Girls are like buses.

[Conservative,]

You don't get any for agessssssss, then loads come along at once and you have to choose which one to get on.

Okay - so I posted here like a month ago(?) about that 16 year old girl...I'm still thinking about what to do. But now there is also a girl I met whilst on a school trip - she's French, but I really like her, she's closer to my age, and we talk like every day. And there's also a girl from my old school who I saw a few weeks ago who I've been talking to a bit.

Argh I dunno. It's too hard to choose.

Here are the pros & cons of each:

16 year old:
Pros - More mature, funny, fit
Cons - Older - therefore less likely to say yes, only see her twice a week

French girl:
Pros - My age, VERY fit, funny, talk all the time
Cons - she lives in France

Old friend:
Pros - She's not half bad, I could see her every day
Cons - Don't want to ruin 11 year friendship, not as fit as the other 2.

Dam :/

[FlyingJesus]

How is that even difficult you basically have

1) Fit and you see her
2) Fit but you don't see her
3) Not fit and you're not into her

[Nemo]

why not try for all 3? Cant hurt to attempt

[Stephen]

so how did you and mummy start going out? Well I posted her pros and cons along with 2 other girl's on a habbo forum and then waited to see who they wanted me to pick and luckily it was your mother :dance:

[RockyHorror]

It seems like you've already made the decision, that you prefer the 16yo you're just scared she'll say no, but if the worse comes to the worse and she says no, then you have two other options, aye.

Speaking from experience trying to have a long distance relationship, it's incredibly difficult especially the longer it goes on as you develop more and more feelings yet you don't see them, it's hard.

And there is no point settling for somebody because it's an easier option because it will never last, you'll get bored.

[Samantha]

I think maybe you were taken aback by the lovely French babe and now you are in some sort of honeymoon phase where you talk all the time and seem to really get on and then one day the boredness will strike. If you go out with her it's not really a proper relationship as such as you can't really do anything with her and you and her would have to travel to the Uk/France whenever is possible so the finance side is bad too. Also, with it being long distance you don't know what the other one is actually getting up to whilst away from each other!

On the other hand, you have the old friend and you don't want to ruin the friendship, which is understandable, but you've only been retalking for about a week surely you can't really decide whether you want her or not yet. Yes, you could see her everyday, and she may not be the most attractive but then again she may not want a relationship with you or vice versa.

Anyway, I've probably confused you, and myself for that matter. I think the best thing to do is let time take it's course a bit, see if your French friend and yourself grow apart after a while, same with the others.

etc.

[Inseriousity.]

you mean every 6 months the prices go up? surely your analogy only works if youre in a boys-only school or youd see girls all the time :P

Anyway, yeah dodgy title aside, 1 or 2 imo although as someone said, no harm asking all 3!

[Conservative,]

you mean every 6 months the prices go up? surely your analogy only works if youre in a boys-only school or youd see girls all the time :P

Anyway, yeah dodgy title aside, 1 or 2 imo although as someone said, no harm asking all 3!

Lol. Yeah I'm in an all boys school.

I already had gone through the logic but I wanted to see others opinions because I wasn't sure, but your answers are same as mine - first one is the best idea. Anyway, thanks :)

[dbgtz]

I like how you say "it's too hard to choose", are they begging at your feet or something? Here's why no to each.
#1 - "Mature" and "Fit" don't really belong in the same sentence.
#2 - Your con says it.
#3 - Clearly there is no attraction.

[tardis101]

LOLOL i read this analagy and was at first WTF then O-o and now im Ahhh I get it :P

[Glen Coco]

why are all of these based on being 'fit'?

[cocaine]

why are all of these based on being 'fit'?

well you don't want to go out with a dog? "ooh its not all about the looks" - bull****, everyone who says that are hypocrites

#1 obv mate lol, no argument

[Nemo]

well you don't want to go out with a dog? "ooh its not all about the looks" - bull****, everyone who says that are hypocrites

#1 obv mate lol, no argument
Not entirely true, girls are far less shallow than men

[cocaine]

Not entirely true, girls are far less shallow than men

what? this is from a male perspective..

[Nemo]

ill give you a hint - they aren't
In general they are, if you can display some value in another way, be that money, status, preselection (other girls having an interest in you) etc., then they are still very much likely to like/go out with you regardless of looks. Obviously thats a general thing and not every girl is gonna stick to that. However if you have nothing at all, then looks is probably your only option, unlucky if you're ugly aswell then eh?

and this is totally related
http://www.lamebook.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/certain1.jpg

[cocaine]

In general they are, if you can display some value in another way, be that money, status, preselection (other girls having an interest in you) etc., then they are still very much likely to like/go out with you regardless of looks. Obviously thats a general thing and not every girl is gonna stick to that. However if you have nothing at all, then looks is probably your only option, unlucky if you're ugly aswell then eh?

and this is totally related
http://www.lamebook.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/certain1.jpg

but then the girl would just be going out with him for his money/status/preselection and not his personality..

[Glen Coco]

but if you had 3 girls to pick from it shouldn't just be based on if they're 'fit'.
yeah obviously it has something to do with it, but not everything and who you like most shouldn't be based on how 'fit' they are.

[Nemo]

but then the girl would just be going out with him for his money/status/preselection and not his personality..
Thats what the initial attraction is usually based on, obviously to keep a sustained relationship they'd have to have some chemistry and like each other's personality. But even if it was just for his value and not his personality, shes still generally not being shallow. Unless its solely for his good looks in which case power on soldier.

but if you had 3 girls to pick from it shouldn't just be based on if they're 'fit'.
yeah obviously it has something to do with it, but not everything and who you like most shouldn't be based on how 'fit' they are.
well he said he gets on with them all so yeh why not

[cocaine]

But even if it was just for his value and not his personality, shes still generally not being shallow

/stumped

shallow: A term that is massively overused. It usually means a man/woman who only judges by looks and not by personality.

[Nemo]

/stumped

shallow: A term that is massively overused. It usually means a man/woman who only judges by looks and not by personality.
Yah, thats my point. If a girl goes for just his value, thats not being shallow is it?

[cocaine]

Yah, thats my point. If a girl goes for just his value, thats not being shallow is it?

if a girls going out with a guy on the pure basis that he's popular/has money then... yeah i'd say she's being shallow?

[Nemo]

if a girls going out with a guy on the pure basis that he's popular/has money then... yeah i'd say she's being shallow?
No you're not understanding, im just saying thats what the initial attraction is based on. You cant go upto a girl and be like HEY THIS IS MY PERSONALITY and then they'll be attracted now can you? You have to demonstrate it in other ways

[Wig44.]

Okay - so I posted here like a month ago(?) about that 16 year old girl...I'm still thinking about what to do.

You still haven't had the balls to talk to this girl after a month just because she might say no? By not asking her you have basically rejected yourself for her, also these other 2 girls seem like you procrastinating over the situation at hand. Talk to the 16 year old, no one but you and her have to know anything happened if she rejects you. You can talk to this girl or you can remain passive, not say anything to her, make an IM GOING TO KILL MASELF SRSLY DEPRESED thread on habbox and lose out

@Nemo:
Men and women go for status, women get status from looks/popularity (mostly looks), men get status from looks/money/intelligence/popularity/job. This is why better looking people are usually smarter. Yes my friends, the halo effect/good looking-must-be-smart stereotype is based on truth.

[cocaine]

No you're not understanding, im just saying thats what the initial attraction is based on. You cant go upto a girl and be like HEY THIS IS MY PERSONALITY and then they'll be attracted now can you? You have to demonstrate it in other ways

hence why i said 'on the pure basis'
i understand what you're saying though.

[Andeeh]

You still haven't had the balls to talk to this girl after a month just because she might say no? By not asking her you have basically rejected yourself for her, also these other 2 girls seem like you procrastinating over the situation at hand. Talk to the 16 year old, no one but you and her have to know anything happened if she rejects you. You can talk to this girl or you can remain passive, not say anything to her, make an IM GOING TO KILL MASELF SRSLY DEPRESED thread on habbox and lose out

@Nemo:
Men and women go for status, women get status from looks/popularity (mostly looks), men get status from looks/money/intelligence/popularity/job. This is why better looking people are usually smarter. Yes my friends, the halo effect/good looking-must-be-smart stereotype is based on truth.
I dress smart enough but still look skraggy

[Gibs960]

French girl! So what if she lives in france, she's FIT, funny and you talk to her a lot! You could visit her and she could visit you.

[Middlesbrough]

French girl! So what if she lives in france, she's FIT, funny and you talk to her a lot! You could visit her and she could visit you.

Yep, because casually making a trip to France every other weekend is intelligent, you truly are a genius Gibs how have you become so smart...

[Metric1]

which bus is cheaper to ride?

Edited by Infectious (Forum Moderator): Please do not make post that are not positively constructive, thanks!

[dbgtz]

French girl! So what if she lives in france, she's FIT, funny and you talk to her a lot! You could visit her and she could visit you.

You're 11? Go play with you charizard toy. Long distance rarely ever works and when it does the chances are they know each other well, not just talk about crap and they would also be mature. The use of "fit" is not mature therefore he is not mature therefore it would not work.

[Richie]

I hope they all reject you. If I was one of those girls and found out you chose me due to a "public poll" (we might as well say that because it practically is) I'd be offended. They aren't ******* toys that you can pick and choose between.

Follow your heart not a poxy public vote.

[Narnat,]

Gut instinct? You must like one more than the other?

[.x.miss.angel.x]

Well in some way 3, since don't they say if you fancy so many people pick the last person as you obviously did not like the other two as much? :L

[Firework.]

I hope they all reject you. If I was one of those girls and found out you chose me due to a "public poll" (we might as well say that because it practically is) I'd be offended. They aren't ******* toys that you can pick and choose between.

Follow your heart not a poxy public vote.

richie u r amazin
-claps
:loveyou:

[iflu.]

It seems you've already made your choice, give it a go (: