feel like i'm being pushed out a friendship?

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dunno why i'm turning to hxf for advice but anyway


my best friend of 8 years turned 18 recently (i'm still 17) and since has been doing a lot with her college friend, i.e going out at weekends. she has told me many times she isn't really close with the other girl and that she's just a 'class mate'

the thing is i feel like her other class mate isn't doing much to help the situation, i don't know if she knows me and my best have been friends for such a long time but it's like she's worming her way into our friendship just because they are now both 18

there's a party coming up this weekend and me and my friend would usually pre-drink and party on untill the early morning but she's going round town at 11...


am i right in what i'm saying? or am i just jealous? i'm going to talk to her when it's just me and her

i don't want to hold my friend back from going out and things like this but i also feel like that she should respect that i'm still 17 and that she can't drop me like a ton of bricks

[dirrty]

i think you just gotta accept that with her being 18, she'll naturally want to go out. and i personally don't think she should alter her behaviour because you're 17. she should be able to want to go out without feeling guilty that you're not able to do so. but if she has plans with you beforehand, then it is kinda rude for her to drop you. but tbf, i'd do the same - as in if a group of friends were going out but one of my friends wanted to hang out or something, i'd go out because it's more enjoyable. but anyway, when you're 18, things (hopefully) will change and you won't feel so left out. but that's just the disadvantage of not being old enough to do the same things really.

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thanks for the reply

i totally understand that she will want to go out, i'd be the same but it's the attitude of her class mate that's getting to me, her obvious 'pushing in' attitude is starting to piss me off, i'm defiantly going to talk about it to her about it

[rnix]

She just loves the fact she can go out being 18, I don't think she has gone off you as a friend she just wants to enjoy this. I was exactly the same with my friends, I didn't mean to do it, it just happened.