I don't know what to do.

[Jssy]

First of all I'll tell you I'm 15 and the boy I'm talking about is 16 lol. Erm basically I've been good friends with him since I first started secondary school and we went out for like a week when I was in year 7 but we were obviously too young. I had feelings for him for a long time and in Janurary 2010 I told him and a couple of days later he asked me out and said he always hinted to me he liked me. Up to now we've been together so that's about a yearish. I trusted him not to use me etc but we've had quite alot of arguments and broke up like 10 times in a yearish but then got back together, we always worked it out and sorted it etc. I'm going to be honest I have behaviourl problems and suffer from mild depression so I got upset over little things and was quite argumentative which probably was the cause of our arguments. Everything was nice at first we didn't even hold hands or kiss until we'd been together about 3 months.

His mum has been a bit of a cow to me calling me ****** and once I was in car with his family and they were mentioning weight and I mentioned I was 10 stone and she called me a fat b****. His dads nice though but his parents actually buy him weed which I find weird. Anyway back on topic I struggle to control emotions sometimes and when he used to just dump me I got upset quite easy. About a week ago he stopped talking to me as much online and when his friends said stuff about me he never stuck up for me much. I kept questioning him about it and then on Monday he dumped me saying his friends kept telling him that he should and that he hadn't loved me for sometime he just said he did so he wouldn't upset me but in fact it's upset me even more that I've been there all along, even biked 12 miles in total to bike to his village and see him every weekend and most of the summer holidays last year. I know people say you don't know real love when you're a teen but I did feel like I loved him and I missed him when I hadn't seen him for weeks. I've been trying to sort it for days and try get back with him but he's being difficult but then last night he said he loved me to bits so it's really confusing. I've been crying over it and part of me wants to be with him but part of me thinks that I should do better than that but I've never really thought I could. Like tonight I suggested getting back together next Janurary the date we started going out and he agreed and then I came out of the bath and said I miss you and he called me a *****bag and deleted me off facebook so I really don't know whats up with him. He never used to be like this and I feel upset about it all. Sorry if it's a long read, wondering if anyone here could give me some advice? :(

[Accipiter]

Sounds like he's playing you along / has bipolar.

Get rid of him while you can, I recommend a garbage can over his head.

[Jssy]

Sounds like he's playing you along / has bipolar.

Get rid of him while you can, I recommend a garbage can over his head.

He always said he had anger problems but he's the one that calls me psycho along with his friends because of the fact that I see a psychiatrist for my depression. He always said that he'd never use me too but I don't know where I stand and it's kind of more complicated now he's left school to go to college (not that his 45% attendance will do him any favours).

[Nemo]

I never understood this situation. Sure you LIKE him, but there are a load of nicer guys out there. Also, you're young. Why even care about this **** and get so serious when you're so young? Now im not the most experienced lad around, but surely relationships are this age are generally about having a fun time. Not all this drama. Honestly if i was having all this drama already, at such a young age, i'd instantly end it. You really think this'll last your entire life? Of course it wont, so you might aswell save yourself some time and energy and just forget it.

[Conservative,]

You're defending him? Girl get rid of him. NOW. His parents buy him weed. He bullies you. You argue. Leave him. Forget about him. Move on. This boy is a disgrace to my gender. I suggest you end your even acknowledgement of him. You'll only regret it if you don't.

[Rozi]

ok one thing first
10 stone isn't fat so his mum can just ** right off


but tbh it really sounds like the relationship has found the end of it's road. Treasure the good times you had but maybe it's time to just let it go. He sounds like someone I wouldn't really want to be in a relationship with, and he's obviously not having a good effect on you in the long run.

[Jssy]

I see where you're coming from. Nemo I honestly thought it would, it was actually going ok to start with but I guess people change. Everytime we argued I went back to him because I felt like we were really close and kinda formed a bond and my uncle always disliked him ever since he found out what was going on between us and told me I should let him do the running for a change and see if he came back to me. I really feel like all the arguing and drama is my fault though.

Robbie I kinda felt like he was the one. He tried to convince me the weed thing was safe since he was buying only a ten bag and he was usually nicer when high but I always hated being in the car when his parents were going to dealers. I kind of want to move on, there's 2 other boys that have asked me to date them but after this I don't feel ready and I really did love him so I am hurting inside. Everything reminds me of him.

Rozi - I told my mum about it and his mum isn't exactly on the slimmer side so my mum said she can't talk about me. I'm trying to move on but it's hard. I loved all our cuddles and stuff so I'm missing him and struggling with it. When we were happy together I didn't mind the bad stuff but now I feel really hurt knowing all that I do :(

[e5]

Seems like a bit of an idiot to tell you he misses you then to be nasty again! You played hard to get and see how he feels then! If he doesn't come chasing, dont go running. leave it! :)

[Nemo]

Trust me. You'll have bonds with other people and better people.

You'll only get one answer from this thread, and that is dump his ass and gtho.

[Jssy]

I think you're right. I'll leave him for a few months and see if he has the decency to at least apoloigise then maybe he'll realise what he has done.

[Nemo]

I think you're right. I'll leave him for a few months and see if he has the decency to at least apoloigise then maybe he'll realise what he has done.
What no dont even let him apologise. honestly just forget him forever.

[Mark]

Get out of the relationship now, I dont think it will do you any good to continue it

[Inseriousity.]

You don't need a boyfriend to make you happy! You can be happy single, cut him out off your life. He's not worth it tbh.

[kuzkasate]

What is there to think about?

- He bullies you
- His friends bully you
- He can be nice one second and then a complete **** the next
- His mum is rude to you
- His dad buys him weed
- He doesnt care about his education

Why the hell, would you want to be with someone like that? :S You don't need someone like that, even though you may not realise it at the moment. I honestly don't understand why you'd want to be with him? Find someone better who will atleast treat you nicely and cares about you and his future. He will probably end up being on the dole and will be taking drugs.