Sex before marriage

[HotelUser]

Is there anyone here who believes in celibacy (no sex before marriage)?

If you don't and your parents found out you've had sex what would they all say to you?

Edit: thanks to Shar for correcting my spelling on celibacy. Thanks for the wonderful lesson on sex :)

[lawrawrrr]

I'm still not 100% sure whether I'm going to get married, but I've always said that I'm going to wait until I'm properly dedicated to someone and in love. :)

[Aidenn]

I don't neither do my parents their reaction was;

'i hope you was wearing a hat'

[Jessicrawrr]

I don't neither do my parents their reaction was;

'i hope you was wearing a hat' made me laugh.

I'd have sex before marriage, because if you only get married ones, and stay loyal, then you've only ever experienced it with one person.
I don't think my parents would mind if I was with someone for a long long time.

[Rozi]

ahaha I don't think my mum would care as long as I was safe.
obvs I think she'd have something to say if I was whoring around though.

[chantellehugs]

Personally I would like to wait until I'm married before I have sex, I just think it would put me at ease because then the relationship wouldn't be all about sex and lust/infatuation. It would be more about emotions and actual love for the other person. None of my family members waited until they were married until they had sex so I don't know what they'd say, they'd probably think I was weird if I told them I wasn't going to have sex until I was married.

[Shoe]

Well my mums reactions was...

Get to the doctors now! I dont want you having a baby! yehh :/

She found out in the most awkward way ever :/

[Samantha]

Well my mums reactions was...

Get to the doctors now! I dont want you having a baby! yehh :/

She found out in the most awkward way ever :/

Can I be god parent to baby Zak? :D!!!


And I don't think my parents mind about Sex before marriage as long as I'm safe.

Last week I went to see my boyfriend and their last words before they went out were 'Don't do anything stupid x 2' 'I'll get you to doctors' 'There's durex in the cupboard' so I don't think they would mind but they don't want me pregnant and nor do I plan to be! :P!

[Nemo]

future pimp incoming


But no honestly i dont see how sex before marriage can be a good thing. Sex is a major part of a relationship and if you're only finding about such a major thing AFTER marriage then..... i just dont get it. So ya, ill definitely be doin it before marriage aha. Im pretty sure my mum wont mind either.

[Shoe]

Aww yess sam of course you can be :) haa

Im loving that "durex in the cupboard" haa made me laugh :P I dont understand why you would wait untill you are married to have sex just cause the person you marry you might not actually spend the rest of your life with anyway ??

[-Charityy]

My parents were against it.
and when they found out they freaked. my dad wanted to get the guy put in jail.
it's was a terrible night for me. lol

[@K]

I don't and when I was 16 and my mum found out, she just said I hope you were wearing something...

[FlyingJesus]

Personally I don't plan to have sex until I'm married with children ;|

[Inseriousity.]

I thought celibacy was no sex at all :P

anyways yeah I don't believe in the whole 'sex after marriage' thing. sex is an important part of a relationship as well, its part of the package (no innuendo intended ;)).

my parents would say 'get in there son'

[PaulMacC]

It's like what the grandpa said in Little Miss Sunshine, **** a lot of women. Not just one. A lot. We're all young. Put your stuff in a hole, that's what you do when you're young. Sex is a great thing. Plus, you don't buy a car without a test drive. Sex is a huge part of a relationship. Get married and find out your partner is a disappointment in bed, bad times.

[Jssy]

Nah I'd have sex with someone if I'd been with them for a while and really love them. I think my mum already knows before my bf broke up with me but she knows I'm on the pill anyway and have been since I was 12

[Lamz]

I lost my virginity when I was 14, I didn't tell them until last month! :L My parents where cool with it since they aren't married... they planned on getting married but decided not to. When I told them their reactions were:
Mum: :o "OMG Did you use a condom"
Me: -sigh "Yes mum"
Mum: "ok good :) ... how many have you got left?"
Me: "14"
Mum: "Ok, when you get to 5 tell me and I'll get you more"
Me: ":l ... okayyy"

*dad gets home from work*

Mum: "OMG Guess what!"
Me: -sigh here we go again...
Dad: "What?"
Mum: "Lamar has had sex!"
Dad: "He is 16 what do you expect"
*dad comes in my room*
Dad: "Lamar did you put on your hood before the rain?"
Me: "Yes Dad"
Dad: "Was she a Rihanna, did she take it?"
Me: "What?" :s
Dad: *sings Rihanna - Rude Boy*
Me: :L
Dad: :L

lol, i'll never forget that day!

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Personally I don't plan to have sex until I'm married with children ;|

Married with children? you gtta have sex to have children, :L i get what you were saying though just thought i'd point the mistake out cos im a ***** like that. :D

[FlyingJesus]

What I thought you got children by wishing really hard until a stork flies past and leaves one on your doorstep

[GommeInc]

Personally I don't plan to have sex until I'm married with children ;|
Going to marry someone with children then? ;)

Sex before marriage is fine provided both of you know what you're doing and aren't affraid to rush into it or are happy to wait it out for the right moment. Sex after marriage is an old view, and understandable, but it shouldn't limit some people. Marriage afterall is losing its meaning.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Sex after marriage at least would ensure less teenage pregnancys and unmarried mothers who become married to the state and dependent on the state for their income. That is not to mention the thousands upon thousands of abortions we'd avoid taking as we do due to women being irresponsible and stupid by having sex and disregarding its consquences.

If you want to see the results of where the loss of morals since the 1960s cultural revolution has landed us.. check your local inner city suburb.

[Metric1]

I would be lying if I said I believed in that. I believe in "try before you buy", so ...... After being in university, the girls who are sexually active are much more stable than the girls who are "holding out".. I just make sure I use a condom because herpes is ramped at Dal.

[Catzsy]

Sex after marriage at least would ensure less teenage pregnancys and unmarried mothers who become married to the state and dependent on the state for their income. That is not to mention the thousands upon thousands of abortions we'd avoid taking as we do due to women being irresponsible and stupid by having sex and disregarding its consquences.

If you want to see the results of where the loss of morals since the 1960s cultural revolution has landed us.. check your local inner city suburb.

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I really do not think it is an issue these days. More people live together than get married anyway. What is more important I feel is the reason that you have sex because these days to some it seems to have no meaning whatsoever when it really should be a bit more special than that. As far as parents are concerned the less said the better, I feel although they are fine & relaxed about it. @FJ what a load of bollocks! :P @Metric1 the other side of the coin is those who 'give out' usually give out to many and there could also be problems with that. Also what do you mean by more stable? Do you mean they are just interested in sex with no sort of relationship?

[Richie]

How I see it is, do as you please but if you want a healthy relationship that will last wait until marriage. That way 1) You'll know the other person loves you and not your goods :P 2) I'm sure if you were not to have sex with your partner for say 3 years then you got married, it'd be stable relationship. Not to mention you'd be going at it like dogs.

Personally I don't think I would, I know that contradicts my first point but I can't see myself ever being in a committed relationship no mind marriage :P. I don't know anyone who could put up with my habboxforum rants :D. HEY, what do I know? I'm just a mad virgin who loves the internet lol.


edit:
I'm not saying that having sex before marriage ***** up a relationship, that's just my opinion for the majority of relationships.

[buttons]

It's like what the grandpa said in Little Miss Sunshine, **** a lot of women. Not just one. A lot. We're all young. Put your stuff in a hole, that's what you do when you're young. Sex is a great thing. Plus, you don't buy a car without a test drive. Sex is a huge part of a relationship. Get married and find out your partner is a disappointment in bed, bad times.
yeah sure that'd be great but there are so many people who don't use condoms or contraception. it's not worth the pregnancy, STI's and poor reputation.

me and my mum didn't have 'the chat' till i was 17, she thought i was innocent bless her. she was disappointed but she can't really talk cause my brother was at hers and my dad's wedding so ;) i just find it ridiculous how people sleep with anyone and everyone, there's no excuse at all. sex IS a huge part of a relationship definitely but it's not just about being "good" in bed. people can improve and if you're really that in to the relationship you'd talk about what you do and don't like, if you're not attracted to them during sex then the relationship probably won't last anyway. you'll get past the '**** everyone you see' stage and then maybe you won't care about it that much. i have to do know a guy at least 24 hours before i sleep with them ;l only joking, mine has to be a serious relationship but then again sex bores me anyway

[GirlNextDoor15]

If my parents ever found out that I'm making love before marriage, I think they're gonna kill me or at least kill my partner. It's so horrible. :L

[Zak]

Erm this makes me sound like a bit of a yob but I lost my virginity at 14. I don't regret it, I thought I loved her at the time and we spent 2 and a half happy years together. We're still friends to this day, I know her new boyfriend well, I work with him as well, he's great for her.

Being so used to having sex now, I don't think I could wait personally till after marriage. Not that it applies to me anyway now. I just see it as you're young, you only get one shot at this.. So why not have a good time, as long as you're not using the girl and you genuinely have feelings for her.

Just think about it, you could wait till your 24 for 'the one'. Then he could turn around and cheat on you later in life, which would destroy you. Someone you put that much faith into, just for them to go and wreck it.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I suppose partly, but at the end of the day the woman has allowed the man to have sex with her - her fault, her responsiblity as she knew of the risks before having sex. It is not the fault of the baby as we're supposed to believe purely on ideological grounds in order to justify abortion.

Don't want to end up pregnant then don't take the risk in the first place.

[HotelUser]

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I really do not think it is an issue these days. More people live together than get married anyway. What is more important I feel is the reason that you have sex because these days to some it seems to have no meaning whatsoever when it really should be a bit more special than that. As far as parents are concerned the less said the better, I feel although they are fine & relaxed about it. @FJ what a load of bollocks! :P @Metric1 the other side of the coin is those who 'give out' usually give out to many and there could also be problems with that. Also what do you mean by more stable? Do you mean they are just interested in sex with no sort of relationship?

I think it's equally the male and female's fault. However females obviously hold all the power thereafter in terms of deciding to keep it or not, and things (duh-- it's in their bodies).

[JerseySafety]

I don't believe in this; tbh it's the persons choice and you gotta respect that.


1k post woooo :)

[Catzsy]

I suppose partly, but at the end of the day the woman has allowed the man to have sex with her - her fault, her responsiblity as she knew of the risks before having sex. It is not the fault of the baby as we're supposed to believe purely on ideological grounds in order to justify abortion.

Don't want to end up pregnant then don't take the risk in the first place.


I think it's equally the male and female's fault. However females obviously hold all the power thereafter in terms of deciding to keep it or not, and things (duh-- it's in their bodies).


That is not the issue though. If the male did not want to have sex with the girl without any protection he has that choice as well and I am sure there are many sensible males who would not in these circumstances. Responsibilty for conceiving a child is an equal thing. Males who do not accept this are abrigating their responsibilities unless they have been assured by the female that they are on the birth pill.

[Zak]

That is not the issue though. If the male did not want to have sex with the girl without any protection he has that choice as well and I am sure there are many sensible males who would not in these circumstances. Responsibilty for conceiving a child is an equal thing. Males who do not accept this are abrigating their responsibilities unless they have been assured by the female that they are on the birth pill.

Ooo I can relate on this one. Personally, I hate wearing a condom.. haven't in years don't plan on it. There was a time not long back when she came off the pill for health reasons, I then refused to have sex with her until she was back on the pill. As that's where I feel safest. I don't trust condoms anyway..Waste of time and money. Only really good for one night stands which I've never had anyway - gota stay away from those STIs!

[HotelUser]

That is not the issue though. If the male did not want to have sex with the girl without any protection he has that choice as well and I am sure there are many sensible males who would not in these circumstances. Responsibilty for conceiving a child is an equal thing. Males who do not accept this are abrigating their responsibilities unless they have been assured by the female that they are on the birth pill.

Rosie if you read the post you quoted I said:


I think it's equally the male and female's fault. However females obviously hold all the power thereafter in terms of deciding to keep it or not, and things (duh-- it's in their bodies).

Getting pregnant = both their responsibility
Decisions (life/choice) after baby conceived = completely female's decision and male only has as much say as she gives him

[Shoe]

Personally I don't plan to have sex until I'm married with children ;|
How can you have children if you want them to be your own without having sex ?? lol

[Wig44.]

People in this thread may need to crouch, there is a chance that a joke may decapitate them as it flies over their heads.

Edited by Shar (Forum Moderator): Please do not post pointlessly, thanks.

[-:Undertaker:-]

That is not the issue though. If the male did not want to have sex with the girl without any protection he has that choice as well and I am sure there are many sensible males who would not in these circumstances. Responsibilty for conceiving a child is an equal thing. Males who do not accept this are abrigating their responsibilities unless they have been assured by the female that they are on the birth pill.

Indeed but like it or not, the outcome means the girl will suffer the most as she will carry the baby - because men and women are not the same despite the mad cultural drive for equality which can never be reached as shown by scenarios such as this, so the fault lays with the girl as well - infact perhaps more so, as the girl will be aware of the consquences of her act far more than the male who can simply wake up the next morning and leave.

..thus meaning her stupid acts should not be put upon the unborn baby.

[AgnesIO]

Married with children? you gtta have sex to have children, :L i get what you were saying though just thought i'd point the mistake out cos im a ***** like that. :D

FINK E WUZ JOKING!!!

Oh and Jesus doesn't need sex if he wants kids :l

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Can I be god parent to baby Zak? :D!!!


And I don't think my parents mind about Sex before marriage as long as I'm safe.

Last week I went to see my boyfriend and their last words before they went out were 'Don't do anything stupid x 2' 'I'll get you to doctors' 'There's durex in the cupboard' so I don't think they would mind but they don't want me pregnant and nor do I plan to be! :P!

Who's families keeps durex in the cupboard for their kids to take :p

[Zak]

FINK E WUZ JOKING!!!

Oh and Jesus doesn't need sex if he wants kids :l


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Who's families keeps durex in the cupboard for their kids to take :p

I thought that was God who impregnates virgins ;)

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Lmao mine are in my top draw. I've never seen parent's keep condoms for their kids either!

[FlyingJesus]

Not that it's really the subject but God and Jesus are the same entity in Christian beliefs

And yeah I must have overestimated this forum when I thought people would actually get the joke lol oh dear come on people

[Narnat,]

Well, if you love someone and your not married it shouldn't stop you from having intercourse to show love and affection to your partner.

[Accipiter]

There's no point in marriage anymore, but I agree that you shouldn't have sex until you find the person you are truly in love with.

[Eoin247]

Lol @ how so many missed FJs joke.

Waiting until marriage? The mere thought of that scares me. Once you take religion out of the picture, i never understood why there are still many who wait until marriage.

[Shoe]

Not that it's really the subject but God and Jesus are the same entity in Christian beliefs

Since when ??

so god put himself inside a virgin and he is his own son ? huh ??

[Jordy]

Since when ??

so god put himself inside a virgin and he is his own son ? huh ??Well you can't really come across "God" seeing as He's a Holy Spirit overseeing the Universe (or at least Christians believe this) before you imagine him climbing into Mary's vagina. There's God the Father, God the Son (Jesus) and the Holy Spirit all of which make up "God".

Jesus is essentially God's presence on earth. There's various points in the Bible where he implies than he is God and something which he never denies either such as in John 10:30, “I and the Father are one.”

Feel free to dispute parts of my post btw I might have grasped some bits wrong and a lot of it is open to debate even within Christianity.

[Eoin247]

Well you can't really come across "God" seeing as He's a Holy Spirit overseeing the Universe (or at least Christians believe this) before you imagine him climbing into Mary's vagina. There's God the Father, God the Son (Jesus) and the Holy Spirit all of which make up "God".

Jesus is essentially God's presence on earth. There's various points in the Bible where he implies than he is God and something which he never denies either such as in John 10:30, “I and the Father are one.”

Feel free to dispute parts of my post btw I might have grasped some bits wrong and a lot of it is open to debate even within Christianity.

You're about right i used to be very confused about this (still am a bit).

it's kinda goes like this.

The father is not jesus, the holy spirit is not the father, Jesus is not the holy spirit and visa versa for them all.

But Jesus is the one god, the holy spirit is the one god and the father is the one god.

Hope it makes sense

[Shoe]

I do get it but it is never said that god is jesus or whatever... they may be one but jesus is god on earth yet god isnt on earth so are not the same... just give the same teachings if you get me?? tbh i think its all a load of rubbish anyway :P

[Jordy]

I do get it but it is never said that god is jesus or whatever... they may be one but jesus is god on earth yet god isnt on earth so are not the same... just give the same teachings if you get me?? tbh i think its all a load of rubbish anyway :PIt's frequently said that Jesus is God on earth and the Son of God.

God isn't a real person nor has he even been on earth, therefore Jesus who was a real person represents "God" on earth. He was put on earth to perform miracles and spread the word of Christianity (and God). You need to get your head round the concept of what is God before you'll understand it. I don't believe in any of it but it's useful and to an extent interesting to know never the less.

[Shoe]

yehh thats what i was trying to say basically but just didnt explain it very well :P

[Zak]

I always thought that Jesus was God's son. Lmao

[:.:kaytay:.:]

Boys lie. No offience to any guys out there. They will say they love you, and want you, and only you. But, they don't. They just want a few seconds of pleasure. Plus, you don't truly know where he has been. You could get any type of diease that may lay dormat on them. My advice, if he truly loves you, he would marry you first. :) -Katie

[Zak]

Boys lie. No offience to any guys out there. They will say they love you, and want you, and only you. But, they don't. They just want a few seconds of pleasure. Plus, you don't truly know where he has been. You could get any type of diease that may lay dormat on them. My advice, if he truly loves you, he would marry you first. :) -Katie

No offence but adults were kids once. My girlfriend's dad is defiantly in love with his wife, you can tell. He'd do anything for her - they've been together since they were in their teens. But boys can't love right?

I'm a rather stereotypical lad. I love sex, lots, with lots of people. Lads like variety! But there will come a time when that part of your life is over, you meet someone.. settle down/fall in love. Marriage doesn't prove that you truly love someone, lots of people have affairs even when they're married, or even people split up.

With regards to "you don't know where he has been". If you really aren't able to trust someone, then you shouldn't be going there. Or you can always use protection, that way you're safe. (Unless it fails of course).

Sorry but the comment above really showed signs of immaturity to me, tad annoyed!

We aren't all *****, are we boys?

[Richie]

Boys lie. No offience to any guys out there. They will say they love you, and want you, and only you. But, they don't. They just want a few seconds of pleasure. Plus, you don't truly know where he has been. You could get any type of diease that may lay dormat on them. My advice, if he truly loves you, he would marry you first. :) -Katie

Love is such a strong word. Personally if I dated a girl and she started yapping on about marriage I'd be a little scared. Without some sort of sexual intimacy technically they aren't your boyfriend / girlfriend, they are just a close friend. That makes me sound like a *** but at the end of the day if a girl said she wanted to "wait" I would wait until she's ready but if she said "I want to wait until marriage" I'd back up straight away, not because I'm a *** and want sex asap but because settling down is a huge step and is one of the scariest things anyone could do in life (imo).

[HotelUser]

Boys lie. No offience to any guys out there. They will say they love you, and want you, and only you. But, they don't. They just want a few seconds of pleasure. Plus, you don't truly know where he has been. You could get any type of diease that may lay dormat on them. My advice, if he truly loves you, he would marry you first. :) -Katie

Im guessing you're younger, or haven't had that good experiences with guys in the past. I honestly would say the opposite to what you said. I would have said I've seen a lot of girls who date boys as so they can be like the rest of their friends who have boyfriends - sort of a bragging right. There is one incredibly ditsy girl in my Global course last semester that comes to mind especially. Every time she opened her mouth it was always about boys boys boys. Relationship status hot tubs kissing, urgh. I know it doesn't apply to every situation but from what I've seen and in several current situations I can see, the girls of the relationship carry most of the weight and have the guys on a short leash. Jumping through hoops blindly quite really trying to please the girls and it's not really working out all that well!

Boys lie? Girls lie too, everybody lies. I think a lot of boys like to see their girlfriends as sweet and angelic and so it's really disheartening to see them lie and to have that idea of them be tarnished. I'm sure you could make a similar comparison about when your boyfriend lies, too.

What you said about a few seconds of pleasure, there are boys like that but again there are girls like that too. It's just not incredibly advertised or common. Also I don't think it's fair that you say all boys lie and just want a few minutes of sexual pleasure - not true at all. Yes most boys think about sex often, but girls think about sex too, and that doesn't mean our one and only objective is to try and have sex. A lot of us want to take things slow and make it special just like girls do. Most boys want to be in a relationship because they don't like being lonely, and because the other person genuinely makes them happy and means a lot to them. It's not sex sex sex.

[Zeptis]

All i have to say about sex before marriage is "HHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELL YES", well at an appropriate age of course, which would be eighteen.

[PaulMacC]

What you said about a few seconds of pleasure, there are boys like that but again there are girls like that too. It's just not incredibly advertised or common. Also I don't think it's fair that you say all boys lie and just want a few minutes of sexual pleasure - not true at all. Yes most boys think about sex often, but girls think about sex too, and that doesn't mean our one and only objective is to try and have sex. A lot of us want to take things slow and make it special just like girls do. Most boys want to be in a relationship because they don't like being lonely, and because the other person genuinely makes them happy and means a lot to them. It's not sex sex sex.

In addition to this boy's gain their sex drive fairly young (14/15) while girl's don't receive their sex drive until their early 20's.

[Rozi]

In addition to this boy's gain their sex drive fairly young (14/15) while girl's don't receive their sex drive until their early 20's.

WHAT lmao I definately know some girls who have a very healthy sex drive

[buttons]

In addition to this boy's gain their sex drive fairly young (14/15) while girl's don't receive their sex drive until their early 20's.
what the **** are you talking about, there is no limit to when you 'receive' a sex drive... I know both males and females with high and some with low. where you getting your sex ed from?

[ben]

In addition to this boy's gain their sex drive fairly young (14/15) while girl's don't receive their sex drive until their early 20's.

lmao where did you find that

[FlyingJesus]

Since when ??

so god put himself inside a virgin and he is his own son ? huh ??

One of the most basic Christian beliefs is that the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are all one entity. Not making logical sense isn't really an issue when you're a god


Boys lie. No offience to any guys out there. They will say they love you, and want you, and only you. But, they don't. They just want a few seconds of pleasure. Plus, you don't truly know where he has been. You could get any type of diease that may lay dormat on them. My advice, if he truly loves you, he would marry you first. :) -Katie

And all girls hate sex and only ever do it because boys want to, right?

[Snooki]

my mum already knows she read my texts ARGH

[Snooki]

my mums aware i'm sexually active my dad would murder me though lol

Edited Jordan (Forum Moderator): Please do not double post after the 15 minute editing time without adding anything new

[Jssy]

my mums aware i'm sexually active my dad would murder me though lol
I don't think anybody needed to know.

[-:Undertaker:-]

For the most part, those who engage in sex before marriage who contract STDS/HIV or become pregnant, they bring it upon themselves.

If you see a bottomless pit, you don't jump in it unless you are absolutely sure where the bottom is - and even then you might not.

[MKR&*42]

I'm a Christian so Yes I believe in celibacy - quite a few people I know believe in it, they wear an "abstinence ring" to show they won't have sex before marriage.

I'm actually of A-sexuality though, which means I am not sexually attracted to anything, man , woman , animals etc. and I never have been sexually attracted to someone. A-sexuality, is natural - you don't force yourself to refrain from sex unlike celibacy.

So I never have to worry about sex :3 ( that could change though - I'm only 15 ).

[Judas]

For the most part, those who engage in sex before marriage who contract STDS/HIV or become pregnant, they bring it upon themselves.

If you see a bottomless pit, you don't jump in it unless you are absolutely sure where the bottom is - and even then you might not.

If I got in bed with someone and saw a bottomless pit I wouldn't want to jump in I must say.

[iLogan]

I agree with sex before marriage :)

[Judas]

I agree with sex before marriage :)

same

sex is a gift, it would be rude to not use it

[DPS]

I've been active since i was in my early teens, im not sure what my mother would have said if she found out, probs not much as im a guy, diffrent when your a girl i suppose.

[Jordy]

I'm a Christian so Yes I believe in celibacy - quite a few people I know believe in it, they wear an "abstinence ring" to show they won't have sex before marriage.

I'm actually of A-sexuality though, which means I am not sexually attracted to anything, man , woman , animals etc. and I never have been sexually attracted to someone. A-sexuality, is natural - you don't force yourself to refrain from sex unlike celibacy.

So I never have to worry about sex :3 ( that could change though - I'm only 15 ).Asexuality is very rare and seeing as you've not finished puberty at 15, it's quite likely you will eventually find some sexual desires. Plus being asexual doesn't mean you won't have sex, it simply means you've not much attraction to it. If you were in a relationship/marriage with someone who wasn't asexual, it's quite likely you'd have to engage in sex just to keep things going even if you gained little from the experience.

I still think being asexual would be ideal though, I don't want to sound like someone preaching "without religion everything would be peaceful", without a desire for sex I think things would be very different and probably better (although it's questionable how the human race would continue!)

[beth]

i'm all for sex before marriage, sex is not the be all and end all of 'love', sex is a bodily function. it's the process of reproduction.

not sure where it came to be a symbol of 'love' but it's not really is it. i enjoy sex but generally it's not the most romantic thing in the world, it's not always the greatest thing. don't get me wrong, it can be fantastic. but i'd rather not 'use' sex as proving how i fully love someone. i'd rather give them an intelligent description or something. idk.

sex does not equal love, and love does not equal sex.

[velvet]

i'm all for sex before marriage, sex is not the be all and end all of 'love', sex is a bodily function. it's the process of reproduction.

not sure where it came to be a symbol of 'love' but it's not really is it. i enjoy sex but generally it's not the most romantic thing in the world, it's not always the greatest thing. don't get me wrong, it can be fantastic. but i'd rather not 'use' sex as proving how i fully love someone. i'd rather give them an intelligent description or something. idk.

sex does not equal love, and love does not equal sex.

this, pretty much. sex is a part of a relationship, and to not explore that before committing yourself to someone forever is idiotic in my opinion.

however personally, i wouldn't sleep with someone who i didn't see a future with.

[Grig]

We are in the 21st century, of course it's normal. Whoever is preaching like a saint here needs to rewind to the previous century.

Also, you are saying sex gets your pregnant. Erm, no it doesn't, if you use protection. People who don't use it bring upon themselves, you're basically asking to be pregnant and it's no ones fault that it happens, just use your brains.

[Meanies]

I don't believe in sex before marriage, but I do believe you should be in a serious relationship. Like someone else said, it isn't a sign of love or anything, but I think it should be between two people who are together, not just two random people who barely know each other.

[AgnesIO]

We are in the 21st century, of course it's normal. Whoever is preaching like a saint here needs to rewind to the previous century.

Also, you are saying sex gets your pregnant. Erm, no it doesn't, if you use protection. People who don't use it bring upon themselves, you're basically asking to be pregnant and it's no ones fault that it happens, just use your brains.

To be fair, sex is supposed to happen for babies or w/e

Humans have simply made things which can make it more for pleasure.

[LordUsagi]

I don't believe sex should be withheld until marriage because you'd go into a marriage not knowing your likes/dislikes and your partner might not be able to make it work for the both of you, but you should save sex for people are you in a long term serious relationship with and/or love.

[-:Undertaker:-]

We are in the 21st century, of course it's normal. Whoever is preaching like a saint here needs to rewind to the previous century.

Also, you are saying sex gets your pregnant. Erm, no it doesn't, if you use protection. People who don't use it bring upon themselves, you're basically asking to be pregnant and it's no ones fault that it happens, just use your brains.

I'll preach like a saint because before we had the sexual revolution we had less teenage pregnancies, less abortion and less disease.

[Grig]

I'll preach like a saint because before we had the sexual revolution we had less teenage pregnancies, less abortion and less disease.

Yeh, but I believe there is another problem here, educating the society about the risks of STDs, pregnancy etc. without protection. If everyone in the world used protection and knew the implications, we would go back down close to what that society that you're preaching about was.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Yeh, but I believe there is another problem here, educating the society about the risks of STDs, pregnancy etc. without protection. If everyone in the world used protection and knew the implications, we would go back down close to what that society that you're preaching about was.

The more sex education we've had, it has resulted in more teenage pregnancies, more abortion and more disease.

[Grig]

The more sex education we've had, it has resulted in more teenage pregnancies, more abortion and more disease.

It's foolish to think that this will be solved in an hour's worth of sex education lessons per week. It's about the upbringing, you saw the state parts of society was in through the riots and similar events.

[Aaron]

I don't think sex should be held off till marriage, I just don't think it should.

Don't get rowdy with me, just stating my opinion about it. But at least for the people that stick it out till marriage, fair play to them!

[bkps]

Erm I don't think my mom cares, tbh she gave me condoms when I was 11.
But I don't think people should wait till they're married to have sex. Enjoy life, don't like trap yourself at a young age. Go out, have fun.

[AgnesIO]

Erm I don't think my mom cares, tbh she gave me condoms when I was 11.
But I don't think people should wait till they're married to have sex. Enjoy life, don't like trap yourself at a young age. Go out, have fun.

That is ****** up.

[e5]

It should be when they both feel ready, actually.

All i have to say about sex before marriage is "HHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELL YES", well at an appropriate age of course, which would be eighteen.

[Snooki]

I don't think anybody needed to know.

well that is the topic of the thread..sex before marriage therefore it's relevant to the topic and this is a discussion forum

[Laurrenbbz]

dont think my parents would mind tbh. i mean i was born before my parents got married. then my brother was born after they got married (A)

[Demi]

Personally I'm not married and have had sex and seeing someone at the minute.
My parents tried to do the whole sex before marriage stuff when I was younger, I understood it however but my parents days were my parents days and these days are different.

I do however respect everyones views on sex before marriage so I'm not slating anyone, but when my parents found out they just made sure that I used protection, which I did. But obviously being careful is #1.

Well, that's my opinion :).

[-:Undertaker:-]

My parents tried to do the whole sex before marriage stuff when I was younger, I understood it however but my parents days were my parents days and these days are different.

Indeed they are, but does it make you and us a better person?

[Catzsy]

Indeed they are, but does it make you and us a better person?

But does it on the other hand make you a worse person?

[Judas]

waiting for sex until marriage, to me, is a load of rubbish. not hating on anyone who chooses to wait but sex is like, the most natural thing ever, it's like a gift and it would be rude to not use it


Erm I don't think my mom cares, tbh she gave me condoms when I was 11.
But I don't think people should wait till they're married to have sex. Enjoy life, don't like trap yourself at a young age. Go out, have fun.

oh... erm... i don't like to judge but that's kinda weird

[-:Undertaker:-]

But does it on the other hand make you a worse person?

I think so yes, it doesn't have to be followed - but we should certainly be a lot more sceptical about sex.


waiting for sex until marriage, to me, is a load of rubbish. not hating on anyone who chooses to wait but sex is like, the most natural thing ever, it's like a gift and it would be rude to not use it

What a lovely attitude.

[Judas]

What a lovely attitude.

I'm so glad you agree.

On the other hand I couldn't care less what you think of my attitude towards anything, there's nothing wrong with what I said and if you don't like it, then consider evaluating your priorities.

The argument that sex only exists for reproduction is bull anyway, if that is the case then why are we one of two (I think?) species that get pleasure from sex...? If it wasn't supposed to be an enjoyable experience then it just wouldn't be.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I'm so glad you agree.

On the other hand I couldn't care less what you think of my attitude towards anything, there's nothing wrong with what I said and if you don't like it, then consider evaluating your priorities.

The argument that sex only exists for reproduction is bull anyway, if that is the case then why are we one of two (I think?) species that get pleasure from sex...? If it wasn't supposed to be an enjoyable experience then it just wouldn't be.

Nobody has made that argument as far as i'm aware, i'm not even making the argument for 'no sex before marriage' to always be followed - I simply state that we should be a bit more sceptical about sex and have a bit more self-respect for ourselves and others.

As opposed to seeking to act like animals.

[Judas]

Nobody has made that argument as far as i'm aware, i'm not even making the argument for 'no sex before marriage' to always be followed - I simply state that we should be a bit more sceptical about sex and have a bit more self-respect for ourselves and others.

As opposed to seeking to act like animals.

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=700491&p=7275906#post7275906 - I don't know if it has been a point of discussion before that as I can't be bothered to read through 8 pages

And yes I agree but that has nothing to do with marriage, does it? I honestly don't see what's wrong with having sex with multiple people as long as you're sensible about it?

Funny you should say we shouldn't act like animals when animals are the ones that only have sex to reproduce lolz.

[-:Undertaker:-]

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=700491&p=7275906#post7275906 - I don't know if it has been a point of discussion before that as I can't be bothered to read through 8 pages

And yes I agree but that has nothing to do with marriage, does it? I honestly don't see what's wrong with having sex with multiple people as long as you're sensible about it?

Nor do I, but one night stands and so forth? I look down on them, as we should do.


Funny you should say we shouldn't act like animals when animals are the ones that only have sex to reproduce lolz.

Well i'm not making that argument concerning reproduction so there's no irony at all on my part.

[Judas]

Nor do I, but one night stands and so forth? I look down on them, as we should do.

Well i'm not making that argument concerning reproduction so there's no irony at all on my part.

But why do you have a right to look down on people who choose
to do that and are just enjoying themselves? As long as they are using protection and not in relationships what is the problem? I understand it's not for some people, I wouldn't go out every weekend and sleep with any random person, but some people choose to do that and if they want to do that it's none of my business or yours.

And I didn't say it was ironic on your part, just making the point.

[-:Undertaker:-]

But why do you have a right to look down on people who choose
to do that and are just enjoying themselves? As long as they are using protection and not in relationships what is the problem? I understand it's not for some people, I wouldn't go out every weekend and sleep with any random person, but some people choose to do that and if they want to do that it's none of my business or yours.

And I didn't say it was ironic on your part, just making the point.

I'm a libertarian, I agree its none of my business or that of any government.

But I still view it in a negative way, I think we should have respect for ourselves and one another concerning sex.

[Judas]

I'm a libertarian, I agree its none of my business or that of any government.

But I still view it in a negative way, I think we should have respect for ourselves and one another concerning sex.

What would you define as having respect for yourself concerning sex?

[-:Undertaker:-]

What would you define as having respect for yourself concerning sex?

Not sleeping around, not going out looking for sex, not having the attitude that we should just have sex, talk about sex and go out looking for sex purely because 'its natural' or 'is good' - anything other than that comes across to me as somebody who is shallow and has little self-respect.

[Judas]

Not sleeping around, not going out looking for sex, not having the attitude that we should just have sex, talk about sex and go out looking for sex purely because 'its natural' or 'is good' - anything other than that comes across to me as somebody who is shallow and has little self-respect.

See, I don't see what's wrong with sleeping around. I agree we shouldn't treat it as "just having sex" so casually, but I think it can be a casual thing and if you want to have sex with someone then why not?

I think that when people like you in situations like this say someone has no respect for themselves, it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's. Respect has nothing to do with it unless you're just banging everyone that moves when you haven't even really met the person or just fancy a bit of sex.

And I don't see what's wrong with having sex because "it's good" ..... Why else lol

[-:Undertaker:-]

See, I don't see what's wrong with sleeping around. I agree we shouldn't treat it as "just having sex" so casually, but I think it can be a casual thing and if you want to have sex with someone then why not?

Sleeping around is 'just having sex', you can put lipstick on a pig and its still a pig - same with words and phrases.


I think that when people like you in situations like this say someone has no respect for themselves, it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's. Respect has nothing to do with it unless you're just banging everyone that moves when you haven't even really met the person or just fancy a bit of sex.

I'm not proposing to enforce my attitudes legally *unlike many others* in any way so I have no idea where this point came from.


And I don't see what's wrong with having sex because "it's good" ..... Why else lol

Well because it demeans the act then, its hedonism (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOc_kGb3My8) in a sexual sense. A great deal of people who act in the way you state is correct will, when older, come to regret their actions. Not being judged by others, but how they feel about themselves and how they themselves acted.

[Judas]

Sleeping around is 'just having sex', you can put lipstick on a pig and its still a pig - same with words and phrases.



I'm not proposing to enforce my attitudes legally *unlike many others* in any way so I have no idea where this point came from.



Well because it demeans the act then, its hedonism (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOc_kGb3My8) in a sexual sense. A great deal of people who act in the way you state is correct will, when older, come to regret their actions.

Not being judged by others, but how they feel about themselves and how they themselves acted.

When on earth did I talk about anything being enforced legally? What are you on about :S

And so you think people should not have fun while they can because there could be a chance they regret it one day? You could say that about literally anything you do for enjoyment.

In the same way, maybe a lot of people also, when older, wish they weren't so uptight and had a bit more fun when they were younger... Who knows

[-:Undertaker:-]

When on earth did I talk about anything being enforced legally? What are you on about :S

....'it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's' - I have not proposed or suggested once that what other people do has anything to do with me or the government. There is big difference between what I think people should be allowed to do (and as you know i'm always arguing for this to be allowed in 99.9% of cases) and what I approve of/disapprove of in terms of my personal tastes.


And so you think people should not have fun while they can because there could be a chance they regret it one day? You could say that about literally anything you do for enjoyment.

Indeed, I think personal restraint is a good quality to have - drugs, drink, sex, a great deal of things.


In the same way, maybe a lot of people also, when older, wish they weren't so uptight and had a bit more fun when they were younger... Who knows

They might, but then they might be rather happy that they hadn't acted in such a low grade manner whereas many of their peers did.

[despect]

I don't really believe in it but i can understand why people do. I'm not sure if i do want to get married yet. I think if anything i'd wait till i am dedicated to someone and when i know i could trust them completly.