no matter how hot they are. Speakin from experiencez

[Gibs960]

Answer me honestly here though, when you were 11, did you think that person was "The one"?

[Nemo]

Answer me honestly here though, when you were 11, did you think that person was "The one"?
No because i was never deluded

I always thought logically, and at the time of meeting said girl (i think i was about 11 when i realised i really really liked her), i never thought of her as "the one" but i had, and still do have strong feelings for her. Just not exactly in that way anymore.

[Gibs960]

What are you gettin' at?

[Judas]

dont try and not think about her cos it wont work. just think about her. you'll think about how great she is, but then you will think about how much shes hurting you, and that makes her not worth it. dont be played around by her, just tell her to do one.

everyone that says it doesnt matter cos of how old he is, that wont help because it does hurt right now and telling him its hormones and puberty or whatever wont help. this is a human being that is clearly upset, whatever the circumstances are doesnt matter so stop putting him down even more. if you dont care or arent going to help just leave him alone, im sick of seeing posts like that on here.

[Nemo]

What are you gettin' at?
Nothing, im just answering your question. Once you come to the realisation that is highly super improbable that she is "the one", especially after hurting you, the quicker you'll get over it.

[Chris]

dont try and not think about her cos it wont work. just think about her. you'll think about how great she is, but then you will think about how much shes hurting you, and that makes her not worth it. dont be played around by her, just tell her to do one.


How can thinking about her help? In my eyes that makes it alot worse. 0.o

And I pretty much agree with what Nemo is saying, it is unlikley and in the end it will probably be a better idea to just stay friends. :]

[dbgtz]

sorry but, they held hands? imagine what you would do if they had hot, fiery sex or something. I know youre like 11 but i didnt even get jelous over that over the girl i liked at the time.

also i liked my friend once, proper close and that. dont speak to them now cos of the fact i told her. dont be me LOL.

[Chris]

I suppose at 11, it wouldnt be taken seriously...


also i liked my friend once, proper close and that. dont speak to them now cos of the fact i told her. dont be me LOL.

Exactly the same thing happend to me. :( Sadly I remember that day. My prom night. >.<

[Nemo]

And i didnt tell my person who i really, really liked and now we're super close friends and i wouldnt have it any other way because shes great to talk to and we can both tell each other anything, tis great to have someone that close. Sorted son.

[e5]

But still, I just can't.

Dude, you're all depressed and what not, and people are offering you advice, and you're just saying "I cant"... You atleast need to try mate... Theres plenty you can do - I've been through this stage - It's easy when you occupy your mind with something else.

[Unarmoured]

Seriously, this is just gay. Just deal with it, you're young, you'll get plenty of poon from drunk girls at parties when you're older. You shouldn't make threads like this to make you feel better about being a beaver.

[Eoin247]

I know it may feel to you like shes the one. But i've been through a simular situation before, it's best to forget and move on. My way was getting with another girl that in the end, it turned out, i liked better.

[Chris]

And i didnt tell my person who i really, really liked and now we're super close friends and i wouldnt have it any other way because shes great to talk to and we can both tell each other anything, tis great to have someone that close. Sorted son.

Lucky. >.<


Dude, you're all depressed and what not, and people are offering you advice, and you're just saying "I cant"... You atleast need to try mate... Theres plenty you can do - I've been through this stage - It's easy when you occupy your mind with something else.

Yeah, this is exactly what you need to do, just think about other things and it will soon go away. :]

[Judas]

Seriously, this is just gay. Just deal with it, you're young, you'll get plenty of poon from drunk girls at parties when you're older. You shouldn't make threads like this to make you feel better about being a beaver.

yeah, hes gay because he has feelings. not everyone is satisfied by taking advantage of drunk girls. dont be so heartless

[Nemo]

Lucky. >.<



Yeah, this is exactly what you need to do, just think about other things and it will soon go away. :]Yeah pretty luck lol, didnt do it on purpose. Just me being a chicken that happened to work out in my favour :p

[Wig44.]

Answer me honestly here though, when you were 11, did you think that person was "The one"?

Wow, oneitis at 11 years old. Stop being so desperate. I hate to be blunt but this is where you need to man the **** up. There are thousands of girls like her and millions of girls better, I hate to think about what you'll be like when you're older when you're like this at.. 11?

[Moh]

You'll be fine as time goes by :)

Trying not to think about her will make you think of her more (Like that mind game "The Game".. I just lost the game btw).

At your age, your emotionals will be all over the place, which will make it harder for you.

Try and do other things to take your mind off her and you'll realise how much you don't need her :) Try hanging around with some other friends, go to cinema and stuff.

Just look at it this way, the reason you go through bad times with relationships etc.. is so when you find the right person, you'll know how lucky you really are :)

[PaulMacC]

4 million years of evolutionary success and this is it?!
man the **** up!
Plenty of fish in the sea.

[@K]

You want to feel bette? Read this.

In the space of 1 week, I've managed to lose my girlfriend, whom I do love, my job, and my 'friends'. I do still have mates, but they aren't friends, and my true friends live in England. This is true heartache, oh and on top of all that, today atleast, I do not feel all that bad. So cheer up and remember, there's always someone worse off than you.

[Mark]

I think it is safe to say that we all go through "this stage" where we meet someone we think we truly love and then it ends in a tradgedy. What to do is... Find something you like doing e.g. Sports, Video Games, Doing physical things like woodwork etc. Make it your hobby and set yourself goals to complete. If this is too complicated, something else that will take it off your mind is having 'family days' or going out with mates :)

[Narnat,]

Hmm.. I would maybe pin point it too mood swings.

[qaxzsw]

LOL this is pathetic. omg you held hands big deal. sorry if this is harsh but seriously holding hands... means nothing :L get over it, your 11, you dont even know what love is, get over it, if you thinkn holding hands means alot then your not even mature enough for a relationship, which btw no-one is at 11. you should wait untill your like 14 till you have a relationship. this is just stupid.