Everybody has flaws

[Richie]

I was watching one of Shane Dawsons old youtube videos about flaws, it's so true and no-one is perfect. Some might admit they are perfect and you might think they're but everyone honestly has something that they wish they could change about themselves. To you it might be a huge thing but to others it might be just something small and petty so don't judge people "OMG YOU'RE A DRAMA QUEEN YOU GET IT SO EASY". I can't believe I'm asking people this on habboxforum, I know it's just an act from most people but lets be honest most of the forum users are up their own asses.

My Flaw
I'm fat and as much as I tell myself I'd love to be thin, I think it'd just kill a part of me if I did change completely. Being overweight makes me who I am. That doesn't mean I'm going to stuff my face with cakes and be happy. I still hope to try get to a healthy stage in my life where I am happy.


What is your flaw?



Link to the video I watched:
http://www.youtube.com/shanedawsontv2#p/u/12/FNkBJFUNUl4

[Jessicrawrr]

I have too many flaws to write down.

[dbgtz]

My main flaw is probably im too sarcastic and dont really get excited and tbh im not that lively. I get called boring and depressing from it (from like 3 people), but its something that I cant really change as it is just my attitude.
I guess its not a complete flaw as some people do find the sarcastic humour and how calm i always am quite funny in a good way so meh.

[Catzsy]

I don't think being fat is a flaw, Richie. In some parts of the world being bigger is an absolute asset and they think thin people are ugly. It is a pretty superficial view IMO. My flaws are probably seeing too much good in everybody and not being assertive enough in occasions when I say 'yes' when I should be saying 'no.

[Syphon]

I enjoy a good argument too much, have some stability issues that I have to see a councillor about :P otherwise I'm perfect obviously :). I also enjoy the rush of doing the wrong thing :\ not dangerously wrong... Just seeing the wrong girls... Taken girls -.- overall I'm just a bad person :L.

<3 and Richie, theres nothing wrong with appearances, it isn't a flaw :)

[Nemo]

Cmon guys, lets not try and make him accept a flaw as not a flaw, when it is quite obviously a flaw and if he wants to elimite a flaw from himself, let him do so rather than let himself live in denial. It's unhealthy and many dont find it attractive (albeit that doesnt matter so much since girls are not immensely shallow, but its still a point).

My biggest flaw is probably that im pretty lazy. When the pressure is on i can get something done but before then i really cba. And i hate that.

[Catzsy]

Cmon guys, lets not try and make him accept a flaw as not a flaw, when it is quite obviously a flaw and if he wants to elimite a flaw from himself, let him do so rather than let himself live in denial. It's unhealthy and many dont find it attractive (albeit that doesnt matter so much since girls are not immensely shallow, but its still a point).

My biggest flaw is probably that im pretty lazy. When the pressure is on i can get something done but before then i really cba. And i hate that.

As is being too thin although that is not seen as a flaw. A big nose, crooked teeth, or anything
that is not considered 'the perfect norm' are not flaws they are physical characteristics so if one thinks that then maybe that is a 'flaw' too. Being lazy is a flaw and maybe I do procrastinate a bit when it comes to revision and that is a flaw too.


Oxford definition:

flaw (in somebody/something)
a weakness in somebody's character

[velvet]

if being fat makes you who you are then you must be a pretty lame person.

catszy, i really dunno how you can say being fat isn't a flaw? it's a health risk for one. i hate how people try and make out being fat is okay because more people are indulging themselves nowadays, it's still just as unhealthy and bad for you.

o/t i have no flaws :S

[Accipiter]

I'm probably quite blunt & upfront, come across as rude and what not, and at other times I'm probably too silent. Not a great mix, when I do say something it's probably going to insult them LMAO

[Samantha]

I feel maybe being short is a flaw in me as I am really small compared to my age. On the other hand, my other flaw is being too quiet.

[Nemo]

As is being too thin although that is not seen as a flaw. A big nose, crooked teeth, or anything
that is not considered 'the perfect norm' are not flaws they are physical characteristics so if one thinks that then maybe that is a 'flaw' too. Being lazy is a flaw and maybe I do procrastinate a bit when it comes to revision and that is a flaw too.
I would also consider being too thin a flaw. A big nose, crooked teeth, or anythin i also consider a flaw, although im more talking about flaws which you yourself can change but havent/dont. Its not so much the norm, its so much as being healthy. If you aren't being healthy that is a FLAW is it not? A flaw in his characteristic ie. that he cannot control what he eats/how much excercise he gets, therefore he is flawed.

Also you seemed to have skipped a definition from the oxford dictionary

a mark , blemish, or other imperfection which mars a substance or object:a flaw in the glass
It is an imperfection.

[wiktoria]

I'm sarcastic and I can't make friends easily.

[myke]

wow surprised half these posts don't have the sentence 'i'm really shallow and don't really think about how other people feel' ... some of these replies are really quite rude and don't really consider how what you've posted could have a detrimental affect on other people :S ...

theres two ways you can go in life. you can either keep telling yourself you're perfect and have really good self confidence, or you can tell yourself you have this many flaws bla bla and live an insecure life, constantly wondering if somebody has noticed your 'flaw'.

i'm not about to **** myself off, and knock my confidence, so, i don't have any flaws. i'm just different to other people, which is good because if we were all the same it'd be pretty boring.

i know that you've hardly started slagging yourselves off but the fact that you're even thinking about flaws is instantly knocking your confidence because you're labelling something that may be different, or not the same, as a flaw which is how you'd refer to something bad.

i'm not preaching and tbf, if you want to tell yourselves you have flaws, go ahead. tell yourself you're bad, it doesn't affect me :P but maybe i've just shed a bit of light onto your 'flaws' as something not bad. :)

[Nemo]

wow surprised half these posts don't have the sentence 'i'm really shallow and don't really think about how other people feel' ... some of these replies are really quite rude and don't really consider how what you've posted could have a detrimental affect on other people :S ...

theres two ways you can go in life. you can either keep telling yourself you're perfect and have really good self confidence, or you can tell yourself you have this many flaws bla bla and live an insecure life, constantly wondering if somebody has noticed your 'flaw'.

i'm not about to **** myself off, and knock my confidence, so, i don't have any flaws. i'm just different to other people, which is good because if we were all the same it'd be pretty boring.

i know that you've hardly started slagging yourselves off but the fact that you're even thinking about flaws is instantly knocking your confidence because you're labelling something that may be different, or not the same, as a flaw which is how you'd refer to something bad.

i'm not preaching and tbf, if you want to tell yourselves you have flaws, go ahead. tell yourself you're bad, it doesn't affect me :P but maybe i've just shed a bit of light onto your 'flaws' as something not bad. :)
I think that's a terrible approach to this thread. Pointing out your flaws isnt to knock your confidence (its not even your confidence, more your ego i'd say), its so you can evaluate them and then get rid of them. Hardly going to improve yourself if you ignore everything bad about yourself and continue living on thinking there's nothing wrong with you. Its all about self impovement and making yourself better i suppose. Also its intriguing to see what people say about themselves.

[Sharon]

I don't know when to stop when something goes wrong, I have no self confidence in myself and I am far too paranoid/sarcastic in life.

[myke]

I think that's a terrible approach to this thread. Pointing out your flaws isnt to knock your confidence (its not even your confidence, more your ego i'd say), its so you can evaluate them and then get rid of them. Hardly going to improve yourself if you ignore everything bad about yourself and continue living on thinking there's nothing wrong with you. Its all about self impovement and making yourself better i suppose. Also its intriguing to see what people say about themselves.

hardly a terrible approach, i'm just not living to dwell on things that other people may think are bad about me, i'm happy with what i am, who i am, what i look like and anybody that wants to tell me otherwise, whatever, i'm my own person. who is ANYBODY to say what a flaw is? there's nothing wrong with me, there's nothing wrong with you, there's nothing wrong with richie, there's nothing wrong with anyone who's posted in this thread. we're all different and saying that a difference is a negative thing is crazy!



I would also consider being too thin a flaw. A big nose, crooked teeth, or anythin i also consider a flaw, although im more talking about flaws which you yourself can change but havent/dont. Its not so much the norm, its so much as being healthy. If you aren't being healthy that is a FLAW is it not? A flaw in his characteristic ie. that he cannot control what he eats/how much excercise he gets, therefore he is flawed.

Also you seemed to have skipped a definition from the oxford dictionary

It is an imperfection.

you've just contradicted yourself, you said that it's so people can evaluate them and then get rid of them, posting that a big nose, crooked teeth or anything else appearance wise is a flaw... you can't evaluate and change crooked teeth, you can't evaluate and change anything. you were born a certain way, your personality is different to somebody elses for a reason. being 'fat', being 'thin', being 'ugly', whatever it is and how rude that you post this:

If you aren't being healthy that is a FLAW is it not? A flaw in his characteristic ie. that he cannot control what he eats/how much excercise he gets, therefore he is flawed.

You don't know the circumstances, it infuriates me when people say things such as 'OMG LOL LOOK A FAT PERSON THEY JUST DONT STOP EATING CAKES', you're instantly judging someone, you don't know what it is that makes richie a bigger guy than us, saying that he can't control what he eats is really insensitive.

i can see this thread just going round in circles.

like i said, two ways of looking at yourself.
i've chosen my way, you've chosen yours.

[matt$]

Too sarcastic and such a lazy ****

[-Charityy]

My Flaw:
I don't really think before I say stuff, I just say whatever pops in to my head causing some people to get mad.
Another big flaw is I'm a really jealous person, but like about I don't want my husband to really talk to other girls/text them. Not like I'm jealous of what other people have, because that's never really bothered me.

[Middlesbrough]

Being too quiet/Being too sarcastic

[Nemo]

hardly a terrible approach, i'm just not living to dwell on things that other people may think are bad about me, i'm happy with what i am, who i am, what i look like and anybody that wants to tell me otherwise, whatever, i'm my own person. who is ANYBODY to say what a flaw is? there's nothing wrong with me, there's nothing wrong with you, there's nothing wrong with richie, there's nothing wrong with anyone who's posted in this thread. we're all different and saying that a difference is a negative thing is crazy!
You're not supposed to dwell on it. You're supposed to think about your flaw and how you can change that. WE are to say what a flaw is in ourselves. Richie has himself evaulated a flaw in himself and all i said was that they shouldnt change his thinking when i agree, being fat is a flaw. I wouldnt want to be fat, if he wants to be then its not my decision, all im saying is that he should think about it because it is straight up not healthy and just not a good thing to be. Especially if you think its a part of who you are. You might call me rude for saying that, but its true, and i find it hard to see how anyone can deny that unless they are just trying to be nice.

A difference can be a negative or a positive, no one said it's always negative. For example, being a murderer. I consider that being rather different, but are you honestly saying being a murderer isnt a flaw? Are you saying their mental state isnt flawed? If so, im very worried.




you've just contradicted yourself, you said that it's so people can evaluate them and then get rid of them, posting that a big nose, crooked teeth or anything else appearance wise is a flaw... you can't evaluate and change crooked teeth, you can't evaluate and change anything. you were born a certain way, your personality is different to somebody elses for a reason. being 'fat', being 'thin', being 'ugly', whatever it is
That's why after i said that i thought this thread was just for flaws that you could change, not unchangeable ones. Otherwise my other point still stands that its interesting to see what people think bad of themselves.



and how rude that you post this:

If you aren't being healthy that is a FLAW is it not? A flaw in his characteristic ie. that he cannot control what he eats/how much excercise he gets, therefore he is flawed.

You don't know the circumstances, it infuriates me when people say things such as 'OMG LOL LOOK A FAT PERSON THEY JUST DONT STOP EATING CAKES', you're instantly judging someone, you don't know what it is that makes richie a bigger guy than us, saying that he can't control what he eats is really insensitive.

i can see this thread just going round in circles.

like i said, two ways of looking at yourself.
i've chosen my way, you've chosen yours.
The thing is, i know Richie, if he wants to stay fat then fine by me, i can hardly force him. However if i saw him on the street, as much as we say we dont, everyone judges. I would judge him and i would think thats a flaw in his personality, he cant control what he does when it comes down to it. Find that rude, so be it, i find it strange that you want someone to think that they can't help themself, when they can. Im pretty sure he's also started going gym, so he obviously DOES want to change. And the fact that in his original post he said he can change, means there is no hidden reason.

Fair enough, all im saying is that this ideal of not improving yourself is something im fully against, its all about the self improvement yo.


Ooh another flaw, i can sometimes come across as rude if trying to express a point. Woops.

[Kyle]

You don't know the circumstances, it infuriates me when people say things such as 'OMG LOL LOOK A FAT PERSON THEY JUST DONT STOP EATING CAKES', you're instantly judging someone, you don't know what it is that makes richie a bigger guy than us, saying that he can't control what he eats is really insensitive.

Not being able to control what you eat is the only reason you're going to be fat... :S This thread is for people to point out their own insecurities/flaws/imperfections; not for us to write about what we would consider them to be on other people. If somebody is happy to address some problems they have -- with their body, personality or otherwise -- it can't be a bad thing.

[Catzsy]

if being fat makes you who you are then you must be a pretty lame person.

catszy, i really dunno how you can say being fat isn't a flaw? it's a health risk for one. i hate how people try and make out being fat is okay because more people are indulging themselves nowadays, it's still just as unhealthy and bad for you.


o/t i have no flaws :S

Try reading the definition above. A flaw is a weakness in somebody's charactor not physical appearance. If he had said I eat too much for my own good then that would be different as it is a weakness in his will power. Looks like your flaw is that you think you are perfect which is probably is flaw in itself. :P

@ Niamh

lso you seemed to have skipped a definition from the oxford dictionary
a mark , blemish, or other imperfection which mars a substance or object:a flaw in the glass
It is an imperfectiion.
That is related to an object or substance not a person. :P

[buttons]

i love when people say they have no flaws, it sounds so insecure. i used to do the same

ummm some people say "you're TOO honest/upfront" to me but i wouldn't be me if i wasn't. i sometimes get told to change it, especially by my friends but i know if i do i won't be liked as much. & they wouldn't get the free drinks that they do! i don't think it's a flaw cause i'm not rude about it plus i'm a crappy liar so being honest is just freeing.


otherwise my flaw is probably that i try too hard to change my own 'flaws' when i should accept myself & also that i sometimes focus only on other's flaws and not the good parts.

[HotelUser]

If generally awful can be a flaw then that's my flaw but if not then mine would probably be communicating and understanding people properly. I wish I was better at that.

[Shar]

I can make a big list of flaws, but I'll choose not to because we'll be here forever. I'm sure many people think like that because no ones really entirely happy with who/how they are, however I don't think having flaws is a bad thing as long as you can accept them and then try and overcome it if you can.
For example, one of my major flaws is that I lack confidence, however I try really hard to boost my confidence and over the years I think I'm getting quite better.

[Shoe]

In my opinion I have loads of flaws and I know someone on this forum who will no boubt agree with me on like every single one I put on here. :/

Firstly im not thin enough... I mean I know I can become thinner as I once was not so long ago, so I really just need to try harder at this.
Im very clingy and I wish I wasnt I hate to think I have been forgotten about by my boyfriend.
Im kinda psycho about a certain thing which im not saying on here but yehh.. This needs to change and I am trying.
I get upset to easily about certain things :/
I have a tendancy to just say things how they are despite the consiquences of people becoming upset by what I have done or said.
I love an argument as long as its not with my boyfriend. Girls bitcing LOVE IT.
I dont tend to think about things, I just jump to conclusions and go off with it. :/

I also wish I was a generally better person and wish I could make people happier :/

Yehh thats just a few there... :/

[Narnat,]

I think of people before myself way too much and I take on other peoples problems.

[Rozi]

I try as hard as possible to ignore physical flaws, I've spent far too much time in the past dwelling on things that are insignificant and effected me far too much so I've tried to completely get over being self concious about my physical appearance.

However I have many character flaws. I have many 'leo' flaws (my starsign). I am fairly self-absorbed and do have a bit of a superiority complex. I wouldn't say I crave attention but I do hate being ignored or under-appreciated. I think this about sums it up:

Leo are warm of spirit, eager for action and are driven by a desire to be loved for what you bring to others. Leo are a magnanimous leader and a faithful servant. Once scorned in love, however, Leo will withdraw your affections and the light, once brilliant, can go cold.

except for the faithful servant, I'm too lazy for that: one of my worse flaws.


of course there are thousands more but I cba to think of them

[kuzkasate]

My main one is probably that I am slightly too thin, but it's not really a flaw and I am gaining more weight, so really its something that can be changed if I put my mind to it.