my life so far

[Laurrenbbz]

ok so basically, my mum and dad, me and my brother were all together once. but obv thats gone out the window now. my mum and dad divorced when i was 8, everyday i just wish they would be back tgether tbh, my step mums a ***** and my dad has changed so much as he just does whatever she says.. for example she bosses me about alot and he will just back her up. whenever she asks for money he gives her, but he wouldnt even help my mum pay for her university fee, i enjoy going to my mums better than at home as i feel more wanted really, i hate my step mum at times as she is drunk alot. me my dad and my mum n brother used to be normal. (well me my mum and br are) but now this women has barged into my life my dads changed, and everythings changed. and idk what to do, it breaks my heart seeing my dad cry, cos basically i wanna live with my mum. shes always working though all day all night as shes a full time a & e nurse, my life is normal i guess but, all i wanna do is live an easy life and its hard when another women has come into your life whos hrrible and is acting like the mother role any advice guys? also i wanna tell my dad i wana move.. its hard as my nan (his mum) is currently in hospital with serious illness iv kept this in for a long time but nothing seems to be improving so i just thought id ask for help really, bit sad but i dont care idk what to do, also it kinda upsets me when people who are my friends take the mick for me being from manchester, manchester is a perfectly normal place but the way some of my friends talk to me about it is pretty humiliating. im a perfectly normal girl with a normal life but its not exactly good. any help guys? +rep :(

[Shar]

Can't you tell your mum how it is at home and tell her how its really upsetting you? I'm sure she wouldn't expect you to deal with it all on your own.

[Gina]

Well
I live with a mum and stepdad and twin,
My stepdad gets mad easily and has a disability sort of
my mum deals with it
but when hes mad
hes mad
and it upsets me, but tbh I just shut my door and go to bed :L
but Lauren when you wish yhey're back together, yeah sure, so do I! But I know there was a reason which was they were fighting everynight
that effected me and my twin, they threatend eachother. your parents only split up for a reason. If I was you I would talk to your stepmum or do something with her (not in the dirty way) like go bowling or whatever, I bet you barely know her. You see stuff differently then others do, your dad may be really happy, but you think hes not. If you want to talk some sense into your dad after if shes still horrid and stuff and say
shes making you unhappy, just don't forget he may really like her aswell, but you never know
just what I think x

[Laurrenbbz]

Can't you tell your mum how it is at home and tell her how its really upsetting you? I'm sure she wouldn't expect you to deal with it all on your own.

yeah i could but im scared you know its pretty hard, i have told her once before and it caused to much **** it was unreal and now im pretty scared to say it again;[

---------- Post added 23-06-2011 at 09:22 PM ----------


Well
I live with a mum and stepdad and twin,
My stepdad gets mad easily and has a disability sort of
my mum deals with it
but when hes mad
hes mad
and it upsets me, but tbh I just shut my door and go to bed :L
but Lauren when you wish yhey're back together, yeah sure, so do I! But I know there was a reason which was they were fighting everynight
that effected me and my twin, they threatend eachother. your parents only split up for a reason. If I was you I would talk to your stepmum or do something with her (not in the dirty way) like go bowling or whatever, I bet you barely know her. You see stuff differently then others do, your dad may be really happy, but you think hes not. If you want to talk some sense into your dad after if shes still horrid and stuff and say
shes making you unhappy, just don't forget he may really like her aswell, but you never know
just what I think x

aww gina :( lifes hard isnt it;[ +my dad is happy.. hes happier than he ever was which is weird, cos the womens he's picked is just horrible to me! :L im scared t tell him like, i dont like the person your with, shes horrible. it would pretty much break his heart, when im on my own with her shes fine with me, but the thing is when my dads here shes not its like shes tryin t show off or somethingthats why i dont genrally choose t talk to her when im on my own with her, its just hard really but i guess ill be fine cos iv gotta live with this for the rest of my life, theve been together ages! :L

[Shar]

yeah i could but im scared you know its pretty hard, i have told her once before and it caused to much **** it was unreal and now im pretty scared to say it again;[

I can't even imagine how it is. But you have to tell her before the situation worsens. It might cause a lot of **** but what if it helps sort the situation out? It may be bad either way but you need to pick the option that may actually help you.

[Ms.Aquamarine]

Lauren, you and your dad should set up a day where you can hang out. Some father and daughter time. Tell him how you are feeling, and explain to him, very nicely, that you would like to live with your mother.
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Also, if they were really your friends, they wouldn't make you feel humiliated. You should be able to feel perfectly comfortable when you're with your friends.

[Gina]

I think lauren you should do more stuff together
Before you just judge her, see what shes like when you go bowling or something
watch a movie
do something
just, trust me. I wasnt keen on my stepdad, first impression was in a crappy home, non working toilet and had a powercut, ate plastic food, threw a laptop down the stairs
I judged him by that saying yeh he aint nice. He also shouted alot and was rude. Then I got to know him...
He was actually nice

[Aaron]

Just tell your mum how you feel and what your step-mum is like, explain that your not comfortable around your dad's house.

Your step-mum obviously needs a good slap, if she's being a wicked witch, drinking and people with drink can change.

You've obviously kept this in for a long time, so I think you should let it all out to your mother, maybe she'll have a solution and you obviously feel happier in your mother's home, maybe ask can you move back in with her..

Hope I've helped in some sort of way.

[Jordan:A]

Even if you move in with your mom, you can still see your dad, just arrange a day where you would go out to the cinema or something with him.
Or you could just confront your step-mom and say that she isn't your mom and that she can, and just say to her and your dad (if you are going to move in with your mother) that you don;t like her and if you are going to meet with your dad you don't want her there.
I'm sure your mom would trust you in the house on your own while she's out working.

My parents divorced when I was like 6 and now they are totally opposite people to what they used to be like, my step-mom has my dad wrapped around her finger too, but luckily, I don't have to live with it.

Hope it all works out for you :)