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[Becca]

Don't know if anyone can actually help but yeah, basically my dad and my sister (she's 17) have been arguing a lot lately and have been fighting like, badly. My dad punched my sister in the nose for saying "One minute, I'll empty in the dishwasher later" which is just stupid. My dad was about to hit her again and I kind of shouted stop obviously because I couldn't be bothered with it and I thought he was going to hit me so I ran into the other room because he'd like, break me completely. He's massive and built and I'm just not strong at all...

That was about it but now I'm just wondering if there are ways to stop it, I don't think I'll try "talking" to him because it'll go all awkward but me and my dad never really got a long anyway and my step mum is a ***** sometimes and doesn't stick up for us, just him.

To make it worse my sister is moving to Scotland so I'm going to be alone with those two and it's just going to be horrible so yeah, hopefully you have an idea that can stop it so please comment below, thanks.

[tylermunjkt]

Phone childline or the police...

[Becca]

i'm not going to call the police on my own dad jesus christ, it's more or less him getting angry then lashing out he's not doing it on purpose

[wiktoria]

Phone childline or the police...

why would she do that to her own dad it's not like he beats her up 24/7


Becca you should talk to your dad even though it might be awkward I think that's the best way or maybe talk to a relative that's close to your dad and tell them to talk to your dad (obviously not your step mum because if she sticks up for your dad it won't be much help).

[Samantha]

Why not talk to your sister and ask her why she withstands being punched by your Father, surely she must have a reason has she no backbone?

I guess her leaving for Scotland maybe a chance for her to start a new life, not forgetting the old one but to make sure she isn't in your Dad's grasp anymore, meaning she is free, I know you aren't old enough to leave but is there anyone you could speak to for exaple a close friend, relative or your biological Mother?

However, I feel if you aren't happy with the way the family is run then the most suitable option would be to discuss the situation with your Father, of course it may not work as he may say that it is his house and he can do whatever he likes but maybe he doesn't really know that it is sort of upsetting you etc.

[Nemo]

i'm not going to call the police on my own dad jesus christ, it's more or less him getting angry then lashing out he's not doing it on purposeWhat the hell? Who cares if it's your dad, he's BEATING your sister. Like PHYSICALLY. If he punches her in the face over something so small, imagine what he'll do if she accidentally does something worse, he could KILL her, do you want that on your head? No. Call the people or childline.


why would she do that to her own dad it's not like he beats her up 24/7


Becca you should talk to your dad even though it might be awkward I think that's the best way or maybe talk to a relative that's close to your dad and tell them to talk to your dad (obviously not your step mum because if she sticks up for your dad it won't be much help).
Im sorry, but are you a ******* idiot? Usually i wouldn't get too annoyed about people giving ****** advice, but what the hell. "its not like he beats her up 24/7" what the ****? The fact he's done anything like that even once, warrants a large response. He'll soon find it okay to do such a thing with no consequences, and it'll become a norm. Not only to hit her sister, but her as well. Honestly, think before you give advice with stuff like this, this isn't a small matter. Relatives will either do **** all or give the advice im giving. Call the police next time(999), or the police station (local, not 999), or call childline now.



Why not talk to your sister and ask her why she withstands being punched by your Father, surely she must have a reason has she no backbone?

I guess her leaving for Scotland maybe a chance for her to start a new life, not forgetting the old one but to make sure she isn't in your Dad's grasp anymore, meaning she is free, I know you aren't old enough to leave but is there anyone you could speak to for exaple a close friend, relative or your biological Mother?

However, I feel if you aren't happy with the way the family is run then the most suitable option would be to discuss the situation with your Father, of course it may not work as he may say that it is his house and he can do whatever he likes but maybe he doesn't really know that it is sort of upsetting you etc.
And again, what the actual hell? Why she withstands it? Its not really a choice m'dear. She pretty much has to live there unless of course there's relatives, but again, its not always that simple. And no backbone? Holy what the ****. I really hope you don't say **** like that in real life to people who have gone through stuff like this. That is just shameful.


Anyway i've given my advice in the above rants at those other attempts at advice.

[The Don]

Yeah as Neem said, wtf. If he's hit her, even once, it's child abuse. What if he comes home drunk one night and someone upsets him then, there's no telling what could happen. I'd call the police or child line straight away.

[Eric]

If it was me, i'd call the police straight away. Get all my money out from the bank, pack all my bags and move to my friend's house.

[Becca]

I was thinking about moving to Scotland when my sister does, but I don't know. It would be the case of basically missing him when he's nice. We had some troubles in the past with him when I moved out to my Uncle's house for a couple of months because him and his old girlfriend were being total *****. But when he's nice, it's like just a normal family.

I don't know if it's worth calling them now because it'll be very soon when she moves but I don't think she will let me anyway, she's moving up to Scotland to live with her girlfriend and clearly it would be really awkward if I was there so any other ideas? Don't think I'd be able to move in with a friend because their mum's and dad's probably won't let me.

[Nemo]

I was thinking about moving to Scotland when my sister does, but I don't know. It would be the case of basically missing him when he's nice. We had some troubles in the past with him when I moved out to my Uncle's house for a couple of months because him and his old girlfriend were being total *****. But when he's nice, it's like just a normal family.

I don't know if it's worth calling them now because it'll be very soon when she moves but I don't think she will let me anyway, she's moving up to Scotland to live with her girlfriend and clearly it would be really awkward if I was there so any other ideas? Don't think I'd be able to move in with a friend because their mum's and dad's probably won't let me.
Yer my neighbour is totally fine most of the time, oh except when he wants to kill us (true story). The face that you have to say "but when" shows something is wrong. This could become a norm and he could be doing this EVERYDAY. From experience (not personal, but someone very close to me), i know how this **** goes down. Get it sorted out now and either get yourself also away from him, or try and get him anger management of some sort.

It's definitely worth calling them now, not just for your sister's safety, but for your own. What if something happens in that small gap between now and when she moves? You sure as hell won't want that. Just do it, dont really want to see something bad happen from this.

[Becca]

Yer my neighbour is totally fine most of the time, oh except when he wants to kill us (true story). The face that you have to say "but when" shows something is wrong. This could become a norm and he could be doing this EVERYDAY. From experience (not personal, but someone very close to me), i know how this **** goes down. Get it sorted out now and either get yourself also away from him, or try and get him anger management of some sort.

It's definitely worth calling them now, not just for your sister's safety, but for your own. What if something happens in that small gap between now and when she moves? You sure as hell won't want that. Just do it, dont really want to see something bad happen from this.

I think they will probably make him go to anger management anyway, if I do call them I'd refuse to go into care anyway. For a while I'm going to live with my cousin at her apartment and my sister will probably go to her friend's house or something since half of her friends already have their own house so I guess it'll work out.

I don't think he would ever go and hit me though, we've never really had a problem. I moved to my Uncle's before because when my sister came out gay she just showed it off all the time and basically made a big deal out of it so my dad went mental and he was just not himself for ages so I thought I'd just leave because I couldn't handle it. With my dad, if I get told to do something I just do it because there is no point arguing. My sister is pretty built too, unlike me because I'm just not stocky at all. But obviously that doesn't mean he can still hit her.

I might not even have to call to be honest, if I've moved once and not been forced to move back I guess I could do it again. My cousin is really understanding too so I guess no questions will be asked.