Boyfriend issues?;

[Lindsey]

Alright, This'll probably not make sense, but ill try.


I was dating this one guy named Chris for 5 months. During those five months, we had a lot of memories together. But by about month 5 we were fighting ALL the time, and he legit pushed my friend into a door. ;l , He started to take all of his angry out on me. Then He started to take me away from my friends. So about a month ago, I broke up with him..

Then ; this new guy came along. Named Brandon. I have been now dating him for about a month. But for the past two weeks. I have been crying... Everyday, Because I'm not over Chris. And I don't see Brandon very often. because he lives like 30 minutes away from me.

Brandon, inboxed Chris on Facebook about 3 weeks ago, ; and it was a really rude inbox, so Chris thought i told Brandon to inbox him. Which I didn't. So I called up Chris that night, and attempted to talk to him. Which didn't really work... He called me a rude name .. ;/

About a couple days ago, I called up Chris again.. and bawled on the phone for about 30 minutes. He actually cared about me... He tried to make me happy. & He said we could be friends but it wouldn't be the same... then the next day. I got a phone call, from him, and he said we cant be friends.. because he apparently needs time. But the more time I give him, the more I cry. I cant seem to get over him.

I am debating on Breaking up with Brandon. As I am not 100% over Chris and I think I moved on too fast. And I don't see him very much..

Personally I have NO clue, what to do, .. Any ideas?

I'll give anyone +rep (: x

[Nicola]

Honestly I think boys need to be cut of the equation for a while. Not being over this Chris guy is obviously causing problems with Brandon so I think you need to take yourself away from both of them for a little bit so you can decide what you really want.

I know waiting to know what's going to happen with this Chris guy sucks but once he has decided you'll feel so much better because then you'll actually know where you stand. If he decides that he wants to get back together and sort things out then you can decide whether you want to carry on the relationship, if he decides that he wants to stay friends then you know that you can finally make time to move on.

[Jordy]

and it's such a wonder that Chris doesn't want to be friends with you when you break up with him, get with another guy straight away who sounds like a complete moron and then go crying back to him. Think how messed around and confused he must feel, so idc that you feel down tbh.

[Nemo]

These seem like really immature relationships if im honest, how old are you? being 30 mins apart is absolutely nothing at all? Why would that stop you at all?

Just do what nicola said and cut out boys. Brandon was obv. the rebound guy so just forget about em all for a while.

[Gibs960]

Although I'm sort of young to be commenting on this sort of things, I know my own "race" of people - boys. Sometimes boys say things that they don't mean and I think everyone does really, so what he said was probably something that just slipped out. Maybe you should break up with Brandon and see how things go with Chris.

[Narnat,]

Odear syrup :(

If I'm honest 30 min isn't anything maybe if you both try to put in the effort on seeing each other a bit more will take your mind off chris. Also this whole crying thing, I think you need to keep yourself occupied then you wont have time to think about Chris. Remember if you need to talk haggis is always here! xx

[Yupt]

Talked to you about it on msn the otherday, so take that in mind and if you need to ask anything else, feel free ;D

hope everything works out
xx

[PaulMacC]

Odear syrup :(

If I'm honest 30 min isn't anything maybe if you both try to put in the effort on seeing each other a bit more will take your mind off chris. Also this whole crying thing, I think you need to keep yourself occupied then you wont have time to think about Chris. Remember if you need to talk haggis is always here! xx
Yep. My girlfriend lives 30 minute bus journey away from me :p

[Middlesbrough]

Is brandon an admin on any habbo forums you could think of?

[kuzkasate]

you need to break up with brandon and explain your reasons for this, tell him that maybe once your over the whole situation, you will get back together. and then just go with the flow.. try make friends with chris and if you realise its chris you want, tell him how much he means to you, explain your reasons for breaking up with him before and tell him that you finished brandon to be with him.

[Nikki]

I did a similar thing, I rushed into another relationship pretending i was over my ex when i wasn't. It wasn't really fair on my new boyfriend and after a few months i realised it wasn't. He took it really badly and we lost our friendship which really sucked. If I was you I would explain how you're feeling to Brandon and the nicest thing to do could be to dump him, so that you're not leading him on as much. With Chris, he might still be annoyed/upset at you for dumping him then moving on so quickly? If you still think you have feeling for him, you could try talking to him again, but you've got to remember the reasons why you broke up with him, if you think you're going to argue like before and if its worth going through it all again. You're only young ;)!

[Lindsey]

you need to break up with brandon and explain your reasons for this, tell him that maybe once your over the whole situation, you will get back together. and then just go with the flow.. try make friends with chris and if you realise its chris you want, tell him how much he means to you, explain your reasons for breaking up with him before and tell him that you finished brandon to be with him.

I have basically did all this ;/ I broke up with Brandon last night. and had a long conversation with Chris... ;/ , yeah. Chris doesn't wanna be friends, because he apparently needs time. Which I accept. sorta.


Odear syrup :(

If I'm honest 30 min isn't anything maybe if you both try to put in the effort on seeing each other a bit more will take your mind off chris. Also this whole crying thing, I think you need to keep yourself occupied then you wont have time to think about Chris. Remember if you need to talk haggis is always here! xx

Awwwh fankss Haggiss xx


Talked to you about it on msn the otherday, so take that in mind and if you need to ask anything else, feel free ;D

hope everything works out
xx

Loveeeyaaaa Mikeeee <3


Is brandon an admin on any habbo forums you could think of?

Yes totally. you caught me .. ;l really?


I did a similar thing, I rushed into another relationship pretending i was over my ex when i wasn't. It wasn't really fair on my new boyfriend and after a few months i realised it wasn't. He took it really badly and we lost our friendship which really sucked. If I was you I would explain how you're feeling to Brandon and the nicest thing to do could be to dump him, so that you're not leading him on as much. With Chris, he might still be annoyed/upset at you for dumping him then moving on so quickly? If you still think you have feeling for him, you could try talking to him again, but you've got to remember the reasons why you broke up with him, if you think you're going to argue like before and if its worth going through it all again. You're only young ;)!

Your 100% right, Chris actually hates me. But I think after our conversation last night, He has a little bit of respect for me. I have broken up with Brandon. Me and Brandon are still friends, which is good. Chris and I had a lot of like little games? i don't even know how to explain it. I really do miss him, I told him that last night, and he misses me too apparently, but hes dating someone, and yeah. He said he needs time to think about it all. Which, since our conversation till like 6am in the morning... I haven't cried, which is good.

+rep to everyone who helped xx

[Rapidshare]

Sounds like immature relationships..

I suggest moving away from boys and work on your GCSE's.