Do you ask your parents for Money?

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Do you ask your parents for Money?
Alright so i wanna talk about 2 things here, to start off i would like some advice about something, I have recently well about 3 years ago was fostered to a quite wealthy family with 4 children, anyway i dont wanna gag on to much but ive always felt terrible with myself when i ask them for money for things, which I hardly do only a fiver once and then, you know that guilty feeling? they have 4 children to look after and then i come into their life, it doesn't feel right.. What do i do? As i find myself out with mates with few coins in my pocket, and feeling pathetic all evening not eating and so on.

Alright the secound thing, i wanted to know how you guys feel when you ask your parents for money?



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[dirrty]

i only ask my mum for money if i actually need it. like i currently owe my mum £800 (which i'm paying back in full next week), but that's because i had to pay £280 for my new house deposit, and the rest is back payment for my car insurance and phone contract. besides that, i wouldn't ask my mum for money for anything of lesser importance unless she says i can because i do feel bad. like the beginning of december i was literally living off tinned soup and plain rice cakes and when i told my mum, she was like "whattttttttttt why didn't you tell me? i would have given you money...", but i didn't wanna ask because i'd literally rather spend money on alcohol than food - so i put myself in that position and didn't mind too much haha

if i was in your position, i would legit just talk to them about your situation. i'm sure they'd be more than willing to sort something out (whether that's giving you a small allowance for when you go out or just literally giving you 'x' amount of money for you to spend whenever you desire) because i doubt they'd want you to be going out with friends and having no money, plus feeling a sense of being an outsider.

[buttons]

i think you should ask your guardians what they think is an appropriate amount of money for you to be given and stick with it or have an allowance monthly/weekly. i think it's good that you appreciate the fact they have other children and you don't feel as though it's your 'right' to have their money regardless of how wealthy they are.

i absolutely will not take money off my mum. i don't ever ask and i'll refuse any money she offers me because i have my own. my brother asks her for money EVERY weekend for 'credit' even though he doesn't deserve it, gets money on the dole and doesn't even need it because my mum provides everything already. i really would love to slap him but she's as bad, being a pushover ugh. eh she paid for my driving lessons and i have a roof over my head and that's more than enough.

[Inseriousity.]

edit: good thread idea :D

I have a younger brother/sister who constantly ask for money as if it grows on trees. I very rarely ask for money because I don't really need much. Like at Christmas, they'll ask what I want and I can't think of anything cos I've already got what I need. I live off a student loan atm so I just budget that instead rather than asking my parents for money they don't necessarily have.

I'm not entirely sure how old you are but ask your parents if you can have pocket money providing you do x, y and z every week. You'll do your bit around the house (or add extra chores if you already do stuff) and get rewarded for it. That way, you won't feel like you're sponging off them for nothing and they'll be glad of the extra help. :)

[beth]

i don't take money off my parents anymore at all, even though they frankly owe me for childcare BUT THAT'S ANOTHER STORY. the only time i ever ask them for money it's always only a loan and only for like 2 days and then when i get my money i pay them back.

[RockyHorror]

I don't like owing people money, never have done. Haven't borrowed any money off my parents since I was at least 15. But I have an older brother who's completely different, 26 and is constantly in debt to my mother.

[J0SH]

Even though they're both 'well off' my mum gives me but my dad doesn't :S

Depsite me working for my dad for over a year when I stopped working to study he stopped giving me money lol

[Shar]

My parents pay for my train fare to get to college and driving lessons and also for lunch money. If I borrow money to buy anything pricey I usually pay them back asap.

[FlyingJesus]

I absolutely hate asking my parents for money, even when I was down to like £30 with payments pending the next day I preferred to ask friends for a loan than my parents. My dad has a fair bit of dolla so it's not quite so bad with him but even so it takes a really dire situation for me to go to my parents for finance

[Chris]

I will avoid asking them unless I really need to. I feel guilty using their money and would prefer to be more independent.

[RyRy]

only if I need it, and even then I usually pay back within the month because I get paid then, or usually even within the week... only about 200 quid each time really, though thats going lower thank the lord

[dbgtz]

Only if I need money for college or they owe me some (which is rare at the moment as I have no job and no spare money of my knowledge).

[wixard]

i think you should ask your guardians what they think is an appropriate amount of money for you to be given and stick with it or have an allowance monthly/weekly. i think it's good that you appreciate the fact they have other children and you don't feel as though it's your 'right' to have their money regardless of how wealthy they are.

i absolutely will not take money off my mum. i don't ever ask and i'll refuse any money she offers me because i have my own. my brother asks her for money EVERY weekend for 'credit' even though he doesn't deserve it, gets money on the dole and doesn't even need it because my mum provides everything already. i really would love to slap him but she's as bad, being a pushover ugh. eh she paid for my driving lessons and i have a roof over my head and that's more than enough.

i don't mean to be rude i'm just curious but i don't think you have a job, how do you have your own money?

oh and to answer the question i have a job right now so i don't, but she'll pay for like my toiletries and stuff. when i'm jobless i'll get 25 a week, but since i've been 16 there's only been 2 months of that time where i was without a job so woo

[Sharon]

when i used to go out id ask if i didn't have any money left and they're fine with it but then when im actually shopping i can't spend it because i feel bad so i end up just giving it back but now i have a job there's no need!

however we were in a computer shop and i decided i wanted a laptop (oh) and only had £55 so my uncle was rly nice and lended me the other half so now im working to pay it back before i can actually keeep it, 2 weeks to go!!!

[Samantha]

I don't ask for money, it's more of my parents asking if I have enough. They ask how much I am going out with and they say something like is that enough I can go to the bank if not. My Dad would usually give me £5 or £10 say if I wanted a game or something but as I am not one to spend a massive amount or buy stuff I don't want or need I usually just give it back to him/them.

However, I don't have a job and he drives me to College everyday, also I have a 5 hour free on Tuesday so he picks me up and takes me back then. I also finish early on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday so does the same then. Anyway, it's more if i want money I can get it but it's sometimes out of my bank, I have like £155 in my bank so it will come out of there sometimes and just go back in if I don't use it. I also get EMA but I don't bother using any of that because it's like £20 a week doesn't even cover the diesel my Dad uses so he's welcome to all my EMA.

I don't feel guilty when I want/ask for money, because I know I will rarely spend it and it's just there in case I need it/run out of the money I have.

I hope that made sense. I sometimes need extra just incase my Boyfriend hasn't got any so I'll pay for his food and stuff but in theory he spends more on me when he buys me presents.

[Matthew]

My parents work very hard and so earn a lot of money, and a lot of it goes on me. I don't exactly feel guilty, as its how I've grown up, I've always (as bad as it sounds) got what I've wanted, and so have my friends at school. I go to a school where everyone has wealthy parents (many much richer than mine), and so for me I suppose its just 'normal' for myself and the people around me to get whatever they ask for?

Having said that, I don't really ask for much, more often that not my parents will buy me things without me even asking! So yeah, I don't really feel guilty, but I do often stop and think how lucky I am to be born into a family like mine (not that you need money to be happy of course, but money certainly does make your life easier :p)

[iLogan]

Yeah I ask them for cash all the time

[Oleh]

I ask my mum for money all the time. Based on the premise that she asks me for money too.

[GommeInc]

I hate asking my parents for money, but in my family we chuck money around by lending it to other members of the family, asking someone to buy whoever one item in exchange for money in the future or something they want but aren't too familiar with where to get it. Plus my family have a trust fund so we feel we have to ask anyway, because if we don't it will only be chucked at us without question anyway. We're open with money in my family, we are a strange lot :P

My nan loves chucking money at me and if I say no she starts making a scene in public, so I've just learnt to accept what she wants to give :/

[toribbz]

i don't have a job or anything, so yeah, i have too ask for money when i'm going out with my friends. i do save up my money, but it goes pretty quickly - when i have to ask for 5 bucks.

[Firehorse]

I've borrowed money short term which I pay back. Only for reasons such as needing the money before a cheque clears.

[Ellz]

i get abit of pocket money each week so it would be cheeky to ask my parents for any more.

[Metric1]

i ask for stuff, not flat out $.. so it's not as bad

[FiftyCal]

No they always ask me for money and i cant ever buy anything

[Succubus]

I have to earn it, no chores = no money.
So I can't really 'ask'.

[Ekelektra]

Whenever I go out my mum asks how much I have and she usually gives me more. And then when she needs money I'll give her some. So it really balances out

[Eric]

I never ask my parents to give me money. My mom or dad will usually pay for the things i wanna buy. I just think asking for money from my parents is not right because they're not my money and they worked hard to earn it. I'd feel guilty if i did :)

[dirrty]

my dad still gives me pocket money & i'm 20 haha. i don't ask, he just gives me around 60 quid every 3/4 weeks which helps towards buying my essentials.

[Twista500]

i just get pocket money usually when I go out with my friends i ask for like $10 but my mom doesnt mind i mean she even asks how much i need.. but other wise i get my money in a way and im 13

[Matt]

I don't ask for anything anymore. I know they will refuse to give me anything. My best bet is my grandparents :)

[Cerys]

My mum gives my my pocket money and school dinner money, so I'd feel greedy to ask for any more. :3

[Chippiewill]

[FONT=arial black]Do you ask your parents for Money?
[SIZE=3][SIZE=2]Alright so i wanna talk about 2 things here, to start off i would like some advice about something, I have recently well about 3 years ago was fostered to a quite wealthy family with 4 children, anyway i dont wanna gag on to much but ive always felt terrible with myself when i ask them for money for things, which I hardly do only a fiver once and then, you know that guilty feeling? they have 4 children to look after and then i come into their life, it doesn't feel right.. What do i do? As i find myself out with mates with few coins in my pocket, and feeling pathetic all evening not eating and so on.

I think it's fair to say that a fair bit of guilt comes in to play in terms of fostering, talk to your foster parents about it, tell them how you feel and they'll likely be very understanding and you can come to some sort of agreement.


My parents work very hard and so earn a lot of money, and a lot of it goes on me. I don't exactly feel guilty, as its how I've grown up, I've always (as bad as it sounds) got what I've wanted, and so have my friends at school. I go to a school where everyone has wealthy parents (many much richer than mine), and so for me I suppose its just 'normal' for myself and the people around me to get whatever they ask for?

Having said that, I don't really ask for much, more often that not my parents will buy me things without me even asking! So yeah, I don't really feel guilty, but I do often stop and think how lucky I am to be born into a family like mine (not that you need money to be happy of course, but money certainly does make your life easier :p)
I'm in pretty much an identical situation, I'd hardly call myself burdensome and I pay for most of the expensive stuff like computers and such with birthday money and the like but I'm certainly better off than most.

[Gibs960]

I don't really know bout the first thing, all I can really say is that I feel comfortable asking my step mum for money and she's not my parent so I guess it's kinda the same to a certain extent.

And I don't really feel comfortable asking my dad or my mum for money especially when I get pocket money and so on :P LOOOL I wanna get a paper round or something but I just can't bring myself to get one because I already have trouble getting up early so having to get up even earlier scares me! :D

[NamNom]

I work alot and am rarely home so on the contrary
I pay their bills

[Catchy]

yeah i do ask my parents for money but i always pay them back on time so they don't mind borrowing me money because they know i'll pay it back but i try to avoid borrowing money i owe enough on my credit cards as it is...

[jasey]

I don't ask for money from my parents now because I am an adult but I have done it in the past when I was younger. I always felt better about the whole scenario if I did something for them in return. For example, I could help them with a problem or chore.

[Vause]

I never really ask for money as such, I kinda just ask for bus fare if I'm abit short or something. Most the time she always asks me if I need anything, hairspray etc, so normally she'll buy me things I really need. We live on our own so I'd never pressure her to give me what she can't afford.

[Conspiracy.]

I have my own money now, so no. I may lend some money off them and pay then back but I don't ask them for money anymore.