Am I Wrong?

[chantellehugs]

Alright so me and my friends applied to grammar schools earlier in the year and because my school messed up my target grades when I sent off my application form I never got placed on the waiting list and was therefore denied a place. So yesterday we get our GCSE results and I get 8 A's and 7 B's and my friend tells me to apply again to the grammar school I got rejected from because I've beaten all of my targets and got the necessary grades. So I have to reapply and my friend just has to tell the school her grades because she was on the waiting list. So I get a call later in the evening saying I haven't got a place as it's oversubscribed, and my friend keeps talking about all of the exciting things she'll get to do at the school, I'm completely happy for her because she worked really hard but I just don't feel like discussing it. I feel so crappy at the moment because all of my friends are going off to their nice grammar schools and I'm stuck in college, even though I worked my butt off day and night to get my GCSE's.

Am I wrong to not want to hear her talk about all the exciting things? I'm happy for her but it just keeps reminding me of it all.

[Spuds]

If it helps I hated sixth form, I find college more enjoyable

[Jordan:A]

I would feel the same really, there was this girl who was boasting about how she got onto some high course at college (Mostly because she but sniffed the tutors) and she was just going around and talking to everyone about it, and I could tell no-one else wanted to hear about it.

[Casanova]

**** man, I'd dream of just grabbing her head and volleying it.
Explain to her that it's a tender spot because for you, the now you don't have the same feeling or excitement for what you face. If she continues possibly interject that you feel maybe she should respect your feelings more and keep in mind you done better than her?

Personally I'd just a complaint in, it's not your fault and extremely unfair?
I feel terrible for you<3

[Shoe]

Just tell her that you dont really feel like talking about it.

If its any conciliation college, well my college was awesome and two of my friends move from grammar schools to college cause in reality it actually wasn't that good and a lot of people were failing there :/

[Showder]

Just ignore her if you do have to feel that way.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I would really fight to get into the school, its no suprise the grammar school is oversubscribed because they are a thousand times better than normal comprehensives which we are all forced to attend (myself included).

[cocaine]

it's like when people who got into the uni i wanted to go to are like "oh its a shame you're not coming with us" blah blah blah. i understand how you feel. it's natural

[Glen Coco]

I would really fight to get into the school, its no suprise the grammar school is oversubscribed because they are a thousand times better than normal comprehensives which we are all forced to attend (myself included).
not really, where i am the people in gramar schools are getting the same grades as people in the school i go to. we have better facilities and there's generally nothing wrong but the people.
surely if she's only on the waiting list she hasn't gotten in yet? the awkward moment where she doesn't actually get the place...

[Homosexual]

To be fair it's the same with results, mine aren't great and it pissed me off whenever someone's like YEAH I GOT SIX A STARS AND FIVE A S AND ONE B BUT I MIGHT RESIT THE B BECAUSE IT'S RUBBISH

I'm like, woah. I would've killed for one A*, let alone six, and you're worried about resitting a B!? -.- /rantover

but yeah just tell her that you don't like it

[chantellehugs]

It's a relief to know that I'm not being horrible to feel how I do, at the moment I'm contacting other schools around my area to see if they have any spaces free.

@Zedda she got her call confirming her place before I got mine so I kinda guessed I'd be rejected as we handed them in at the same time.

@ Casanova I appealed when I first got rejected and the guy said he'd send me the appeal forms only they never appeared. The guy who deals with target grades and things at my secondary school told me he couldn't change them because they were set by the government but he would let me get my personal targets from teachers and sign them to confirm them.

[Glen Coco]

oh fair enough. grammar schools don't seem that great anyway, snooty people that think that they're rebellious for drinking WKD.

[-:Undertaker:-]

not really, where i am the people in gramar schools are getting the same grades as people in the school i go to. we have better facilities and there's generally nothing wrong but the people.
surely if she's only on the waiting list she hasn't gotten in yet? the awkward moment where she doesn't actually get the place...

Actually grammar schools are by far superior just as private schools and religious are superior - we've just had even more confirmation of this as of late in which its came out that only 30% of pupils within comprehensives took history and other real subjects as opposed to the silly subjects most comprehensives push such as Drama, Music, Drama 'tech', Media and so forth. There are good state schools in some cases, but these are de facto private schools - because in order to gain access to one of the very few good comprehensive schools, you have to live in the catchment area which is very expensive and out of the grasp of most people.

It is interesting to note that the first thing East German parents did when the Berlin Wall collapsed, was bring back the grammar system.


oh fair enough. grammar schools don't seem that great anyway, snooty people that think that they're rebellious for drinking WKD.

Say that to people stuck in inner-city comprehensives who can't afford private schools/to move into a good catchment area.

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[CrazyLemurs]

You're perfectly allowed to be bored of her excitement. It's the same with my stepbrother. Yeah I know you more independance and LOTS of different rooms. If they really get on your nerves, set them straight about it and maybe they'll be a bit more relaxed about it. And congrats on the good results too ;)

[Glen Coco]

Actually grammar schools are by far superior just as private schools and religious are superior - we've just had even more confirmation of this as of late in which its came out that only 30% of pupils within comprehensives took history and other real subjects as opposed to the silly subjects most comprehensives push such as Drama, Music, Drama 'tech', Media and so forth. There are good state schools in some cases, but these are de facto private schools - because in order to gain access to one of the very few good comprehensive schools, you have to live in the catchment area which is very expensive and out of the grasp of most people.

It is interesting to note that the first thing East German parents did when the Berlin Wall collapsed, was bring back the grammar system.



Say that to people stuck in inner-city comprehensives who can't afford private schools/to move into a good catchment area.

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you don't have to pay for grammar schools. you're thinking of private schools.
Grammar schools are like normal schools but for the people that get better SATS in Year 6 and get into them. they are free and no, you don't have to live in a certain area.

[-:Undertaker:-]

you don't have to pay for grammar schools. you're thinking of private schools.
Grammar schools are like normal schools but for the people that get better SATS in Year 6 and get into them. they are free and no, you don't have to live in a certain area.

Yes you do, most of the grammar schools in this country have been abolished by successive post-cultural revolution governments and it is actually illegal in this country now to have grammar schools opening, there's a ban on them. The remaining grammar schools, which are highly sought after, are only open to those children who have wealthy parents as the parents can afford to move into the catchment area - the same goes for the few good comprehensives in this country which are unoffically private schools due to this. If you want a good education in this country, you can either go private (pay) or move into the catchment area of a Christian school or grammar school - the rest of us are forced into awful comprehensives.

In abolishing the grammar schools, the division for good education is now between wealth and not academic ability.

[Glen Coco]

Yes you do, most of the grammar schools in this country have been abolished by successive post-cultural revolution governments and it is actually illegal in this country now to have grammar schools opening, there's a ban on them. The remaining grammar schools, which are highly sought after, are only open to those children who have wealthy parents as the parents can afford to move into the catchment area - the same goes for the few good comprehensives in this country which are unoffically private schools due to this. If you want a good education in this country, you can either go private (pay) or move into the catchment area of a Christian school or grammar school - the rest of us are forced into awful comprehensives.

In abolishing the grammar schools, the division for good education is now between wealth and not academic ability.

what country are you even in? I have NO IDEA what you're going on about. I know people who have gone to grammar schools and they aren't rich or live in any sort a 'catchment' area.
My school is not a grammar school but we still get high results.
you DO NOT have to pay for grammar schools or to move. I have no idea where you're even getting this from. it's just a thing of passing SATS and if you get offered a place you go. I know quite a few people that are incredibly clever and have rejected placements from grammar schools and have still achieved very high grades (all A's and A*'s in GCSE's) so you implying that everyone that doesn't go to a grammar school isn't going to get good grades is out of the window.

[T@R]

If you're taking A levels at college there really is no difference, you get the exact same qualifications, and all that happens is you'll have a lot more free time because you don't have to fill extra gaps with enrichments or other stuff that grammar schools make you do.
I go to a grammar school sixth form and all my old friends who went to college to do A levels seem to enjoy it more than I do because it's just generally more laid back.


Oh and to Undertaker,
I certainly hope you don't live in England because everything you've just said is complete nonsense...
I go to a grammar school and I'm not rich, far from it. I'm not priviledged nor do I live in a rich catchment area, I just live near a good grammar school, and worked hard to get the grades required to get in.

Also to Zedda,
Grammar school students aren't snobby, that's a ridiculous assumption to make. If anything, from my experiences it's the people who go to comprehensive schools that come out all snooty because they tend to not get as good grades and feel that the world owes them something for their lack of intellect.

[Samantha]

I don't feel you are in the wrong or being horrible Chantelle I'm sure if your friend got worse grades than you and you kept going on about it (I'm sure you wouldn't) but she wouldn't like it either so I think telling her would be the best option :)!

Also, a school's a school to me, I think it's what you make out of your time there that really matters.

[Glen Coco]

If you're taking A levels at college there really is no difference, you get the exact same qualifications, and all that happens is you'll have a lot more free time because you don't have to fill extra gaps with enrichments or other stuff that grammar schools make you do.
I go to a grammar school sixth form and all my old friends who went to college to do A levels seem to enjoy it more than I do because it's just generally more laid back.


Oh and to Undertaker,
I certainly hope you don't live in England because everything you've just said is complete nonsense...
I go to a grammar school and I'm not rich, far from it. I'm not priviledged nor do I live in a rich catchment area, I just live near a good grammar school, and worked hard to get the grades required to get in.

Also to Zedda,
Grammar school students aren't snobby, that's a ridiculous assumption to make. If anything, from my experiences it's the people who go to comprehensive schools that come out all snooty because they tend to not get as good grades and feel that the world owes them something for their lack of intellect.

A lot of the people I have met from grammar schools have been so far up their own ass. It's not just an 'assumption' it is because I have met quite a few people that have been incredibly snobby because of their schools.