I don't know what to do

[Conservative,]

Ok so I got to explorers (yeah ok call me a neek but it is quite fun tbh), and there are these 2 fit girls there.

Anyway, last week me & 3 other guys were messing around and the 2 girls were with us and we were just talking, mucking about, being teenagers etc. but then it got more...sexual.

One of the guys asked if he could touch one of the girls' boobs and then the other 3 lads all took it in turns but I backed out because I felt awkward. Then they just messed about like feeling each other up, chasing each other and that...

I'm the newest member of the explorers (even though I've been there like 3 months), and well, I didn't know what to do. I know all of the people quite well because the lads go to my school and I know the girls from my old school and stuff. But they know me as kinda neeky, nice, boy and I didn't want to ruin that, but I DID want to join in.

So help?

[buttons]

lol are you ******* serious
what do you want help with
do you want to feel them up as well or something? stay as your 'neeky, nice boy' self instead of 'pervy creep'. doesn't matter if they allow it (not that they're gonna let u lol....) in the end they can still say it's sexual harassment. don't even chance it, dream on.

[Nemo]

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lol are you ******* serious
what do you want help with
do you want to feel them up as well or something? stay as your 'neeky, nice boy' self instead of 'pervy creep'. doesn't matter if they allow it (not that they're gonna let u lol....) in the end they can still say it's sexual harassment. don't even chance it, dream on.
ehem, but yes i agree with jen.

[dbgtz]

what? In the end not fondling a girls boobs will be the best but considering your age if they offered, you might aswell taken your chance, ***** will be *****.
On a serious not, dont fondle boobs unless its like sexytime or something.

I'd like to see these "fit" girls too.

[Sharon]

If their so fit to you I don't see why you didn't >.< just chillax if they think your cool and stuff and be a bit more daring (this could be taken in a bad concept so don't do anything bad bad and always carry condoms :l)

[Jacob]

Don't touch and avoid doing things like this unless your in a relationship. React how you normally do with them but don't participate in things that kill what they thought about you. Think about it like this maybe... your touching your best friend. That's a random example but it would put me off!

[Nemo]

Don't touch and avoid doing things like this unless your in a relationship. React how you normally do with them but don't participate in things that kill what they thought about you. Think about it like this maybe... your touching your best friend. That's a random example but it would put me off!but there's people who have **** buddies who are generally just good/best friends but they have sex with them which is like totally more than just a lil touch. not tha same with everyone


did i mention this is the best thread ever

[Conservative,]

but there's people who have **** buddies who are generally just good/best friends but they have sex with them which is like totally more than just a lil touch. not tha same with everyone


did i mention this is the best thread ever

Uhm thanks? Lol.


Uh help just advice what to do, sorry I was in a rush to go out.

And yeah I know it's like harrasment or something, I just stood, watched, laughed and talked with them but I was having to hold myself back. But they gave permission for the other guys to do it, it's not like they forced her lol.

We're not like really close friends or anything and they're a year older than me anyway (not that it makes a difference)

anyway yeah I just thought I probably shouldn't change myself. I am who I am. Like, the nice, clever guy who doesn't do that lol.

Thanks to all. :)

[lol]

you should've gone for it... who knows, by now you could be smashing one of them

[dirrty]

based on you saying that you're 'neeky', then there's no point in doing anything with em as them fit girls probably ain't interested. ~stereotyping but true~

[Conservative,]

based on you saying that you're 'neeky', then there's no point in doing anything with em as them fit girls probably ain't interested. ~stereotyping but true~

tbh fair point, but idk, they're fit, but who knows? I'm not a total nerd, people only class me as neeky because I wear classes and get good grades, not because I act like a total nerd 24/7. But eh fair point.

Eugh fml being 14 is too hard lol. Mixed feelings. As I said, I wanted to, but I knew I shouldn't - so I didn't. But now in a way I'm kinda regretting it. >;[ I spose it was for the best that I stayed true to my values and that.

[Stephen]

show them how to ski in a wheelchair

that'll impress them

[lol]

why do you say you shouldn't have?
i dunno about you but if a girl wants me to play with her **** you better damn well know i'm going to
and why would you wait until your in a relationship, that doesn't make any sense, now's the time to **** around with anybody you want

[Conservative,]

show them how to ski in a wheelchair

that'll impress them

I showed them how to ski, does that count?


why do you say you shouldn't have?
i dunno about you but if a girl wants me to play with her **** you better damn well know i'm going to
and why would you wait until your in a relationship, that doesn't make any sense, now's the time to **** around with anybody you want

Well, I never did, but the back of my mind whenever I thought about doing it was saying it was wrong, like, taking advantage of them?
Kind of like a devil and angel situation. My angel was saying no, don't do it it's abusing them or w/e. My devil was saying do it, they want you to, this might be the only chance you get. And my angel won, but really this thread is in case I were in the position again I don't know what I'd do. Especially as I've been in the situation now, I thought it might be easier, but it's just made it harder because I don't know whether to stick to my original decision of staying away and just joking around when they stop, or to change how I acted and join in this time >;l

[lawrawrrr]

If you didn't do anything, that probably made you look better in the girls' eyes TBH. There's nothing wrong with a little flirting - good for the soul, I always say XD

And neeks are haawwwwwwt.

[Macey]

all im going to say is one lass letting 3 guys touch her boob?
bet all the guys know her name round town!
you have free will, do it or dont, your life your choice!

[Conservative,]

If you didn't do anything, that probably made you look better in the girls' eyes TBH. There's nothing wrong with a little flirting - good for the soul, I always say XD

And neeks are haawwwwwwt.

It was a bit more than flirting imo...but then again it wasn't much more than feeling lol. Just messing about and stuff but I was just like O.O okay...

And yes yes ik neeks are fit irl ;)


all im going to say is one lass letting 3 guys touch her boob?
bet all the guys know her name round town!
you have free will, do it or dont, your life your choice!

Lol she's not even a **** or anything normally, idk what she was on that day tbh. But eh...

[Nemo]

okay honest time

Just do whatever the hell you want. If you dont wanna because it makes you feel uncomfortable, then dont do it. If you want to because.... hell why not then go for it. If shes putting out then go for it. Not like its sex and you have a chance of getting aids or somethin. Dont overthink and just do whatever the hell you want, not what others would do.


n what kind of messing about
my version of that is probably very different to yours

[Conservative,]

okay honest time

Just do whatever the hell you want. If you dont wanna because it makes you feel uncomfortable, then dont do it. If you want to because.... hell why not then go for it. If shes putting out then go for it. Not like its sex and you have a chance of getting aids or somethin. Dont overthink and just do whatever the hell you want, not what others would do.


n what kind of messing about
my version of that is probably very different to yours

Lol okay thanks, probably the most helpful thing you've ever posted in one of my threads :O!

But uhm messing about like... chasing each other around then feeling each other and like getting down their skirts and tops and stuff.

And no it's not like it's sex but I've never seen anything happen like that before. I've been to a few parties and seen people getting off with each other etc but for it to happen as it did...was new for me.

[Nemo]

Lol okay thanks, probably the most helpful thing you've ever posted in one of my threads :O!

But uhm messing about like... chasing each other around then feeling each other and like getting down their skirts and tops and stuff.

And no it's not like it's sex but I've never seen anything happen like that before. I've been to a few parties and seen people getting off with each other etc but for it to happen as it did...was new for me.
wait wait wait wait wai twaiwa tiwait wait

i thought u were like 10, these people are also?

riiiiiiiiight.

[dbgtz]

seriously, can I see a pic via PM?

[lawrawrrr]

It was a bit more than flirting imo...but then again it wasn't much more than feeling lol. Just messing about and stuff but I was just like O.O okay...

And yes yes ik neeks are fit irl ;)

I think by not taking it further probably made look you look better - and they're gonna prefer you over the other guys. At the end of the day, if you want to get with this girl try a bit of gentle like, edging in gently will do the world of good!

[Nemo]

I think by not taking it further probably made look you look better - and they're gonna prefer you over the other guys. At the end of the day, if you want to get with this girl try a bit of gentle like, edging in gently will do the world of good!
Well thats not entirely true if they're making out with the other guys

[lawrawrrr]

Well thats not entirely true if they're making out with the other guys

That is very true..................

[e5]

feeling boobs should be strictly kept to a girl you know and are seeing/with.... pretty wrong otherwise.... especially there?

[ben]

should of

[ChickenFaces]

Well these girls kind of seem like ***** to me if you want my honest opinion, but I'd feel a bit awkward if some guy asked if they could touch my boobs and I let them. Call me crazy, but I'm one of those people that don't like getting felt up by pervy guys that I'm not dating... It's just a thing.

[lol]

seriously, can I see a pic via PM?
creep


feeling boobs should be strictly kept to a girl you know and are seeing/with.... pretty wrong otherwise.... especially there?
disagree... at clubs and parties if you stick with that mindset you're never going to get with anybody


girls like confidence, so if you're being all shy and "no thanks, i don't want to," then i feel like that's a major turn off for girls... you don't have to get in every single girls' pants, but at least go for some

[Stephen]

Are you a tranny michael? Did your name used to be michelle?

anyway he's only 13 or 14 or whatever

id be pretty shocked if stuff like that happened when I was 13

[lol]

Are you a tranny michael? Did your name used to be michelle?

anyway he's only 13 or 14 or whatever

id be pretty shocked if stuff like that happened when I was 13what the hell are you talking about?

[buttons]

girls like confidence, so if you're being all shy and "no thanks, i don't want to," then i feel like that's a major turn off for girls... you don't have to get in every single girls' pants, but at least go for some
lmao i find it a turn on!
i find it more of a turn off when they sleaze and creep on you. i'd rather a guy be classy and hard to get... shy is cute, as long as you're cute too!

[PaulB]

Haven't read any of the other posts so dunno what others have said lol. Sounds like a bunch of geeks experimenting to me tbh haha. Just go for it mate. Don't let on that you aren't confident. A lot of lasses like confident lads.

[Samantha]

Although it may have been the right thing to do (not touching them). They may now think you are gay. That's probably notthe case but it's always an option.

You didn't touch them? You regret it after. Been there, done that my friend, the worst part is them not allowing you to have a repeat performance. But then again, I would rather do it a numerous amount of times with someone I love than with someone I don't for a one off experience, if that was the other way around and the girls were feeling a penis then I myself would feel used. Don't be taken in by the pendulems they are a hypnotic device (taken off two pints of lager and a packetof crisps. Sorry). Anyway, I think you should feel glad that you didn't do it. When you are at explorers again see if the same thing occurs, if it does, think to yourself. Is it worth it? Or should I wait for the first time to be special?

Forget about the angel and the devil. Who needs them. You shouldn't be torn between it.

Also, maybe you mature later than others. Heck I was 14 when I got a boyfriend and then I wasn't ready, then got my first kiss at 16, knowing I was ready. Maybe you think you are ready. if you do, then why not go for it. but with someone you love and admire and someone who loves you for you.

[Fiendly]

Why bother joining in? Not missing out on much to be honest..
Having a grab isn't all special, wouldn't you rather do that to a girlfriend so you're the only guy doing that?

Don't stress too much. Not worth it if other guys did it, I know I wouldn't if a lot of other guys did..
Shows how bad those girls are.

[Inspiration]

The girls from what i read seem like ***** so don't even bother wasting your time on girls like that , Find a decent girl who appreciates you and if you get yourself into a relationship then the fun can begin... :D

[Swearwolf]

lmao i find it a turn on!
i find it more of a turn off when they sleaze and creep on you. i'd rather a guy be classy and hard to get... shy is cute, as long as you're cute too!

i'm cute

[HotelUser]

I might be seriously lacking in the whole fondling of sexual body parts department but I could of sworn a female just casually letting a group of male friends get on with Betty and Selma used to be classed as being very very easy.

I think most guys would have wanted to "explore" as you said in that situation and you must have really good ethics not to of taken part.

[Metric1]

i legitimately just laughed out loud.

the feeling boobs part just about did me in.

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Edited by Infectious (Forum Moderator): Please do not make pointless posts that add nothing to the thread discussion, thanks!

[Hiro]

I was "exploring" girls at 14 (hell, I was "exploring" before that too), if they were fine with it, you should have tbh. Life is about experience, but then again you have plenty more teen years.


P.S. Is it bad that I had to google "neek"?