View Full Version : have you ever experienced pure hatred for someone?
wixard
27-02-2012, 11:01 PM
just curious
i was gonna say is there anyone you would say you felt pure hatred for but i think that's quite extreme and it would be more common for people to experience it in bursts or momentarily
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Never. I can never hold a grudge let alone hate anyone.
FlyingJesus
27-02-2012, 11:18 PM
Nope, some people are really annoying but I cba with hate
:ADIO
27-02-2012, 11:18 PM
I feel that there are a lot of people that would say that they have experienced pure hatred, but few of those people would really know the feeling.
Personally I try to make sure I never run the chance of ever feeling pure hatred for someone. I try to surround myself with people with good morals and values, and if I see that a friend has become detramental I simply cut the relationship.
Honestly, I don't feel that "pure hatred" could ever be felt, or even exists. As humans I feel that we all have a portion of humanity in us that doesn't allow us to become encompased in hate. Plus there is nothing benificial to gain from holding a grudge, it only stunts your own emotional growth. There are people in this life that will wrong you - this is a fact of life - it is the decisions you make AFTER someone hurts you that shows what kind of person you are.
Plus, remember - you are not perfect - if someone hurt you, chances are you have hurt someone in a very similar way.
Stephen
27-02-2012, 11:44 PM
yeah i have pure hatred for everyone
MKR&*42
28-02-2012, 12:05 AM
Nope. I get those moments where this a person just annoys me by doing absolutely anything yet for no reason whatsoever - but I don't "hate" them :P. Only a few short outbursts.
dirrty
28-02-2012, 12:07 AM
no ones really done nothing to me to warrant me hating them so much. people have completely pissed me off, but yh not hate...
Chris
28-02-2012, 12:11 AM
I don't have a pure hate for anyone. I don't think Ive ever hated anyone to that extend, and I doubt I ever will.
wixard
28-02-2012, 12:12 AM
yeah i have pure hatred for everyone
i noticed
and i guess everyone has a different measure of hate
i know i've definitely felt it before towards a certain person due to something they said
and if i were to assume what they said was how they really felt then the feeling was probably mutual
this was with a family member, not some stupid fight or argument with a friend
JennaDoll
28-02-2012, 12:19 AM
Unfortunately yes, otherwise I'd never put so much effort into hating someone.
I don't think I could ever purely hate somebody, but I have been close to it.
Vause
28-02-2012, 09:59 AM
I have. My Mum's ex husband. He left her and it was quite possible the hardest thing I've ever had to watch my Mum go through. He just told her he didn't love her anymore after 8 years of marriage. She was in bits for months. Urgh.
buttons
28-02-2012, 10:11 AM
Honestly, I don't feel that "pure hatred" could ever be felt, or even exists. As humans I feel that we all have a portion of humanity in us that doesn't allow us to become encompased in hate. Plus there is nothing benificial to gain from holding a grudge, it only stunts your own emotional growth. There are people in this life that will wrong you - this is a fact of life - it is the decisions you make AFTER someone hurts you that shows what kind of person you are.
Plus, remember - you are not perfect - if someone hurt you, chances are you have hurt someone in a very similar way.
while a lot of that is true, i don't agree with "we all have a portion of humanity". i'm not so sure. my brother? no. he does not have an ounce of humanity or empathy in his body, i can guarantee that or else he wouldn't have done everything he has and continues to do. that's your opinion though. there's a lot of people i've thought i've hated and there are people i should really dislike but i never felt proper hatred until my brother. i would actually be relived if he was to disappear from the world and i don't feel bad for that other than the fact it'll make one or two people upset. & i don't like how people say to me "he's family, you'll think differently when he's gone" it doesn't matter that he's family, he isn't even human to me. just the thought of him makes my skin crawl and can literally ruin my day. i hate him and the only way i'll get over it is if i'm away from him for good.
Empired
28-02-2012, 10:23 AM
Yes. I haven't seen them in years, but that only makes me hate them more. Sometimes I think I should be ashamed to hate them so badly, but then again I have no reason to be ashamed when it was them who did everything?
Maybe it's not "pure" hatred to some of you, but it's absolutely crystal clear to me.
Samantha
28-02-2012, 11:00 AM
No I don't, I remember disliking someone but I think the saying 'time is a great healer' is a good thing as I don't mind the person now but I think the dislike mainly came because he tried coming between my partner and me. However, some people at college/school said snide comments to me and upset me but I never hated them. I remember one saying 'Spam why do you hate me?' I just looked at her oddly and she immediately assumed I hated her, but in reality I don't hate her at all. I don't even dislike her, she's just a bit full on.
TL;DR: No I don't pure hate someone.
:ADIO
28-02-2012, 07:04 PM
while a lot of that is true, i don't agree with "we all have a portion of humanity". i'm not so sure. my brother? no. he does not have an ounce of humanity or empathy in his body, i can guarantee that or else he wouldn't have done everything he has and continues to do. that's your opinion though. there's a lot of people i've thought i've hated and there are people i should really dislike but i never felt proper hatred until my brother. i would actually be relived if he was to disappear from the world and i don't feel bad for that other than the fact it'll make one or two people upset. & i don't like how people say to me "he's family, you'll think differently when he's gone" it doesn't matter that he's family, he isn't even human to me. just the thought of him makes my skin crawl and can literally ruin my day. i hate him and the only way i'll get over it is if i'm away from him for good.
Ok that is fair, but even if you hate your brother so much that you would wish him dead I personally don't feel that this mindset comes out of hate, but compassion. If I see someone that is hurting others to a serious degree I personally hope that they are put out of their missery for their own good, and the betterment of humanity as a whole.
As an Example
I personally feel that those who commit serious sexual crimes, especially those who sexually assault or rape children, should be subjected to the death penalty without question. A good majority of these people are mentally sick and will have to deal with their mental disease for the rest of their life - not to mention the countless people that they will hurt and the many lives they will ruin.
So why bother putting these types of people into the system, spending taxpayers money trying to rehabilitate someone that statistically will commit the same crime within 6 months of being released? I personally don't think that we should take the risk - just do away with them. Should this be considered harsh and drastic? Personally I don't think so - if the law was "If you rape, we will kill you" it may deter some crime as well. We're living in a vastly overpopulated world anyways - a little population control wouldn't hurt anyone!
Plus, did you know the average cost of an inmate is $47,000 USD a year? A bullet costs 45 cents.... just sayin....
(obviously I am over exaggerating here, frankly I feel I sound a bit like a sociopath, but the general idea is there)
Yes, yes I have. Someone in my life that I cannot immediately cut out of my life (yet at least) has over time made me realise that I have a pure hatred for them. As a human being, they are vile and as a member of society, they are useless. Why would I have any reason to like someone like that? I have always had some compassion for people I know, even those I don't like. But this person? Hell no. It makes me smile with glee every time I see them fail at something they do or something bad happens to them (well, as long as it doesn't involve others).
I don't try to make their life bad, I'm not that kind of person, but if I see it happen then I will most certainly enjoy it. Guess that's hate, right?
dbgtz
28-02-2012, 07:25 PM
Quite simply, yes. I haven't even spoken to them for many years but I still feel hate towards them for various reasons.
FlyingJesus
28-02-2012, 08:19 PM
I personally feel that those who commit serious sexual crimes, especially those who sexually assault or rape children, should be subjected to the death penalty without question. A good majority of these people are mentally sick and will have to deal with their mental disease for the rest of their life - not to mention the countless people that they will hurt and the many lives they will ruin.
So why bother putting these types of people into the system, spending taxpayers money trying to rehabilitate someone that statistically will commit the same crime within 6 months of being released? I personally don't think that we should take the risk - just do away with them. Should this be considered harsh and drastic? Personally I don't think so - if the law was "If you rape, we will kill you" it may deter some crime as well. We're living in a vastly overpopulated world anyways - a little population control wouldn't hurt anyone!
Brilliant. You start off talking about compassion and end up with "kill people, there's too many of them!" That alone is ridiculous, and your obvious lack of knowledge concerning the death penalty, rape conviction, and false rape statistics makes it even better. Estimates vary between 40% to 80% (depending on the study) of all reported accusations being utterly fabricated - not just unprovable in court, but completely made up. There's a study only counting a false case as one where the victim ends up confessing that it was a lie which had a 41% false accusation rate. As it is there's currently no support whatsoever for those falsely accused of rape, and the accusation alone is enough to completely ruin lives, so sure let's take it one step further and just kill everyone rather than let "the system" deal with things.
I said before I don't hate anyone, and that's true, but I do hate when people state political ideals without knowing what they're on about
:ADIO
28-02-2012, 08:56 PM
Brilliant. You start off talking about compassion and end up with "kill people, there's too many of them!" That alone is ridiculous, and your obvious lack of knowledge concerning the death penalty, rape conviction, and false rape statistics makes it even better. Estimates vary between 40% to 80% (depending on the study) of all reported accusations being utterly fabricated - not just unprovable in court, but completely made up. There's a study only counting a false case as one where the victim ends up confessing that it was a lie which had a 41% false accusation rate. As it is there's currently no support whatsoever for those falsely accused of rape, and the accusation alone is enough to completely ruin lives, so sure let's take it one step further and just kill everyone rather than let "the system" deal with things.
I said before I don't hate anyone, and that's true, but I do hate when people state political ideals without knowing what they're on about
Haha, I am well aware of these statistics - there are a large majority of people that will provide false accusations in order to hurt another person personally or professionally - but the idea is still there. I guess I was trying to make two points here: 1 - no matter how you feel about a person/thing there is always some compassion behind your mindset, and 2 - if the punishment for today's crimes were significantly more drastic, there would be far fewer crimes comitted today.
I personally have very little faith in today's legal system - if you are drunk and decide to pee in a bush, you face the same criminal charges and jail time as someone who sexually molests children - Yet those who commit horrifying crimes are charged and put on a 20 year vacation on taxpayer money.
For reference I will go ahead and cite a quote from Danny Robbie Hembree Jr, a man convicted of the rape and murder of three women in South Carolina. When asked about his sentencing, he stated, "Is the public aware that the chances of my lawful murder taking place in the next 20 years if ever are very slim?[...] and that I am a gentleman of leisure, watching color TV in the A.C., reading, taking naps at will, eating three well-balanced meals a day?". He even then went on to taunt the entire legal system by saying, " The state of North Carolina has sentenced me to death, but it's not real [...] You citizens of Gaston Co. should petition the state and force them to carry out my murder sentence"
The other kicker is that at the age of 50, Danny statistically has a better chance of dying from old age than lethal injection - so for killing and raping three women this man gets to spend 20 years enjoying the finer things in life on my dime.
And let's go ahead and do a quick calculation to see about how much money is spent keeping inmates alive every year. As of 2006 the number of inmates in the US alone was nearing 2.5 million, each costing approximately $47,000 USD a year, so we will use these numbers:
2,500,000 x $47,000 = $ 117,500,000,000 per year
So every year in the United States alone, we spend 118 BILLION to ensure a "fair treatment" for our less than desirable population.
Yes, trust the "system" - it's not leading you wrong....
Cerys
28-02-2012, 10:03 PM
My mums new bf. My parents split up a year ago, and my mum got a bf 1month later, and they've been together ever since.
He just talks to me like I'm simple, and he hits my dog etc.
Even if he buys me a bag of chocolate, I still want to kill him. He's just awful.
Screams at me all the time.
Neversoft
28-02-2012, 10:14 PM
No, I haven't, and I hope I never have to experience such an emotion.
Nah I just get fed up of people like that haha.
Inseriousity.
28-02-2012, 11:53 PM
Ok that is fair, but even if you hate your brother so much that you would wish him dead I personally don't feel that this mindset comes out of hate, but compassion. If I see someone that is hurting others to a serious degree I personally hope that they are put out of their missery for their own good, and the betterment of humanity as a whole.
As an Example
I personally feel that those who commit serious sexual crimes, especially those who sexually assault or rape children, should be subjected to the death penalty without question. A good majority of these people are mentally sick and will have to deal with their mental disease for the rest of their life - not to mention the countless people that they will hurt and the many lives they will ruin.
So why bother putting these types of people into the system, spending taxpayers money trying to rehabilitate someone that statistically will commit the same crime within 6 months of being released? I personally don't think that we should take the risk - just do away with them. Should this be considered harsh and drastic? Personally I don't think so - if the law was "If you rape, we will kill you" it may deter some crime as well. We're living in a vastly overpopulated world anyways - a little population control wouldn't hurt anyone!
Plus, did you know the average cost of an inmate is $47,000 USD a year? A bullet costs 45 cents.... just sayin....
(obviously I am over exaggerating here, frankly I feel I sound a bit like a sociopath, but the general idea is there)
As I know someone who was accused of rape but was innocent, I find this completely disgusting. Also, I don't really think your ideas make much sense.She hates/dislikes her brother. That isn't out of compassion for himto wish he was gone. It would be to provide peace for her and those around her. Not saying her brother deserves it though cos I don't know the full details but compassion is definitely the wrong word here.
Personally, I think hate is just pointless.Life's too short to hold grudges over petty thingslike some people in my family (lol one set of aunty/uncle isn't talking to the other set of aunty/uncle cos the latter didn't invite the former to their wedding... they didn't invite anyone, they eloped but that clearly isn't the point to them). As for the big things, why bother wasting your time with hate. Just cut them out of your life as much as you possibly can and move on.
I personally feel that those who commit serious sexual crimes, especially those who sexually assault or rape children, should be subjected to the death penalty without question. A good majority of these people are mentally sick and will have to deal with their mental disease for the rest of their life - not to mention the countless people that they will hurt and the many lives they will ruin.
So why bother putting these types of people into the system, spending taxpayers money trying to rehabilitate someone that statistically will commit the same crime within 6 months of being released? I personally don't think that we should take the risk - just do away with them. Should this be considered harsh and drastic? Personally I don't think so - if the law was "If you rape, we will kill you" it may deter some crime as well. We're living in a vastly overpopulated world anyways - a little population control wouldn't hurt anyone!
Plus, did you know the average cost of an inmate is $47,000 USD a year? A bullet costs 45 cents.... just sayin....
(obviously I am over exaggerating here, frankly I feel I sound a bit like a sociopath, but the general idea is there)
firstly yr statement about mental illness there makes me sick to the stomach, you really need to learn more about mental health before you make stupidly large statements like that.
secondly the value of life comes down to money? so glad yr not actually in any position of great power.
GirlNextDoor15
29-02-2012, 04:44 AM
Pure hatred? Nope. My life is too short for pure hatred. I want to live happily.
Never, and I hope I never will! Haven't got enough time for that.
Nope. Can't be bothered to hate someone.
Empired
29-02-2012, 10:33 PM
Just a quick note to all those who think hate would ruin their lives or whatever..
Hate does certainly not ruin your life, in some cases (such as my own) it does the exact opposite: it makes you feel better. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying people hate others to make them feel better, but if the person you hate so much has does something unforgivable it feels totally right to hate them. Hating doesn't necessarily mean you want to see them dead either, I would grieve if the person I despise was dead, but usually they have done something so terrible it would take two lifetimes to undo the damage but hating helps heal the wounds just a little bit.. :) oo I've gone all metaphorical!!
Well that's my opinion of hate anyway.. haha XD
Metric1
01-03-2012, 03:42 AM
Yes, my dad. I ran into him at a bar last year - I was having a smoke and so was he.. he was a little shocked as was I but after a little drunk talk we've been tighter than we ever could be, he's a pretty cool guy I just never gave him the chance because I held a grudge against him from when I was younger. We've worked it out, I call him dad instead of his actual name and my life has been a lot happier since.
i think i did really hate the guy who got me kicked out of my sixth form, and i hated him even more because i knew i partly had myself to blame so i just channelled everything i could into hating him to stop myself falling apart.
i don't "hate" him now because going to a new college completely turned my life around, but **** me if i ever saw him i'd ******* deck him.
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