Is your family pushing you into a certain career?

[Gemma]

well at the moment, i'm quite interested in real estate, my parents are quite happy with that since they're both real estate agents themselves, however, my grandmother, wants me to go to uni (preferrably for journalism), get a degree etc, but nothing in uni particularly interests me as much as real estate. she's usually the main one who pressures me into doing well, and i don't want to disappoint her, but i don't want to end up going to uni for something that i'm not even interested in? it's even came down to the point where she's started saying ridiculous things such as "if you don't go to uni then you get no inheritance," now this bothers me. it's not the fact that i won't get any inheritance, but that she's trying to bribe me into something that at the moment, i don't want to do.

so there's my story!

what about you, do you have any family members who are trying to pressure you into something that you're not interested in?

[Catzsy]

Keep your options open and don't decide until you need too. You may change your mind but whatever you decide to do should be what is right for yourself not to please anybody else. I am lucky I was encouraged but never pushed to do anything in particular.

[Andy-]

Well in my family my mum is laid back and will allow me to do what ever career I choose to do, she may not be happy with the decision that I'm choosing but she knows it's my own choice. On the other hand my dad is the complete opposite he wants everyone to do everything his way and doesn't listen to reason. I used to swim for my borough and what to the Youth Games and also done Biathlon when I wanted to quite my dad wouldn't let me and just kept on making us go swimming. Then I just started to mess around in training then he finally let me quit. I suggest you tell your grandmother the truth so it's get out of the way as when it comes down to finding places for University it will probably be more of a dismantlement for her.

[Rozi]

My parents have always been like quite free in what I want to do and would support me with what ever I decided buttt always make sure that I'm sure about a decision and let their opinion be known.

However, if I even make a passing comment my mum will ALWAYS latch onto it and bring it up even if it was just a fleeting though and assumes that what she wants for me or considers nice I want too which is INFURIATING.

[Jssy]

Nah, I've never been pushed towards a certain career. My dad messed around at school and worked in a pet food factory all his life and my mum worked in a factory years ago before her body played up then she got classed as disabled so my parents can't really tell me to do a factory job lol. They just want me to do well and have a happy future. I first wanted to work in childcare but I kind of don't want to anymore, once I leave school next year I want to go to college and study hairdressing. My mum told me it doesn't pay a lot but it is what I want to do. I'd rather be in a job I enjoy than one I don't.

[Aidenn]

My rents let me follow my own path really, they've offered a few suggestions but none of them sounded right for me.

[Mr-Trainor]

Only suggestions really; I've never been pushed/forced in to taking a particular career.

[kuzkasate]

Yeah, I am being forced into studying Medicine and become like a doctor or something along those lines. I can understand them I suppose, but its not something I'd like to do. Working all day, every day for every week of every month? No weekends off? So much pressure and time is needed for that job, I really dont wanna do it. However, I'd love to become a pilot, but training is a bit too pricey and my parents reckon I won't find a job, because it will be hard to find one, seeming as there are so many pilots now.

[Accipiter]

Not in the slightest, they've only pushed me to work hard in college really, I was going to take the animation route leaving school, but gladly I took media, thank **** because I can see animation being such a tedious job now

[Nemo]

For an asian family, surprisingly not haha. My mums always been supportive of what i wanted to do and ive said ive wanted to be a pretty wide range of things. No one in my family has ever pushed me in a certain direction though, as long as im not failing they dont mind

[Charlottay!]

I want to be an accountant so my family are pretty much ok with that :D all my family are supportive no matter which career i take or which way i use to get there.

[Samantha]

My parents don't really push me, they don't really care that I don't fancy going to university either, I would do what others have said and keep your career paths open.
If I was to go to university or employment I would want to look at something to do with technology or ICT as that's what I'm best at and most things are IT based nowadays.

[Fez]

My mum just wants me to be successful, nothing more.

[Michael]

Nope, which is good.

[Shar]

My parents are happy as long as I'm happy with what I want to do.

[GirlNextDoor15]

Whoa. It's a long story of mine. They always push me to take up pharmacy. I want to take up medical but definitely not pharmacy. I will choose the doctor line IF i get good results this year. I know they really care for me cuz they don't want to get a lot of pressure from my career. But, my objective of being a doctor isn't really about getting high incomes. I want to help ppl. :)

[luce]

No way i get to chose what i do, they would have something to say if i wasn't for filling my potential but if i was happy then it would be ok :)

[Chris]

Nope, they're happy with what ever I choose to do. :)

[GirlNextDoor15]

Nope, they're happy with what ever I choose to do. :)

I want them to support what I choose too :( I have to confront them with this prob

[matt$]

My parents have never pushed me into anything, there was one time when they wanted me to do something within law but i just told them that i've not got enough interest in it and they understood now i'm sort of going into the business/management area which does require some law knowledge but i quite enjoy it.

[AgnesIO]

Gemma, your situation is quite hard. Obviously you don't want to upset any of your family, however you need to remember your aunt/gran (can't remember what you said in your post :P) have only helped you thus far in your life. You will work foir about 47 years, so you really need to make sure you go in to a career that you enjoy - and not one which has a decent wage, but you dislike. Just remember that x

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My family have never pressured me to follow a certain career path, and know what I wish to do in the future. I guess they won't pressure me in to anything, but they have certain expectations of who I will become. But who knows what the future holds :)

[Sian]

my parents have never really minded as long as it was something I enjoyed. Though my dad does look down on certain things, for instant degrees. I originally wanted to go into media after I started failing at history and my dad was not happy that I wanted to do a degree in it.

Luckily I went back to my original love which is Archaeology so he's happy.