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Cosmic
17-07-2011, 12:26 PM
Can relationships be considered 'real' if they are purely on the internet?

Do you think that they are right or wrong? Based on this, do you have any good/bad examples of internet relationships that you can use to explain your opinions?

Tom
18-07-2011, 09:23 PM
I've not got mega views on this, most people 'online' are so much nicer and cuter e.t.c. then people 'offline'. If the person in the 'cyber-relationship' is happy, I suppose it's their choice.

-Charityy
18-07-2011, 09:25 PM
I would say sometimes it could work out, but I think this is rare. I believe most internet relationships won't work out purely because they aren't near each other. That's not to say it can't work out though. It's definitely possible.

Hollie.
18-07-2011, 09:27 PM
Iv never had a internet relationship, but I cant see how they would work??

lawrawrrr
18-07-2011, 09:30 PM
YES.

There's no such thing as e-dating. You meet someone on the net, yeah, so do THOUSANDS of people each year, that;s what you EXPECT from the digital age.

Sometimes it doesn't work - usually because one (or both) parties are different irl to what they are on the net, or can't see it as a serious relationship. But as you get older, it can work.

It's like asking if people on the net are your friends. If you put the effort in it works.

Hollie
18-07-2011, 09:36 PM
Don't see anything wrong with them,
If you just wanna have a laugh with someone without it being too serious, internet dating is a good way for that but if you want a serious relationship out of it, I don't think over the internet is the best place for that.

Absently
18-07-2011, 09:42 PM
Weird thing is, I really don't agree with relationships just based on the internet, I think it's pointless and silly.. If you really liked someone that much on the internet you'd try aim towards meeting them and getting to know how they are in person. You can't really be sure on who they really are until you're both face to face and spend quality time on the internet. Although, yeah I know it's not always possible to be with the person in real life. I think they can work if it's not just a relationship on the internet and actually see eachother a few times a month then yeah.

Even though I'm probably so contradicting myself with this since I live with someone I met off here, but we weren't together until we met, and then continued to meet up every second week and (so far!) it's working out really well and I can honestly say no one I've met from where I live has made me this happy. So yeah, they work with effort and if they don't just stay on the internet.

GommeInc
18-07-2011, 09:54 PM
Depends on what you mean. Purely internet based relationships rarely work, there needs to be the one moment where you meet the other person to experience who the other person is. In other words, chatting on Skype, MSN, Facebook is all well and good, but there needs to be some sort of physical experience, rather than one that is virtual. Long distant ones, where a physical relationship has been involved can work if both people are committed to the relationship. Afterall, the world is a smaller place now so it's not hard to visit each other once in a while.

I am assuming that "relationship" means communication with someone for more than just friendship. If you mean the general term then yes, internet friendships work - I've made a few friends over the years with people I've met on here and other places.

Defocus
18-07-2011, 09:55 PM
In my opinion, you should only go down that road if you live in the same country. If you're on different sides of the world, you'd have to face the reality that you'll most likely never see each other.

5,5
18-07-2011, 09:58 PM
I would never have a purely online relationship myself, but for some people it makes them happy, so to each his own in that way. The only way I would have one is if I met the person in real life and liked them a lot then one of us moved away or something, so it would be more like continuing the relationship the only way possible rather than having a 100% online relationship. That's just me though.

lawrawrrr
18-07-2011, 10:00 PM
Agreeing with marvin - if you make it a more real relationship - seeing each other regularly, sometimes you'll end up seeing them more than people you ACTUALLY know (I know that's the case with me lol).

Also, I personally am not allowed out much, so I don't have much opportunity to meet guys irl, and they're always the kind that I'm not interested in a relationship with - usually so physical (another thing - you can move the relationship more slowly if you're not seeing each other constantly). On the internet, it's possible to meet a whole new range of people!

-:Undertaker:-
18-07-2011, 10:04 PM
No they can't, often people on the internet tend to be more shy/less brash also in real life as opposed to online.

lawrawrrr
18-07-2011, 10:10 PM
No they can't, often people on the internet tend to be more shy/less brash also in real life as opposed to online.

You can't say that's true for everyone - how can you know. Sometimes being able to come out of your shell more online is a good thing - lets people see th real you instead of the shy exterior most people have.

Inseriousity.
19-07-2011, 12:02 AM
Yes they can work. Like all relationships, they need love, honesty and a trust between each other. All 3 of which are ten times harder to find online because it's easier to lie. People can choose what they want to divulge whether it's true, a version of the truth or complete ********. Despite that, don't think it's impossible to find someone online. The world's a big place, bound to be someone out there who's genuine and right for you.

lukeyo
19-07-2011, 01:03 AM
First, good topic! Second, in proportion.
What do i mean by this? Whilst being in an online relationship that remains online, it should not affect or be brought into your life in the real world. Whilst online it's good to create an avatar - like another version of you. Say for instance if you were to get into a fight or dispute with the other person in the relationship and it started taking a toll on you in the real world, that's when you realize its an online relationship, and it only ever will be. Where as if in the relationship everything is going well, and your happy as hell (lol), Then go with it, have a positive energy and enjoy the ride.

It's good to have someone to talk to. But keep it in moderation and don't become to dependant on the relationship. Theres only so much comfort someone can give online.
BOOM

J0SH
19-07-2011, 01:20 AM
Internet relationships = long distance = stupid = pointless..

However, if you're social networking and you find someone on the internet, and you meet up and take things from there, then it's okay.

Liam
19-07-2011, 01:24 AM
Long story short; No.


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beth
19-07-2011, 02:03 AM
i had a 3 year relationship with someone i met on here and it was awesome, i saw him every 4 weeks and then i moved to kent to go to university to be with him. sadly we both changed and ultimately it didn't work out BUT the initial part and the long distance part was so so good. we were so in love, and the distance kept the love strong because every moment i spent with him was special. i'm sure he can add more to this if he wants (hi sam!) but i have nothing but good memories for the internet relationship part.

i think if you want it to work, and yr mature enough and have the capacity (you need to be of a certain age to be travelling the country by yrself, i was 18 and sam was 17. we both had money from college coming in and we had supportive parents) to make it work: then it will. i don't believe in like transatlantic online relationships though because i believe yr kidding yrself. i know it sounds quite hypocritical, but it's a long way to come if it's not going to work and it's not worth the heartache i feel. and i think people who rely on the internet to find love should probably/won't find love either. i've only ever had one partner i met online, and i think that one is enough. people i saw prior and people i've met since have all been friends i know from work/uni/via friends. it is dangerous.

you have to be strong though, it hurts saying goodbye to someone for a month or so and it doesn't really ever get easier.

edit: i also don't get this different person offline/online thing. i'm exactly the same person i am online and offline, and if yr not i find that really odd. don't be scared to be yrself just because yr face to face with people ;l but i think that's probably a whole different story.

Jordan:A
19-07-2011, 02:05 AM
I don't think that they work unless they regularly meet up and live in the same country, if its just 100% online then that's pointless.

Stephen
19-07-2011, 02:11 AM
i had a 3 year relationship with someone i met on here and it was awesome, i saw him every 4 weeks and then i moved to kent to go to university to be with him. sadly we both changed and ultimately it didn't work out BUT the initial part and the long distance part was so so good. we were so in love, and the distance kept the love strong because every moment i spent with him was special. i'm sure he can add more to this if he wants (hi sam!) but i have nothing but good memories for the internet relationship part.

i think if you want it to work, and yr mature enough and have the capacity (you need to be of a certain age to be travelling the country by yrself, i was 18 and sam was 17. we both had money from college coming in and we had supportive parents) to make it work: then it will. i don't believe in like transatlantic online relationships though because i believe yr kidding yrself. i know it sounds quite hypocritical, but it's a long way to come if it's not going to work and it's not worth the heartache i feel. and i think people who rely on the internet to find love should probably/won't find love either. i've only ever had one partner i met online, and i think that one is enough. people i saw prior and people i've met since have all been friends i know from work/uni/via friends. it is dangerous.

you have to be strong though, it hurts saying goodbye to someone for a month or so and it doesn't really ever get easier.

edit: i also don't get this different person offline/online thing. i'm exactly the same person i am online and offline, and if yr not i find that really odd. don't be scared to be yrself just because yr face to face with people ;l but i think that's probably a whole different story.

The thing is shyness I think. Like if someone spoke to me, I talk loads and loads and loads online but if they met me irl they'd probably hate me because I'm pretty shy. But some people who aren't shy irl could come online and talk how they normally do and be the same irl. You just don't know do ya

The Don
19-07-2011, 02:11 AM
It makes everything less personal, like before, you would've had to have gone out and met people face to face, gain confidence, socialize properly whereas now, you can meet people on facebook which makes everything less intimate.

beth
19-07-2011, 02:14 AM
The thing is shyness I think. Like if someone spoke to me, I talk loads and loads and loads online but if they met me irl they'd probably hate me because I'm pretty shy. But some people who aren't shy irl could come online and talk how they normally do and be the same irl. You just don't know do ya

i guess i don't understand it because i've never had issues with confidence/shyness, and i think it does come down to that. i do find it a bit false though, and that's why internet dating is dodgy. because someone (without even meaning to) could be projecting a false image of themself, and imagining driving like 300 miles to meet up with someone you think you "love" and just not even liking them at all ha. cringe.

ifuseekamy
19-07-2011, 05:14 AM
Yeah if it's between some young adolescents. In older people I think it's a bit strange and of course it can never replace real life relationships, just like socialising online isn't comparable to socialising in real life. All in all I don't disagree with them but I think children should be encouraged to have real life relationships with people their own age as it provides them with proper practise and social skills they'll need for adult ones.

GirlNextDoor15
19-07-2011, 05:45 AM
I could talk and talk and talk about this but I'm going to make it short. Internet relationships usually don't work. It depends on how much effort you put in it and how real is the relationship. Teenagers or young adults often find themselves falling in love with the people on the internet because internet creates a sense of virtual reality. Everything looks so real to you but it's not. For example, the other side might say that he loves you but the feelings can change once he meets up with you. In my life, I don't believe in relationships love (husband and wife) but I believe in feelings. It's the feeling that made you feel like you're in love.


I don't think that they work unless they regularly meet up and live in the same country, if it's just 100% online then that's pointless.

Long distance relationships usually won't work out. Even if you put in effort like seeing them once or twice per month, you will still be fed up of trying to work the relationships out when it's so obvious that it won't work out. However, moving and trying to live with the other side will need a lot of effort and in the end, do you think it is worth it? No, it's not worth it. I'm saying this based on my experience with a guy I met online.

I cannot be bothered to read all the posts here but I think everybody is missing this point. About the 'how real is the relationship', I doubt everyone will believe me but the relationship could be a scam or something similar to that. Humans can do stupid things in order to get what they want, right?

Felix
19-07-2011, 09:51 AM
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They are the stupidest thing known to man. Anyone who does this, obviously is someone who is very insecure about them self, and can not go talk to a man or woman.
I personally do not think that they would last, and I think half the reason is, is because half the time one of the two is a child molester and they rape then murder the child.

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lawrawrrr
19-07-2011, 10:02 AM
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They are the stupidest thing known to man. Anyone who does this, obviously is someone who is very insecure about them self, and can not go talk to a man or woman.
I personally do not think that they would last, and I think half the reason is, is because half the time one of the two is a child molester and they rape then murder the child.

That's a bit harsh :S

What about the thousands of people every year who meet on dating websites? If, and only if, one of the parties lies about age/looks/whatever, then yeah, it was a bad idea, but people think this happens SO MUCH MORE than it actually does. I'm not denying it happens, but it's difficult to keep up a lie in this digital age - with webcams, microphones, social networking sites etc. If you never hear or see anything but what the person tells you - then of course you have to doubt their trust, but most of the time you can tell.

They can work.

Hecktix
19-07-2011, 10:33 AM
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They are the stupidest thing known to man. Anyone who does this, obviously is someone who is very insecure about them self, and can not go talk to a man or woman.
I personally do not think that they would last, and I think half the reason is, is because half the time one of the two is a child molester and they rape then murder the child.

You sir, always were a douche and still are by the looks of things.

I will echo the things said by many in this thread, notably Kelly, bethie & Laura - there's no such thing as an internet relationship, there is however such thing as dating someone you met online, however you have to meet them before anything can happen otherwise it's mere fantasy.

!!BeWise!!
19-07-2011, 10:38 AM
1) Can relationships be considered 'real' if they are purely on the internet?
Although I haven't had any experiences on online dating or having an intimate relationship online, I don't know if I'm supposed to say this, but since I'm a simple thinker who likes positivity, I think that it is possible to have this 'real' relationship through the internet, just depends on the individuals situation on how willing they are to devote to each other and keep the relationship going to make it internet-'real' in to real life. (Sorry if it doesn't make any sense :/)

2) Do you think that they are right or wrong?
I can't say that they are both 100% right or wrong because there are both cases where the relationship actually works or where people mistake each other and end up being in a bad situation.
But I guess I'd like to think that they are right:D

3) Based on this, do you have any good/bad examples of internet relationships that you can use to explain your opinions?
Sorry, I have no experience, so I can't say much.

Felix
19-07-2011, 11:09 AM
I guess what i said was a bit harsh, though I ment like a habbo relation ship. Sure, people meet on dating sites and get somewhere. Though virtual things are plain stupid.

Thanks oli.

samsaBEAR
19-07-2011, 11:12 AM
i guess i don't understand it because i've never had issues with confidence/shyness, and i think it does come down to that. i do find it a bit false though, and that's why internet dating is dodgy. because someone (without even meaning to) could be projecting a false image of themself, and imagining driving like 300 miles to meet up with someone you think you "love" and just not even liking them at all ha. cringe.
don't lie, the first time we met you were well shy haha.

lawrawrrr
19-07-2011, 11:19 AM
I guess what i said was a bit harsh, though I ment like a habbo relation ship. Sure, people meet on dating sites and get somewhere. Though virtual things are plain stupid.

Thanks oli.

habbo dating rooms etc, OBVIOUSLY they're not real relationships... intrigued to see your thoughts on proper internet relationships then...

GirlNextDoor15
19-07-2011, 12:49 PM
That's a bit harsh :S

What about the thousands of people every year who meet on dating websites? If, and only if, one of the parties lies about age/looks/whatever, then yeah, it was a bad idea, but people think this happens SO MUCH MORE than it actually does. I'm not denying it happens, but it's difficult to keep up a lie in this digital age - with webcams, microphones, social networking sites etc. If you never hear or see anything but what the person tells you - then of course you have to doubt their trust, but most of the time you can tell.

They can work.

I think what Felix posted was a bit DRAMATIC. It can be real but it sounds dramatic. They of course cannot lie about their physical appearances (age and looks) but they can lie about their feelings. Saying 'I love you' when they are not really in love with the other side.

lawrawrrr
19-07-2011, 01:08 PM
I think what Felix posted was a bit DRAMATIC. It can be real but it sounds dramatic. They of course cannot lie about their physical appearances (age and looks) but they can lie about their feelings. Saying 'I love you' when they are not really in love with the other side.

that's true of any relationship though - not just internet specific... OK it's easier to hide or keep secrets on the internet, but if you seriously feel that way then I don't see why you'd lie. I know from experience that it's difficult to trust someone on the net if that say they love you - and the only way to prove it really is to see irl. Which is why I do agree that relationships PURELY on the internet have a very low success rate.

Meanies
19-07-2011, 01:11 PM
If the relationship is purely just on the internet, then no, I don't think it really has any chance of working whatsoever. There needs to be physical contact for a relationship to work properly. However, if the two people involved meet up in real life, then yes there is more of a chance that the relationship will work but there are still a lot of things that can interfere with this. As someone said already, people aren't always the same online as they are offline, they could be lying about age, looks etc, they could have a completely different personality - namely the whole confidence/shyness factor. I'm with someone I met online now and we've been together for 8 months tomorrow. Both of us are relatively shy people, but because we developed such a strong bond online before we met eachother, this didn't really show through, after about the first 5 minutes of awkwardness and realising you were actually with them, it felt like we'd known eachother forever.

Meeting someone online and having a relationship in real life can work, and has worked. My mum met her new partner on a dating site (lol), and I met my girlfriend on this forum (more lol), but my mum has been with him for over 5 years and they're engaged, and I've been with my girlfriend for almost 8 months, so that kind of proves that it can be successful. I know there are examples of it not being successful, no offence to him, but Pyroka is a prime example with his list of online ex's. Maybe meeting someone who lives near you, say within an hour, is a better idea than a completely long distance relationship, but if you both really, really like each other and are both dedicated to making the relationship work, then yes that can also work. I lived in England, my girlfriend in Ireland, and I know they aren't exactly the furthest away from each other, but it's more long distance than being within the same country. We made sure we wanted to meet up, after talking for over year before doing so, and when we did we both felt it was right, and after 3 days we were in a relationship, kinda soon I know but we knew basically everything about eachother already, and if we didn't, we do now. Along with the effort in a long distance thing, it takes money too.. something you wouldn't necessarily have to pay out in a 'local' relationship, but again if you feel it's worth it, then you make that commitment. For me, it was about 100 for a trip from Tuesday to Sunday, which included flights, buses and money to spend. Then there was times I'd get the ferry over, stay longer which would cost more. Having supportive parents in it also helps, both mine and hers supported us both, giving us money, lifts to places etc, made things slightly easier. Judge this how you want, but after 5 months together, I moved to Ireland to be with her constantly and I couldn't have made a better decision. Well ok, maybe I could've found a job before I moved but that's the only thing. I've been living in Ireland for 3 months now, 2 of which we've been living in our own apartment and her parents are doing as much as they can to help us financially, they pay the 400 rent a month until I get a job, give us money randomly, her stepdad has changed the address on some kind of benefit thing so we get money from that every week, he's going to give me a job with 200 euro a week.
I know I've kind of gone off topic and gone into a story about myself, but everything that I've said builds up to making a relationship and how many different factors there are in a long distance relationship over a local one, and it shows that there is a lot there, along with all the stuff I didn't mention, trust, jealousy and things like that also come into it. And I'll leave it there because this is already a million word essay.

beth
19-07-2011, 01:11 PM
don't lie, the first time we met you were well shy haha.

says you?!?!?!!?!? shut up! ha.

Richie
19-07-2011, 02:29 PM
If it tickles your pickle go for it, don't let people tell you whats right or wrong.

I edated before and in fairness I'm not sure what other people do on the internet but it was just like we were close friends. My only concern with people edating is safety, obviously anyone could put a picture on the internet that isn't them and say it is. I wouldn't recommend it as it's a little pointless and I think people get caught up in the whole thing and start to feel like they need to come on the internet, just like in real life you need to see your girlfriend you can't go a week without speaking to her for no reason and although it's completely different people get lost.

beth
20-07-2011, 02:31 AM
If it tickles your pickle go for it, don't let people tell you whats right or wrong.

I edated before and in fairness I'm not sure what other people do on the internet but it was just like we were close friends. My only concern with people edating is safety, obviously anyone could put a picture on the internet that isn't them and say it is. I wouldn't recommend it as it's a little pointless and I think people get caught up in the whole thing and start to feel like they need to come on the internet, just like in real life you need to see your girlfriend you can't go a week without speaking to her for no reason and although it's completely different people get lost.

this is why "e-dating" doesn't really work, meeting someone on the internet and then subsequently meeting them can work however. if yr just "dating" someone online, yr not really dating them. being with someone is 50/50 physical/emotional. if yr just getting the emotional side, you may aswell just have a good friend.

and when i say physical, i don't outright mean sex. i'm talking about physically BEING with someone. like learning their little quirks, the way they stand, the way they talk etc, holding hands, being able to hold a physical conversation with that person.

GirlNextDoor15
20-07-2011, 12:13 PM
If it tickles your pickle go for it, don't let people tell you whats right or wrong.

I edated before and in fairness I'm not sure what other people do on the internet but it was just like we were close friends. My only concern with people edating is safety, obviously anyone could put a picture on the internet that isn't them and say it is. I wouldn't recommend it as it's a little pointless and I think people get caught up in the whole thing and start to feel like they need to come on the internet, just like in real life you need to see your girlfriend you can't go a week without speaking to her for no reason and although it's completely different people get lost.

Exactly. Very well said and that is why Internet relationships won't work.

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this is why "e-dating" doesn't really work, meeting someone on the internet and then subsequently meeting them can work however. if yr just "dating" someone online, yr not really dating them. being with someone is 50/50 physical/emotional. if yr just getting the emotional side, you may aswell just have a good friend.

and when i say physical, i don't outright mean sex. i'm talking about physically BEING with someone. like learning their little quirks, the way they stand, the way they talk etc, holding hands, being able to hold a physical conversation with that person.

Ok. I think I won't agree with you on this. E-dating won't work. If they met each other, it depends on how they really want the relationship to work. It's not that meeting each other will guarantee a good relationship.

In general, a relationship is subdivided into three parts, mainly chemistry, physics and emotions.
1. Chemistry is how they feel about each other when they meet each other. For example, a girl might say that the boy isn't as handsome as he was on the Internet. Then, she might straight away say NO in her heart. So, that means it's not a relationship, more towards a 'one-night-stand' thing.
2. Physics is like you said. How they go along and how well it is. But, I'm going to add some to this. Behaviour is a very important part too. What if the boy is very short-tempered and the girl just can't stand it?
3. Emotions is like what you said too.

Yupt
20-07-2011, 07:19 PM
Jumps in da convo xox

I think the title for this question is a little complicated, because dating purely through the internet CAN be done, but isn't great, very VERY few relationships will last without the physical aspect. Meeting someone in the internet and then meeting them irl is a lot different. I know this might not affect all of you, but how many times have you added someone on facebook that you've got to know through a friend and then met them for the first time irl. Does that not count as meeting on the internet? Although, it must be said. I would never want to meet someone irl that I haven't at least spoken to often, seen on cam and heard on Skype/phone. Safety is important! But relationships formed using the internet can work. trust me ;D

Teabags
24-07-2011, 05:17 PM
Just reiterating what Pasta said really.
Ofc it's nice to have people to talk to on the internet, but when people become obsessive over it and consider it a genuine relationship - this is slightly peculiar.

Not on a shallow basis of there being no physical benefits, but up until the point of meeting someone you may have no real conception as to who they are as a person.

Simple examples of this would be - it is easier to exaggerate the truth online and make you appear more confident and interesting. Also, irl you can't really just be like brb? it'd make a situation so awkward.

Kyran
25-07-2011, 03:51 AM
I don't think serious relationships can happen over the internet. Plus there are occurrences where the person you talk to online isn't really who they say they are. Real life relationships have more stability, and opportunities for the relationship to move forward.

Samantha
25-07-2011, 02:42 PM
I have read many replies to this thread and I agree mainly with both sides.

Firstly, I have dated online a few times and none of them actually worked, one person even lived round the corner from me and he was putting no effort in whatsoever therefore we 'broke up' I know the effort can come mainly from two sides but I always asked to meet him and whenever the day came he was like 'cba,' I would have gone round to his house and ensured he saw me at least once but I wasn't sure which house it was that he lived in. Anyway, I am really glad that it didn't work out as it showed his real colours and showed that he wasn't worth the effort, therefore in that way online relationships doesn't work without effort from both sides.

On the other hand, I am currently in a relationship which began online over seventeen weeks ago, a friend we both knew irl introduced us by allowing his friend to add me on MSN and Facebook, we developed 'feelings' can you say online and then were scheduled to meet but that day came and went because I was extremely busy with personal things. The next week, however, it happened we met for the first time and I think living remotely near each other worked wonders as we are still together today and my first impressions when we first began talking on MSN completely changed as I thought he wasn't work it. Now, we go to his house, mine or to a town nearby 1/2 days a week and I had the nerves to meet him without being shy, which has never happened before so in a way it could have been destined to happen.

Furthermore, agreeing with some I don't think they work when they are over-seas, for a start you may get yourself into all kinds of trouble and when it's over-seas the person may not be as amazing and perfect as first thought, they could easily take advantage of you if you went over to see them alone, they could consider you as vunerable. I feel an over-seas relationship that has always been over-seas could have complications and there will be a lot of financial issues with it.

Moreover, a lot of dating sites make amazing mathces nowadays and they all start as internet relationships, so in some people saying they don't work, are all the internet dating sites a hoax as I'm sure some have worked and more will work in the future.

james,
25-07-2011, 06:09 PM
It depends, if your never going to meet up with each other then no they wont work, but I think that they could if you met up, but if you dident meet up then there would be no point in dating, wheres it going to get you? e-married :S

Richie
25-07-2011, 08:19 PM
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Spuds
25-07-2011, 08:24 PM
Of course they don't.

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james,
25-07-2011, 08:57 PM
Of course they don't.

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How can you say that though? If online relationships did not happen, how comes theres online dating sites where people acctualy meet up? think about these things as well ;)

-,jack
25-07-2011, 11:30 PM
Nope i dont see how anyone can be in a relationship whithout spending time with the person in person.

Spuds
26-07-2011, 09:19 AM
How can you say that though? If online relationships did not happen, how comes theres online dating sites where people acctualy meet up? think about these things as well ;)
A relationship needs contact, it needs face to face recognition. A relationship isn't an eleven year old and his imaginary friend saying "ily" on MSN. Dating sites may be a good start for some people however they'll use it to meet local people, not people 200 miles away. Only then may these work as they'll be removing the internet due to the fact that they're local and replacing it with actual contact. Up until the point they meet regularly and remove the internet it's still simply an internet 'thing' which can't be classed as a real relationship and won't work. How can you trust someone you haven't seen or know?

So 'acctualy', that's my trail of thought.

Yupt
26-07-2011, 10:58 AM
The thread is for relationships strictly on the internet, so most people (me included) have mentioned real life meet ups.

I've never had a strictly on the internet relationship, so I wouldn't know what it's like. But I have met people from the internet in real life and it does work. personal experience ennitx.x

ChloeeBALDWIN
26-07-2011, 07:34 PM
I think they work , One of my mates is dating this girl in sweden when he is in the UK.. they skype every now and again, facebook everyday. They have complete contact and they are really cute. But it depends on the people on either side of the computer,
If this girl/boy you are dating lies about age , looks, location etc.. it wont work because you think you are dating this person when no-one really exists (Just like heather and kevin / ben on eastenders XD)
It also depends what website you met on, if you met in a bingo chat room or habbo ( 2 random examples )... i'd give it a thumbs down,
Whereas if its tinychat , or a dating site then there is more chance of the love to be real..
Because on habbo you have bacons running round "You are cute , lets date , lets go to your house"
Whereas on a dating site it seems more real... (not saying its 100% real)
Me personally , I'd stick to real life dating, But thats just me

Conservative,
28-07-2011, 09:59 AM
They can work between two committed adults who both want it to work, have enough disposable income to visit each other regularly etc.

However, between two teenagers, over-seas or not, it's unlikely. Just because they could find other people - in real life or online - they will most likely not, or rarely, visit each other - which is obviously one of the key things.
Another thing is that the teenagers may lay about what they look like, what they do, who they are etc. As soon as you lie in an online relationship, it won't work out of MSN/Habbo whatever.

So, I suppose they can work, but you have to be committed, and be able to visit each other.

GoldenMerc
28-07-2011, 05:25 PM
No, never as you wont actually ever meet them and see their true colours, i was watching boarder force about a week ago and some guy met his girlfriend on world of warcraft and he was obviously being investigated and the investigator rang his girlfriend who ended up being a male 8-) then i stopped watching it and went bed :P
But i seriously don't think they ever work out

Kaseythegreat
29-07-2011, 02:03 PM
Relationships online are lame and bound to fail when you are trying to date someone half way around the world. What ever happen to writing cute love notes and passing them to the cute boy who seats 3 seats in front of you in homeroom. Silly World. Silly People. haha.

PaulMacC
29-07-2011, 04:07 PM
no lol.

Edited by Infectious (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not make pointless posts!

lawrawrrr
29-07-2011, 04:12 PM
Relationships online are lame and bound to fail when you are trying to date someone half way around the world. What ever happen to writing cute love notes and passing them to the cute boy who seats 3 seats in front of you in homeroom. Silly World. Silly People. haha.

Because that's childish romance, not real relationships. I do agree that if you can't meet, and live stupidly far away, you've got a VERY slim chance of it working.

Choco
29-07-2011, 04:34 PM
mine didnt. jokes ^-^ tehe

Edited by Infectious (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not make pointless posts!

MrDots.
03-08-2011, 07:44 AM
Okay everyone, Im going to butt in on my personal life here.
I met my girlfriend online last october. We've been together for 10 months now.

Milarz
03-08-2011, 08:46 AM
Well, i met the love of my life from a social site called Tagged. Lasted a year. But she was the love of my life, so it can very well work.

Plebings
03-08-2011, 09:48 AM
Well, i met the love of my life from a social site called Tagged. Lasted a year. But she was the love of my life, so it can very well work.

was? what happened?

Milarz
03-08-2011, 10:02 AM
Bit complicated.

GirlNextDoor15
06-08-2011, 10:19 AM
she was the love of my life

You said she was the love of your life.
And again, how sure are you internet relationships can work?
I doubt that.

Milarz
06-08-2011, 10:23 AM
Please stay away from my posts as it seems you like to dis-agree with everything i have to say.
Also if you think Internet relationships can't work, well.. your wrong. There have been people i know that have been together for a very long time now from the net and still are going perfectly fine.

Matthew
06-08-2011, 10:53 AM
I suppose they can work, but only rarely IMO. I would certainly rather meet people in real life than on the internet as well!

GirlNextDoor15
06-08-2011, 03:57 PM
Please stay away from my posts as it seems you like to dis-agree with everything i have to say.
Also if you think Internet relationships can't work, well.. your wrong. There have been people i know that have been together for a very long time now from the net and still are going perfectly fine.

I don't indulge in disagreeing with EVERYTHING you say. What you said just does not make sense. Your way of phrasing your words is wrong.
Internet relationships cannot work if there's no effort and dedication.

Milarz
07-08-2011, 12:03 AM
How is it wrong? If it's actual happening & true, it's pretty easy for it not.. to be wrong. What your saying is, 2 people have been together for years now, from the net, yet according to you that relationship is not working. I believe it is working, so again, i don't understand how you can say i'm wrong.

GirlNextDoor15
07-08-2011, 03:03 AM
Internet relationships cannot work if there's no effort and dedication.
If there's only 2 people who have been together for years now and haven't been seeing each other regularly, I don't see how it can work. They only know each other on Internet. It's more towards an Internet relationship which cannot work. They have to see each other first and get to know each other in real life.

Milarz
07-08-2011, 05:49 AM
But i didn't say they don't see each other regularly. They're like, 19-20 years old, if they have been together for that long, i'm pretty sure it's working. Meaning internet relationships "can" actually work.

lawrawrrr
07-08-2011, 09:06 AM
But i didn't say they don't see each other regularly. They're like, 19-20 years old, if they have been together for that long, i'm pretty sure it's working. Meaning internet relationships "can" actually work.

I think the disagreement here is determining the definition of 'internet relationship'. Once they've met up, it's more of a regualr relationship, whereas what I think GirlNextDoor15 is saying is that an internet relationship is purely on the internet, over msn, webcam etc.

I think that the latter definition of an internet relationship are glorified, they can be good, but I only see them (and have done this in the past) working short-term, if neither person makes the effort to meet up (obviously it's much more difficult when they live in perhaps different countries), then do they actually want to be in the relationship at all? The first version is just a 21st century version of how to meet a partner - obviously with technological advances, more people are going to meet people online, rather than go down to the YMCA or something, because things like that don't really happen anymore, people just sit on their computers all day.

It's opportunistic. If you don't leave your computer, you're not going to meet anyone other than who you talk to online, and that obviously means you don't have a problem with this. I do think that at least until you've met up, it can't be classed as a real relationship, more 'e-dating' (which can be an offensive term in some cases) just as I think until you've met an internet friend in real life, they're not proper friends (although they can be real friends, people you trust, but it is easier to type your problems to someone you've never met of course).

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