dad annoyed with new car

[Mikey]

Basically my mum was on her way home with me and my brother and we decided to go into a car shop. Mum decided to get a Corsa car to replace our old Renault Scenic car to save money on petrol and insurance etc. We came home and my dad found out and went into a pure rage, and my mum and dad are talking anymore because my dad is acting like a little child.

I think my dad doesn't like the Corsa cars but is there any excuse for him to be annoyed even if he's not going to be driving it and it's going to be used for my mum to get to and from work and ocassionally taking me and my brother to college/uni or to go out places.

I'm confused.. :S

[Rozi]

Maybe just because, unless you have money to throw around, a car is a major big purchase which a couple would usually discuss before buying.

[Defocus]

He's probably not upset about the car itself but at the fact that your mom went out and bought a car out of the blue without discussing it with him. Presuming your parents are married, that's his money aswell, he should get a say on what it's spent on. I wouldn't worry about it too much, just let them work it out on their own.

[Mikey]

Thanks for the replies above, but the thing is the money that comes into our home is earned by my mum and my dad is unemployed due to being basically unfit to work so I don't really get that part..

I do agree I should let them get on with it but meh

[MissAlice]

For most committed relationships it’s a partnership regardless if there is only one bread winner, one where important decisions particularly on large or unusual purchases are made jointly. We don’t need to know the circumstances of why your father is unfit to work, but he could be feeling useless, low in spirits or incapable of doing many physical things and your mother changing the car without consulting him has put a dent in his armour, he just wanted to be involved. Just because he is unfit to work doesn’t mean he is incapable of making important decisions. Go easy on your father :)

I’m sure your mother did what she thought was best even though it was impulsive and in the long term he will come round when he sees the savings in petrol and insurance.

[Mikey]

For most committed relationships it’s a partnership regardless if there is only one bread winner, one where important decisions particularly on large or unusual purchases are made jointly. We don’t need to know the circumstances of why your father is unfit to work, but he could be feeling useless, low in spirits or incapable of doing many physical things and your mother changing the car without consulting him has put a dent in his armour, he just wanted to be involved. Just because he is unfit to work doesn’t mean he is incapable of making important decisions. Go easy on your father :)

I’m sure your mother did what she thought was best even though it was impulsive and in the long term he will come round when he sees the savings in petrol and insurance.

Thanks for this! I do see your points.