Would you ever not go out with someone because they were overweight?

[Samantha]

I would be torn really. Although I am not shallow enough to say you are too fat I will never date you, I may nto want to date them because of their weight.

It's not just their weight that would put me off it would be the fact that I am underweight and if we ever got physical I wouldn't want to be hurt.

However, I would date someone if they were a little overweight if they understood me and stuff.

[Nemo]

How fat are we talking?

If they were a bit chubby i can deal with that, but full on fat, just no. Wouldnt be attracted to it and gotta be atleast a bit attracted to the person.

[FlyingJesus]

Absolutely, if I'm not attracted to them why would I go out with them?

[Samantha]

Hmm say one was like 18 stone compared to someone who was 300 pound (something like 21 stone. yes they are american). I'm not torn between any decision or going off what's happening to me irl because i would neither date them they were just examples.
however, i agree a bit chubby is fine.

[buttons]

i will never date a fat person simply because i like guys and girls who take care of their health and appearance. simple as, nothing to do with being shallow, i will take a healthy one over a funny, fat person. i wouldn't not be friends with someone who was fat (actually i don't have any fat fat friends idk why ://) but in a relationship my type is someone who looks after themselves. yep...
that being said i once got asked out by a large guy and he was really nice but i said no because of those reasons ^ then he lost loads of weight, got fit and became too good for me. lol

[lol]

How fat are we talking?

If they were a bit chubby i can deal with that, but full on fat, just no. Wouldnt be attracted to it and gotta be atleast a bit attracted to the person.
This... A little bit of chubs is acceptable yet should be regarded with caution.

[Hecktix]

Nope and most people who say they would, would be lying.

[Nemo]

i love that jen and tom were the first few ppl to post in this thread, so expected.



and oli, that's some people's preference. Some people like larger women/men

[buttons]

Nope and most people who say they would, would be lying.
and most likely fat themselves. they do say you go for someone who resembles you, right?. gon be judging everyone in here. i honestly can't see how people are attracted to fat... why is it such an insult or shallow to say that? i'm not attracted to people who don't take care of their health. i just don't get it.
now 'big-boned' (lol) is fine really, 'curvy' FINE aslong as there's no excess flab - even on a skinny person. why does that make someone shallow? isn't it natural to prefer healthy people? lol go on someone tell me being fat is healthy:S & i'm not saying skinny is healthier at all just overweight people...no

[Eoin247]

i will never date a fat person simply because i like guys and girls who take care of their health and appearance. simple as, nothing to do with being shallow, i will take a healthy one over a funny, fat person. i wouldn't not be friends with someone who was fat (actually i don't have any fat fat friends idk why ://) but in a relationship my type is someone who looks after themselves. yep...
that being said i once got asked out by a large guy and he was really nice but i said no because of those reasons ^ then he lost loads of weight, got fit and became too good for me. lol

I agree with most that's said here.

I hate to sound shallow but i will probably never go out with a fat person.

[Inseriousity.]

Like someone said depends on how overweight. I'd rather have a curvy woman than a really thin woman or a really overweight woman but as a general rule, no, I just don't see it working very well (I'm really thin!)

[cocaine]

'big boned' is a myth and coined by the fat community to reassure themselves that they aren't overweight

and no way would i go out with a fat person

[FlyingJesus]

If I can't see her bones it's not happening

[Chris]

Depends how much overweight they are. If they're huge then no.

[Moh]

same with everybody else, depends on how overweight. A little bit ain't too bad, but if they're just pure fat with a second chin.. no. don't wanna be squashed now do I?

[Becca]

Absolutely, if I'm not attracted to them why would I go out with them?

this tbh.

[matt$]

Some love handles are alright but when your hands starts disappearing into them then its a bit too fat.

[Gibs960]

Yes, I would be put off. But if they can prove that they're not all about weight and they had a good personality then I would.

But most fat people on TV are really depressed all the time.

[Jacob]

I can't say I really mind someone who is slightly fat but when we're talking overweight I think of too much. I feel it sometimes is down to personality but when you mentally know that the person is overweight you do get put off by it slightly. This is in no way offensive though.

[Sharon]

why would i go out with someone i don't find attractive! people who say ''only personality matters'' need a reality check

[NiallSource]

Of course I would avoid it, whoever says no is a ******* liar.

[Muct]

Depends how overweight they are to be honest...

[Conservative,]

If they're slightly overweight I wouldn't mind but properly, noticeably fat no. Purely because A) I wouldn't be attracted to them and B) It wouldn't work - I'm underweight for a start, it just wouldn't be right.

[,Lexiilu]

overweight is one thing, morbidly obese is another.
it depends how overweight as everyone else has said. if they're a little overweight then that's fine. however if they're morbidly obese then no, i'm not going to date them because i'm not going to be physically attracted to them in the first place. i think that physical attraction is extremely important in a relationship and if you're not into really large people and you find that a turn off then why would you be with them? plus, from personal experience i've noticed that obese people tend to be extremely depressed and if i'm depressed myself, i'm not going to be able to go to them for help because they're going to have their own issues. i like to date someone who i can go to when i'm upset and will make me feel better, not bring me down even further. i hate sounding so shallow but it's true. i try to take care of myself and leave myself at a very average weight so why can't they do the same? my school happens to be pretty shallow. a really good friend of mine is pretty overweight and she's never had a boyfriend before and i think it's starting to take its toll. she eats extremely unhealthily and yet she complains about how no one likes her and no one wants to date her. she's been acting weird because of it. unfortunately it's a problem that just will most likely never go away for society. let's face it -- thinner people usually just don't find it attractive when someone eats like a pig and weighs three times as much as them. i find that an extreme turnoff.

so my straight up answer is that i would not date someone if they were morbidly obese.

[benjamin]

meh i was seeing a guy that's overweight. not absolutely huge, but bigger than me (and im not exactly chubby, but stocky)

doesn't really bother me.

[myke]

'big boned' is a myth and coined by the fat community to reassure themselves that they aren't overweight

and no way would i go out with a fat person

the bit about big boned isnt lies lol, maybe im thinking in a diff context...
i have like dead wide shoulders, which is bone but i'm not fat... 9 times out of ten my clothes are too big for me because the fact i have broad shoulders which is slightly annoying

evolution says that guys go for girls with wide hips because it's easier for them to cradle the baby in them and girls go for guys with big shoulders and a smaller torso like a triangle because they feel secure </psychology>

nd uhm idk it depends on how they view themselves, i wouldn't date someone who is overweight loads no

[Yupt]

I wish i could say that 'it's the personality that counts'

but lets face it, some people ARE really nice but i'll be honest and say if they were more than a little chubby, i'd be like, no.

[Con]

i will never date a fat person simply because i like guys and girls who take care of their health and appearance. simple as, nothing to do with being shallow, i will take a healthy one over a funny, fat person. i wouldn't not be friends with someone who was fat
this exactly.
I have a few fat friends, but I'd never date them.
I'd only really date someone I found physically attractive otherwise like, no feelings form tbh :)

[Habitacion]

no, i wouldnt be attracted so no xd

[Lost_Addict]

It depends because i'm 6"2 and weigh 15stone 5 pounds ATM (but i'm working out to get to 13 stone) which put me as about overwight in a BMI calc thing. I

I think going by bmi calc. I would be fine going out with someone classed overweight, just probably not what is classed as obesce

As people said above if they were jsut chubby i'd probably be fine with that XD

[FlyingJesus]

About to burst into tears, I lost 2 of my 10114 rep because I'm apparently not allowed to like skinny girls

[dbgtz]

Urrm depends on the weight and the age. I think at the young age of just wanting fun, you'd rather have someone whos an ideal weight because you want it to be fun. I think when I'm late 20s I won't care so much but at the mo I like them at a decent weight, such as their feet not having their fat seep through their shoes. Well I will never like them obese, I don't see how anyone could like someone who breaths like a elephant after one small step down hill.

[smiffy70]

well whenever i have seen a larger person i ususally find they are quite good looking, and tbh aslong as their personality is ok i wouldnt think twice like most ********s

[Ajthedragon]

Absolutely, if I'm not attracted to them why would I go out with them?

This. :P I might not mind if it were just a tad though!

[Nikki]

Some fat people can be quite hot, I think. I guess it depends how overweight they are. If it's only slightly I wouldn't mind :) We could go to the gym together woo :)

[RedStratocas]

honestly i probably wouldnt be able to so much as kiss someone who's even just slightly overweight. i like my girls really skinny, flab is probably my biggest turnoff. i'd rather date a girl with no curves whatsoever.


About to burst into tears, I lost 2 of my 10114 rep because I'm apparently not allowed to like skinny girls

here have 17.

[chantellehugs]

I honestly don't know, I mean I guess if their personality was nice, I would. But for me I have to notice something about their appearance first, like eyes/smile/etc.
Also depends how 'overweight' they are, nowadays people who look perfectly normal are being told they're overweight...

[Andy-]

Lool many people may find it rude but I agree that I will never go out with a fat person, not even if they had a nice personality. I won't mind too chubby but not fat.

[Hiro]

If they were excessively huge, no. Average to chubby is fine.

[Shar]

Depends on personality :rolleyes:
No but really it depends on how overweight they are..

[maxiiee]

No Because it would be anoying not because of the fat just all the sesions and stuff

[IceNineKills]

im not shallow.